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Posted: 4/23/2005 2:03:35 PM | | I sometimes feel the same way but what are you to do the bar scene is worst the women there just want a free time and at the end of the night leave which I now believe was the best thing that could happen to a guy. they are always back doing the same thing to some other guy. I want to try and stick it out here I just wish everyone would treat people as they want to be treated then things would work out. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2005 4:28:08 PM | My situation is a little different. I've had women contact ME first, I would contact them back (in a very general manner, not to turn them off in some way before we even have a conversation), and I would get no response ever again. Maybe it was something I said?
Maybe when I said "sure", it somehow turned them off.
Then again, I never really intended to ever make an account at an online dating site, and I just got into it one day, not having any expectations. As far as real life dating is concerned, it's dead and hopeless. The only thing to look forward to, if you're lucky, are one night stands with spring break girls. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2005 5:02:10 PM | Hey single dad...I seem to recall messaging you and not getting a reply so let's not call the kettle black, k? Guys do it too...and we girls also assume there is something about me that didn't attract him or that there is nothing that does!!! lol
It's no big deal...just keep fishing. People seem to take every lack of a reply to heart...geez...you don't even know the person so how can you be so offended???
Keep your chin up and good luck to everyone!!!
jj
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Posted: 4/28/2005 9:58:10 AM | I have also felt the sting of a read and deleted message without having been replied to...
As the other ladies have mentioned, it's no big deal; sure it hurts, but move on.
Gentlemen, I am not sure which ladies you might be reffering to that receive these 100's...or at least 10 emails per day...I know that I do not...
In my opinion, its the ads that show a half naked girl that gets the most attention; and I also suspect that these are the ones that many, many men are emailing regularly.
I think that those are the ones that are reading and deleting without responding...
Perhaps if you tried emailing the "women" on here, you would get a larger response ratio.
Also, if you are going to take the time to mail us, please don't just write.... "Hello"...and then punch send!!!
Recently, I had a gentleman do that and I even responded with the same...but I also asked a question. When he responded back it was a simple answer to my question and nothing else...
This went back and forth a few times...but it was frustrating.
You must be willing to share more of yourselves....honestly if its like pulling teeth to get you to say anything, I will give up very quickly...
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Posted: 4/28/2005 10:52:24 AM | | I find that its really hard to reply to all the mail I get.I do my best to send replys,but whn you sign in and find you have 17 new messages its kinda overwhelming,and then I dont even know where to start!I think some women look at the messages like munbers and not ppl.Just an idea. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2005 10:58:38 AM | | I think we are lucky on this site to message as many ppl as we want. Does that not greatly increase our chances of finding someone? In real life we cannot do that!We do not go to the bar and talk to someone and if that doesnt work out, we talk to each of their different friends until we get a good response do we? No So, therefore I think this site and sited like it gives us an advantage to meet as many ppl as we like, if we do not get a reply,keep going until you do!If your message does not get read its not the end of the world | |
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Posted: 4/28/2005 11:25:55 AM | | I like your statement...bery true..i would love to read and respond to every email...but there isn't enough time in one day to do that. Most of it is judgemental crap anyways...good or bad..i sometimes just forget to respond...guys don't take offence..it's not always a question of like or not like. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2005 10:09:23 PM | | It nice to know that someone out there gets lots of mail the few guys that have e-mailed me just wanted sex they didn't want to get to know me. They didn't want to hang out or anythig. They e-mailed and said I liked to have sex with you. Well thats one that i read but i will not respond. not that type of girl. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2005 10:10:46 PM | *its' *anything sorry for the typos | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 5:33:06 PM | To get laid you must be played....good luck, don't forget your raincoat! | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 12:54:44 PM | add this to it:
Nothing in my mail but spam. Nope, again today as most every day, nothing from PileO'Fish except read deleted or unread deleted. I have read statistically, that the ratio of men to women is five to one respectively. For every one hundred satisfied ladies leaves four hundred gents reading the deleted column of POF. But week after week, month after month, I see the same ladies, many of whom have done me a delete. So what I believe I am seeing here is a game being played by those specifically requesting no games allowed. The game has got to be musical chairs, the mating version. The lady is deluged with potential suitors, but instead of choosing one, she plays “Pop Goes the Weasel” while we dance around her mulberry bush as she takes the chairs away before the music stops. If, in fact, she does go out with a man, she is thinking ahead to another lined up the next day never getting to really know anyone at all.
About., about., that is, almost everyone in this pile, lives in the animation world of fair maidens and handsome princes. That is, that we are that maiden or prince and the other is standing (or sitting) by the pond in the lost forest, next to the castle, on the other side of the flowery meadow that the yellow brick road leads that we are skipping along, and yes Toto is there to, only to find we should have taken the third star to the left and go straight on till morning (that is, those of us that go straight).
