| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/21/2009 5:04:21 PM | No necessarily... just means some women can get along better with men than they can females... you have to understand something about women... when they get into fights or disagreements they tend to hold agrudge with one another its not like men where youguys may get into a fist fight and then get up shake hands have a beer and laugh about it... i personally dont understand that but hey... if it works for ya roll with it...
Most of the male friends women have aremen they just know not really dated or have a sexual intrest in so it is all simple in most cases... I know i have male friends not that i dont like to have women friends but it seems they want me to join their click and i refuse to do that... makes it sound like a cult of somekind...and i dont do drama and yes men do create drama too trust me LOL | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 12:58:50 AM | I guess what I will NEVER understand is that women who claim they get along with men better ....and have tons of male friends, and they understand men better than women...
why are you single?...if you get along with men so well, and understand us so well, why in the world would you be single? | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 7:53:54 AM | | Because there is a big differance in being friends with men and dating men besides it has to be a two way street ... one person cant start and hold a relationship together alone... plus it is not that I dont like to be friends with women it just seems to never happen I know women that I work with but we do not hang out but then they are married and have children... the guys at work are mostly single so they do ask me to hang out... just the lay of the land I guess but,I have no problem being friends with women or men.... as for why I am still single ... who knows that covers a wide area and too much detail to go into on here.... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:58:14 AM | I will say it over and over again...some people agree- some people dont(women usually)
if you are friends with a male, one of the three applies...
1. He is gay
2. He is having sex with someone better than you
3. He does not find you attrative
If none of those three apply, then ask yourself if you were alone in a room with them and offered them sex...what would they do?
"our friendship is so strong, I couldnt have sex with you"
or
"let me get my pants off"
google "the ladder theory"...brillaint | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 10:09:30 AM | | I agree about 99 percent of that. I have one exception. I have a ex girlfriend who we loved each other to death and had a lot of fun together. But we are both such stubborn people ( She wanted one house i insist on the one i owne ect...) that we knew we just were not going to get it straight. So instead of ending up on Springer we decided to part while we still are friends. Till this day i love her to death and i think she does me. We hang out about once a week and have a riot.But thats were it ends. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 10:45:35 AM | | All I know is that if I get to choose between a woman who has a lot of male friends (maybe all of them) and one who doesn't, I'd go for the latter any day of the week. It's as simple as that. I don't think that many women would like the idea of having other women I label as "friends" calling me all the time either. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 12:28:57 PM | chris rock said it best....
If your woman has male friends, its a****in a glass case...
Her male friends will be the one she is having sex with if you screw up....in case of emergency...break glass... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/22/2009 8:22:26 PM | The first thing that went through my mind while reading this thread was, "Insecure much guys?"
I'd like to point out a few issues that some of you possibly haven't considered - or perhaps Have considered, and hold the attitudes that you do because you know how You are and figure Everyone Else born with dangling bits must be the exact same way...
You don't trust the Guys that a woman is friends with - and Automatically Assume that they're trying to get her into the horizontal tango - and so you're going to penalize HER for having male friends?
Yall want a woman that you can do things like... oh... talk about sports, and go fishing and camping with, and who isn't high maintainence....... but when you Find one, you're upset because HEY - Other Guys Thought She Was A Cool Fishing Buddy To. Newsflash, she doesn't have any Women friends whom she does things like that with because *gasp* there aren't that many blinkin women who actually Like doing things like that.
And last - but by No means Least - have any of yall single ones that are most dead set against your female friends having Any other male friends ever stopped to consider - you're single because you're insecure, clingy, and mistrustful without cause? | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 7:17:16 AM | | I do a partner dance and therefore often get to know the men before the women but I don't date them it does leave me with a lot of male friends and hasn't any reflection on my relationships at all | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:17:46 AM | ok guys...here it goes. (sorry ladies)
the main reason why a lot of women have mostly male friends is because we know the female species all too well...quite a few women are catty, keniving, backstabbing, self involved ****es. not all of us are like that but believe me...there are a lot of them out there.
i have more male friends than female friends for those exact reasons and if i were going to have sex with any of them...it wouldve happened already but quite frankly im not sexually attracted to any of them and vice versa.
now i am still friends with a couple of ex's but we only broke up due to the realization that we made better friends than lovers.
now i cant speak for all women like myself but i am still single because i have high standards...i know i probably shouldnt have such high standards considering i am extremely far from perfect...but hey...i cant help what i desire. i let every prospective date know that i have mostly male friends and if theyre uncomfortable with that then they dont have to date me. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:20:43 AM |
it wouldve happened already but quite frankly im not sexually attracted to any of them and vice versa.
this goes back to my point...
