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Posted: 1/3/2007 2:54:25 AM | To beautifulwoman4u: I can speak from both sides of that question. When I was 26 I dated a woman that was 52 but looked 40. We had many common interests and beliefs and the relationship lasted until she was killed in an accident....about 7 years.
On the other side I was 45 and dated a woman that was 25 for about 3 years. Again, many common interests and beliefs but she decided I wasn't rich enough for her.......little did she know, as I live a simple life.
It can work but it depends on the desires of both parties and how hard they work at it. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 1/7/2007 5:08:59 PM | | Relationships can work and age is really just a number. I know that my man is 10 years younger than myself and we are both in love. In fact at times it almost feels like he is the older one and I am the young one. Different life experiences can make people go through things at different points. Maturity is derived from most of these experiences not age. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 2/5/2007 5:21:13 PM | Yeh for you pretty lady. We all get old. Those that are fortunate enough to. The pretty little young girls are just that. If they have Playboy looks, they're usually going to go out with the guy old enough to be their Father. (if they're losers) They will build up the ego and tear down the wallet and move on.
So if a guy on here thinks he giving up something to go out with an older lady......Don't go. You're usually looking for a notch. Or someone to take care of you.
If you had a back bone and was a man......You would be able to make an adult emmotional decision........Know what I mean? | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 6:29:27 PM | OP;
That varies from guy to guy. In my case, I've always preferred them to be older. Leave the stinking games the younger women play to the kiddies. Older women, particularly those that have gone through the trouble of keeping themselves reasonably preserved, are worth a relationship effort. Just depends on how young the guy is. If he's in his twenties, I wouldn't be too wrapped up in him if I were you, but after 30 or so, it's time to take him a little more seriously. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 3:45:23 PM | JWA, the reason that I have not posted in 4 months is because I went back to my ex boyfriend and because I am studying full time.
With the experiences that I have had here, I feel that the question that I posted is pertinent to those of us who have not dated for a long time and who are female and past 40. I wanted to know what the majority felt on this subject because of the amount of men unter 35 who were contacting me and actually writing as if they were truely interested in getting to know me. I have nothing against age differences. I have raised my children and simply wanted a life partner, best friend, mate, etc to spend my life with. I was married for almost 3 decades and I feel as though I was kept in a box because I honestly have been and am still a wee bit niave. So the question was legitimate and hopefully helpful for other women in my predicument. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 4:26:19 PM | OP, your profile lists you as Relation type seeking= Talk/Email
Yet you state
I've gone on tons of dates searching for this special guy this year
Also, your thread is about the sincerity of younger men. Your profile lists you are accepting
contact from males between 18 and 99. But,later you state
I think my best match is about 10 years younger.
It all leaves me a bit confused.
As for younger guys/older women, I had a good friend that was in love with, and married
an older woman. He was 25, she was 52. They were very happy as far as I know.
They were both very attractive people. To them age was meaningless.
However I am sure this is a rare occurrence. If money is involved it is even less likely.
Common sense, really.
:peace: H4 | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 7:47:40 PM | Disregard Beatmaster's reply. It's obvious he's not into mature women. That is one way to know for sure if the younger guy is into you. He won't hesitate to take you out in public on a date and or to meet his friends.
Believe me don't kid yourself - younger guys do fall in love with mature women. "I know it for a fact!" By younger too I don't mean just 4 years I have seen in 10 and 20 years my junior! Best wishes! | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 11:46:20 PM | Depends on the guy.
Me personally, I don't do that notch on the belt thing.
If I am interested in a woman regardless of age, its for a real relationship. If it can't be that, then maybe friends if we get along well.
I prefer older women mainly because I can generally expect a mature mind....meaning in particular, no stupid mind games.
I say generally because some women regardless of age, still play games. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 3:32:35 PM | hiker4
So sorry, I simply did not change my profile when I left. I love the forums here and was very curious to see if I had forums that were still being read and responded to. I will continue to visit from time to time. I am currently in a relationship. I love the man. He is 20 years my junior and we have gone back and forth in our relationship for 3 years now with a couple of breaks of up to 6 months. During the times that I was single, I searched the planet for someone that I could love as much as I do him, but, could never find anyone. The vast majority of those who are in their 30's like my guy are not on the same level that he is in many areas. I have been contacted by too many to mention and many seemed sincere, but most ended up just being players and at the time I had NO experience in recognizing them.
