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| TURN THE FLASHING NEON SIGN "OFF"
Posted: 4/28/2007 3:54:05 AM | Utoh...I can, unfortunately, relate to this. I had to take a warrant out due to some of the stalking/psycho stuff going on. Egads....TURN THE FLASHING NEON SIGN OFF
Anyhoo......I just HAD to post publicly. Good luck to ALL of you!!!
The following is my profile....
    GIRLS...PLEASE READ THIS!!! MESSAGE TO MY SISTERS...Originally, I had decided that I was never ever going to go on an internet dating site again. However, I decided that I HAD to due to the fact that I feel I must warn you girls about some of the psychos that I have run across. If you would like information on them, please feel to email me, I would be more than happy to pass on the information to you. Currently, I am NOT looking for a relationship. No thanks...I've had enough. Friends are good enough for me at this time.
Please turn off the flashing neon sign above my head that says "Psychos and perverts need only apply"
PS...I am really a woman. However, the only way that I could get this message out to you girls was to sign up as a man...you know..."male looking for female" In this way, I could be assured that some of you would see this and write to me and also that the psychos I have run across would hopefully not be looking at male profiles as well as womens.....or would they?....geesh. Good luck to you all!!!
A few random thoughts....
PSYCHO BABBLE
What is the outcome of a man possessed by what he thinks is power?
Do NOT open up all of your doors and windows. Open them up one at a time. Make him EARN it. Make him EARN the right to see what is in your heart and DON’T wear your heart on your sleeve.
TRUST……MUST be earned.
Even if it means making him walk through fire for you. This way, he just gets his feet a little singed instead of you being COMPLETELY burned.
Girls...if your FIRST instinct says to you, “He is a __(insert word and/or descriptive adjective here)__________ then he IS that which you think. Ninety eight point two percent of the time, your instincts ARE correct. Do NOT doubt yourself.
LISTEN to him! Let him tell you about himself. Give him enough rope so that if he needs to hang himself, he will. If he tells you he is no good, BELIEVE HIM!! He knows himself better than you do. He is NO GOOD!!! RUN!! Don’t walk! To the nearest exit!!! Do NOT stop! Do not say to yourself, “Noooooo, that can’t be” The answer is: “YES!!! It CAN be!”
If it means putting him through a bunch of “tests” then do it. If he is “a keeper” he will understand later and forgive you for it.
If he has “stickability”, he WILL stick IF he is worth it.
If you have ANY, any doubts whatsoever, if something just doesn’t seem right, if you can’t quite put your finger on it, if the hairs raise up on the back of your neck…...go with the feeling.
Stand on the frame....remove yourself from the picture and look IN....you might find what it is that you missed by being IN the picture instead of on the frame, on the outside.
Again...I wish you the best. | |
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SaucyM
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Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 78 | |
| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 4/28/2007 10:52:34 AM | Did you sleep with this girl first before deciding she wasnt relationship material????
Because that can trigger psychos....lol.
For me it always pisses me off when I meet someone, do the whole waiting for the right moment game before giving it up.....only to have dude pull a disappearing act soon after....grrr. But at least I dont stalk, but it does piss me off.
Bottom line is... men need to stop signing contracts with their****, because for women it's an emotional contract while for men it's a 'I'm horny' contract.
I hope you can get rid of this chick tho, and if you screwed her then disappeared, apologize and threaten to get her banned from contacting you by informing the moderators.
~Saucy! | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:27:34 PM | get a restraining order...
Those are as useful as tits on a bull....
There are a lot of dead people that have restraining orders against their killers.... | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/3/2007 7:37:30 PM |  and keep ing...as fast as your legs will move....never look back,change your phone @...block all calls...tell her you have aids...but most inportant at least relocate!!! | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/4/2007 12:22:31 AM | Stop Ignoring, stop making excuses and reply to her - ONCE ONLY - telling her you simply do not nor ever will feel anything on this level for her but you are sure she will find one who does. Goodbye.
Would have been a lot quicker then writing the post. | |
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tigh
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Joined: 8/25/2007
Msg: 82 | |
| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/4/2007 3:25:32 AM | | Do you have bunnies, keep them locked up.If the phone calls are a nuisance it would be worth your while changing your number.Save any texts and keep a diary of phone calls.No one has the right to harass another person.It is clear from your attitude to this person you are not interested and you say you have been assertive.So consider legal action or a letter to this person from your lawyer stating the consequences of further harassment.This person is clearly unstable and the situation needs to be dealt with firmly and closure attained.Good luck | |
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tigh
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Joined: 8/25/2007
Msg: 83 | |
| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/4/2007 3:54:46 AM | | Are you really 95 years old , what age was your girl then, 90 years old.Since neither of you is going to be running very fast I would not worry.What is she going to do ,bash you with her zimmer frame.This is surely a joke | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/4/2007 11:48:39 AM | | A female stalker? Only if she's gorgeously attractive, has a nice smile, and can't get enough of me, then sure, I need one of those! As for a woman being a psycho, well, that word in itself is a turn-on, but only if she's TRULY insane, because that's HOT in my book! | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 11:11:12 AM | | Call the cops. Make a police report, charge her with stalking, menacing, and harrasment. Get a restraining order against her. If she persists, introduce her to your good buddy Walther and invite her to eine kleine shutzenfest. | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 11:16:33 AM | | Restraining orders do not protect you from stalkers, but they are not useless. If you kill a psycho who stalked you, a restraining order boosts your claim of self defense. It becomes a case of 'your word, and the courts word, against no ones word', and you are more apt to get off with a ruling of 'justifiable homicide'. Without the restraining orders, police reports, etc, it is 'your word against no ones word' and the courts will frown on you taking the law into your own hands when there was apparently no need to do so. The court will figure that if you were scared enough to have to kill, you would have been scared enough to file complaints earlier. | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 2:41:51 PM | 1) Make a report
2) File for a restraining order
3) Talk to lots of people about your palpable fear (even if you're not scared ;) )
4) Have a firearm ready and a weapon to plant on said stalker | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 2:58:34 PM | I would definitely be human and give her a warning first...but I'd do it in 2 steps (and i know lots are going to disagree here), but (step 1) i'd send mail or something first telling her to please stop it is really bothering you....if she continues then (step 2) would be send email that if she continues you will have no choice, but to report her for harrassment....this is he longer route, but the more humane one....
