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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 4/30/2007 11:50:12 AM |
Older women are more interesting, in general. They often have life experience, style and possibly manners. What's not to like.
totally agree
in my experience they're also more chilled out, know what they like and more understanding. I can't be doing with the drama/crazyiness of the younger generation any more lol | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 4/30/2007 12:10:52 PM | much like when you were younger hanging with older guys...
did you want a relationship?
each guy is different...
there is an image out there of the cougar... not wanting to be tied down to one guy (dating that is) and that is the image that you have to break through... kind of like blondes being dumb... not true but if you are blonde and you say something dumb... well then.
As an aside and not meant to be mean in any stretch of the imagination... if it looks to good to be true then it probably is! | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 4/30/2007 12:21:34 PM |
How many guys would be willing to admit that older (hell..any) woman is only for a fling?
I already mentioned some of these things in a previous post. If both people wanted to hang out and have sex without a long term committment, then there is nothing with having a fling. Some men and women will want to have a fling regardless of the other person's age. Some other men will want to have a fling with an older woman. They think she is attractive, wiser, more mature, and has more sexual experience. The younger men don't want to settle down yet. Guess what. The reverse is also true. Some older women are divorced, haven't had sex in a while, but don't want a serious relationship. Maybe being with an younger man makes them feel better about themselves. They might think younger men are more fun and exciting in bed. Some younger men and older women might think a long term relationship wouldn't work out because of different interests, lifestyles, and future goals between them. That's another possible reason why some younger men and older women are only interested in flings with each other instead of serious relationships. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 12:45:51 PM | Well I'm on another site which is for my local area, and its free to receive emails and pay to respond. I received about ten emails from women in their early and mid twenties, and perhaps I was unfairly judging them, but their maturity level seemed suspect based on what they wrote, so I never bothered to become a paying member. Then I got an email from a 36 year old woman which sounded honest and sincere and wasn't looking for a partying companion, so I decided to pay up just to reply to her.
God knows if we'll ever even meet, but the point is if anything I took the age gap as a plus combined with what she wrote. Now if the age was 56 rather than 36, than no offense intended, but that would have about as much of a chance as a 16 year old contacting me which is zero. Maturity varies with individuals, but in general I prefer my age to somewhere in their thirties, and possibly forties depending on how alike we are.
Probably just four years ago the whole older woman thing would have been an ego stroke for me, but at this point its more like "ok you're ten years older than me, are we compatible otherwise?". So yes, there are at least a small minority of men that would take an older woman seriously, but if I were to transform into an older woman overnight (I hope this doesn't happen lol) I would be very cautious because most younger guys wouldn't be serious. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 2:53:39 PM | I've always gravitated towards older women.
I've dated women across the entire age spectrum from 10+ years younger (last couple years) to 20+ years older (when I was in my 20's).
I've found that many older women are more well-grounded, have more life experience, some are well-travelled, somewhat accomplished, patient (raising children definitely helps with that), and typically more focussed on the important stuff in life than the majority of younger women. As they say, as we grow older, we leave more of our toys behind.
I've always had difficulty relating to women my own age and younger as we had different worldviews and lifestyles (though in the last couple years it seems the women are finally starting to catch up a bit  ). On the same note, most of my friends are much older (early 40's to 50's) for the same reasons. There just isn't much that I have in common with that many people in their 20's and even early/mid 30's (though there are exceptions of course).
They were never notches on the belt. They were always meaningful friendships and relationships. However, as happens often in life, we end up going in different directions.
More recently, I've started actively looking for younger women (22-35), however the main reason I'm looking at that age range now is that I want to have children eventually. If it wasn't for my desire to marry and have children, I would probably still be focussing on dating older women (40+). Unfortunately, I'm finding it somewhat difficult to find mature women who are under the age of 35.
When you're younger, there is often a shortage of life experiences and still a high level of naiivite, especially when it comes to life and relationships.
Who knows, I may still get lucky.  | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 5/1/2007 4:34:02 PM |
Welp - this tread should snag ya a new crop of ......... pool boys.
I've recently thrown myself back into the dating pool so the above comment made me laugh.
Here's my guideline...If I technically may have given birth to you - you are too young. But that's just me. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:06:59 AM | As much as I hate admitting it, I assume I fall into the older women category. I am not sure I would have understood the question before this on-line stuff. But, rest asured you younger guys who offer up sex to us poor old women.-- It is not flatering. I find it annoying, and makes YOU seem like a fool. Our notch making happened years ago. Yes that game is over. Been there done that. And, I might add who ever told you we females like the direct approach is screwed up. We like the romance then the tumble.
