silken
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 51 | |
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EB1
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Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 52 | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/4/2006 6:51:43 AM | Define "age group."
I mean, is it plus or minus 2 years?
3 years?
5 years?
10 years?
Or what?
I think it's probably different for different people.
For myself I find that I get along well with women from about 5-6 years younger than me, up to maybe 10 years older than me. Outside that range we usually don't have enough in common to be anything more than friends. Your mileage may vary.
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chey81
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Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 55 | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/4/2006 12:04:22 PM | I would prefer dating in my own age group...33-40 ish. All I can seem to attract these days are "younger" guys...seems to be the trend. If I meet a guy I am interested in I am scared to ask him how old he is....always too young, but they seem to think age does not matter. It surely does if you are too embarrassed to meet his family because you know you are too old for their twenty something son!!
I guess if I started acting my age I would meet someone my age..but how fun would that be!!!  | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:54:43 PM | Age is just a number.... And if u are to ask what happens when u get into dealing with the physical aspects---- I just think that in relationships it should be more than just physical stuff. Like dont get me wrong that stuff's important but I dont know. When I am with someone I want to be able to talk about other stuff, like I dont know serious stuff. Stuff I cant talk about with anyone else like whatever stuff there is; whether its in the same age group or not.
Everyone has a different view about that.... As far as I am concern I have gone and dated different men in all ages & I have come to a conclusion its how u carry yourself And how u carry a conversation that attracts me most.... not the physical sense of things.. Whether ur good looking, good in bed, nice physique.... its what's inside the person that I value most about a person...
I recently went out with a friend that I am planning to hang out for awhile & we have related in a great open communication....I just think that in relationships it should be more than just physical stuff & with this friend of mine, I can relate well with him and its comfortable to say the least & vice versa he relates to me as well....
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:44:10 PM | | Age is only a # and if you go by that you don't know what you could miss out on. I am active in some sports and other things that younger people like to do, but in some ways I respond more like an older person. I think age is a case by case kinda thing. | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:57:03 PM | | I would prefer to date someone near my age (5 years either way) but I would not overlook someone b/c of their age. You never know until you get to know the person what their maturity age is... | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/5/2006 8:08:25 PM | ^^^^ I have to agree with Flutterbyes but for me it's more like -6/+7 (I'm 33).
As for maturity level, ah yes, that does affect the numbers! I recall one older bf who considered himself 'childlike' but to me, it seemed more like 'childish'. | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/5/2006 8:24:26 PM | Maturity is about a state of mind, so age, a number cannot define it.
Personally I seek maturity and compatibility over a particular age.
I'm a firm believer that the soul has no age, and when two souls connect.... ahhh that's pure magic, regardless of chronological age differences. | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:44:00 PM | | Age really isn't a consideration for me.......However I prefer older men, min 4+ yrs older than me or more, so I would say out of my age group of 3 yrs. I try to give everyone a chance because age shouldn't matter. However under 25 I just don't find attractive for me.......too young for the most part. | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/23/2006 8:21:20 AM | I second that opinion,maturity and compatibility are very important. That said and all things being equal, I'll probably date someone +2 / - 6 years my age, but I urge you all to try dating ladies in the naughty forties, at least once in your lifetime, they will change your perspective that is they don't rock your world and I give you a money back guarantee with this  | |
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Zedex
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Joined: 7/21/2006
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:32:44 AM | Having "everything in common" is boring! Spells insecurity, fear of unknown, stagnation, shell to hide in. I don't want someone my age who has same attitude, same outlook, same experience, same knowledge, sme opinion, same biology teacher 25 years ago - sooo limiting and uneventful, I already have all that in ME, why would I want a double dose of it?
Having someone 10 -15 yrs younger the life is so much more colorful and rich, they keep you younger, in return they have the benefit of your wisdom, knowledge and experience... everyone is a winner!
As for the compatibility - she is a female and I am a male - 100% compatible!
Things in common - she wants me and I want her, that's all we need to have in common!
The rest is all in our heads.
When I am with a certain group of people (friends) I do not stick out at all - they are all 19-20 yo! I have, of course, a larrge group of friends around my age, 40-45, also in their 20's & 30's - I fit in just fine! How? Simple - I'm open minded!
My teenaged daudhter's friends don't mind me at all - I take them to concerts, beach, whatnot. How many fathers are friends with their teenage daughters? She confides in me more successfuly than in her mother! How? Agian, I'm open minded! I don't limit my self to those who are like me! Young prople see that and in no time relax and don't feel intimidated by me.