Now where is this all leading? Nowhere! Exactly the place most of us have gone with this. The ladies by some confused choice. The men by unsurmountable overwhelming odds against them. What we enter into believing it will be a clear pond with plenty of fish ends up a dry mud hole, and a pile of fish. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 4:02:22 PM | I hear ya...I was coaxed by a friend of mine to try internet dating, because she had heard about the success stories...and yes..there are some. I have been doing this for about a year and a half now, and for the most part, I have found these sites to be an avenue for fantasies, the false sense of security for people to be someone they are not because they can hide behind their computer screens. Some of the men I have chatted with online barely get past hello before sexual comments are made. Others I have talked to, seemed genuinely nice, but when I met them in person, looked nothing like their pictures. Met a couple that I seemed to click with, but found out they are hung up on an ex wife or girlfriend, or, I have suspected could be married. Met one that I genuinely enjoyed talking to, but the word commitment is not in his dictionary, not even to a date.
Wish this was a way to meet someone to date, but up to this point, it has proven to be a disappointing experience. I wish you all luck in your search....we all want the same thing in this life, to be truly happy, to enjoy what time we have left....but I am convinced this is not the way for me to meet the man of my dreams...best wishes to all. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 4:13:27 PM | | hello. sorry to hear that you didn't find some one but iam sure you will just don't throw in the towel i met someone on here and were takining it slow start off as friends and work from there iam sure your not a bad guy and not all of us are like otherskeep looking you'll find your dream gal best of luck sexyroxy | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 7:25:37 PM | I feel your pain! | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 8:42:27 PM | | just leave your profile on here and relax,usually you find something when you least expect it,so in a month when you forget about your profile on here and your dream woman might come across it and decide to chat you up you never know.but i do agree that women judge by looks,actually all people do.everyone just give people a chance and dont judge on their looks even though usually thats the first interaction (visual) | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 10:24:45 PM | I agree. I'm tired of my messages being deleted and my only guess why is because I'm not as pretty as half the girls on here. I always reply to all of my messages even if they are not what I like in a man. I have met one person on this site and he looks better in person then he did in his picture. No one knows how old the picture might be. Just give everyone a chance and you might have better luck.
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Posted: 5/15/2005 10:03:50 PM | | Hey angel4hell,you need to lift your restrictions,then maybe you'll get more mail?Just a thought | |
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Posted: 5/15/2005 10:26:44 PM | A thread like this has only been here a thousand times.
.. what did you expect?
You think you throw up a profile of 'x' amounts of words,
maybe a few pics, and spam a few people on here , and all
your prayers would be answered?
I don't hold the same faith.
This is virtual fishin'.
bait it up, and toss it out.
I remember many fishing trips without a bite.
I remember others with maybe a nibble at best.
.. and others maybe a sunfish, or something else I didn't want to eat.
.. I do remember a few trout.
keep jiggin'
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Posted: 5/16/2005 1:38:42 AM |
just leave your profile on here and relax,usually you find something when you least expect it,so in a month when you forget about your profile on here and your dream woman might come across it and decide to chat you up you never know.but i do agree that women judge by looks,actually all people do.everyone just give people a chance and dont judge on their looks even though usually thats the first interaction (visual)
bleh bs, i ignored my profile for 6 mos and had nothing waiting for me when i breathed life back into it; besides the best (smartest/funniest/hottest girls) that i've talked to have come from emailing people from the forums.
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Posted: 5/16/2005 4:48:03 AM | Well; You have a good idea;
The women I've sent messages to have not responded either; I THINK I'm at least entitled to SOME kind of explanation; BUT; they don't even reply; THAT I can't understand;
They say they WANT a good guy; I'm, a good guy; And yet they don't even reply;
--------------WHY?--------------- Can someone answer this?------------------ | |
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Posted: 5/16/2005 5:43:33 AM | Are you emailing women near your own age and near where you live?
jj
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Posted: 5/16/2005 6:12:49 AM | Jeopardy,
Please do a search of women near my own age and near where I live and see what you come up with...
Uh huh, that's what I thought...
That's why I've got wheels & will travel - for the right one... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2005 6:13:31 AM | I think the problem is that when guys send out so many emails and dont get any responses, not only do they get discouraged, but they take it personally. I think it may be affecting their egos a little bit. So I just wanted to say, GUYS DONT TAKE NON-RESPONSES AS A BLOW TO YOUR EGO! I'm one of those girls that doesnt always respond, and its certainly not because I think the guy is bad, or whatever - I just know right then and there that he's not my type. That DOESNT mean he wont be someone else's.
For example, sometimes men that are too old for me contact me. I am glad they did - I could meet the perfect person for me and so what if he's older? But a lot of times, I get much older unattractive men - you think I'm gonna respond? For all I know, the person could be amazing, but ITS JUST NOT WHAT IM LOOKING FOR at 19 years old; I want a date who can potentially be a boyfriend that can keep up with me and my friends.
BOTTOM LINE: If you cant handle the rejection process before you even know the person, how will you handle it when you get blown off later on? Suck it up! And one last tip: If you're really interested in a girl and she hasnt responded, wait a few days and email her again. Sometimes I've been too busy to respond to an email from someone I've really liked. If she doesn't respond, swiftly move on. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2005 6:36:58 AM | Unfortunately, the Men in here hide many things .. I've met one from here and he's still on this site.. he lies about his age and his PIC is OUTDATED.. so CHIN up.. we girls have it worst - cause there are so many DOGS out there-- Just weed em out!
Even if they do answer does not mean they're HONEST/sincere... I've learn't my lesson  | |
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