| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/16/2006 11:41:51 AM | It's interesting how women feel so strongly about a man coming. If he doesn't come, they are upset, but if they themselves don't come it's no big deal - for some. I think a lot of women who don't come are not very in tune with their sexual responses and they should allow a guy to explore this with them rather than brush it off and say it's no big deal. Sex is a great pleasure to share.
Also, most men come. If they don't it's rare and probably for reason which can be easily overcome, such as women have to learn how to stimulate the particular guy they are with - we are all a little different. True a blow job is always a good thing but it doesn't mean it will always work just because it's a blow job. | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/16/2006 2:36:56 PM | Erectile problems, i am 28 year old male only have been intimate twice and cant seem to get a full erection or keep it nor can i ever ejaculate? i cant even ejaculate in self pleasuring at all either? what are my problems any solutions? im totally open?
any herbs or pills i can take to get it going? | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/16/2006 2:37:58 PM | | I know of one instance where the girl actually said after giving him oral, she felt the throbbing as if he was coming, but nothing came out,,is that the same as delayed ejaculation? I mean she said he never came so not delayed but notta at all...and then he went limp and said that was awesome, she said it was the strangest thing...if someone understands this please advise, and I will let her read this thread as well. Thx | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/16/2006 2:45:09 PM | Frustrated: Let me apologise immediately for going off in another direction but...
MG & Rod: the sad state of affairs of having to wear a condom while waiting for the long term woman to enter menopause??? What the !!! I'm disappointed fellas. You know what the other options are for us and they aren't great. You also know, or perhaps I give you too much credit, there are days when fertile women can safely go "bareback" in a long term relationship. | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/17/2006 12:29:20 PM | | It sounds like maybe he doesn't ejaculate. Men who have had prostate problems or surgery sometimes get this. Also, throbbing happens if you're excited and on the verge of coming but but not quite coming. | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:38:36 AM |
The most common causes are psychological. Common psychological causes include:
* A strict religious background causing the person to view sex as sinful
* Lack of attraction for a partner
* Conditioning caused by unique or atypical masturbation patterns
* Traumatic events (such as being discovered in masturbation or illicit sex, or learning one's partner is having an affair)
The first two are the exact OPPOSITE of reality... or in my own experience... the ladies I was attracted to most... could be up to half an hour of sex before an orgasm and quite a bit of time after.. I had a painfully strict religious background where sex was viewed as sinful (even during marriage sex was supposed to only be for procreation only)... Once I changed my views... lasted longer, if I'm not extremely physically attracted to the partner (just putting out basically... yes us guys do that too!), sex doesn't last that long and the inability to continue afterwards. And finding out my partner is having an affair severely drops their attractiveness (so much that I won't have sex with them at all).
Don't be too hard on yourself, if you don't have an orgasm, you can go on and on and on... that's a good thing... keep going until you do have an orgasm, enjoy the stamina while you have it! | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 8/20/2006 5:39:49 AM | | chronic long term infection of prostate - can cause this - long term use of antibotic will help -contact a urologist. Note: if pain upon ejaculation bet that is it | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:32:04 PM | I must reply to Rasonage, who has made the common mistake of equating ejaculation with orgasm. NEWS FLASH BOYS & GIRLS - it is possible for a man to attain orgasm without ejaculating, and when he has mastered the art of doing so he can be multi-orgasmic, something long believed to be strictly a "trick" we ladies could "perform".
I had a lover for nearly a year who would often attain orgasm without ejaculating. In fact it was a REALLY BIG DEAL when he managed to ejaculate while I was fellating him since that had only happened to him once before in his whole life (he was 44 or 45 at the time).
While I must agree with all the advice given to the troubled young man who started this thread - that is, explore all possible medical problems that could prevent you from ejaculating - don't believe that just because he didn't ejaculate he didn't orgasm - for that matter, depending on the circumstances he might not orgasm but that doesn't mean he didn't enjoy making love with you! Maybe he's just worn out...
Just be sure he reads the posts from Dave632 about how to find YOUR g-spot!  | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:53:20 PM | Did you see a doctor? You should see a doctor, there might be a simple answer, you might have something wrong. It could be worse, at least you can get an erection. I know somebody who broke up with a guy because he couldn't ever get one, he had a real problem, he was cute too. I was so surprised when she told me that. Apparently he was unable to keep a girlfriend and had the problem for years.
Don't be shy to go to the doctor, that's what they are there for, they hear this stuff all the time and won't judge you. All the best. | |
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| Sexual health question - frustrated lately
Posted: 11/18/2006 7:17:45 PM | | Expectations around sexual performance have changed dramatically over the past 30 years or so. Cunnilingus was pretty unheard of in the 1950's and back then, there were no expectations for women to orgasm at all; in fact, it didnt even matter if they found it pleasureable at all, it was a given to just satisfy the husband and most men had no idea what a clitoris was. I believe I read that most women dont orgasm through vaginal sex w/o clitoral stimulation, but you didnt clarify. Any man can stimulate a woman to orgasm manually and/or orally, so if youre just counting on vaginal penetration, maybe you might do better and diversify? | |
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