The woman I am currently in love with is over 10 yrs younger but the age difference was never even mentioned!
I think some of you should re-think the term "in common".
The very reason we are attracted to the oposit sex is gender which we do not have in common (excl. gay)! big difference! And if we don't have the gender in common how can there be much else?
If I wait for someone who "suits my ass" I'd be alone. | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/27/2006 12:48:10 PM | I prefer to date someone a little younger than I am...and yes I have dated women who are older or the same age as I am with poor results. All the women I've dated my age or older were more bitter, jaded, set in their ways, NOT open to new things and a HELL of a lot less fun.
I don't want to date a kid, I'm 33 and I much prefer to date someone in the 23-30 range they've been far less beaten down by life! | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 9/27/2006 1:57:21 PM | I am 49 and do not like to date men my own age as they tend to act like they are on the verge of dying of old age. So many are crying about all their aches and pains. They tend to be at least 50 pounds over weight. Hair? Is that what that bit of fuzz is on their heads? They listen to music as old as they are, or country and I hate both. They are divorced and feel bitter towards women.
Then there are that very special group of men in their late 40's and early 50's. They are bald, fat and are thinking they need to be with a 25 year old beauty queen so they can have children. Seems to come as a real shock when it just doesn't happen.
Really finding someone to date of any age is hard anymore as I just can not imagine dating a man with short hair.
I really have no rules on age. I really hate rules to begin with, so I don't think I will be adding any!!! | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 10/11/2006 9:27:45 PM | Well,...I did! lmao
What ends up happening is that we all end up with whomever we are attracted to. That really is the bottom line. When you are head over heels for someone you don't really think about the age difference too much if at all.
My dad says ideally the woman should be 6-8 years older than the man. (This is because women age slower and die later.) But if a woman is 25 years old , there is no way in hell she would date a man that much younger. Younger men don't become appealing until the late 20's or early 30's of a womans life. And of course when men hit mid thirties they usually go hog wild over women in their early 20's. It's all about fertility. A mans fertility starts declining at 23, but very gradually. And a woman is going down hill from 25.
So from a biological perspective, if the man is 40 and still wants kids, a 35-year-old woman would be a very lousy choice. (Sperm banks do not accept sperm from men older than 39 and egg donor clinics wants eggs from women younger than 32.) If you put 2 subfertile couples together they would be infertile. But if you put a subfertile person with a very fertile one, like a 40- year- old man with a 20-year-old, you will probably have a very favorable result. And if you put a 35-year-old woman with an 18-year-old man the odds for conception go way up. Mother nature really is a ho isn't she? LMAO! | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 10/13/2006 1:57:03 AM | I definitely prefer men who are older.
In general, I gravitate toward people who are older than I am.
I'm 40 and most of my long term girl friends are between 50 and 60. These are the ones who I've been friends with for years. I just find that I have more in common with people who are older. Especially when I was younger, people my age did not have a clue where I was coming from. By the time I was 28 I was a successful, accomplished divorcee, had 3 kids, travelled the world and was running a business. Most 28 year old guys couldn't think past which bar to get drunk at on the weekend and I was so far beyond that stage. That year, I dated a guy who was 40 and I've never gone back to younger men.
Older men know how to treat a lady like a real woman. They have maturity and confidence and experience. (pssssssssst Ladies: this makes them better lovers!) | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 10/13/2006 8:38:18 AM | | Age is just a number, sure.....maturity level varys with every person....it is more on if someone really wants to understand the type of person you are. Oh but stamina......that's another topic....lol | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:03:08 PM | | I guess I agree with the status quo that age is just a number...and you truly do have to treat each person as just that..an individual...and not generalize. Maturity is a huge issue...but so is compatibility (on all levels)...Find me a man with the maturity level of the late forties and the sexual energy of the early twenties and I'll gladly leave this pond forever... | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 10/13/2006 6:13:13 PM | | Maturity is more important to me than age. I have dated women younger and older, and they have all been wonderful people. I do tend to lean towards women closer my own age, but I am also flexible with that. Maturity and lack of drama are the most important qualities in the beginning. | |
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| anyone here prefer dating people in their own age group
Posted: 1/12/2007 4:03:39 PM | | It depends on how mature they are. I've dated some real (winners) late thirties acting like high school girls. I like to keep their age close. I never have dated more than ten years either way. | |
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