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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 8/21/2006 4:07:24 AM | eman07 - you crack me up.... - but i have to agree with you. harry was right when he told sally. "men and women cant be friends - the sex thing always gets in the way". the only male "friends" i have are: guys i've known since chilhood, the boyfriends/husbands of my girlfriends, coworkers....etc. i firmly believe that when a guy wants to "hang out" - he chooses to do it with other guys, NOT women. i read that the only time a male and female can be friends is if there is something they find physically repulsive about one another.... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 8/21/2006 10:10:36 AM | Oh brother.
This is all along the lines of the movie "When Harry Met Sally"
If you're either insecure about yourself or the relationship you're in there is nothing the other person can do to change that. If you expect your relationship to have no other sources of input then they're going to get boring right quick.
After all isn't it they're interpretation of the other sources of input that drew you to them in the first place? Cutting that out is for lack of a better term political suicide.
So what, if your other has friends that want to try and become intimate with them. Seriously they had ample opportinuty before meeting you. Besides it gives your other a chance to prove loyalty which otherwise could come into question without having been 'tested' as it were. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 12:12:46 PM | I have to say I disagree with you... I was married to a man for 28 years. We grew apart, but I cant amagine not having him as a friend. We have shared so much together. Just because we are not sleeping together or living together does not mean we can not be friends... I have always had a lot of male friends.. And yes some of them were men I dated. Maybe we are not connected romantically , but once we met and got to know one another relised we had lots of comman interest's and friendship was a better step to take.   | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 1:13:29 PM | | A gal with lots of guy friends is more likely than not just a tomboy who likes more male-oriented hobbies. Or maybe she works around more guys than gals because of her occupation and is more comfortable with men. Or maybe she just grew up in a house full of brothers and just doesn't know how to make female friends because she's more like one of the guys. It doesn't have to be something bad guys. A gal like that might very well stay with you a whole lot longer than a girly-girl will. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2007 4:17:21 PM | I have as many male friends as female.
How come it works?
We both get "the rules".
They know I wouldn't sleep with them. Ever.
And they know better than to ask. Ever.
They give me "What's a guy mean if...?" advice.
I give them "Why the hell did she...?" advice.
I cook, sew on a button, don't laugh if they cry or act un-macho.
They change a tire, unclog a sink, don't laugh if I'm in old PJs and no makeup.
And if someoen we were dating kicks our hearts like a soccer ball...
The other must:
- Provide a laundry list why they were a loser in the first place
- Lamely offer to kick said loser's sorry a*s. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 11/27/2007 6:01:17 PM | | Most of my friends are males; not because I am a tomboy or into doing manly things, is just because I feel more comfortable and tend to have a better "rapport" with men, than towards women. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 7:05:49 AM | Men tend to be up front with things. I find women tend to never have a definitive answer and dodge the issue, never wanting to be pinned down to an answer. Those women that have dealt with these themselves seem to like males as friends because of the openness. It is simplistic way that males don't exhaust extra time and energy in something that is fruitless like drama. I have also seen many of these very same women that end up dating males with many female friends become jealous too.
Jealousy isn’t an issue if you’re getting hugs and holding hands at random and often. Now if she is doing the same thing with her male friends then you need to start asking questions. I for one could care less whom she is friends with and if they are still playing for her heart or fun parts. As long as she still comes home and sleeps beside me in bed I am content. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 11/28/2007 10:45:37 AM | I have always gotten along better with men, because I am more like them...in my thinking as far as relationships, and life in general. I grew up the only girl, and quite the tomboy.
My best friends in high school were mostly men..not tons..just a select few. I do have a few select females that are in my life as an adult, but I do not get into shopping, makeup, and the froofy stuff that a lot of women go for. I also do not believe in playing out the cattiness of women. Too much drama for my life.
My guy friends were just that, friends...and more than likely they saw me like a sister, because not one ever made a move on me. And I never thought of them like that either. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 11/28/2007 10:58:04 AM |
I have always gotten along better with men, because I am more like them
first off let me say..imagine if a man said "i get along better with woman ...im more like them"....ok....tell me that wouldnt be funny..
on to my point.....
If you get along so well with males, and you are "like them"...then why would you be single?...think about it...you should be the perfect match for any man. You understand us, you get along with us, and all you do is hang out with all your friends that are male.....so.....you should have dates like 6 days a week at least .....
