txmed
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Posted: 3/20/2005 9:54:54 PM |
I feel ya girl...actually I dont. I havent even gotten a phone # off this site yet. And I consider myself to be a no BS honesty first kind of guy. My conclusion is that no matter how much women SAY they want a nice honest man, they really just want the same old ***holes. I know, poor outlook.
As always, don't look at what women say, look at what they do. Women are attracted partly by peer pressure, meaning they're attracted to men that other women are attracted to. If you aren't some kind of manwhore and visibly dating a new girl every week, they conclude, maybe subconsciously, that there must be something wrong with you. Perhaps more to the point, they're attracted to men that show all the signs of getting as much "practice" as possible. Then when it all falls apart, they come to a guy like us to be understanding and comforting. Or they need help with their homework, their computer problems, moving furniture, or whatever, and suddenly they come to us again. Or they use us as intellectual whores to actually have quality conversation with, because the guys they are dating have the intellectual capacity of a rotted 2-by-4.
For as long as I can remember, I've been the guy that people don't really see until they need something, then they suddenly appear. And that isn't because I'm so accomodating either, it's because they know I'm able to do whatever the heck it is they need.
"Oh, I wish I could find a nice guy like you [just not you.]"
The environment changes in a place like this, but not the underlying social dynamics. Oh the other hand, wait until they're 30 and decide to "settle down," and all of a sudden the guys they've ignored, rejected, or otherwise treated as subhuman for fifteen years are suddenly good catches. A lot of the women on a dating site like this are there because they're single mothers and looking for some sucker to raise the kid, or they're here to stroke their egos. Women have it relatively easy out in the real world in terms of meeting guys, if they _choose_ to. Men often times don't have that break. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 4:33:45 AM | WHISPERING IS DEFFINATELY NOT A GOOD SIGN SWEETY... maybe u should sit on the fence for a while and see wot happenes dont get urself cought in a situation u really dont need to b in honey its so not worth it..
and reefers rite no more peeping toms...now thats a good thing aint it???? and xcuse me 4 being nosey but is ur x's wedding really gunna affect ur life???? | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 5:43:42 AM | Some of what you said might be true, you find people who are NOT looking for the same thing you are, Hmmm, Imagine that, that's what makes our world so diverse...
I have been a single mom for quite some time, never recieved child support, and I'm not with my x (not my kids Dad) cause he was jealous of my kids, and couldn't handle the fact that their Dad didn't support them financially, and I didn't look for my x to support them, I did just fine by myself.
I have risen above alot of adversity in my life, I could probally write a book, but anyway, if someone is so narrow minded to judge me for my past, and to not look at who I am today, don't let the door hit ya...
So Redneck cowgirl..don't give up there are real, honest people out there, I usually stay away from the ones who say they are professional this and that, cuz I'm not, and they definately don't have a clue of who I am or where I've been, because they are so narrowminded and their life was so cut and dry, they don't have a CLUE of how the real world lives!!! YOu just have to learn how to weed the good and the bad out, and it's hard because some of these guys are full of s***, and are only looking to get laid...
So be careful and be patient....
And guys I did say only SOME of you were full of it so don't blast me!!!
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Posted: 3/21/2005 6:19:16 AM | | r u?? what?? careful and patient? Yes. Full of s***?? no | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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Posted: 3/21/2005 10:15:16 AM | So far no luck either ,
Tx med I think most everything you said I would mirror , yes I suffer from the nice guy syndrome and see women wanting relationships with the abusers and then come to me for everything else , even emergency marriage when they are pregnant , (happened to me a few times with women I was in love but did not have , they wanted to get married then upon inquiery found they were pregant by their ex boyfriend) , of course turn down the offer especially after finding out why the sudden romantic interest in me ... god husband and dad material .
But I do not beleive it is all true that this place only has single mothers looking for a guy to support them , on this subject I have seen , personally , moms see their children as their primary reason for living now , after having a child from an abusive player that most women are attracted to, they see it is time to get a real good guy to be dad and husband. During this time after all the playing around with those nice guys emotions , nice guys have learned to become a player . I have been getting interested in going to the darkside and become another guy that women want but hate , instead of what women do not want but really need.
Some women I have dated will always place their children first and the guy married or dating as second .
I would expect it from a guy that had the kid , single dad , it is natural .
Alot of women here seem of pretty good quality as you can find anywhere , but they seem frustrated that they cannot find a good guy . They seem to be picking the same guys from the same bad jean pool .
Only thing , no one ever answers me with any positive response to even hint they want to meet me , except for one manic depressive , menatlly unstable girl that argued with me on the phone about her belief on her devil worship , this was true , never decided to go out with her , especially after she said that she loved guys to spend alot of money on her because she was worth it . True story and very pathetic for me , hahaha, feel like a Dilbert .
Some people here need to grow up though , the more they talk the worse they look and show us the reason why they are single and looking .
Well i guess we are all single and looking , no what are circumstances are , shows something about me too. Hehehehehe.
