| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:55:02 AM | Msg126. why should I be ashame of my respond ?
A person should have some dignity, not to put down his self, in front of every body by asking " Would you date a man who lost everything?" He himself would not date a woman who has nothing but the shirt of her back...
Some women answered they will date a man who has nothing,good for them...
this post is 4 years ago, but it serve a good purpose for other men,who is thinking the same thoughts, so they'll know the answer in advance. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:10:34 AM | Amillio, Bello...
The answers are different because in the meantime we did our part and we dated our quota of men who lost everything. Now they're financially stable and married to or living together with someone else. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:22:32 AM |
To all of you saying now, that no you wouldn't date a man who lost everything, read the other responses from a few years back, and tell me you're not ashamed of some of your responses now.
Obviously you did not read the post. This hypothetical man has not only lost everything, but he can no longer pay his bills which means no roof over his head and no food. He will be homeless. Now you may be thrilled over the idea of dating someone so destitute that they are living on the streets but I am not. I feel no shame over not wanting to date someone so bad off that they can no longer pay their bills.
The only thing I require of any man I date regarding his financial status is that he can pay his bills. Anything beyond that is not my concern.As I said before I am not a welfare agency and it is not my responsibility to pay the bills of someone I am dating. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 4:09:00 AM | | I suppose people who are going through hard times need love and support to keep them going, so lets hope that even though they wont get a date, they have good people in there life to keep there chin up. Even if it is someone just to listen to them, even if they aren't in a position to physically help them. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:01:33 AM | | I have in the past, and the biggest issue I experienced was not the fact that they didn’t have anything, it was their response and attitude towards that circumstance. They were bitter, angry, depressed and defeated and they blamed everything and everyone else for their situation, not accepting any personal responsibility. They raged at the inequity of life and that rage consumed them, tainted all of their relationships and thwarted all of their attempts to rebuild and recoup even some of what they had lost. No woman (or man) in their right mind would want to stick around and try to build a relationship with a person like that. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:02:11 AM | I think what is a sad state of affairs in the US is that for the most part ANY PERSON who has lost his income or her income due to the GREED in Congress, Wall Street, etc. should not be made to feel at fault for their current dire straights.
SPEAKING as a man who has done all that the original Post stated; filed Bankruptcy, Divorce pending, children, laid off because of 9-11 cutbacks, etc. it is a hard place to be. ESPECIALLY if you are over the age of 40.
I think that those females and males answering that they would are being compassionate, and those that answered NO WAY are worrying about their own wallets.
Which is fair...
I think the point that the OP was trying to get across to US is that it happened to this person and he is doing what it takes to get back on his feet. AT NO POINT DID SHE SAY, 5yrs ago, that he was asking for help/money or a place to live. Just what she said.
Those to busy arguing about selfish and self centered points are what you are! And should it happen to you some day... well, you know our responses to your situation.
And those of us who go and have been thru the hell of rebuilding our lives... GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK!
"CowboyEnuff"
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:28:59 AM | | Nope, of course not. How is he supposed to wine and dine me? LOL No, seriously, I don't want to have to deal with someone's baggage. I don't have any issues with my own current situation so I don't want to be with someone who is not stable. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:42:48 AM |
I suppose people who are going through hard times need love and support to keep them going,so lets hope that even though they won't get a date, they have good people in there life to keep there chin up. Even if it is someone just to listen to them,even if they aren't in a position to physically help them.
I am thankful of this hard time, it diversified me into a good person, who's focus are people around and how to live a simple life.. Now it is more meaningful to me interacting with people, than doing shopping spree on material things...
I would like to share this to women ~ I met a beautiful lady in a thrift store ,ala Grace Kelly, very regal like she was always posing for a pictorial, the second time I saw her I ask her what makes her neck and face so smooth, when she is no longer 18, she told her age, younger than her calendar years on my calculation on the year she was modeling hats, in New York,she was in her early 80s..she was younger more than half her real age... she told me of the beauty regimes of a woman, and focus on my heart, reach up to people to give kindness... That was ingrained in me, in this forum ,I make people laugh ,making up funny stories as an answer or sharing my experienced of wisdom... Not just men who emails me some women too..
