| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 11:44:08 AM |
I just can't keep up with the emails if I put a pic of my purdy self online
Now thats just stupid to say... PURE ignorance there, i dont like people who are all up on themselves like that, it annoys the living heck outta me... Those are the people who, even if they do look *that* good on the outside, have HELLA issues on the inside
Remember rudeguy59: Please spay and neuter your pets, weird friends & realitives | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 12:10:55 PM | I make sure and post my pictures because of the fact I am overweight and I want that other person to know UP FRONT what they are getting and who they are talking to - then when and if we finally meet they won't run the other way because they didn't realize.
Very shallow of people I know....but it's the way things seem to be.
-Kelly | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 2:59:56 PM | dunedindoll:
Out side of being Married or in some kind of secret job I cannot think of one ..and even if you had a top secret job LOL you could simply put a private picture on here and still send it to people you correspond with..So I guess they have something to hide , what do you think??
My first inclination is to agree with you, dunedin. If someone without a pic messages me? I'll ask for one...almost immediately. Chatting one on one with a person who can "see" me, yet I cannot "see" them just creeps me out to no end. If a pic is not forthcoming (quickly), then our conversation is over. Just a "rule" of mine. That said, I feel it is unfair to claim everyone without a profile pic to be "hiding" something. I like to think the majority simply wish to maintain some measure of privacy on the net. (From nosey co-workers, family, etc.) Or, like another mentioned, they would like to see how things go based on their profile/words/thoughts first. I certainly understand that point, too.
Based on past experience though? My initial impression is that of suspicion. Hence my personal "rule".
Just my two cents worth... | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 3:03:32 PM | rudeguy:
I just can't keep up with the emails if I put a pic of my purdy self online
angelnluv19:
Now thats just stupid to say... PURE ignorance there, i dont like people who are all up on themselves like that, it annoys the living heck outta me... Those are the people who, even if they do look *that* good on the outside, have HELLA issues on the inside
Remember rudeguy59: Please spay and neuter your pets, weird friends & realitives
Good grief. Chill out. Ever hear of sarcasm? :::insert eyeroll::: | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 4:29:52 PM | I won't talk to anyone without a photo...it's not fair...they see me, contact me because i'm attractive to them right? and not just one photo...a few...the more careful u are about screening them the better...
i talked to a guy online many years ago who was in colorado...he just thought i was the one for him...he did not have a photo and claimed that he had no scanner...but assured me he was good looking and i would just love him...and we did get along well online....i kept bugging him to send a photo...he finally mailed one...and guess what...he was not attractive at all to me...totally not my type....and it was a let down, big time....
now maybe that is very shallow...but i had this idea in my head hoping what he looked like and he was not even close...we stopped talkign long after that because he was so hurt by my being disappointed...
there is no excuse for not posting one, except total computer illiteracy | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 5:02:03 PM | What is even more of a let down is to travel halfway across the country to meet someone who doesn't look anything like her picture(s). Add five years and fifty pounds, even though the pictures are recent.
I have been there many times. I stopped travelling for this reason. I found I can be disappointed locally. It's easier on the heart AND the budget.
Flattering pictures guarantee disappointment, and EVERYONE posts flattering pictures.
But yes... I still want to see pictures. I just don't believe them anymore. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 5:48:03 PM | the guy i went out with last weekend for lunch said i look better than my photos...he did too....i'm a good photographer and i tell people so...i tell them i'm thick and not skinny, i have nothing to hide....i've mostly been told i look better....and people were surprised by that....personally i dont think so...i'm sure some have been disappointed...they don't believe me when i tell them i'm heavy, but that's their problem...
hey tell them to get on web cam if u have any doubts...if they are reluctant then u know something is up...i normally will not get on webcam...but if someone is adamant i will | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/9/2006 7:21:05 PM | The very last thing I want to do is ask someone to send me a pic or get on webcam, because this places me in the very uncomfortable position of having to hurt her feelings if I don't like what I see.
The ideal would be accurate pics in her profile. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/10/2006 2:27:32 AM |
Out side of being Married or in some kind of secret job I cannot think of one ..and even if you had a top secret job LOL you could simply put a private picture on here and still send it to people you correspond with..So I guess they have something to hide , what do you think??
I personally have no problem with posting a picture because I'm so ugly I can make a train take a dirt road lol. Seriously, though, some people steal pictures and say that they are that person, etc. For example, I posted mine on my profile with yahoo. Some of my supposed friends took it and posted it AND my e-mail address on a gay site, and all of a sudden, I have a bunch of gay males wanting to hook up with me. Not everyone that comes on to these sites are the sweet innocent ppl they pretend to be. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/10/2006 4:13:21 AM | yes, that's why you need to see more than one photo...and talk to the person for awhile online and on phone before planning a meeting...people do put up fake photos...a guy once had a modeling photo up and told me he was a model...i asked to see some of his shots...he said he only had one...come on, a model with one photo? some are clearly models...you should always beware...if a person only has one photo, a fuzzy photo, an older looking photo...or no photo at all
i change my photos constantly...i experiment with photography and poses and lighting, i realize not everyone can do that...i'm very much into fashion and stuff so i can usually tell if a photo is old by hairstyles and clothes...
as far as posting photos...u need either a digital camera...easiest way....or to scan them via a scanner which is almost obsolete at this point...digital cameras are pretty cheap and easy to use these days...if i can, anyone can... | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/10/2006 4:33:25 PM | I met one lady who said she didn't post a picture because of her profession... turned out she was stunningly beautiful... and completely insane (and not in a good way) so I ended up concluding it was because the folks with the little white jackets was looking for her! LOL
In all seriousness, there are occasionally publicly recognizable figures on here (a friend of mine met a Federal Judge) and they could put their career at risk... imagine what the press would do with news that a Federal Judge was on a dating site looking for women? | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/10/2006 6:34:31 PM | teens shouldn't be on these sites...i'm a teacher...i have no problem posting a photo...the only time a student ever found me it was on myspace...i took the face photo down rearranged my website and they haven't found me since then...if they do i'll change it around again....but i know many teachers on dating sites...met a few...and they post photos...i've seen coworkers, and i've seen a parent or two....if anyone made issue with it, i'd take the profile down....