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Posted: 3/21/2005 11:34:45 AM | so glad to know some people think all single moms with kids are looking for a daddy for the babies or need money...I raised my sons for the last 15 years alone and now they are both in college....I have met countless men on several sites and most...are looking for sex or some strong woman to leech off of from thier own insecurities so please don't put me into a catagory...you don't know me and have not walked in my shoes....I speak from my own personal life experiences ...not saying every guy is a****..because I don't have a clue if they are or not....just tired of the grade school mentality ......I love the forums...and at this point have to just sit back and watch and listen....amazing...very intertaining..and who want to rent a video or go to a movie when you have this site and hey its free.....smile and lighten up...love finds its way to those not looking | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 12:38:12 PM | Maybe she DOEs but someones willing to give that to her.....on the OTHER hand ....I'm not sure anyone heres interested in teaching you HOW to spell wiat.....EVEn me.........plus I thought I allready invited you up to Kanadda?Why you still sittin on yer sorry ass....my sis is HOT ,SINGLE ,and NO rug rats......but shes STILL gonna take whats left after I get yer wallet ,yer a victim waiting to happen......AFTER you get home..lmao....a man who stands behind his BS ya sounded like you had a lil cash left over from yer ex wife....but I guess tha kids needed it for braces..........I BACK my shit up bud....you run from it | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 1:32:31 PM | No I couldn't even "wiat" for the divorce to be final, I am a professional gold digger who only looks for weak men to sponge off...
Actually I am a successful small business owner that doesn't want or need help from any man to raise my children, Guess Why Dude??!!! I have already raised them...
You sound like a very bitter old man, no wonder you've never been married and have no kids... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 7:14:35 PM | If you did know anything about bikes, you would know that's not a HD.
Thank God you're on the opposite side of the country, and you haven't contributed to the gene pool... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 9:28:08 PM | | i just recently started the online dating thing, because i too am a "nice guy". I decided to check the forums and see what kind of people are on here and frankly everyone ive seen writing anything sounds somewhat educated, except for this 919 ***hole why are you even breathing, and stealing the air from all of us that actually have something intelligent to say? And also even from a small picture you can tell that its not a harley. she probably doesnt have a harley because most of them leak, you moron. So why don't you do all of us a favor and just STOP BREATHING!!! | |
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Posted: 3/22/2005 3:20:03 PM | I hope that you find that someone, I am just looking for some decent woman that I can have a relationship with besides my husband. See I am Bi but I love my husband and he totally understands my feelings we have been married for 7 years. I wish my kind of love for everyone. Hope you all find that someone that understands and supports you no matter what you do.
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Posted: 3/22/2005 3:21:10 PM |
Hope you all find that someone that understands and supports you no matter what you do
I do too,I toTTAly UNdersTand where yer commin from.................. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2005 4:29:52 PM | Your right..
When you least expect ...
Good things happen to those who wait??
(Smiles)
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Posted: 3/22/2005 5:45:35 PM | | naw .. those who wait .. always end up lose`n out on what they started to wait for .... | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 6:38:20 AM | i know my life is turning around haha. not even lookin for love anymore, if it finds me thats great, i have plenty of time for it. i quit my job and got another one not even 24 hrs later... feels much better to be away from all the drama at the first job.  hope ill have at least saturdays off so i can still go to the race track haha its cool to watch my brother race his sprint car. anyways i think yall need to quit ****in so much enjoy life, who cares what others say about you? i mean come on its the internet  | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 6:39:33 AM | | its allways easier to find the things you werent searching for......................but harderest to notice when you are | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 7:11:37 AM | | Dont worry, the internet date scene is a MEAT MARKET. You have to keep sifting to find the best cut of the meat. Take your time before asking them home. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 7:26:59 AM | Anyways maybe this site isnt for me.... maybe Ill grow old with just my dogs lol
im hearing you on this one!!...although ive never met anyone from here..no one seems intrested! | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 3:43:01 PM | | kristine, that to seems to be my problem, noone seems to be interested. I think that most of the people on here (the woman especially) just seem to want to find out how many hits they can get, and thats wrong. Those that aren't actually looking for love shouldn't be toying with others emotions. I had an experience on another site where I found a girl that acted serious but upon talking to her more I found out that she didn't in fact want a boyfriend, because SHE ALREADY HAD ONE!! So keep the faith, and don't give up, I don't think all are like that. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 4:08:10 PM | | Kristine...your only 24 girl! PLENTY of time so no talking about growing old with your dogs! | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 6:11:00 PM | Hi everyone!
I like PoF... and its good to be here.... and everyone should stay!! At first I was a little discouraged but I hung in there and I have met a few nice people from my area.
I am not looking for my "soul mate" per say... but if I happen to find her that would be great!
Many of us are in the same "boat"... and lets's start enjoying it!!! (Life that is).
I agree life is too short to wait around for things to happen. If you see someone you like go for it!
I once read an article that said for each of us there is approximately 3000 to 5000 people on this planet we are compatible with. You may have to go through a few to get there... just hang in there!!
>> Can someone pass me a fresh minnow??? LOLOL | |
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Posted: 3/23/2005 6:15:17 PM | | i know i know....ya cant go looking for love, love has to find you....but at 24 im the "old maid" among most of my friends they are all married and have kids...not that i want to be married yet....but i would like someone in my life...plus im horny lol but imi not gonna have another one night stand | |
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