I am one of the people that was hit of tough times, I held my head high,chin up, and I am not dating,but interacting with people what help I can do and looking for any type of work to survive...... And I am not asking any handout to any one, because I have my strenght and my dignity .. this is my personal contribution and I am not imposing this to others.
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:11:11 AM | @ Vannili
What does your little story have to do with the original post ?
Thank you for pointing that up... My answer to the original post is Msg:115
And this input refer to Msg:130, My intention on this is even we don't want to date a person who lost every thing ,we still can be kind to him... Agreeing to msg:130
What I understand on discussion is it diversified into different branches of topics ..
My little story implied that we have to be kind to others. Which is not out of line on the Thread ~ Would you date aman who lost everything? | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:36:02 AM | | Yes, if I see that he is taking steps to put his life back together. Times are hard and a divorce can make it harder. So yeah, I'd give the guy a chance. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:38:02 AM | Yes, if he is moving towards coming out of it. And I would be glad to support and love such a man, I'm sure the experience would transform him into a wonderful person.
Now, if he is just going to be sorry for himself and use his experience to indulge in drugs, alcohol, unfaithfulness and abusive behaviour, he can get lost. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:53:28 AM | msg 123
It goes without saying that anyone in their right mind would not date someone who they would have to support.
kinda like being married from a mans point of view  | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:24:16 AM | kinda like being married from a mans point of view
Married to a man is different story, I supported my late husband for 3 years working 2 jobs,and doing housechore.cooking ( I don't like the way how he cleaned the house) I have no complains and no regrets on supporting us,until he was able to stand on his own feet... I bet there are a millions of women who will do that to their husband/man/lover/boyfriend...
I am not sure if a women will take a chance to date a man who lost every thing into ashes and trying to build his life on what was left.. Most women have responsibility on their own too,specially women with kids...
But,hey! nothing is impossible !!! Some women would want to be a stepping stone for a croaking frog hoping he will turn into a Prince Charming that will love her and give back 10 times what she helped him..
That is a gamble of love.. Win or lose... | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:30:48 AM | My bf was laid off within 2 months of us beginning to live together. Not exactly the picture I had in mind but, no, I didn't kick him to the curb. Like many others he still hasn't been able to find steady employment. But I gotta say my property has never looked more fabulous. 
I've supported men before and it isn't something I would purposefully set out to do again. He carries his weight very well. If he was laid up on the sofa watching reruns (or, even worse, soaps and baby momma drama on shows like Springer), eating his weight in groceries, and running up the utilities, his a** woulda be outta there so fast my neighbors would think I launched a rocket from the pasture.
There's a difference between unemployed and unmotivated (also not-so0affectionately known as human sponges). | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 5:12:42 PM |
AT NO POINT DID SHE SAY, 5yrs ago, that he was asking for help/money or a place to live.
You need to actually read the post as I quoted below.
he lost his job and couldn't find one that would pay his bills?
The man can't pay his bills. Which means he can't pay his rent, can't pay his food, can't pay his electric bill, can't pay phone,heat, clothing etc... So yeah the op was actually saying that this man would of course be requiring help since he could not pay his bills himself. Should I ever find myself in this situation then dating would not even be anywhere on my mind. Why someone who is living on the streets would try to date is beyond me. This is not a situation of someone who is just going through a tough time with their finances and has to tighten their belts ,this is a situation where someone can't pay their bills. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:24:10 PM |
OK where are you?
Sir Jamie,
I am down here below,,,,,, at the bottom of the sea with other fish ,swimming with some baracudas, and sharks.
