| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:00:26 PM | Right on!! Finally a happy sotry to break up all the whining and complaining.
Don't jinx it by doubting it.
I've been in love a couple of times many years apart and they were both loves that were instant and never died. Actually, both before I even saw their faces or heard their voices and I still love them after all we've been through - no matter what.
Good luck to you. Just let it happen.
As for the post above ^^^^^^^I think it's very insightful to say we don't let ourselves fall because we are afraid - and that's the problem. It's just as bad if not worse when you know you could have fallen but you didn't let yourself and now the chance is gone. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:16:31 PM | | Instant magic yes. Also instant heartbreak. However, I think we need to jump when our hearts say jump. Never regret the path not taken. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:21:23 PM | | I've experienced this phenomenon but that relationship fizzled a long time ago, not on my account, but that's for another thread. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/19/2008 11:04:12 PM | Don't mean to put a damper on your fanasty world right now but enjoy it while it last. All the lil gremlins will come to surface in due time but who knows.... she might be the one for you! Good luck and be careful.  | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/19/2008 11:30:14 PM | .....Yes it is very possible, not only is it possible but it may not be your last time, i'm hoping it is, honestly. I should mention first of all that it was not on a dating site that it's happened to me but meeting a cousin who was with her friend or a friend and his girlfriend, who had her friend with her, you get the point. 4 times! in my life. I have had instant attraction physical and any other attraction you name. But in reality it takes a good 9 months to a year to know someone. People would come up to me and say "HER, has never been happier in her life. She just went ape over you, etc. etc. But after some time into the relationship there was one person who came upto me and was saying things that I replied "That does not sound anything like HER" To make a long story shorter it turned out that she was a miserable person and to rely on another person for your happiness is almost always going to be a failure. You both must be happy with yourselves before you could ever be happy with someone else, I learned the hard way, that was 22 years ago, so don't look at my age and think "Didn't he know this?" I have 3 other instant loves too that failed for different reasons. Sometimes it's lust wether you want to believe it or not. But in anybody else's life, I truly wish them the real love that we all deserve to have...Let me add that for years (AND I SEE PEOPLE MY AGE ON HERE SAYING THEY KNOW IN THE FIRST 5 MINUTES) NO! YOU KNOW IF YOU WOULD SLEEP WITH THAT PERSON IN THE FIRST 5 MINUTES, IT TAKES TIME TO KNOW PEOPLE. And if that initial physical attraction is there that is what makes us move on to know each other better. Even now, i'll wait upto 3 months before I actually have sex, because of what i've learned in my life.....It still didn't last..lol....When the particular one i'm talking about failed, she said "We could use each other for sex" Were all nuts I think sometime. But everything we do we will or should learn something from it. Myself, I know I could have stayed with any one of them till I died....That's me. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/19/2008 11:32:04 PM | | ..I agree with tinydancer..."don't be afraid" We don't regret what we do it is what we don't do, you might always wonder, what if? | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:42:34 AM | | I totally believe in it. It's happened to me on a few rare occasions. There heart has no master. I'll never take an opportunity like that for granted again. You don't realize how rare they are when you're younger. Or maybe you just believe in it more and it's easier to let go and not be caught up in all the stupid stuff like how to approach people and say the right things etc. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 2:43:47 AM | | ...The more I think about this I can write a book, bet a lot of you can too. But wanted to mention the last " instant magic" I had did last 7 years, is that good? The first 4 years was unbelievable. All my relationships seem to start that way, no one just likes me and wants to go out, it seems like their nuts about me or just friendly. Again, talking in real life, where they see you walk and how you speak, dress, etc. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 4:23:09 AM | Instant Magic - I realize that this is vulnerable statement, open to be stepped on by doubting Thomases. I can only speak for myself. Absolutely, I have stated this phenom in my profile:
"I like to go out for coffee with a man to whom in some mysterious way I feel drawn to. Chemistry, for me...it is there quite early on, I don't develop chemistry in time, it either is in early contact or it isn't at all."
I must be drawn in some way to meet him, so you could safely assume, I usually sense the potential for chemistry. I don't know how I know this, but I have not been wrong. All you need to do is enjoy the process do getting to know each other. Chemistry does not guarantee things will work out in the end, but in meantime there is no point of over analyzing it, simply cherish those moments. La Jaconde | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:22:44 AM | Its only happened to me twice in my life time. The first time I was only 17 and a senior in high school. I moved out to live with him a month after my 18th birthday. We were together until he died when I was 41. I personally believe that what strengthened our relationship was the fact that we waited to have children until I was in my early 30's. That gave us over 14 yrs together as a couple. Most marriages today don't even last that long. Sometimes I think that the couples that choose to have children right away are setting themselves up for problems. Its hard enough to concentrate on a LTR without having newborn babies in the house.
