| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 2/21/2007 1:42:27 AM | | I guess it would depend on why he/she became your "EX". As for me, I wouldn't have a problem with remaining friends with an ex . My "ex" of a ten year relationship, his new g/f is the jealous type and she wears the pants in their relationship so with that said, we have not remained friends. Also considering the fact that he has nothing to do with his children well thats a whole new different situation. I was also with a guy for five years who is also an "EX" and because of his cheating and lies, he doesn't deserve my friendship in all honesty. But I can see two people remaiming friends after a relationship doesn't work out. Under different circumstances, yes, two people should re,ain friends as life is to short so why not ! One guy I dated for several months when I was a teenager, still keep in touch with each other. We have remained friends for twenty three years and its wonderful ! | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 2/21/2007 3:04:56 AM | I think its possible to remain friends but not close friends. Staying close friends with my ex for as long as I did, made it hard to start new relationships. I was already getting companionship from someone who knew me well. It wasn't a sexual or intimate relationship but one that was closer than I think some guys I dated would have liked.
I ended the friendship because he kept falling back into old habits like when we were dating which weren't appropriate for a friendship. I don't think I could put a new love through that. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 2/21/2007 3:19:10 AM | Hey LBP, I agree with you on that one, as if two people remain lose friends after a relationship breaks up, they will depend on each other to much and it will probably get in the way of a new relationship. But remaining friends, nothing wrong with it if both people are ok with it. One can never have to many friends.......... | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:57:18 AM | | I have an ex that is a great friend, and another that brings out the worst in me every time we talk. I think if honest communication and understanding were there to start , there is a much better chance to have the respect needed if the relationship changes . | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 2/21/2007 9:03:28 AM | | Hey I agree with you on that JUSTENTYME, the sad thing is, some relationships end with lies and cheating so it's hard to remain "friends" with that guy because of it! My last relationship ended that way and I was still willing to remain friends the best that we could, but even after we had went our own ways, he was still lying to me! So, because of that, we are definitely not still friends, but hey .........IT'S "HIS" LOSS ! | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 7/21/2007 12:01:51 AM | | It depends on the relationship as well as if both people are over it or decide to split. If one still feels romantic, then it is very painful to have a friendship. It is likely that the man will want to continue the relationship while the woman does not although in my case it was the other way around or mutual. A friendship that goes back into a relationship is bound to be lost in the end if it does not work out though. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 7/21/2007 9:31:08 AM | Well...maybe I have a different perspective here...I was married at the tender age of 19 (gasp) and became pregnant at 20. The day I told my husband he was going to be a father was the day I realized the magnitude of my mistake, however, being young and idealistic I stayed for 22 more years! Needless to say, we can't be friends, and the no contact order makes that clear.
I started really dating when I was 43, and I have to say, all of my exs ('cept one but he is a pyscho and the relationship was VERY short term!) and I have remained friends. Maybe it's because I'm laid back and have no expectations from them. I get along with any girlfriends any of them may have, as well. Perhaps my advanced age has something to do with my attitude towards dating! | |
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dog2k6
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 9/2/2007 2:35:19 PM | I'm not saying it can't happen but every time I've tried its failed. Inevitably, feelings get brought back up and the friendship gets "complicated". They've used the friendship as an "in" to get back with me or try to maintain some kind of control in the sense of when I go to them, their responses are more manipulative than good advice.
My experience has been they always want you as more than a friend in some capacity.
I agree with the op that its a shame because some of these guys I could have been very good friends with after the fact but ended up having to cut them lose and hurt them all over again. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 9/5/2007 6:12:43 PM | | I don't think too many people would be able to be friends in the "hang out" together type of friendship, it would be a bit awkward trying to meet new partners or interacting naturally with your new partner when the old one is right there. But if you are talking about getting along ok when we run into each other, i see no problem with that and i am "friends" in that sense with both my ex's. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 9/8/2007 10:15:28 PM |
Depends on the fine print in the restraining order I guess 
Totally depends - some people have made themselves 'unwelcome' and I see no reason to give them anymore chances or any more of my time. Some people I'm glad to hear from once in a while. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:23:08 PM | I guess that depends on how Mature the two are after the breakup..
I do know that in a relationship the mere thought of being that persons friend isnt flattering to me..
But afterwards,..I really dont care..Ive moved on..So seeing him with someone else is no biggie..If hes happy..then Hey!..Im sure if im his friend he will be venting to me bout same crap he did to me..lol..but being on the outside looking back will be a much nicer place to be!
Afterall exs are exs for a reason..and some should of just stayed a friend anyway!
dam Alcohol!!..lol | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 9/29/2007 5:41:20 PM | | Yes, just because things did not work out for both of you in the relationship should not affect your friendship. I don't mean double dating or anything like that but being civil, having a drink or coffee and shooting the shit as you put it, Sure, as long as there are no hang ups. You did spend part of your life with the other person and had some great times together. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 10/13/2007 12:33:56 AM | Depends on the breakup AND the maturity level of the two involved. If either has been deceived while in the relationship. Then no. And why would you want ot be friends with someone like that?
I thank you. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 10/15/2007 6:53:45 AM | Well, like the saying goes..."Fool me once >shame on you"..."Fool me twice > shame on Me" !
I did become friends with my "EX" but it was quite obvious that HE hasn't changed ! I gave my all...he took it ! He gave what he wanted to give, other than that, he wasn't an honest friend , even the second time around! Oh well, I tried and now it's time to throw what we did have as a couple or friends out with the trash as that is what it is....Just like him!
If the two people involved are mature....and depending on the break-up...yes I think that friendship can be maintained between the two...but it has to be a two way street!
****Just for you****
So this goes out to my "EX"...who is also on this site...
You got to live with it each day and every night!
I gave my all to you again and what did I get ?
The same ol' you but just some extra bu!!$h!t
So may the next woman in line not be so naive
This time with you I honestly did believe
Again because of you though, I am going through pain
Losing our friendship is your loss...but in time...It will be "My Gain" !  | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 10/26/2007 8:27:16 PM | | Sigh, an update. There are now two exs in my past that I can't be friends with, besides the exhusband. The nutjob of a couple of years ago, and a man I saw this year for a few months who told me how special and important I was to him. Against my better judgment I started letting him into my life and heart, only to have him drop (IN A MSN CHAT, THE COWARD!) that he was now happier than he had been in years because he finally had a good woman in his life! He had been seeing someone else for a couple of weeks, and didn't tell me. I was planning on telling him the next time we were together how my feelings for him had grown. He made me feel very small and like a convenient piece of meat, so he is number two. The wall is back and stronger than ever. I prefer to remain on cordial terms with exs, but when they intentionally hurt me, sorry, bub, don't expect any friendship from this quarter. | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 10/27/2007 2:36:35 PM | I still tinks that a MAN and aWOMAN can remain a friendship if the Giggidy...Giggidy...Giggidy is gone between them 
But both still would have to be honest...sincere...considerate...kind...OMG! The list could go on here ...In other words mature and not a LIAR and an Ar$h0Le......But it can happen......not for me ...and alot others but for some it does...and God love em' fer dat! It's a wonderful ting...ain't it!
Tis me! | |
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| Can a man and woman remain friends after a relationship?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:15:43 AM | I agree it depends on the person. Some ex`s are ex`s for a good reason and didn`t make decent mates let alone being a friend. If an ex couldn`t treat you with respect while dating why would anyone want a person like that as a friend after after?
If the person is a good hearted person, and things just didn`t work , sometimes being friends is the only way.
Others use the word " friends" to try to get something back they couldn`t keep. Its all depends on the individual person. | |
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