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Posted: 5/16/2005 6:13:31 AM | I think the problem is that when guys send out so many emails and dont get any responses, not only do they get discouraged, but they take it personally. I think it may be affecting their egos a little bit. So I just wanted to say, GUYS DONT TAKE NON-RESPONSES AS A BLOW TO YOUR EGO! I'm one of those girls that doesnt always respond, and its certainly not because I think the guy is bad, or whatever - I just know right then and there that he's not my type. That DOESNT mean he wont be someone else's.
For example, sometimes men that are too old for me contact me. I am glad they did - I could meet the perfect person for me and so what if he's older? But a lot of times, I get much older unattractive men - you think I'm gonna respond? For all I know, the person could be amazing, but ITS JUST NOT WHAT IM LOOKING FOR at 19 years old; I want a date who can potentially be a boyfriend that can keep up with me and my friends.
BOTTOM LINE: If you cant handle the rejection process before you even know the person, how will you handle it when you get blown off later on? Suck it up! And one last tip: If you're really interested in a girl and she hasnt responded, wait a few days and email her again. Sometimes I've been too busy to respond to an email from someone I've really liked. If she doesn't respond, swiftly move on. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2005 6:36:58 AM | Unfortunately, the Men in here hide many things .. I've met one from here and he's still on this site.. he lies about his age and his PIC is OUTDATED.. so CHIN up.. we girls have it worst - cause there are so many DOGS out there-- Just weed em out!
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Posted: 5/16/2005 6:43:07 AM | @ Rock&Roller....sorry...I live in a highly populated area...when I search for men between 36 and 42 within 100 miles I get 600!!!! And I still can't find anyone!!! UGH!!!
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Posted: 5/16/2005 7:06:27 AM | | the problem I see is that even though we are light years ahead of the 50's(or so it seems)with womans liberation and womans rights etc.woman for the most part still play by the traditional rules.Men chase,woman play hard to get.We are virtually on the cusp of a brave new world and no one is excited by the changes.Come on ladies,mix it up a bit,get some cajones and ask a guy out.Approach a guy and tell him you're interested.You would be amazed by the rush .Rejection or not.And that's what it all comes down to then,woman are afraid to death of rejection where men have been taking rejection for eons.Well I say its time woman had a little taste of our role.Try it,you just might like it.nuff said. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2005 7:17:38 AM | Richard .. you might want to change your handle (name) and make another profile and continue to search - don't give up completely - That's what i've done to escape some from here.. LOL!!  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2005 10:38:38 PM | bunomatic
we have to deal with rejection too!! I have delt with more rejection then I have had boyfriends. I went three years with nothing but rejection. I don't like asking guys out but I look at it as I can gain something but I will have lost nothing. A no is a NO big deal and move on with your love life. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 4:45:40 PM | | Reefer, there is no way I would ever delete someone's message to me without responding to them whether I was interested in them or not. That is just plain rude man and I want nothing to do with a person that is that callous. The least anyone can do is tell a person they are not interested in them. That is called politeness. Some people need to learn it. Seriously. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 4:59:59 PM | i see were you blokes are cummin from bout just guessin a ladz a player i do dat sumtimes lol tryin to give that up and give people a chance as long as they aint like 50yrs old hahaha
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And what my dear is wrong with being 50??? Sorry I don't see your humor! Someday if God permits you will be in your 50's.......then what?
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Posted: 5/25/2005 5:00:12 PM | It is just plain polite to tell someone that you are not interested rather than leave them wondering why you did not respond. What a person can imagine as the reason why a person did not e-mail them back is usually worse than the actual reason. For instance, they could imagine that you did not e-mail them back because you do not like people of a certain race or overweight people or thought they were ugly rather than imagine you do not like to be around smokers or something innocent like that. It is never polite to just leave someone hanging and it is also potentially hurtful. I have a seen a number of posts by people that have been hurt by not getting any response at all from a whole lot of people.
I have a question for everyone. If someone were to speak to you in person, would you not speak back just out of politeness even if you were not even remotely interested in them? Should not the same principle apply here? Take care. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 5:07:18 PM | | Pisces, there is nothing complicated about telling someone they are not your type. Tell me, am I your type? If not, I would not be offended by you saying so. As a matter of fact, I would appreciate your honesty and forthrightness. However, if you gave me no answer it would just leave me wondering "Why did she not respond?" Then my imagination might get the better of me and I might start imagining a host of reasons why you did not think I was good enough to even answer that are far worse than anything you would have told me. I wonder how many people's egos have been crushed by coming unto sites like this and having no one respond to them? That is so sad. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2005 10:23:43 PM | | I really agree. People want to know!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 12:58:12 PM | Jepod_Junky... I have to agree w/ you...
the guys that i've encounted (younger) also FAR or just look'n for casual date and this applies to the older ones as well - I've found a few though that were Matured /well-settled/ upscale, but they're divorced and/or w/ kids (also, not what i'm after)...
I suppose it's all a preferrence...
I found someone at another site for the now..... .
perhaps i'll give it a wiz, if this dosen't work out..
I'll approach guyz either online or off.. inwhich i've never"EVER" really done. (really isn't my stlye) but, times are a chang'n.. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 9:01:29 PM | | Hey guy I know the feeling. I dont have my picture up because I don't have the equipment and I get brushed off constantly by people I am really not attracted too. I am just trying to talk as friends or whatever. Because of having no pic people assume I am ugly or fat which is totally not the case. Im not gonna get conceded on this so I will leave it at that. And for those who I have wrote that ignored me. When I do get my picture up dont bother. And you know who you are. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 11:00:41 PM | | I have another site that I'm on and I don't have my picture on that site but I have someone thats wants to meet me. Just give it some time and when you do get your picture up you can rub it in everyones face. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 3:34:53 AM | im new to this site and im very sure alot of my messages will be *click-click-click* deleted, BUT i wont give up hope because i know someone out there SOMEWHERE (atleast within 75 miles of me) there is someone who likes a warm, kind hearted BHM that loves to cuddle. i shall not give up hope and neither should any of you. rejection is a piece of life we have to deal with usually every day. whether someone turns down a piece of gum you offer or a woman deletes your message without even reading it, rejection is rejection. theres no sense complaining about it. all we can do is move on from this point, so get out there in this big ocean we call the world and catch you one!
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