My 2nd one happened 2 ys ago. We met through another dating site and for me, it was just like the 1st time-love at first sight. My only other relationship had lasted till death-I guess I expected that this one would too. But like the OP, he was only infatuated. Come to find out, he had a lot of anger & bitterness issues about his ex's and children and he's never dealt with them. It has caused him to go from relationship to relationship to relationship. We stay in touch but it'll never be anything but friends again. This one lasted just over a year.
I remain optimistic that when the time is right, I will find it again. I can't wait to feel it again. Its definitely better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:41:00 AM | | yes i had that feeling for the first time in 20 yrs,i went on a date on the 14/08/08 and wow, the first kiss made me melt and took my breath away , its such a wonderful feeling to know that you fit with someone,for some of us tho these feelings get taken away,but for you i really hope it lasts....good luck xx | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 6:03:26 AM | | Magic and the timing for both of you was just right for falling in love so go for it and thank you for confirming that this is? possible.? | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 6:14:42 AM | | YUPPERS, I have had instant magic with 3 people. All relationships were very firey and passionately wild BUT lasted for many many years. They were adventure rides with close feelings. "In Love" | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 10:18:49 PM | possible, in my opinion, and at times sustainable. But there needs to be more than a karmic sense of recognition of each other: there must be compatible values and a compatible lifestyle. I have experienced it a few times, but it was not sustainable in the long term. Good to have the feeling; to be able to make it sustainable is even better: and very rare. Add to this that good timing is crucial.
Wait for sustainability before rejoicing in the fleeting moment.
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/20/2008 10:30:59 PM | I have experienced this once on this site met a man attracted to him on many different levels we just seem to click. Yes we did the email, text messages,phone calls daily, spend alot of time together everything seemed to be perfect. Then out of nowhere his true colors appeared, no text messaging, no emails its like we had never had any type of relationship at all. I thought he would make a great partner but I was very wrong, all he was looking for to be blunt is sex. I wish you the best please let us all know how this turns out, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and that perfect feeling you are experiencing right now will last, because at the time I was feeling the exact same things
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/21/2008 10:17:57 AM | message #68, this rings truth for me. I have experienced an instant magic with someone who was totally inappropriate for me, and I knew that, too.... but the attraction continued. I had to keep reminding myself he is like a bag of chips to me, that I should avoid, it is like having cravings that are not soo good for me. I won my battle but it took a lot of persuasion to keep myself aligned with my values and out of trouble.
message #69, this one is very true as well. I refer to famous Poooof! ... and all the magic is gone practically instantly, same way it appeared. This one is even more disappointing than the one in message #68.
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:26:30 PM | Well, good for the both of you!
Its actually really nice to hear a "man" talk like this. Usually, men tend to stay quiet about these things- but it IS a great feeling, isnt it?
I LOVE happy endings!- or "beginnings' in this case, so far!
Good things come to those who wait! Congrats! | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:48:02 PM | This is a good one!!! " Instant Magic" sometimes ends after the "High Dollar" dinner and a few Expensive bottles of Wine. The so called Chemistry (That Word Is Done To Death) often evaporates before the next Sunrise.
If it is there Six months from the initial meeting you might just have a winner!! If you have it then you are one of the lucky ones and make it work!!!!
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:09:01 PM | | Yes it happened to me and it lasted almost three years. Then the end of June he called and said he didn't want to see me anymore. That was it, no discussion, no reason, Just done. We had never even had an argument. We had clicked from the first e-mail, I loved him before I met him. But I still wouldn't change it, even though it still hurts, to not know why. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:27:17 PM | It happened to me just a couple of months ago. Messages, phone calls it was all there.
We didn't even know what the other one looked like but the first time I saw him, my heart skipped a beat. We sat for hours on a picnic table bench in a park and talked and kissed for hours. We were just so attracted to each and there was just magic between the 2 of us. He also felt it. Went out again and magic still there, then he just got scared. Said things were moving too fast. Like what do you expect when there is chemistry, magic and wonderful feelings?
We are only hours apart in our ages and so much alike that it was scary but at the same time great.
Broke my heart and still think about him. This had never happened to me before at least not that fast and I was not looking for any great expectations, but things that we can't explain just happen.
Something like this rarely comes along and I told him that we should just go for it and to look deep into his heart and soul. Still scared, I guess. | |
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