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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:48:05 PM |
many men without photos will tell me they will send some IF i provide an email address...to me that is not safe...opens my computer up to whatever they send to me and then they have a more personal way to continue to contact me even if I'm not interested
Yeah, I have heard this many times. Their excuse is that they don't know how to post a pic on here. Yet, they can send one to your private email address???  | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/9/2007 4:12:25 AM | This question has a very simple answer: Public Anonymity
If searching for a mate in proactive mode, a picture is not necessary.
You can exchange pictures on a private one to one basis once the left-brain thing is satisfied. Some are not in the ‘meat-market’ to see how many hits they get. Most the women I have dated have been the ones I have pursued, not the other way around. As much as you girls may not like it, the picking is a joint effort, and we men still get to do 50% of that. Wimpy of course does not apply here.
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/9/2007 4:31:20 AM | If they are that stupid, look elsewhere for a mate!
You can set up typically eight different email accounts with your ISP using handles that hide your true identity. The Internet is a tool to be used, not a master to be served. If you make the effort to understand it, you can benefit by using it effectively.
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/9/2007 7:36:32 AM | I don't show a picture because it would cause to much gossip where I work.. It is better to sent the picture when I email someone back.
You have to have the trust factor and believe that someone is at least somewhat good looking.
It you don't want to write to me simply because my picture isn't posted that is your choice..... You lose! | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:00:47 AM | Yes. I have a legitimate reason. Now whether you agree with it or not is the question AND be clear I'm not trying to convince you, nor am I looking for any agreement.
My profile is pretty intimate and I don't feel comfortable exposing that much of myself to thousands of strangers nationwide that could pick me out in a line-up, so to speak. It's very vulnerable for me. So there's a certain amount of privacy I can maintain by not posting my photo for the world to see. If someone is truly interested in my profile and who I am, I'm more than happy to forward photos to them.
In addition, it helps 'weed-out' those people who are just interested in your 'looks'. So instead of getting lots of replies because of the way I 'look', I get a few more serious replies because of who I am.
AND last but not least, in this day and age (and I'm sure it's different for men), of stalkers and easy photo manipulation, I prefer to make my photos available only to those people with whom I've have some kind of contact with and have a sense of their intentions.
It gives me just a little more control of my privacy (not secrecy...there's a difference). | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/10/2007 5:36:32 PM | I do know of one professor at a well-known college here in Florida who was told he had to remove it by the officiating authority, as it did not represent the college in a "good light" with his photo being online for dating.... he didn't like it, but he was forced to remove it.
I work in a high profile job, and don't find a problem with it. Anyone I work with knows I am single, and not dating anyone right now and have never had anyone say anything about it. If they did, I would not hesitate to tell them that my personal life is my own. There is nothing in our personnel policy that states I cannot do so.
In addition, it helps 'weed-out' those people who are just interested in your 'looks'. So instead of getting lots of replies because of the way I 'look', I get a few more serious replies because of who I am
This is an extreme problem I am having. As a POF party host I had to open my preferences to allow people to contact me regarding the party. I get literally 10 to 20 emails a day from guys I have no interest in, but they love my photo and (the ones who bother to read) my profile..... some are over 20 years younger than me. Being the kind person I am, I feel obligated to respond to them, but let them know that's it's just a little too "Freudian" for me. The younger ones are really only looking to see if they can have a sexual relation with an older woman.... found that out by actually dating a couple who seemed serious.... | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/10/2007 6:43:16 PM | Perhaps we should all keep in mind that not everyone is computer savy.Nor does everyone have pics of themselves in digital format.
Not everyone without a pic isn't serious or is hiding. Lighten up a little and enjoy. Then there are those who feel that putting up a pic attracts shallow people. All I'm saying is that there are many different reasons. Don't judge a book by its cover and who knows you may meet your soul mate!! Good luck!!  | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:48:30 AM | HAVE READ ALL KINDS OF EXCUSES BUT NONE MAKE SENSE. I RARELY CONTACT SOMEONE WITH NO PICTURE. IF SOMEONE WANTS TO CONTACT ME THEY SHOULD INCLUDE A PICTURE IF THEY EXPECT A REPLY.
GOSSIP IS NOT AN EXCUSE ITS A COP OUT. IF SOMEONE IS LOOKING AT YOU ON THE FISH THEY MUST BE LOOKING FOR A FRIEND TOO. I WOULD NEVER LET GOSSIP STOP ME. I HAVE FOUND THAT MANY WHO DO NOT POST A PIC ARE VERY FAT OR BUTT UGLY. SOME HAVE SOMETHING TO HIDE. SO I HAVE LEARNED TO JUST NOT TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:11:43 PM | | I met someone at the pof Party at Christophers and she said that she valued her privacy too much, and that she didn't want her neighbors and other people that she knows see her picture on the pof site. I told her that she would get a heck-of-a-lot more responses if she did. I don't think that I changed her mind. Look, there are 1.8 million people in Broward County....what are the odds? Let's get real! Take care, Ted | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/13/2007 3:39:03 PM | On the internet you DON'T know who you are talking to. I myself have had many problems with young girls and gay men. I know they can put a flase picture on their profile but if there is a date on the pic that helps and also information within the profile can match up with the pic.
