| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:46:57 PM | | sure why not , material things dont cut it with me any ways if some one loves u they take u as u are and yes alot of us in same boat in some form or another hon money isnt every thing | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:52:04 PM | | In a heartbeat. Not out of sorrow and anything liek that, but how could you judge someone by possesions and equady?? (pardon my spelling) | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 6:58:49 PM | | I would be VERY cautious....I got sucked into marrying someone who repeatedly lost everything due to gambling on risky investments etc. Sometimes things are not what they seem on the surface. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:04:03 PM | @ Ladydi8
hmmm...and resuming where you left off.....................yes, i would date a man who had lost everything.........but i will tell you this..........as long as he still had me, he wouldnt feel like he had lost anything!
true story:i lived with a man for almost 6 yrs...he worked for someone elses pest control company.....then after alot of hard study....he got certified and started his own company..........i worked outside of the home, he wanted me to just do the books, then later he wanted me to get liscensed and do catch ups, too.........so i eventually was working 10 hr days, 6 days a week, and paperwork on sundays....he did pay me 30% of all my ticket work the last 2 yrs...and the business really prospered and he started getting alot of really nice things, cars, vehicles, motorcycles,ect.....but the man who had everything was no longer the man i loved......so i left him with all of his nice things.........and he has tried to get me back for 2 years now............i guess in the long run, those nice things dont mean anything really...............just give me a pup tent, a fishin pole and a man who really sees me when he looks at me.................
you are such a sweetheart and I totally agree with you...things are used, replaced, discarded....and in the big picture mean nothing. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:08:39 PM | | This is a changeful life, material things come and go. i would live in a cardboard box with the person I loved. Being a mortician, I can tell you I have never seen anyone leave this world with a house, car, boat, ect.........Besides, if he had stuff to lose, then obviously he had the spirit and wisdom to attain things. If so, he will rebound, gain new goodies. Personally, I would rather have true love and hot passionate physical relations, then, to have a nice house with no love. Of course, this is coming from someone who has been poor most of his life. By the way, I have only been on this site for a little while, but, I want to tell everyone I have met a lady (not in person, yet) that I am starting to think I like. By that I mean, I am starting to appreciate the personality behind her words. we write on a somewhat regular basis, have talked on the phone a few times, and, have talked very intimately with each other. I just found out she is what I would call "WELL TO DO" financially. I am now a bit afraid, because, I never thought about coming on this site and "looking" for material gain. The other side of the "would you date someone starting over" coin, is, would you date someone who has a healthy bank account? I just am attracted to this woman for who she seems to be, not her bank account. Does this rambling make sense? Probably not. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:14:51 PM | Here is a simple question. Would you date a man who lost everything? What I mean by everything, he has to file for bankruptcy because of a divorce and he lost his job and couldn't find one that would pay his bills? He is going to have to start all over again financially and start over with a new career. Would you date a man who has been through hell financially, but is trying to get back on his feet again and enjoy life?
Absolutely.
Money cannot fill my heart, and there's a space in my queen sized bed every night that all of the money in the world couldn't fill either. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:19:40 PM | | i did date a man in that sort of situation and after helping him get back on his feet... not giving him money or anything... just being supportive and guiding... he decided to smoke pot as many times as he possibly could each day, he turned into a complete idiot out of no where and i wasn't going to put myself through any of what he had to dish out so i dumped him. his last words... "you've treated me better than any woman ever has, i don't know what's wrong with me." to which i replied... "i'll miss you." i kissed him softly on the lips and walked away. no fighting, no fuss... that had to be THE most baffling relationships of my life. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:28:34 PM | I was blown away by some of the comments, the women made on this thread. Which i'm glad, i ran across... That money, isn't everything, when it comes to wanting to know someone... And i just had to stop in and post a comment, myself on here...
It's just, so good to see that, the income and status deal. Is a bit smaller, in the scheme of things. Alot of women, where i live. Could learn a great deal, from all of you.
