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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/16/2005 2:02:47 PM | hmmm...and resuming where you left off.....................yes, i would date a man who had lost everything.........but i will tell you this..........as long as he still had me, he wouldnt feel like he had lost anything!
true story:i lived with a man for almost 6 yrs...he worked for someone elses pest control company.....then after alot of hard study....he got certified and started his own company..........i worked outside of the home, he wanted me to just do the books, then later he wanted me to get liscensed and do catch ups, too.........so i eventually was working 10 hr days, 6 days a week, and paperwork on sundays....he did pay me 30% of all my ticket work the last 2 yrs...and the business really prospered and he started getting alot of really nice things, cars, vehicles, motorcycles,ect.....but the man who had everything was no longer the man i loved......so i left him with all of his nice things.........and he has tried to get me back for 2 years now............i guess in the long run, those nice things dont mean anything really...............just give me a pup tent, a fishin pole and a man who really sees me when he looks at me................. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/16/2005 8:03:33 PM | Gee astrosky do you think it was something I said?
I guess I should be nice. I hesitated here I was going to type something else entirely.
Actually I do envy people like her. They are so convinced by their believe that absouloutly (sp?) nothing will make them change their minds. It would be so nice not to have to think sometimes.
I on the other hand have a quite open mind. Not so open that it falls out but I do try to listen to everyone's opinion. Then I make my own. And it's NOT carved in stone. I will change it if you can come up with a convincing argument. Every day is a learning experience and sometimes it's learning that what I believed yesterday is no longer true | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/16/2005 8:47:32 PM | Well, I dont care what they got. I look at what they do and whats the attitude. I want someone to love me and understand me. Money cannot buy that. One can start over at anytime in life and do well. Heck my mom at 58, widow, went out and started a brand new career so she could travel and be comfortable in her old age.
I would stand by a man if he was trying and making an effort to make it go. So many people are stuck in their misery, not moving on.
I do meet men sometimes, broke, but the reason i dont date them is because they have not moved, they want to whine still.
That lady, who would be happy living in a pup tent and fishing pole. Obviously she has never been that broke. Its not fun. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/17/2005 12:17:08 AM | I also have to correct one more thing. Mary Magdelene has been protrayed as a protutue for centurays but someone has shined a new light on that.. If your read the bible she is introduced after a protutue the bible has never acturaly call her one.
I love watching and reading up on these things. Most people are also still not confortable with the idea o Mary Magdelene being thought of as Jesus's wife. I don't really know. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/17/2005 6:13:41 AM | | hey, happy glass, this lady moved out of a million dollar home and into a travel trailer with 3 kids and 2 parrots, and only fought for her maiden name back..........and started over! she's been there, done that, knows feast or famine, and what is really important in life....i once sold my washing machine to pay for my daughters hosp. bill and washed clothes for myself and three kids on a washboard.............for 6 months.............sound like i never been that broke? but when i look in the mirror i like who i see........and i have a washer and dryer again..........life happens to all of us........... | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/17/2005 7:32:57 AM |  aww, thanks friends, i just cant stand it when someone looks at me and only sees................the princess i strive to be heeehehhehe | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/17/2005 11:18:03 AM | "aww, thanks friends, i just cant stand it when someone looks at me and only sees................the princess i strive to be heeehehhehe"
That's the cool thing about strong women, we can be soft when we want to be, and rocks when we have to be :). The hardships you put yourself through for your kids remind me of the sacrifices my grandmother made for her family.......She and women like her are my idols | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/17/2005 11:41:11 AM | I have said previously- The road we travel in life is what defines who we have become.
And thinking back some of the bumps made it more memorable. I don't want to go down that road again, but I'm glad to have made the journey and I'm a wiser person for it..... | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/17/2005 2:10:43 PM | | Lots of great stuff here folks. Love is love, but should we not at least first consider the circumstances that lead to the potential date's demise before we make a decision? I lost it all in the 80s too, but I couldn't blame it on anyone but myself, so I can't blame the women that gave me the cold shoulder. I would date someone without anything as long as they genuinely accept whatever resonsibility for their situation they indeed have. That is the only way I ultimately rectified my own situation. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 6:30:41 AM | Absolutely! Just because someone ends up in trouble financially does not necessarily mean that they would not make a good partner. There are many reasons why someone ends up in financial ruin. My outlook on it is great, then there is nothing left from his past and we can start new just the two of us. Sounds good to me, better than having constant reminders around of the person in his life before you.