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:34:38 AM | been there-done that.....doin good now...but have seen guys that load up on woman too...sit back and watch...take ur time....if your any kind of character judge...you figure it out...good luck! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:40:07 AM | no he's a man :P lol
but... say it was a girl so i can believe it :P lol
i would still yes... it is rare to find someone that is more than a friend, someone you know you could grow to love and trust and all that pony lol
ok... :D x
Let's face it, the monetary systems we live in create social groups and separate humans from eachother, I personally try my best to avoid this and judging based on monetary or even ethical preferences, there are more important things to consider... behavior, emotions... ability to compromise and brain connections
those are what matter to me...that and a hot ass :P lol
peace x | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:43:02 AM | Very shallow question. It happens to the best of us as men! If you`re a woman to ask this type of question indicates "Your a Taker" and only want a man who`s a paycheck for you? Basically, you look at a relationship as a "whats in it for you" type of approach and than get upset if your man takes a hit.
Would you date a man who has been through hell financially, but is trying to get back on his feet again and enjoy life?
Some women wonder why they can`t find a man, well this is a typical problem many females face, it`s called reality!
In this case,being a hypothetical question it shows how different a male is from a female.
It differentiates a man from his woman..
a man is a provider who`s job is to protect his love ones. judging by the response of many, is it any wonder why some have so much trouble understanding a man and real life issues?
There are no white knights out there as many of you continue to dream up in those convoluted minds of yours...
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:22:53 AM | | I'd have to say I'd "date" the guy, but there's no way he's moving in with me! I've already lost thousands of $$ on "guys who lost everything" supporting their lazy butt's. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:35:52 AM |
Very shallow question.
Why is that? You need money to live. That's hardly shallow.
It happens to the best of us as men!
I have yet to meet a man who was living on the streets because he can't pay his bills. So no homelessness does not happen to most men as you have indicated.
If you`re a woman to ask this type of question indicates "Your a Taker" and only want a man who`s a paycheck for you?
So I am a taker because I expect that a man at least pay his own bills and not expect me to pay his? Wow really!? That's your definition of a taker? My entire marriage I made more then my husband so a man making a lot of money is not a priority for me. A man able to pay his own bills and contribute is important to me.
Men take hairy sh!t fits on these forums over who pays for dinner yet expect a woman to support him and pay all his bills. Wow talk about a double standard.If you can't pay your bills then you are going to lose your place to live and not be able to feed yourself so I would say that dating should not even be a consideration. I don't consider homeless shelters good places to meet potential mates.
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:27:09 AM | Some women wonder why they can 'tfind a man,well this is a typical problem many females face,it's called reality! In this case,being a hypothetical question it shows how different a male from a female.*
It differentiates a man from his woman..
a man is a provider who's job to protect his love ones.judgingby the response of many,is it wonder why some women have so much trouble understanding a man and real issues? *
There are no white knights out out there as many of continue to dream up in those convulted mind of yours..
The Princess And The Pauper DID NOT HAVE an ending "they live happily ever after. The Princess got tired supporting the Puaper.....Yes we are different from male other wise we are all males.. White Knight isn't bad ,as long as his but t is not always on his high horse..
**Some women can't* FIND *men for the reason the man can not stomach the face of 'that'woman , and he dosn't want to be bother when the grocery clerk asked plastic or paper? Plastic is suffocating ,it can lead to murderous thing. And paper is strenous you have to cut three holes................ So forget it !!!
Did you mean ? ** Some women can't retain a relationship with a man? Well ,there is no comment on that if a man wants out on the relationship ,he'll do repulsive things and vice versa, to break up the tie..
The Original post is the guy divorce,filed bankruptcy, can not pay his bills, some of foras ( mother instinct or desperate ?? ) they,ll take him, to give him a second chance" not bad" that is 35 % of 100 ,the 65 % won't take a man down on his luck even do he is honest, that he put in black and white that he has nothing.. For the reason those women have enough of their own responsibility ,their kids and bills, and it is not worth it ,to date or have a lover that can not contribute on relationship, and the others did not have a good experienced, they were financially bleed and kick on the curb...
The OP reminded me of a man standing in a corner street with a placard sign, I WORK FOR FOOD..lobster, filet meunier, champagne, and a juicy juicy steak will do.. So sorry I'll pass, he is not appealing to me...
 ps a person should think first to survive instead looking for a date.lol. | |
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