| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:06:35 AM | "most females with lots of male friends like loads of attention. who agrees with this statement?"
This is actually true of a woman I know. She loves attention off her male friends... but there again she is an attention seeker.
I personally have a lot of male friends, my best mate of 14 years is no longer my best mate because his new lady friend didnt like me...
I think if people would get over their jealousy and insecurities, it doesnt actually make any difference if your mates are male or female....
I personally have more male friends because my interests are traditionally male orientated. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:46:39 AM | I have many male freinds none of which I've dated and never will. And most of them have girlfriends or date, but not me. They don't even ask. Why? Duh, because we're friends.
A lot of the sports I like just tend to be liked by a lot of men too. More women are getting into them but often only in certain locations or through their boyfreinds who are already into it. It's no big deal. I did date a guy who had serious issues with the fact that most of the freinds I met up with were guys. So, I'd invite him along and he refused but would still complain. I broke it off with him. I wasn't going to give up a sport I like just because he didn't play it and because he had what I increasingly gathered were control/manipulation issues. | |
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N*Love
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Joined: 2/22/2008
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 2/28/2008 7:36:23 PM | Guys shouldn't worry about a woman having many men friends...
1. They wont fill her head about "ohh he is just using you"
2. He is a prick and you should just kick his ass to the curbe..
3. He is playing you...
4. You can do better than him...
Trust me girls are evillll... they always put more negative bs in her head about you.. then guys ... guys tend to stick with you guys... they would never sell you out by saying bs about you...
And ofcourse getting a guy advice about a relationship is far much better than girls .. cause they always say negative bs either cause they are hurt themselves.. (no man or her man is playing her and she hates men)...
As for you ending up in a friend zone will be decided upon your two's chemistry towards each other and not due to her large number of guy friends... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:56:33 AM | | Ok, wow, you people need to quite mixing sex with feelings. Life is way to short to have all of this crap floating around inside you about wonder if he /she is cheating or thinking about somebody else. Just becase women or men decied to hang out with the oppisite sex means nothing, what you need to think about is, ok what in thier head? If these people are more drawn to the oppisite sex , as i am, they are just more comfortable with them. And really, weather it be male or female does it matter who wants to sleep with who? That is human nature. And to call her a player is just wrong on so many levels. Yeah, i have dated more than a few of my friends, but i dont put sex and feelings in the same realm, they are 2 completely different things. Hey its my long winded way of saying just be happy that you have a date and can have fun with someone doesn't have to be forever it just fun, yeah you guys remember that stuff right, go out laugh ,make an ass out of your self, you like the good old days | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:39:23 AM | I have found that people who are the most jealous are the ones who are doing the cheating...
That one you can take to the bank!    | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 2/29/2008 9:36:05 AM |
what's the first thing that goes through your mind?
Doesn't bother me for the most part. Unless she is doing it to get a response. It is okay for a women I date to have male friends as long as she doesn't try to infer her view of how I should respond to her having such friends. If I didn't trust her then to me that would be valid. But to me if I would trust her there would be no reason for me to believe she was doing anything to jeopardize the relationship. I'd also like to believe she would be mature enough to mention if she thought she would be happier with someone else. Other than that. I am fine single. But open to a relationship without thinking twice about it. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 3/1/2008 9:59:01 AM | ^^^^^
Who wants to be with a drama queen playing head games with you anyway?
There are those who get off on getting their mate jealous...
Talk about thing that make you go hmmmm! | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 3/5/2008 11:10:20 PM | | I am ok with either sex having the opposite sex as friends, as adults we know the situations we should be in that would make others uncomfortable. I like having male friends because of the completely non-existent level of cattiness. Now , truth be told( straight from the horses mouth), a man naturally thinks sexually about any female in their presence...in some form or other but we are capable of controlling ourselves and we all do when it is for our own good. It's called survival and it is in every action we take. I love being friends with my ex's, we were not meant for each other but that doesnt mean i think badly or them or them of me because of it or why did i chose to spend time with them in the first place? Now, the one thing that i absolute hate about this subject is when people are friends with ex's or the opposite sex and that person either starts to date someone or gets married/in a relationship and because of the new persons insecurities, they have no more contact with you. This is the pits and sometimes you can lose really good friends over this. | |
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udb82
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Joined: 2/29/2008
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:53:41 PM | Man i need to get some friends male or female lol. I have read some of the posts and there is some valid arguments. I had a female friend once who always wanted to kiss on the lips upon greeting. I told her as friends that makes me feel uncomfortable. She said I was uptight. I said well your loose then lol.
Anyways sometimes the term friends is overused. I know when women break up with men they say we can still be friends. I turned around once and said oh ok can you lend me $1000? My friends would lol.
Just my thoughts. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/16/2009 3:51:08 AM | Oh gosh - me bad when they say friends I wonder off, dont want another friend, I am looking for dating on a singles site, thats it plain and simple.
If I wanted friends I would have joined a pen pal site.