but i've said this about the public putting teachers on this ''perfection'' pedestal...what if a student saw me at the beach in a bathing suit? what if they saw me walking out of victoria's secret...or having a drink at a restaurant...(not that i drink)....we have teachers that walk outside of the gates to have a smoke...kids can still see it....i've run into students at the mall and at the movies...when i was on a date....not dressed as i do at school....bottom line is we have a life...a personal life...i try not to let the two cross but sometimes they do, and i shouldn't be penalized for not being a saint...
sorry that rant was a little off subject | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/10/2006 7:44:36 PM | Hi Miss 3D,
When my profile text was completed, I posted it immediately sans pictures. I did not wait for photo selection, prep and downloading. The logic here was, why wait? Shortly there after, photos were added. For those that do not have a digital camera, the following information may be helpful for digitizing analog photos:
Most copy services, such as Kinko’s, will scan positives to a CD for a nominal charge.
If you have 35mm negatives; then most drugstores like CVS or Wally World (Wal-Mart) will scan them to a CD as positives for even less.
The issue I believe is one of Quality vs. Quantity. With photos your hit rate will be higher, that is a known fact. Thus, you may lose some good responses without a photo or two. But, your hit rate out of the no-photo group may be higher if your profile is sans photos. So here two recluses find each other, maybe. I guess it is all a matter of what you are looking for. Be real sure of that, you might get lucky and get what you want. What then, if you whished for the wrong thing?
Regards,
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/11/2006 3:38:15 AM | speaking of pervs and criminals...met a guy on another site...i went out with a guy for breakfast one morning before he and I went to work(was on summer break and working at mall)...he had a decent job, nice car, lived in a great neighborhood....there was no spark however...he seemed a bit creepy to me...about a year later i found out why....i was randomly searching the sexual predator list for people in my area....i began with A's and a familiar face pops up....this guy....said sexual contact with a girl aged 14-16...ok so now i see this guy at the club i go to when i go out dancing...see him frequently and I so want to bust his ass on it....but i've said nothing and he doesn't talk to me either....he also lives in a neighborhood where many of my students live, and i have warned them about him...
but that is just creepy...on another local site this guy alerted me to a guy on there who was also on the sexual predator list...now me being fascinated by criminal psychology had to ask him about it...we were just talking online at the time...he claimed he was 17 and he was 21 and she lied...he was now 32...he ended up changing his profile name several times, but this cop on there would always bust him...sad thing is he had a daughter...made me worry...you can't really trust guys like this so i dont know if he was telling the truth....
so you might just want to take a look at your local list you never know who you might find. And these guys WERE posting their photos...scary!! | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/11/2006 8:54:01 AM | In my experience, they make some excuse and are really fat/ugly. They don't understand that if they did post a photo, maybe someone who likes fat/ugly people would want to meet them.
I have also heard the excuses: I don't know how, I don't have a scanner or camera, etc... Usually this means they are really fat, and get their kicks by blindsiding people who decide to meet them anyway. They must enjoy the look of shock, dismay, and sometimes aww of the huge undulating tub of gelatin that comes to meet us. I don't discriminate against fat people, I am not only a client, I am the president of that group, but a little warning is nice. If someone really wasn't smart enough to figure out how to put up a photo or couldn't afford a $20 scanner/camera, I wouldn't want to meet them anyway. The only reason I have met with people without photos is pure curiousity.
In general, I have heard people say they don't want photos of themselves online in case somene recognizes them. In most cases, no one would recognize them from their profile photos if they were standing right next to them. If anything people may think, "wow this person seems just like someone I might know." Unless you live in a tiny town, there are always a few people around who could be your doppelganger. Who hasn't walked up to someone thinking they looked like someone they recognize just to get blank stares. If someone does recognize you here, what does it matter? that means they are here too. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/11/2006 10:08:03 AM | Well. We are all in the same boat. We all are willing to take the risk that we may be recognized by people we know but I think when you sign up on a dating site you are accepting that risk. True, I never recognize people from their photos, I think most people look better in person anyhow. One guy from POF emailed me, said he really wanted to meet me, but refused to send me a pic. I'm overweight, and not shallow by any means, but he saw what my face looked like so it's only fair. He persisted in expecting me to meet him without seeing a photo and basically if not we weren't going to meet. (Like I was SO dissapointed... he emailed me in the first place, like I was supposed to feel so lucky for god sake!) I ended up telling him that it was a red flag, that he'd probably hide other things as well. He was way to adamant about not sending a pic so I see that as a bit controlling as well.
Go figure, . You don't have to post a pic initially, but If you're chatting and the other person has a pic posted... send them a pic if they ask, for god sake. lets all get over ourselves!! :) | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 8/25/2006 4:14:47 PM | Rockstar you crack me up! It's really not all about their looks....
But it would be nice to see who is contacting you.
Hell if we're brave enough to put our mugs out there, then...........................
Is it really about the attraction to someone that matters?
I admit it used to be when I was younger, but feel chemistry is more important now that midlife has snuck up on me.
I've been on a few different dating websites and actually met a man a few months back that contacted me without a picture. We hit it off and have been dating ever since. It's charisma, charm, humor, mutual respect and above all intelligence that attracts me to someone.
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