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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 12/26/2006 4:59:23 PM |
Lets be real here, we young men just see older women as a easy lay, because in general they are so flattered by the attention from fit young men, they are more then likely to end up in bed with you.
A guy in his 20's will happily shag a hot MILF, but walk down the street holding her hand? not unless he was desperate or she done him a very special favour.
Let's be real here, and change we, to YOU. I don't agree with a thing you have said, so there is no "we".
I am in my 20's, I see every relationship that I have had as serious, what is the point of anything else? I have no interest in a quick lay, etc....been there, done that, and don't like it.
Personally, I would much rather date and be in a serious relationship with an older women than girls my age. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 12/26/2006 5:57:33 PM | I can't really understand how or why threads from months ago are recycled or kept active---this one is over 4 months old! OP is supposedly involved with a younger guy and has not posted to this in quite a while. Anyone besides me wonder why that is?
At any rate OP this is one of those subjects that seems to think "all men" or "all women" know something specific about something that might be personal or in your experience only. Throughout my life I've often dated women older than me and later on younger than me----by more than "a few years". Each situation was very significant and had it's own merits but strangely not many drawbacks. From what I've read here my experience in this is quite unique and I'm eternally grateful for that!!
You can only decide about a person after you're able to observe them and weigh their actions as compared to their words. The reasons people date other people is extremely complex so there's really no single hard answer to your question. Since you are now (or were at the time of this post) dating a younger guy what's your take on him and his reasons? Those here saying you're so beautiful are correct in that but that for me would never be enough to sustain interest in someone. If I were hung up on age I would simply set some preferences in my mind and not depart from that.
Why did you decide to date this particular guy? Was it his age or something more? My guess and hope it IS something more! If you're capable of seeing someone for the person they are instead of adhering to some "proper" restraints then you're a few steps ahead of those who have rigid dating criteria.
The age old saying "listen to what they say; WATCH what they do........" should be in effect here. If your new guy is not sincere about you it'll show up soon enough. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 7:17:22 AM | I know this is an old thread but I must say this, my ex GF was 11 years older and we had the best time together. I had not gone out with a woman that was that much older but I would do it again if the right one came along.
If you are still looking for an easy lay, you must still be in High School or you just never grew up. Or better yet you have a "problem" and it makes you feel better. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 12/27/2006 11:01:44 AM | Personally, I find older women more attractive, but not "only" sexually. I just get on better with older women than women my age (of course, it depends on the woman herself, but it's just the average).
But the real point is: do older women REALLY see in us (younger men) a serious relationship?
Again, it just depends on the womam herself...but usually it's THEM who see younger boys as "flash relationships"... | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 2:19:13 PM | Lets just have a serius chat about thsi whole "notch on the belt" mentality for starters.
A few years back, roudn the camp fire, the conversation turned to sex. (And no ladies, it didn't START with sex. Go and give your minds a shower. It was a bikers camp and the main conversation was bikes)
When the issue of the number of different sexual partners was raised the guys averaged seven, and several later admitted, privately, that they were lying. Four or five was closer to the norm.
The women were averaging twenty. Which of course didn't add up to the maths until one of the guys piped up with a score of over two hundred. That balanced the maths.
But it raises an issue. With an average of twenty different lovers why are the women so hell bent on carring on about the few guys who are blet nothcers in the fist place. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 12/27/2006 4:54:47 PM | (((If you are going to go outside the "zone" there has to be something in it for the person at risk. And by at risk, I mean the younger one. (They are the one risking the one thing that the older one had, and niether can ever get back...TIME. Harsh, but immutable) )))
OH SIR !!!
I think you have this backwards. The older one is taking the risk, if youre talking about time. For WE have so little of it left and dont have the 'time' to waste on someone that isnt serious.
It confuses me when you say we are desperate because we are older. Why do some of you have to be so ugly about the age thing? God dont like ugly.
Age is something none of us can escape. Remember that when youre trying to pick up that younger chick in a few years. I hope youre embarassed, because you should be. We all have feelings. Even you, I bet.
pssst...... sparticuss, maybe the girls were lying too.. :o) | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 11:03:48 PM | Personally I would stick to within a decade (10 years younger).
There's so much more dynamics to a relationship than the physicality of it all.
And too many "much younger" guys see much older women as another notch in their belt. Many(20 somethings) lack the appropriate conversational skills to hold my attention for too long.
While attention from a young and "fit" man is flattering (as beatmaster put it) to many women, that does not necessarily mean that most older women would automatically fall into the arms of said "young and fit guy" as he incorrectly assumes.
I personally find it more flattering getting attention from an attractive man, closer to my age, with sophistication and world experience to share.
Given a choice I would choose the latter rather than former. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2006 7:18:05 AM | Well, if you want to generalize.....Yes it is all just fun and games to the younger man.
If you really want the truth...Not always. If you are too scared to try it, then don't.
You'll never know,if you don't take a chance. Sometimes I ask myself the same question about older women. NewsFlash: there are older women..called cougars in some circles
who aggressively go after young men, not for a relationship, but for good ole
casual sex. Yep, hubby ain't too interested anymore and she wants some younger c0ck. So, its not just the "typical horny young man syndrome" ....
but, "horny older woman syndrome" too.  | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 12/30/2006 10:38:28 AM | | I think this is something a lot of people have not been able to understand including myself. I always thought it was not possible for a younger guy and older girl to have a good relationship till i actually saw it. It never happened with me but i do beleive that age in some cases dont make much of a difference. So i think it could be either way and there is a possibility of something serious no matter what the age is. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 4:20:39 PM | | Look, OP, dont listen to half of these guys, Yes some guys do it because of easy sex or ego, but there are o lot of guys out there that are genuinely interested in older women. I tend to date older women, but im 22 and a lot more mature than my age would suggest, i find women my age usually arent at the same point in their life as i am. I want someone who is mature, intelligent and can carry a decent conversation and sorry to say this but women under the age of 21 usually dont have the capacity to do this. Age should never be a barrier, if you find yourself interested in someone, then judge that person by who they are and not by their age. It doesnt mean go looking for a younger guy, but instead go looking for YOUR perfect guy and if he happens to be younger or live half way across the world it doesnt matter, if he feels the same way none of that will be an issue. Good luck. I know we all need it. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 5:05:33 PM |
Honestly, I've seen so many threads about older women and how to attract them or whatever and I want to know the truth. Is it worth the effort and time to spend with a younger man if a woman wants a relationship or is it all just fun and games to the younger man?
We just want to get to know them better in order to decide if they are worthy of a relationship.
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Posted: 1/1/2007 6:11:22 AM | A notch on the belt? That's a bit insensitive and shallow.
I have always been attracted to older women, not that there's anything wrong with the younger generation but the former seem to be a bit more serious.
I have also found that older women tend to have their head on straight and less likey to stray. No offense intended here to the younger.
I don't wear a belt and thus haven't a need or desire to "Notch" it.
Women are beautiful creatures and just like men, age may play a role but inevitably, it's all about character and intent and soul.
**OP** Relationships....Always.
God Bless
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 1/1/2007 12:39:49 PM | | I guess that depends on what you mean by older. Personally I've never dated a woman that was my own age or younger, well, except once, and that didn't end well for her. I can holestly say it has nothing to do with a 'notch in the belt' or anything like that. It's just a matter of preference. But then I can only speak for myself. | |
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