| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:40:14 PM | | The original post on this forum sounds soooo romantic. Alas, instant magic has never happened to me. Maybe I'm too much of a pragmatist. I have had instant, intense chemistry...of the physical kind - when I was in my twenties. You have to watch out for that kind of chemistry - you'll crash and burn. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 1/14/2009 8:34:24 AM | To be infatuated with someone can and does happen. And depending on your state of
being greatly enhances the mood of this magic as some think.
Now,wheather it be that you been out of the dating pool for awhile or if you were to meet someone who is recently broke off with another their mo is at another level of getting back into the hunt while in transition which is ok but just remember that is new look could also be fleeting after the dust has settled.
This magic moment can be sweet just now a sweet memory at best.
And wouldn't be grand if this magic could be possible continue into a true love... | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 1/14/2009 8:48:29 AM | Instant Magic - probably no, I've never encountered it to the OP's exent... I have never said to myself "here comes the future Mrs. Woods" when looking at a woman for the first time before even talking to her...
However Instant Familiarity/Comfort? Yes. Some of my best relationships started out with an innate chemistry/energy surging back and forth between us. For an inexplicable reason you just get a good vibe, they feel like an old tried & tested friend even though you've just met them, and hence you're more comfortable to share yourself earlier than you normally would with others.
I found that once at 24, and once again just recently (age 29). I hope this recent one turns out even better than the first time, and that one was pretty darn good!   | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/22/2009 5:55:38 PM | i have found it twice in the past year. Both times were with guys about 10 years younger than me. the first one was a one night stand. we had spoken for awhile on an internet dating site. i felt so comfortable with him that i invited him to my house. from the instant he stepped out of his car and we kissed it was a totally magical night; everything that happened was perfect.
the second time happened on this site about a month ago. i had only met him online 2 days before we met in person. we both had the same place in mind to meet, a local beef and ale house. he insisted on sitting at the bar rather than in a booth. we both ordered a coors lite and he told me that he didn't drink and i didn't either. he was so easy to talk to and so funny, he had me laughing and feeling so comfortable with him. I was actually the one that leaned over and gave him a kiss. I had never done that before. i.e. i actually finished my coors before him. then we went outside the bar and started kissing at my car and the raindrops were coming down around us. he was the best kisser in the world. i invited him into my car. we talked we laughed and kissed. the next 2 times we saw each other were equally incredible and magical. if he reads this, i hope we see each other again. he made it clear to me that it would just be having fun and he wasn't looking for a "real" relationship. with kissing and magic that good, i didn't care, i just wanted to feel the magic. if you happen to read this, i can't wait till we see each other again. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/22/2009 9:05:02 PM | I got aquainted with my late fiancee while visiting in Arizona several years ago and though I thought we had a good chemistry, there were good reasons to think that a relationship just wasn't meant to be.
So, I dropped her an email just to let her know how I felt and though I thought a relationship unlikely, I just didn't want to wake up one day and wish I had of said something. At first, she concurred. But then I got another email from her about a month later telling me that she her eye on me the moment she first saw me and the rest of the story is many fond memories. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/22/2009 9:35:44 PM | | yes, I always know when I feel like I have known this person my whole life. It's almost like deja-vu, you know it's meant to be. Some people have never felt this, or maybe they won't open themselves to this intuition feeling. It is hard to explain if you have never felt it, it's almost like that little cupids arrow just hit you between the eyes! lol! | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/22/2009 9:55:43 PM | | I have found instant disappointment a lot more often due to thae fact that i run in to alot liars. Most of the people that i have met from dating services lie about their looks and weight. One of the worst things someone can do is lie from the get go, who want to date a liar. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/23/2009 7:52:21 AM | Yes it happened to me. I met him on here, and two years later we are married and sharing our life together. I wasn't even looking for it, thats the funny part. Everyone says you will find love when your not looking.. bla bla bla....I had heard it over and over, but its true.  | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/23/2009 9:58:23 AM |
So has anyone else had a similar experience? I think it's likely rare, other than the physical attraction at first sight, or other situations where someone is needy and get's together fast for the wrong reasons. I'd like to hear of any similar stories.
I believe it does happen, but not as often as many wish it would.
I have had plenty of times when it was LUST at first site, both from me and to me, but not actual LOVE at first site.