Thank You, Ladies...!  | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:28:54 PM | __Left a 18 Y.O. relation with a few possessions and a big monthly child support payment for the next 3 years.
__Those three years I did not date because I could not afford it. No one was willing to pay my way. LOL
__Took me 4 more years to accumulate the necessities of modern life (car, home, funishing, computer and good job). I have no problem dating now.
__O.T. A lady will not date a man who lost everything. Why would she?
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:33:50 PM | "Here is a simple question. Would you date a man who lost everything? What I mean by everything, he has to file for bankruptcy because of a divorce and he lost his job and couldn't find one that would pay his bills? He is going to have to start all over again financially and start over with a new career. Would you date a man who has been through hell financially, but is trying to get back on his feet again and enjoy life? "
I knew of a man who lived in a friggin TENT! Because of his child support payment of 8 children! And he loved every single one of them, that really tugged at my heart strings. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:34:30 PM | Doc... Why do people assume that dating has to cost money? If the woman wants a date that has to cost a lot, do you really want to date her anyway?
OT: I believe that some of the best relationships start during difficult times. Once that storm is weathered there's virtually nothing that the couple can't face together, and they always seem to remember where they came from, and value what they built together.
Give me a poor nice man any day over a rich a$$hole. I've dated both, so I am speaking from experience.
Money doesn't make a man, and it doesn't hold a relationship together. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:35:41 PM | Defining everything is different to everyone however material possessions do not make a man. A man who had some uncertain and/or bad circumstances occur in his life is not necessarily a loss (to me anyway.) However, if he's willing and wanting to arise again to do what makes HIM happy and BE the man he wants to be then Yes, I would.
Integrity is from within....no one can GIVE it to him....it is earned by his own self right.  | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:36:34 PM | Nope. Been there done that. They practically made me lose everything.
Their excuse is always "my ex this, my ex that........." So freakin what! I'm not your freakin ex! Seek help.
NEVER AGAIN! Did it once, did it twice and NEVER again! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:37:46 PM | | Money and financial stability is needed, to survive for even some of the basics in life. But there are other things, even more important... That money, can't buy... | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:39:11 PM | | I went through a lot of financial stuff and the woman I was with said she didn't care because she sucked at finances as well. Then she won the lottery. Then she dumped me. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:41:48 PM | Just a thought?
Well, it depends on the person... Does the person define the money or does the money, define the person?
And if they are all about money, then forget any real relationship. Unless it's built upon, your credit level... | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:41:52 PM |
Money and financial stability is needed, to survive for even some of the basics in life. But there are other things, even more important... That money, can't buy...
Would that be the "illusion" I hear everybody talking about?
Right now the most important thing for me is saving up money for a house on the lake. I need money for that. How else is that going to happen? With the "illusion"?
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:42:43 PM | | It would depend completely on what he was doing about his situation. If he was working hard to find a job it would make all the difference. If he's just sitting around feeling sorry for himself and making excuses then I already have enough trouble in my life. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 7:45:52 PM | crayola...
like i said, somethings are more important... in your case, its your very own home. which is stability and envestment. but also, everytime you walk thru your door... also, peace of mind. so, its very valid... much luck on that...! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 8:05:52 PM | Yes I would. I actually was dating someoneone that I knew things were realllllllly bad for him. Unfortunately, they got even worse. Divorce, Bankruptcy new job not making nearly enough money. He has an adorable son as well. He asked if I knew what I was getting into and I did... He just didn't realize that he was going to hit the lowest point in his life and not allow me to give him moral and emotional support.
I would have totally stood by him if he would have been able to handle having a relationship! I know that he has wonderful potential and has so many options. In a year or two his life is going to be so much better off!
I wish you the best at putting the pieces back together. It's important to surround yourself with positive people and leave the negatives behind! When life gives you lemons..... u gotta make lemonade! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 8:16:04 PM | | Yes, money isn't everything. More and more people these days are faced with troubled times. All we can do is help support eachother in a time of crisis. It's not looks, money, or how much one owns, It's how good of a soul one holds!!! | |
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