Oh by the way, men are not the only people who would find themselves in this position. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 6:43:38 AM | Oh by the way, men are not the only people who would find themselves in this position.
Very good point.Financial dysfunction (along with every other kind of dysfunction) knows no race or gender.I just wonder why we seem to see so much more of it now than in the past.It seems like there are more people with unstable living situations than ever before. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 7:09:02 AM | It is heartening to see the overwhelmingly positive responses in this thread. i am signing the papers for my second dovorce in 7 years today. My wife of five months first suggested a "seperation' (and we all know how these go) to work on our problems and then served me a week later. i am up to my ears in debt and she refuses to help pay for any part of anything that she has helped accrue. I don't even want to screw with it because her father has enough high priced lawyers to sink me for good. i am going on a bit of a bender to "celebrate" this weekend and then monday, i am going to start putrting it all back together. i refuse to let the **stards take me down. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 12:02:39 PM | i am up to my ears in debt and she refuses to help pay for any part of anything that she has helped accrue.
My heart and prayers go out to ya. When I left, took 30 g's in student loans, gave him everything, and he had to pay the 7000 grand we owed. He made 45g's a year and I didnt ask for alimony, yet the idiot declared bankruptcy. Now guess who is stuck with that 7000 and noway to get out of it other than bankruptcy which of course wont include my student loan cause that is a nono. Also keep in mind that this marriage lasted 22 years and I went back to school after we had been together for 16 yrs. So I think I got screwed, but ya no what that is ok. Time to move on and start over, never anything wrong with starting over.
Afterall we go through life making errors and sometimes our choice of marriage partners is one of those errors. So we accept that those who have been married might have gotten royally ****ed and we look past that and look at their good points. | |
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Joined: 2/16/2005
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 6:35:08 PM | | This is my humble opinion so I hope nobody takes offense. I don't believe it's healthy for someone to seek a relationship/dating while they're in dire financial straits. First off: the stress may get to them at any point & make them less patient & likeable. For the person dating them, there is the risk of that awkward moment where they will be asked for money or a place to stay. These sound like shallow risks, but we're already stressed enough in today's world & , as the saying goes, I would rather build my house on a solid foundation, not sand. As with all rules, there are exceptions. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 8:02:44 PM | | as long as he is trying to get his life back in order and doesnt expect me to put him back on his feet...then I would have no problem dating someone that has lost everything. I mean I would be there to support him emotionally...but not financially | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/18/2005 10:50:45 PM | | We all have material possession such as cars, house, jobs, clothes, money etc, can disappear when anyone has hit a crisis in their life. Everyone on this forum has experience something in their life that your financial status change due to something that went beyond your control. It could have been a bad business decision, divorce, loss job, health matter or anything that caused someone to lose everything in their life and make changes to improve their lifestyles. I dated a man a few years ago who lost everything due to bad business decision and although i met him a few months after it all happen, he was a great person who had to overcome all his financial woo's. We didn't date for long since our lives where too different at the time we left on good terms ..Material possession can come an go throughout our life time but a really good partner who is trying to make improvements is worth sticking around. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/21/2005 6:14:21 AM | I married a man who lived with mommy when I met him, sorry, ignored the red flag, silly me...I own a successful small business, and owned a home and a car when we married, oh and ladies he was every women's dreamcome true...at the time.
He, after time thought I should support his toys, he acquired a Harley(that mommy bought, yes, $22,000, cash) he also wanted a boat, an RV....well I had to get a part-time job, besides running my business, he told me he was 40 and wasn't going to kill himself by getting a 2nd job...cool...he's gone, back home to Mommy, left me with a large mortgage (different, bigger house then I had when we met) car payment, utilities etc...
I filed bankruptcy, cuz I had to, hardest thing I've ever done, being that I'm a responsible, productive member of society, life happens, and I had to start over again, I'm renting a house now that I love, my brother had to help me get a car, and I put one foot in front of the other and go on...Happiness is wanting what you have, not having what you want!!
So lesson learned in the man dept. But dating a man who has lost everything...as long as he's not a slacker, and is rebuilding his life like I had to, why not?
been there, done that , got the t-shirt
if you have one foot in yesterday, and one foot in tommorrow, you'll piss all over TODAY!!! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/21/2005 6:20:15 AM | | Er... yes... if he will not ask me for money. I'd even be very happy to even house him til he's all settled himself. Just don't ask me for extra money... | |
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