If a male is friends with you
1. he is gay
2. he isnt attracted to you
3. he is having sex with someone better than you
One of the three HAS to apply for a man to be your friend...if not, its just a guy that is around and a friend, but would sleep with you in a heartbeat..
all women ask yourself...if you walked in naked with your male friend there and said "have sex with me"...what would be the response?
"your such a great friend, I dont want to mess that up"..or...
"let me get my pants off" | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:39:22 AM | | broncsbuff has a slight insecurity issue i think. jealousy is an evil emotion. i hope it doesnt hinder your ability to have any type of relationship. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 10:57:16 AM |
broncsbuff has a slight insecurity issue i think. jealousy is an evil emotion. i hope it doesnt hinder your ability to have any type of relationship.
you just said your male friends are NOT attracted to you...and I listed three things that make male's your friends...
1. he is gay
2 HE IS NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU
3. he is getting sex from someone better than you
I just agreed with you...and yet you call me insecure? | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 2:23:27 PM | you have me wrong tra...you dont know me to make such a statement about jealousy or insecurity for that matter...but for a little about me to prove you wrong
I had a relationship with a stripper for about 3 years...now..if I was the least bit insecure or jealous do you even think it would have lasted 3 minutes?..we broke up cause her drug use was out of control
I had a relationship with a female with three male BEST friends, who she used to hang out with all the time...she would spend the night over there house...I was with her for about a year and a half...we broke up cause she moved out of state..
two example of where im the most open guy and non-jealous guy you will ever meet...
I just live in reality, and not this fairy tale land of "my male friends would never try to have sex with me"...sure...right...lol
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 5:59:37 PM | | I'm with "broncsbuff" on this 100% though I don't have the same experience as he has with women like that. As I said before - I'd never get involved with that kind of women in the first place. Male friends everywhere means that you'll find a f_uck buddy or two among them guaranteed, and there's no way in a million years that I'd ever take the chance to find out. I want to be able to trust her, not having to think about what guy in her A-Z list she's with for the moment - forget it! No wonder women like that are often singles. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 6:16:29 PM |
I'm with "broncsbuff" on this 100% though I don't have the same experience as he has with women like that. As I said before - I'd never get involved with that kind of women in the first place. Male friends everywhere means that you'll find a f_uck buddy or two among them guaranteed, and there's no way in a million years that I'd ever take the chance to find out. I want to be able to trust her, not having to think about what guy in her A-Z list she's with for the moment - forget it! No wonder women like that are often singles.
I agree.
Also it was mentioned that a males concern about this was a sign of insecurity. Well it's not, its an indication of common sense. It's easy for women to collect many guy friends and chances are there will be ex's and lovers in the mix. It's called playing the field.  | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 6:30:27 PM |
women with a lot of male friends
what's the first thing that goes through your mind?
Her mind is Tiffany twisted.
She got the Mercedes Benz.
She got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
she calls friends. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:42:01 PM |
I think if people would get over their jealousy and insecurities, it doesnt actually make any difference if your mates are male or female....
I personally have more male friends because my interests are traditionally male orientated.
I agree. As a reformed tomboy, I too often don't have the patience to deal with most women's insecurities and constant need for positive affirmation: "Oh, you look so darling in that (insert clothing item here)." or their neurosis: "I've seen him twice and we've slept together but now he's not returning my phone calls!" Too much drama for my comfort level and sanity.
That being said, women will take what they learn about some of their friends and understand they must choose to like them for their good qualities and somehow find a way to deal with their neuroses.
My closest female friends are comfortable with themselves and value that if they ask me a straight question for my opinion, I'll give them my honest opinion. They're also probably above on the emotional and intellectual intelligence arena. And if I want their opinion, I'll get it as well. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/24/2009 2:42:43 AM | | I have lots of male friends. I enjoy the comapny of men more than woman, as I find men tend to speak as they find. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/24/2009 4:25:07 AM |
Also it was mentioned that a males concern about this was a sign of insecurity. Well it's not, its an indication of common sense. It's easy for women to collect many guy friends and chances are there will be ex's and lovers in the mix. It's called playing the field.
While it's far to easy to collect male aquaintances that call Themselves friends - because they intend to keep the woman on tap as a convenient booty call, in case they strike out with their various other booty calls - it's Not so easy to collect ACTUAL male friends.
A Friend - an actual, honest ta gods, Friend - rather than a semi-friendly aquaintance, is not someone that only gets in touch when they want something from you. Nor are they someone that sticks around in your circle because they figure eventually you'll become desperate enough sexually to say "yes" if they happen to proposition you. They aren't thinking about sex, because it's simply not an issue that comes up - As A Proposition - between Friends.