And believe me I KNOW lots will disagree here...lol | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 3:01:10 PM | | Oh yeah, I think if she is just calling too much that falls in harrassment category and not a stalker...I think stalking is when they get obsessed with you and start following you around and stuff (hence to "stalk")...this sounds like just telephone harrassment...unless i missed something in the above... | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 3:14:48 PM |
I went out with a girl a handful of times and realized I don't want to be in relationhip with her. I told her NO. She won't take 'no' for an answer as if she thinks she can change my mind. Calls and emails are escalating. She may start showing up soon. I'm ignoring her mail and calls now. Do they hate to be ignored or is this the best way to make it clear?
When nothing else works.. Tell her RUDELY.
Apparently you are being too nice and she just doesn't 'get it' or get the hint.
I've had my fair share of stalkers and i find when you are straight up & no ifs, ands or butts and tell it like it is... they go away. If you truly want them go leave u alone and they don't take a hint, and just keep going like the energizer rabbit.. tell her as clear as day to hit the road. don't candy coat it & don't lead her on.
good luck. | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 3:17:49 PM | Op, I would first give her a friendly warning or a few of them and try to discuss things with her and talk to her if you can about why she is stalking you or whatever, and be honest with how you feel about her doing this. As for calling you alot, well.....(Oh please forgive me for telling them this wherever you are!! lol), my ex did that with her ex before she met me, she got upset about the unfair treatment she received from him and she told me she at one time called his house 60 times in one hour with prank calls, and basically that was no more then harrassment and maybe just plain annoying for him, so he got a restraining order or something to that effect and she had to be no closer then 100 meters from him for a certain amount of time until they got the issue settled in a decent manner. So if it is just phone calls, there is not that much to it. I had some phone calls over the years that may have bordered harrasment, but I realized there was not much more to the situation then that, so I chilled out about it.
But if you suspect she is stalking you, as in following you and being on your case constantly and she follows you and all that, then again, first start slow and kindly and respectfully ask her to stop and maybe try to discuss why she is doing this and how you can possibly help without her doing anything silly like continuing stalking (I think that goes for anyone in this situation, maybe try to diologue with the person and see whats up with them and weather or not you can maybe do something to help them if they have a problem or issue), now if that fails, obviously get the cops involved, maybe your parents and friends and take it from there.
Good luck to you!! | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 3:23:02 PM | This is why I do not let anyone know where I live! This is what I would do...Just do not communicate with her period! Do not send emails, do not answer her calls even if you have to screen them all, and keep a log if she persist then contact the authorities.
People like that have serious issues and not to be taken lightly!
Be safe and learn from your mistakes...get a room next time no over night guest and maybe get their number next time and block your # until you meet a few times! Good luck! | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:52:38 PM | You should probably b aware that for as nice as documenting this girls contact information seems like a fabulous idea;
Its pretty much gonna b a mute point unless u also have sum documentation (preferably with proof of receipt)
..that u have actually TOLD this person NO.
Otherwise it simply becomes a case of he said, she said, and smart lawyers (should they b necessary, will argue exactly that)
Most stalkers, if infact this is the case, will continue to pursue the object of their desire for an average of 10 yrs.
They do not go away, they just find someone else to stalk.
I had never even met mine!
He walked past my house one day & I said good morning. He went thru my mail, followed me around in his car, followed me on foot, destroyed property etc etc
so I moved house, changed my number several times, finally disconnected it completely and he STILL followed me for another 18mths.
Im still counting down my 10yrs. | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 9:16:03 PM |
Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
I get kind of offended if a stranger starts stalking me all willy-nilly,
because it's unfair to show favoritism.
So, I put wannabe stalkers through an application and audition process.
(Yes, there is an audition couch involved).
Well, if I'm gonna be stalked, I want to be entertained too. | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/22/2007 9:20:09 PM | Do you really think a piece of paper can stop someone who falls into the range of psycho?????
All you have to do is stalk the stalker or make them think that you a real weirdo, stranger then them..... | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 9/23/2007 9:03:02 AM | | I believe he said he was scared she might stalk him...the girl has not actually stalked him yet. I've noticed everyone here is talking about this situation as if she has done actual stalking and she has not. This falls into telephone harrassment or whatever. Please everyone be aware of the FACTS of the situtation. | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 1/4/2008 8:47:39 AM | | Crazy in the head = crazy in bed, lol!!! No, seriously, get a restraining order if she's harassing you. They're a pain to get, but worth it. If psycho chick violates, she goes to jail and gets charged with no contact order violation, a gross misdemeanor in most states. Three violations = a felony (in Washington State, anyway). | |
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| Female psychos and stalkers. What to do?
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:29:42 AM | | It sounds like she doesn't know she's coming across as pushy to you. She might not even know any better. Try to be friends, or email and say that you'd be happy to be friends and talk but that you can't go any further. Or, when she calls say that you'd be happy to sit and chat all day but that you have plenty to do. Hope this helps. | |
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