EDIT: oh and the friends with benefits attitude that is just free prostitution and if people want to do that, good for them, but its not for me. Yuk! | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/16/2009 10:13:33 PM | I have a lot of guy friends, if for no other reason than I connect with guys better than women my age. Most of the women I work with are married with a few kids. I'm not, and can't relate to it. Also, some of my hobbies are more guy-ish, therefore it's only natural that I meet guys instead of women.
My current date has been intro'd to my friends, and they like each other. I think that's because the guy in question is secure about himself and my feelings towards him. Insecurity is not sexy, and neither is controlling my friendships. It wouldn't get a man sent to the "friend zone", it would get him kicked to the curb pronto.
Luckily, I think most guys are ok with this because they have girl friends. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/17/2009 12:03:49 AM | I can't accurately speak to the question posed about a woman who has a lot of male "friends." But I can say with surety that men are seldom "friends" with a woman they would not have sex with if the opportunity presented itself.
Then there is the old song by the band Cake...Friend is a Four-Letter Word. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/17/2009 3:30:19 AM | | Woman are friends with men and not just for sex. Sure some seek only males for friends as they seek attention dealing with there own insecurities self esteem etc | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/17/2009 4:52:18 PM | Let's see... I have mostly male friends because (I'm often told) I think like a guy. *shrug*
I do have female friends, a few close female friends... but the majority are male.
Got a problem with that? Then keep walking, sugar. Don't waste my time. | |
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ml456
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Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 116 | |
| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/17/2009 5:15:01 PM | | I don't see why this should be a problem. Some women may generally have more things in common with men than other women. Some women may work in a job where the majority of of her co-workers are male. Some women may belong to a certain club where the majority of the members are men. Maybe she hangs with many of her co-workers or fellow club members. These are just some of the possible reasons why some women have many male friends. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/18/2009 8:13:29 PM | I don't have a lot of male friends but my closest friends seem to be male. I tend to click better with guys then gals anyway, due to all my "guy interests" like comicbooks, etc. I have a few female friends, but I tend to be more guarded with them since women tend to be so hard on each other. With my male friends, I can just be my weird self and they don't care. But with women, I have to be more "like them" to be accepted sometimes since women tend to be more clique-ish then men.
Guess it just depends on which gender you're more comfortable being around. I tend to be more comfortable around guy friends then gals, I guess. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/19/2009 6:32:29 AM | | Most of my friends are men. I have female friends also, but they seem to see me as competition even though they are the ones with bf's or husbands and I'm single. Go figure. LOL. My male friends are just that. Friends. They are not ex's nor people that I have dated. I think that makes a difference in how close we are. WE all know where to draw the line and we don't cross it, EVER! | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/19/2009 9:09:38 AM | If your a female with lots of male "friends" couple things...
1. They are gay
2. They are having sex with another female that is better than you
3. The dont find you attrative
its one of the three...
you have to choose which one it is...  | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:26:31 AM | I have a better rapport with men, hence the reason why a lot of my friends are males. One of my dearest friends is even an ex boyfriend of mine; but I wish I had more female buddies, but women do not like me | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:32:54 AM |
but I wish I had more female buddies, but women do not like me
you have lots of male friends, and women dont like you (according to you)...
so why in earth would ANY male want to get involved with you?...
Its hard enough to impress the female friends of someone your dating, do you know how hard it is to get the approval of your male friends?...
let me say it again...if you have male friends one of the following applies..
1. He is gay
2. He doesnt find you attrative
3. He is having sex with someone that is better than you
this is the ONLY way male and females are friends... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:01:10 PM | Boywonder, there is hope. I have a lot of guy friends and we have never been intimate. For some females it is easier to have guy friends then females (common interest etc). Some of us can make friends with men easier and find it very difficult to find a mate, because we are so use to having them all as friends.
That explains why so many women are single, all of the good men are their friends. If you do not want to be considered another friend, make it known and don't let that point be forgotten. Don't blend in with the other guys, you have to make sure she thinks of you when it comes to romance and intimacy. Regardless of how many males are around the boundaries will be set and if she is a true woman you will never have to worry about her crossing the lines.
Best wishes | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:14:10 PM | | Personally I have a problem with women who have lots of, or only male friends. It makes ME wonder at least what their definition of "friend" really is. These days with f_uck buddies all over the place, it's kind of hard to shake that thought off if you get interested in a woman in that situation. Yes, I know about the "friend zone" stuff, and I also know that everybody has a past. When two people meet they have to meet halfway. I don't think that I'd put up with her male friends or "buddies" constantly calling, sending messages, emails and asking her out or whatever in the long run. My guess is that not many, men or women, would feel comfortable seeing this happen every day. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/21/2009 3:03:55 AM | A lot of women network these days. To me its not a problem. If it works you will find that they want to spend more time with you anyhow and if it dosen't, you end up with another friend.
All plusses as far as I am concerned. | |
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