I would be a little leary of a woman who told me she had tons of male friends, I would be afraid I would be put in the same category. I would be thinking she has so many male friends and none of them even want a relationship with her even though she gets along so great with them?....
lets face reality here...I will get bashed for this..oh well...
if your a female with lots of male friends trust me on this.....MOST of them WANT to sleep with you...and MOST of them WOULD if given the chance...
whether they will or not is a different story of course...but thats for another conversation.... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 11/28/2007 5:57:22 PM | eman07...you should re read my post hun....
I said I have a few..not "lots" as you state. I let just a select few people in my life, because female or male, I don't need a ton of people around me to make me feel validated. I do not do a "guys night out" with the men I am friends with, unless it is a group situation, where there are a couple women and a couple men...we are all friends and hang out as a group. No sex, no dating, just a bunch of friends hanging out. And if I were in a relationship, my s/o would be invited along, but I would seriously par back this activity (even though at this stage it is once or twice every few months).
I highly doubt my best friend..who happens to be male...and my younger brother, wants to sleep with me. He is the one that I talk to about all things "guy related", and vice versa..he talks to me about women. I am not always much help in this department, because I see many of the situations the same as he does.
Here is my point: Men like things simple and uncomplicated...in that respect I am very much like them. Men don't usually like a lot of emotional drama...in that respect I am very much like them. Men prefer watching sports as opposed to going to the mall...in that respect I am very much like them. Men prefer to hang out and just chill with each other (no tupperware, makeup or naughty toy parties for you boys!)...in that respect I am very much like them. Men have a very strong sense of pride about where they come from and what it took them to get to where they are now...In that respect I am very much like them.
I could go on, but I think I have made my point. And yes, I do get dates...Not six a week, since I have children, and I don't date just anyone. Just because you qualify as being from the male species doesn't mean I will date you. And just because you are male doesn't mean you will find me attractive for either my "male" or "female" sides...you might hate me because I am not a froofy woman, or it may turn you off if I know how to use a skill saw better than you.
Just my 2 cents as always. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:07:41 PM | I never used to have many male friends, when I was married I basically just didn't really let male friendships develop. In the years that I've been single I've made quite a few really good male friendships. Like others have said these aren't people I'm interested in dating at all but they are people I love talking to and hanging out with.
If/when I ever end up in another serious relationship I'm not sure what I'll do...I can see how really close male/female friendships could be threatening to a partner but at the same time they're my friends and I don't want to give them up. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2007 1:14:35 AM | | I had a lot more male friends than female friends and my ex thought that I messed around or wanted to mess around with all my male friends...But that was just his insecurity and that's why he's my ex! | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:46:07 PM | When I was younger I had heaps of guy friends, now in my 30's I have none! I think that I have to agree with Harry (When Harry met Sally), men and women cant be friends! If you don't want to date them or have sex with them they move along to the next girl. What the hell is up with that? | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:52:21 PM |
A gal with lots of guy friends is more likely than not just a tomboy who likes more male-oriented hobbies. Ditto. That's my reason.
first off let me say..imagine if a man said "i get along better with woman ...im more like them"....ok....tell me that wouldnt be funny.. I actually know guys like that. Guys that grew up with a ton of sisters and few to no brothers I found tend to get along with women very well. Also, guys that work in professions that tend to be more female dominated. I guess really for the same reasons some women get alone with men well. | |
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Posted: 12/13/2007 10:17:44 PM | I have a lot of male friends..I always have..When I was growing up my very first friend was a guy..So I was not used to being around females all that much..except for my sisters but they were older and weren't around much..I have female friends that I go out and do girlie things with..My female friends are great, but my guy friends are the best..I can lean on them and ask them for all kinds of advice with no judgements attached..with females it is different..they judge you...I think some women are just catty and backstabbers ..I would never tell a bf of mine he could not have female friends..I have male friends so it is not a big deal....I believe that if you are with someone then you have to trust them..if there is no trust then there is no point to a relationship.  | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 12:51:57 AM | | if youve loads more female friends than male and your single,why arent you with any of them.and visa versa | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 7:11:24 AM | ok geezerbloke07...just because you have male friends doesn't mean you have to be romantically involved with them...i for one have a lot of male freinds, some of them married, some of them single, but that doesn't mean i am into them, or them into me...sometimes it's nice to hear things on men's perspective...i do enjoy being with my male friends sometimes because of lesser drama and we have lot lot of things in common which my female friends doesn't like or into.