My male friends don't talk to me about sex, or about sexuality - mine or theirs. They talk to me about where the fish are biting at the local lakes. They talk to me about whether the weather is good to go up for a flight, or out on the Harleys. My best friend - who is male - talks to me about how my goddaughter (his yr old spawn) is doing and what sorts of progress she's making as she grows; and about how his relationship with his live in is going, and how my life is going, and what we've each been up to between visits, and whether he's worried about something. Normal friend stuff. Sex? Not a chance - we'd both fall off opposite sides of the bed laughing to hard, simply because we agreed looooong ago that - neither of us has gender in the eyes of the other. To him, I'm simply "one of the guys." To me, he's simply "a woman with a permanently attached sex toy." (And no, Bronx, it's not due to either of us thinking the other is unattractive - it's because Sex has nothing at all to do with True Friendship.) We drink together. We shoot pool together. Hell, we've taken roadtrips together. He's closer to me - by a longshot - than my only sibling is. He helps critique my artwork - and I can count on him to give me an Honest opinion of how a particular painting came out, rather than having to wonder if he's simply trying to score brownie points. We live in different towns now, so we don't get to hang out together as often as we used to - but that hasn't diminished our Friendship any more than it would if he were female or I were male. | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/24/2009 8:26:42 AM |
They aren't thinking about sex, because it's simply not an issue that comes up - As A Proposition - between Friends.
all the women are defending this...look, Im not saying men and women cant be friends...all im saying is that for you to be "friends" one of the three HAS to apply...
he is gay
he is not attracted to you
he is attracted to you, but he is getting sex from someone who he feels is better than you..
If none of those apply, be assured that if you offered him sex...he would have his pants off in under two seconds... | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/24/2009 8:41:46 AM |
all im saying is that for you to be "friends" one of the three HAS to apply...
So tell me - should I take your statement to mean that you feel all males have the exact same thought processes? Because that IS how it comes across - as you being incapable of acknowledging that not everyone who was born with dangling genitalia thinks within the same rather narrow confinese that you do - or is somehow Not heterosexual.
Why do you feel that sex has to have SOME place - any place at all - within a Friendship between opposite genders? Even if that "place" is something as assinine as "yeah, I'd do her - but my current armcandy looks better." (Which - while it might not be an exact quote - is how the third item in your list of "HAS to apply" really comes across.)
Do you .. like... think of your Male friends that way? Hopefully not, if you're heterosexual. Ie Sexually first, and then whether they're a Friend or not? Perhaps you are simply to shallow to have the capacity to Not look at a female and YOUR First thought be "I would/wouldn't fuq her" - and therefore to boost yourself, you project that same shallowness onto all other males?
Gods, I pray you are dead Dead wrong - and that there are still males on this planet who have the capacity to think with something Other than the small head! | |
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| women with a lot of male friends
Posted: 1/24/2009 8:53:56 AM |
Do you .. like... think of your Male friends that way? Hopefully not, if you're heterosexual. Ie Sexually first, and then whether they're a Friend or not?
yes, im friends with a lot of males, and yes, Im pretty sure sex doesnt get in the way of anything...you can apply the theory to any friend that you have if you want to...
So tell me - should I take your statement to mean that you feel all males have the exact same thought processes? Because that IS how it comes across - as you being incapable of acknowledging that not everyone who was born with dangling genitalia thinks within the same rather narrow confinese that you do - or is somehow Not heterosexual.
another female telling another male that all males dont think alike...this might come as a news flash to you, but all males think about sex, and all males think about having sex with you if they are attracted to you...
I have three female friends, very close friends, but they are FRIENDS and very good friends cause im not attracted to them in ANY way, they are attractive females, just not what IM attracted to ....
Why do you feel that sex has to have SOME place - any place at all - within a Friendship between opposite genders? Even if that "place" is something as assinine as "yeah, I'd do her - but my current armcandy looks better." (Which - while it might not be an exact quote - is how the third item in your list of "HAS to apply" really comes across.)
again...your trying to break down the male species according to YOUR friends...it doesnt work out that way..
just because you have male friends and they have never "tried" to sleep with you, doesnt mean that they wont jump at the first chance to do it....no..not all males are walking boners ready to pounce on you at any moment, but ask yourself ...
alone in a room, you walk in naked with your male friend..what happens?
"our friendship is so strong I dont want to have sex with you"
or
"let me get my pants off"
if one of the three DOESNT apply...then the second option is gonna happen
you have admitted yourself that your friend isnt attracted to you, you said it...im saying the same thing you are, just in a different way.. | |
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