I think that from my experience, it is not the age at all that has to do with a possible great relationship. It is not necessarily the interests and persuits that the two people might or might not share. It is not even a shared culture. I think that sexual compatability is very important, but that's not the single elliment that will make or break a relationship. It does help in relieving stress, and bringing together two people who love each other greatly and want to be as close as they can be. However, I beleive it is more just a matter of the heart and what one is willing to except because of the joy that they have when they are with their companion. It is sad that many of those who did contact me, did not realize what they miss in what they are truely searching for because when you get out of bed, the rest of the day has to have more to it. Hopefully there will be something to share with your mate that will keep that closeness. Conversation, goals, and most of all care and concern. Just my thoughts. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 7:34:29 PM | I'm not even going to bother reading all the posts in here, I'll just answer the original question.... yes, older women are for serious relationships... not just notches in the bedpost
There are some very attractive older (I hate that term) women out there and on top of being attractive they usually have a better outlook on things than younger women... they seem to know exatly what they want...(notice I said "seem"...lol) they have more worldly experience... they've lived... the conversations flow more easily.
Yes, "older" women are for relationships | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 7:53:31 PM | Hard to generalize, since some women want to play, some are serious and some want to be friends. - to find real intentions, you have to take things slow and rely on where the signs are pointing. one thing for sure (at 45) i dont have to call them older women anymore -just women | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:16:10 PM | | There are also some older women that just want to have a fling with younger men, not have a serious relationship. Especially some of the ones that are recently divorced and haven't had sex in a while. I could probably date a woman that is 5-10 older than me. I would have a fling with a woman that is more than 10 yrs older than me. Yet I don't think I would date a woman that is more than 10 years older than me because we would probably have different lifestlyes, interests, and future goals, not because I think they are just "a notch on my belt". I don't think there is anything wrong with someone my age ( late 20s ) having a fling with a woman in her 40s if both people clearly knew it was a casual relationship and nothing serious. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 8:32:36 PM | beautifulwoman4u,
I've always dated older women (at least 5 years older or more) untill recently, the last few were close to my age or younger. Just the way things turned out lately.
It can work and has for me in the past, at least for a few years. She wasn't in any way a notch for me or the likes. Like I said, I've "always" been attracted physically to older women, I always thought maybe it was a fetish of mine.
Back when I was 34 I had met a woman online that was 48. After getting to know her for about a year and becoming very close, I decided to move across the states (2000 miles) to be with her. I will say that this was the largest age gap that I have experienced. The relationship had lasted for four years, I have to say that I have absolutely no regrets. She was an amazing lover, companion and friend. Our sex life was amazing, I enjoyed her as much as she enjoyed me.
The probelm we suffered the most was our difference in interests. She was very successful and wealthy and lived a very high profile lifestyle which didn't help us at times. Her maturity level of course was more than mine, even though I am very mature for my age. Some fault was with our age difference and how "society" looked at us. We had many different likes to be totally compatable, though we mutually split on good terms. Sure we both agreed on our seperation, though there were still tears shed.
Though, to answer the question..............Older women are for real for me.
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Posted: 4/30/2007 4:56:39 AM | Ive always just preferred older woman mainly for their maturity level in a mindful sense. Conversations tend to be better, theres less/no games from them, but then Ive been mature for my age all the time from when I was 21 on up...never been much of a party type or got out and get hammered on the weekends. Do I feel like Im missing out? No. Its just the way I am...mellow, appreciative of whats around me, and I love to look at life..smile...and laugh at it. In all of this it seems to come easier for a older woman since theyve been there and done that already. Have their heads on a little straighter than the young girls younger than me..on average.
The oldest one I ever went out with was twice my age when I was 21 and she asked me out at the time...hasnt happened since..lol | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 5:02:46 AM | hmmm...lol....
ok, I already put my answer in here... it's up a little bit if you wanted to read it.... here's my question to this thread though...
How many guys would be willing to admit that older (hell..any) woman is only for a fling?
Especially seeing as it's an attractive woman asking | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 11:17:50 AM | Oh gads,
What the heck are you guys calling a lasting relationship? 5 years?
With a divorce rate over 50% with people there own age range, do you really think some one ten years older/younger is going to last? It’s all about maturity and there is rarely a true balance when the age is so drastically different.
Here’s my advice..........enjoy it while it lasts it’s the best anyone can do. | |
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