What I usually believe about these types is they forget they are not on porn sites. Who the hell do YOU think is on the other end of this conversation. Did I mention it is not flattering? Hope I have finally got this off my chest. The biggest hoot is when you don't even post a photo. Get a clue. RESPECT find out what it means to me. la la What was the question. Why would anyone ask that?  | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:33:33 AM | younger guys fall into one of two categories ~ cool or not cool.
the cool ones ignore the pop culture crap that surrounds them. they realize that life didn't start on reality television and that life exists outside of a video game.
the not cool ones have addictions to cell phones, tv and bad music. this stuff has become their reality. they scare the f*ck out of me.
now...i get approached by both types. neither one actually stand much of a chance with me, but obviously, i will interact with the cool ones. most of the time, even if they *think* they want a relationship with me, they really just need a bit of guidance.
i feel badly for them because the women who can appreciate them don't have the patience for them because of their age. and the women their own age tend toward narcissism, attention-seeking, ego-boosting and other awkward behaviors.
so it puts the 25-35-year-old cool guy in a tough spot. i generally encourage them to pursue interests outside of romance until they find a woman who can share their perspective. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 9:44:54 AM | Depends. I knew a 51-year old woman who was in love with a 27-year old man. But she looked and acted much younger and he looked and acted much older.
It really depends the mindset: how old are you and he mentally. If you want the same things, and you enjoy each others company, then you know the score. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 12:59:01 PM |
Lets be real here, we young men just see older women as a easy lay, because in general they are so flattered by the attention from fit young men, they are more then likely to end up in bed with you.
A guy in his 20's will happily shag a hot MILF, but walk down the street holding her hand? not unless he was desperate or she done him a very special favour.
beatmaster, let's be honest here.
1. The majority of young girls I meet who are looking for a relationship are not finding one, primarily because they are dating young men who are only seeing them as an easy lay.
2. The majority of young men I meet clearly say that mature women can offer a man all the things that he wants in a relationship, apart from kids, including great sex, great looks, and great conversation.
3. The statistics of couples getting married where women are older than the man appear to be in the majority now.
4. We used to have a talk show called Kilroy over here, and there were a substantial number of couples in LTRs were the guy was in his 20s and the women was 40+. ALL the men said that they were totally committed to the woman, for the rest of their life. The women ALL said that they were HAPPY FOR NOW.
To summarise my own observations:
The young men and mature men who are looking for an easy lay, are going for the same thing with the younger women AND the mature women, but are going for the younger women, as they find it much easier to get a younger woman to sleep with them.
The young men who are looking for a relationship, great communication, and great sex, are finding the younger women are seriously lacking in these departments, and the mature women have all the skills.
The young men who are looking for marriage and kids, are going for the women who are closer to their own age and background, as they seem to share the same values as to parenting and other things. But young men are having more sex at a younger age, frequently without protection, so the number of young men who already have kids are going up. Also, the number of young men who are choosing not to have kids at all is going up. So less and less young men are looking for marriage and kids.
Those mature men who are NOT looking for an easy lay, appear to be more interested in having a good time with their friends. They do NOT appear to be pursuing ANY women.
As I said, these are only my own observations, but it does seem consistent.
By the way, beautifulwoman4u, I rated your pic, and I gave you a 10.
I have GOT to move to either the USA or Canada. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 5:51:09 PM | | Well I have always gotten along with older people better than people my age or younger. I see an older woman as being more secure in herself and knowing where she is and where she's going in life. Yes, younger girls have the nice skin etc. , but the games that can be played are a pain in the ass as well. Older women just see to be more real. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 5/19/2007 11:22:07 PM | **OP**
Is it worth the effort and time to spend with a younger man if a woman wants a relationship or is it all just fun and games to the younger man?
This is a generalization and it has nothing to do with age.
What use to attract me to an older woman was the concept of her being experienced with relationships to the point where she may truly be wanting one...Unfortunately, I found that to be a facet. Mother Nature has shown upon me once again and I am a wiser man for it.
Older, younger, doesn't matter to me, (Within reason of course.) For I have learned that even those who have been married for a very long time, are playing the same games as those who haven't, just at an older age.
I believe the problem therein lies with many older women trying too hard to feel attractive, wanted, successful etc, thus creating the illusion of a physical need and/or inuendo.
I also believe that people settle due to lonliness and/or despair.
Just an opinion, no offense intended...
God Bless
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 5/20/2007 1:06:48 AM | | I've never dated an older woman, but I can guess that in the majority of cases guys are just adding a notch to their bedpost. Unless you mutually have some deep physical attraction or intellectual connection I'd have to assume it's a sex thing that will not last. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 12:01:01 PM | | Well beautifulwoman4u, I think you have seen some threads that are not so nice? When I was in my 20's I dated some older women, it felt like I was a notch on their belt? To be serious I've known women who have had great relationships and marriages with yonger guys, my own brother and oldest friend for instance. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:39:23 PM | | I'm 29. I would date a woman in her 30s or early 40s. I would have a short term relationship with a woman over 45, but not a long term relationship. It's not because I think women over 45 are easy. It's not because I want to "experiment" with a much older woman. Some women between the ages of 45-55 can be attractive, have a good personality and share some common interests with me. The problem is that a long term relationship probably wouldn't work out because we probably would have different long terms plans. For example, I might want kids. She can't/won't have any more kids. BTW there are also some older women who use younger men for sex. Being with a younger man is an ego boost and makes her feel more attractive. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 3:43:59 PM | You have it backwards..Older women??? It is a notch on their panties, i usually start over the next week looking for others that find me first. Somewhat sexist question, so i could only honestly answer it that way in regards to my lovely self...Love Earl
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