I still believe instant chemistry/sparks isn't a good measure of finding a good mate...simply based on how much it's failed so many people, as well as how many can create instant chemistry/sparks with almost anyone based on a few psychological tricks (PUAs). | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/23/2009 10:06:07 AM | Yeah I experienced it in 2005 to the point it would make your stomach feel unwell and walking around not knowing what to do with yourself . I never even experinaced that feeling even as a teenager when dating, it was electric. I didn't meet her on here and we met not under the most ideal circumstances. Her father had just died and realised after I was just a wall to lean on, it was soooooo annoying. Haven't experienced since. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/23/2009 4:09:55 PM | | Years ago, I chatted with a guy online for a week or so. We met up, lust at first sight, and ended up being together for 2 years. The only reason why we broke up is b/c I moved back home after college (he still had 2 years left since he was younger than me). We tried the long distance thing, but it didn't work out. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/23/2009 4:20:14 PM | | Anything Instant does not hold flavor :( I 'm being a downer today. Those Instant Magical moments tend to put me more at guard, and I usually see threw those rose tinted glasses and come back to earth. As a friend informed me it's twitterpatted. The key is continuing the magic not just a moment. | |
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Landra
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/23/2009 4:38:09 PM | The thread was Posted: 8/14/2006
I wonder how it worked out... if it worked out.
When I hear things like
The rest of my life is walking down that street
love at first sight
like we've known each other for ages
instant magic
I tend to wonder. It's so superficial... but some people enjoy living the fantasy... that is, until reality hits. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 4:05:08 AM | I've experienced this multiple time (tho some with friends, not romantic situations).
Dude, in order for it to happen you have to be two people who want it to happen.
And often it doesn't last.
And a bunch of coincidences do not a relationship make. That is my experience.
I would say good luck, but honestly I don't think it's that at all. I tend to scoff whenever someone tells a story like this. If it works in the long run, it won't just be because of the stuff you kn ow about each other at this stage in the game, I promise you... | |
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Jim978
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:17:35 AM | | Sounds like what happened between me and my ex! Lasted 23 years...though the last 7 weren't all that 'magical' lol! Yep, enjoy! | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 8:32:24 AM |
The original post on this forum sounds soooo romantic. Alas, instant magic has never happened to me. Maybe I'm too much of a pragmatist. I have had instant, intense chemistry...of the physical kind - when I was in my twenties. You have to watch out for that kind of chemistry - you'll crash and burn.
Indeed! That sort of thing happened around six months ago and the intensity was unlike anything since my 20s. Too bad it was only on that level and not much more! | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 10:41:15 AM |
The thread was Posted: 8/14/2006
I wonder how it worked out... if it worked out.
I think it can and does happen, and works out for some people. But sadly, it appears not to have for OP. The following was posted by him on another forum in 9/08.
MusicManJohn Joined: 7/18/2006 Msg: 51 Positive aspects of dating after 45 Posted: 9/22/2008 11  28 PM I agree that when we reach a certain age we are more self-confident, self-reliant, and less likely to settle. At least that is how it has been for me. I have become very choosy, very un-rushed in my search for Ms. right. In fact I may never meet Ms. right, but I have met many women I have become friends with so I am not alone. (and I'm not talking sex-buddies, just real good friends) So when it's right, I'll recognize it, rather than jump in too fast based on need or wrong motives. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 4:00:25 PM | It has happened to me. I won't say another word about that.
Enjoy this magic because it's so rare. Nevermind whether or not it lasts. You have it right now, so cherish it. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 4:26:20 PM | | well i was instantly attracted to my husband when we first met - and we separted 29 years later - 25 of which were good - then we drifted apart - so you know - nothing in this life is guaranteed. | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:10:11 PM | Instant magic? It's easy to find... Just go to San Antonio, go to the Rivercenter Mall on the Alamo entrance side...
There's this little shop that sells magic tricks...the actual trick is only $5...To learn how to use it is $25...
Instant magic...
Oh, wait... You meant in a relationship...it's pretty similar...its an illusion, too... | |
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| Instant Magic - anyone else find it?
Posted: 2/26/2009 7:19:18 PM | Nope. It found me!
And as is typical with relationships in my life, it broad-sided me.
And it's something that is far beyond anything I could have ever anticipated.
And here I was, thinking that I had it all figured out. | |
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