i do enjoy doing "guy stuff" but it doesn't make me a tomboy...and yes, i do appreciate women with big breast and nice butts but that doesn't make me bisexual.
it's cool to have male friends, just like with guys who have a lot of female friends. | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 8:52:54 AM | | your right on every count,but most people in this world are so insecure,they think they need to own you after 5 minutes of dating,the friends have been in place years,its called jealousy.thats why male/females have a quality time cut off point on how long youll spend with the friends when it could be spent with them | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 9:38:49 AM | You know, I've met very few woman that don't get all butt-hurt when they ask for honesty and you give it to them. I have two female friends that are the exact same as me. Very upfront when you ask them something and ready to back you up 110% if there's a problem. ALL of us feel more comfortable with guys than with girls which is why we value our friendship so much more....because of how rare it is to find a girl that thinks the same way.
Now, while I prefer to "hang out with the guys", if I met women that liked the same things I did and could leave the drama at home...hell ya they'd be my friend!! But, alas, those have been few and far between so yes, I'm most comfortable hanging out with the guys. Although, I'm starting to notice that there are alot of women in area I just moved to with the same attitude....and that's actually really cool!
As to why I'm still single? I've been seperated for over a year, but the divorce only just finalized last month. Sorry, but I wasn't going to date while I was still legally married.  | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 11:21:54 AM | If you get along so well with males, and you are "like them"...then why would you be single?...think about it...you should be the perfect match for any man.
I myself have lots of guy friends...some married....some single...some i share nascar with...some i hang out with alot. I am single cuz i haven't found what i am looking for..conflicts in interest on that level where a relationship is concerned and nothing more..however you may find that a guy u dated u both enjoyed the conversation and eachothers company, similar interests...but no sparks. And it is a mutual understanding and respect for the other as a person...not gender oriented that you are friends. Isn't this how friendships start out whether with a male or female, with respect and simply appreciating the other person for whom they are, commonalities, morals and the simple fact they are a great person? I have no issues if a guy i was dating had a female as a friend or even best friend.....if there was to be something between them...it would have happened already as they wouldn't look no further. This doesn't make u someone who has something wrong with them...they just don't have what u are looking for ...vise versa. Female friends i choose wisely..i see how they treat other females...aren't always forthcoming with one another and some can be plain petty back stabbers. My guy friends are up front with me..and i with them...no hurt feelings..just respect that the other person is being honest with ya ...not to mention...the opposite sex as a friend is a vericove of information to help understand the opposite sex..not to mention givers of a good swift kick in the butt when its needed. Friends are friends...male or female... | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 2:12:01 PM | | When I was married, my only male friend was my husband. Now that I am dating and single again. Whom am I meeting? Lots of males-and then if we decide not to date they end up in male friend category. Nothing wrong with that. Never know who their friends are.....and obviously you liked him enough to go on a date with him. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 12/14/2007 11:56:01 PM | 1. Every woman has many more woman friends, this is good if you end up in the friend category.
2. As a man you need to get used to fishing... you need to meet 20 women to find 1 that is in to you. it's life get used to it.
3. if you are dating people and she is dating people then friends are friends, you gotta know what you are getting into.
4. As for her having lots of male friends being ok... well if you have lots of female friends when you meet her you are now 1 up on her, tell her to hit the road if she thinks you're dumping your friends for her... and you will probabaly be sleeping with her that night.
No seriously *dating* is just that *dating* ... if you are in a *relationship* with another person and they aren't willing to get rid of any of the old boyfriends and ex's and backup lay's and whatever else they have in the closet, then you have a problem. Every one's view of *normal relationship* is diffrent.
..... Relationship's grow, they are not made. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 12/15/2007 6:18:58 PM | | I don't read these forums that often, but I thank you for your view point. I totally agree with you and you opened my eyes. The one thing I want to say is most women want honesty, I don't know if they can really handle the truth or really want to know. My friends tell me to say nothing and see where the date goes from there. Being there done that, that is not all it is cracked up to be. I am upfront, if they can handle they will call, if not, so be it. Anyways, again thank you | |
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