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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 8:51:28 PM | | why wouldnt you date him? i mean yes it is good to meet someone who is in a good financial state but you shouldnt base your feelings on that alone. is he trying to get back on his feet? look, everyone has had their share of tough times... you wouldnt want to be judged on yours would you? if you like this person then go for it. maybe you can add some emotional support? | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/26/2005 9:07:52 PM | Well yes I have had some bad luck in the past also.
Yep I had a great place to live in london ontario.
Lots of cash in the ol Bank account .
And a sweet loving girlfriend who was gonna marry me in 2005.
Well she took care of my bank acounts pretty good !LMAO
Yeah she only took 15 grand plus by yearly air fare from Uk to cananda !!
And when I aske her where she wanted us to live .
First she wanted to live in canada & then she wanted us to live in the UK
Well I sell everything I owned and yeah moved out of my apartment .
Then 6 months later She decided she was not gonna live in canada and she didn't want me to move to the uk!
Then 2004 november 17 I get phone call from her dad who said she past away !
And yet one week after november 17 th i get an email from her sister telling me she was not dead and I was probbly just a poor sole who got scamed !!
So yeah I am doing the rebuilding process again . But next time the lady has too marry me if she thinks she gonna get in my good book let alone in the bank accounts !!
And now yeah I am 49 and yep finding it kinda hard to find a good honest lady wanting a guy my age let alone for my personal wealth  | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/31/2005 8:20:35 AM | I'm not going to blow smoke up anyone's dress and try to make myself look like some wonderful woman.
No, I would not date a man who had "just" lost everything but I would certainly be his friend and let him resolve the issues he has before him. Of course I would be a supportive friend and I would help him out in any way I can...but to commit to someone who's world has just fallen apart? No...he needs time to deal and heal and get his pride back.
To me it's like giving someone a job when they are lacking the qualifications, doesn't mean they aren't suitable candidates, just means they are lacking the fundamentals when it comes to taking care of business.
Romantic relationships and commitments are about a lot more than love. Have one for more than a few years and you might noticed that. I don't see a reason to add to my stress when it would be wisest to proceed as I have been...as a single person working through my own issues.
For the record (and before you get the whips out on me) I have lost everything 3 times over..and I have bounced back very quickly. Material things are easily replaced, credit is not necessary to live and a job is easily found...I never expected any man to pull me out of my misery...I was actually not interested in becoming involved till I got back on my feet...
Why would I want to start a relationship off that way? | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/31/2005 9:07:40 AM | Absolutely, as long as he has not lost his sanity and confidence! Money matters turn around. Personality makes or breaks an opportunity!
Confidence is key! If someone judges you by your bank balance you do not want to be with them anyhow!
I personally have gone from very little mola to a hell of a lot. I do not want someone to be with me for money - they have to be with you because they like the person that YOU are! If they do not no matter what then they do not deserve you! :-) | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/31/2005 4:07:46 PM | | Absolutley I would. Almost everyone gets down on their luck at times. I would have to wait until they sorted out all their issues and was on the right track before taking the relationship to the next level, but would never stop being their for them or being their friend. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 7/31/2005 7:00:26 PM | | It would definitely depend on how he was handling his life at that point. If he was sitting around crying in his beer, forget it. If he was working on rebuilding his life, that would make all the difference. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:50:15 PM | | People had better get used to dating people with money issues as the economy is not getting better at all. It is going to get much worse. I have dated several women with money problems, doesn't bother me at all. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 3:31:36 PM | If he is going through this change then no, I think that people need and should plant their feet before venturing into a relationship.
However if this is his past and he's on the road to a new life then sure why not! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:03:20 PM | Why not if the chemistry is there. I would tread lightly though to make sure I was not just a filler till he got back on his feet. Besides how long after his divorce is this happening. Maybe he is not ready for a realtionship. I would be his friend though.
I have the uncanny ability to create fun with no money!! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:07:58 PM | Well, *ahem* not *everything* 
Financially speaking, who cares really, money means nothing to me, as long as I have enough to keep my roof over my head and the lights and Internet on and food to eat, I'm happy. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:17:39 PM | | Would I date a man who could not pay his bills? No of course not because if I did that then he may very well expect me to pay his bills and that is just not going to happen. The op of this thread (now long gone) clearly stated that this man could not pay his bills, so who in their right mind would date someone who is not only broke but no able to get themselves the necessities of life. I am not a welfare agency. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:23:52 PM | No I will not date a man who lost every thing,he should be busy looking for work taking CARE of his life, like I do, I have no job and I am not dating,I am busy pounding the pavement...I don't even socialize, because I don't want to be look down as a country poor mouse who can't afford to give her share of expenses on dates/gifts/ect...
When a person is down on his/her luck ,people tried to avoid her/him for fear that she/he will borrow money from them/or mooches a free meals. I have my dignity and pride. A person should take care of his/her obligation to her/his self before he/she can enjoy life..... this is just me.. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:25:45 PM | I have, and I would again. Like most others stated, as long as he is taking steps to get his life back on track.... why not?
Most of us at one time or another has suffered some type of financial setback, wether it be due to divorce, lay-off, corporate down-sizing, or simply making bad decisions. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 7:48:19 PM | What a stupid question!
he should be focusing on his life and dating should be secondary.
This is the best suggestion for the guy who lost his shirt. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:30:59 PM | | I guess my answer would be yes. However, it turned out not to be a smart thing after all. I met my ex when he was in complete financial ruin. I started out paying almost everything. Finally, I helped him pay for a bankrupcy because he was paying for a debt consolidation that wasn't working out. Gave him the money, helped him pay a few other bills like school loans to bring them current. Soon he was in the clear and about six months later, I was laid off and he kicked me to the curb. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:51:37 PM |
Would I date a man who could not pay his bills? No of course not because if I did that then he may very well expect me to pay his bills and that is just not going to happen. The op of this thread (now long gone) clearly stated that this man could not pay his bills, so who in their right mind would date someone who is not only broke but no able to get themselves the necessities of life. I am not a welfare agency.
This one cuts both ways, last woman I dated could not pay her bills personal or business. She wanted me to move in after a couple months and split the bills with her, that would have been stupid for me as I have a paid off home. Half the women I dated at some point wanted help with bills, a couple I did help but most I didn't. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:16:21 PM |
Would I date a man who could not pay his bills? No of course not because if I did that then he may very well expect me to pay his bills and that is just not going to happen. The op of this thread (now long gone) clearly stated that this man could not pay his bills, so who in their right mind would date someone who is not only broke but no able to get themselves the necessities of life. I am not a welfare agency.
This one cuts both ways, last woman I dated could not pay her bills personal or business. She wanted me to move in after a couple months and split the bills with her, that would have been stupid for me as I have a paid off home. Half the women I dated at some point wanted help with bills, a couple I did help but most I didn't.
Uh huh. And? Why are you telling me this? Did I say that moochers are of only one gender? No I did not. Perhaps you need to stop being so sensitive and defensive. I addressed the topic of the thread which was "would you date a man who was so broke that he was jobless and could not pay his bills". My answer was "no I would not date a man who could not pay his own bills". It goes without saying that anyone in their right mind would not date someone who they would have to support. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:37:19 AM | This one cuts boths ways,last man I dated could not pay her bills personal business. She wanted me to move in after a couple of months and split the bills with her,that would have been stupid for me as I have paid home. Half the women I dated at some point wanted help with bills,a couple I did help but most I didn,t.
Some people both gender thinks they can hoodwick some one for being lovey dovey to carry their burden ..
You help 2 women to pay their bills, I hope you did not regret
it ...
lilemilyem: thanks for sharing your experienced. | |
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