No pic tells me they have something to hide or their not being honest. Most profiles say they are looking for honest men but they are being dis-honest from the start. This is why I no longer answer non picture profiles.
I lay all my cards on the table so-to-speak. I'm looking for someone and I don't have time for nonsense. If they don't like what they see and read it okay with me. That's why there are apples and oranges!
I have an email now that I had to politly decline. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/13/2007 3:57:45 PM | | JUST BECAUSE THEY POST A PICTURE DOES NOT MEAN THAT IS ACTUALLY THE PERSON YOU ARE TALKING TO. I HAVE HAD A FEW TIMES WHEN I MET SOMEONE AND THEY LOOKED NOTHING LIKE THE PICTURE AND SOMETIMES YOU CAN TELL WHEN A PICTURE IS FAKE OR TAKEN FROM THE NET. I FEEL THAT IF YOUR GOING TO MEET SOMEONE WHY GIVE THEM A FAKE PICTURE!! THEY ARE GOING TO KNOW ITS NOT YOU! AT LEAST WHEN I MEET SOMEONE I KNOW THAT THEY KNOW UP FRONT WHAT I LOOK LIKE AND ARE GIVEN THE OPTION AS TO ATTRACTION OR NOT ATTRACTION BEFORE MEETING. I UNDERSTAND THAT SOME PEOPLE WISH TO REMAIN PRIVATE AND THATS THEIR BUSINESS BUT I CHOOSE TO ONLY TALK TO THOSE WITH PICTURES AND TRY TO DECIDE FOR MYSELF IF THEY ARE REAL OR FAKE. IT CUTS DOWN ON DISAPPOINTMENT OR SURPRISES..LOL!! | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/13/2007 4:25:43 PM | it could be job related. I, for one, work in Law Enforcement & really don't wish for
the bad guys i deal with on a daily basis to be able to identify me and subsequently
harass me. it's difficult enough with this online dating without that added pressure. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/13/2007 7:19:23 PM | You've got a good point, but I'm well known (well, "known" to some degree) in my community and I don't want everybody who recognizes my picture to to be talking about what I'm doing to meet people.
I can't think how, but having a picture publicly posted could possibly pose a fiscal impact to me; perhaps cost me a contract, or something.... some of the people I deal with might judge me by this or something. Maybe not. I don't know. But I'll play it safe, anyway.
I have a separate web page, and I send a link to people whenever I think it's a good idea.... | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:09:15 PM | | As a rule, I do not respond to any emails that do not post a pic. I had a guy email me two days ago telling me that I should meet him because he is cute and I would not be sorry. I emailed him back and asked him why he didn't post a pic and could he send me one and his reply was that he didn't have one to post. Give me a break. He kept pestering me and I told him that anyone that would meet someone without seeing what they looked like first is stupid and a risk. And since I am a Mom, I would never take that risk. I asked him if he was famous and he said he wasn't. Before I meet someone, I always print off the profile and pic and give it to a family member or friend so that they know how I'm meeting up with in case something were to happen to me. Yes, people do post pics that are not them, but I'd like to think that most people are honest...maybe I'm wrong. | |
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 3/3/2007 8:25:23 AM | I have never seen so many paranoid people..."if you don't post a picture, you must be dishonest"...give me a break! And tammerella, how old are you? 24?...printing out a profile and picture and giving it to a family member...I had to laugh...someone in their 40's should know how easy it is to falsify a profile, and or picture. May be I'm out of touch, but has anyone ever heard of any serial rapist using any date site?
Having laughed at most of the posts here, I must add that in the time I have been dating on line, I had several long term relationships, none of which had a picture. On the other hand, there has been several women who had aged 10 years and gained 30 pounds in the time it took me to drive to meet them.
And when I see a profile that has "no picture no response"... I say thank you for announcing how shallow you are.
I have a tip for the paranoid...use the phone, You can tell a lot by talking to someone, this site gives you an option of an anonymous call.
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| Can anyone give me a legitimate reason for NOT posting a picture???
Posted: 3/3/2007 8:56:25 AM | | Yes some people don't know how to upload picture or thier browser is to difficult to navigate?besides a quality relationship dictates a meeting at sometime when you can see then what they look like . you can see lots of pictures when you go to the post office? | |
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