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Posted: 1/9/2007 4:44:31 PM | Without compassion in that balance you will simply have arrogance and self importance. A know-it- all. It is the know it all that enjoys talking down to you.
There are difference kinds of intelligence.
Someone may be ‘street smart’ but have no desire for self improvement.
Another person may be ‘book smart’, but lack an ounce of common sense.
Then there is the ‘emotionally/ socially intelligent’. These people have the ability to read and understand people, and are good at communicating. The extreme of this would be a manipulator.
Then there is a category I’m going to call “Soulful Intelligence”.
Soulful Intelligence tells me the person is hungry for growth, knowledge and personal growth. Intelligence must also be balanced with heart or wisdom. When an added depth of understanding, kindness, and humor are also present in the person, it puts them at the top of my list. They are observers, and are usually quiet, but have a confidence and strength to them that you can feel. A Presence. They love to communicate, but only to a chosen few. I love it when someone has curiosity and awe. They like a challenge and want to understand their current environment and share their discoveries or observations with you.
There may be more types, these are from my observations.
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Posted: 1/9/2007 4:53:08 PM | | if a person is intelligent and humble its very sexy, but if they use it to talk down to other people to big them selves up no matter how good looking they are its not attractive | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 5:05:19 PM | sombient.....
Yes.........
That is what I mean.......
So um....what are you doing tonight?..... ....
....Captivated?.......
Ahhhhhh yes.
(sorry).....but even men can be weak at the knees..............
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Posted: 1/9/2007 5:25:39 PM | Ok......
Back to reality........
(Still Love ya Som)............
Street smart=wisdom
book smart=wisdom
soulful Intelligence=wisdom
Wisdom=Choice or life or WTF we have lived.......I can read.......the ability to
understand and "hold" what I have written?....=Intelligence.....
The ability to comprehend.....(my words).........=Intelligence
Emotional mature=I understand your "you"....................Wisdom........
Emotional Intelligence=I understand.....really....I do.........yet still....wisdom...
To Bad we confuse the two huh?.......
Anyways......
So Um Som.....(hehe)
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Posted: 1/9/2007 6:25:22 PM | Mental stimulation is very important.
Bimbo sex is dull unless she is adventuous and your up for it .
Bimbo sex is great when your pissed.
An intelligent woman who is sexy is great .
Who talks in a bar ?
Over dinner to talk is a must .
I don't go out with bimbo's .thats for un intelligent footy players .LOl
Conversation and looks go together as a package .
For a quick fix .good tits ,nice face ,long legs will win .Long term god tits ,nice face ,long legs and intelligence is the best ..
Im single .LOl | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 7:19:42 PM | | Sombient - What I meant by "discresion"ary use of intellegence is that sometimes it is best to talk and sometimes it is best to just listen and understand. That's a true sign of an intellegent mind. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 8:18:19 PM | Ab initio.
Interesting handle. In chemistry and physics, it refers to calculations made from first principles, specifically for derivation of fundamental physical constants. Like the spin/spin proton coupling constant for water, a meter of the hydrogen exchange rate (gives water its unusual properties); I measured it under ambient condition, ~28 yrs ago. Unlikely little bit of science history, arising out of a casual undergrad project.
Remember this: what is good for the goose is good for the gander, counselor. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 9:18:06 PM | I once dated a guy with an IQ of 196. he was a physical 10 too!! Our conversations and physical connection together was great but.... he was a social disaster.
Weird thing. I cannot get "in the mood" unless I adore a man's brain. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2007 1:50:40 AM | IMO, intelligence hasn't meant squat to women, except the bookworm-types (and even then, to a slight degree).
Charm and looks pretty much are all of it.
I mean, this should be pretty obvious, considering the "players" that all of the geeks were, growing up, people... :P | |
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Posted: 1/11/2007 7:59:48 PM | A quote I read on the wall where I workout: "You learn more from someone who disagrees with you than from someone who always agrees."
Something I've told a couple guys is, you've got to stimulate my mind before I let you stimulate my body! hehe (Then I can really tell who's smart and takes the hint!) | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 6:12:53 PM | Intelligence turns me on....I am highly educated, but it doesn't mean that he has to be academically educated for me to consider him " intelligent ". In fact, I admire intelligence, smarts that come naturally...and not shaped by a high-class University institution. So, yes, if a man can make me see things in a unique, interesting, unconventional way that ultimately reveals truth...I would say, " Bring it on! "....
Nothing fascinates me more than a witty repartee....or a philosophical discussion about the mysteries of life. lol. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 9:56:19 PM | hm, well there's a no-brainer. to have an intellectual conversation with someone is an extreme turn on for mee...but then again, there are people who like em "dumb 'n beautiful"
whatever floats your boat, but watch out for the shallow water!!!  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 11:04:15 PM | Intelligence....the word itself is captivating.Hello Truthisee,I think
I have drinking too much so I took my poetic license away for the night,
but I still would like to stab at this and try not to butcher it up too bad:
The fact is ,there is no single,universally accepted definition of intelligence.
And what I have found to be true along the way,someone that is intellectually
gifted doesn't mean that they are typically gifted in all mental abilities...
linguistic intelligence and mental abilities,spatial,or in the area of abstract
thinking and problem solving,spatial,intrapersonal intelligence to interpersonal...
leaving out a few other examples,but I haven't drank enough to reach
my point of clarity yet.lol
For me,someone that has a good balance of energy/intelligence makes it
possible to have intimancy of the minds and when you take that with
you to the bedroom....well..it's gonna take you to a place I have never been
because I have never experienced the combination of both.
Sorry,didn't mean to write a novel here...got to go...Melrose place is on...just a joke.. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 12:50:33 AM | | There is intelligence, and then there is wit, and then there is knowledge. I find wit more stimulating than raw intelligence or knowledge. Some of the most intelligent and well read people don't know how to be intellectually playful. On the other hand, other people may not be up on any particular topic, and don't necessarily possess the cognitive horsepower to get into some complex discussion, but they are quick with a joke, and have a good sense of humour about them. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 1:29:26 AM | I couldn't fall in love with a girl who wasn't intelligent, just isn't possible for me. A girl that's beautiful physically means nothing to me if I can't have a conversation with her.
The phyiscal attraction I have towards someone has to be there, but it usually doesn't grab me until I've had an opportunity to talk to her. When you throw in intelligence and a great personality...a good looking girl, can easily turn into one of the most beautiful girls in the world. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 1:41:40 AM | The wonderful thing about intelligence is that everyone pretty much thinks they are.
One needs only hang out with people a few notches down on the iq score to feel brilliant, regardless of ones starting point.
I remember fondly one comment I had sent to me on this subject:
"Oh ya, eh. Day's is stupid. Kant even reed 'n rite. Like dar so stupid day's don't even nose it eh. Dam stupid fvckers ain't good for them nuffin." | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 2:22:22 AM | msg 241: yes, 'natural' intelligence turns me on too - i have worked with people who hold all sorts of degrees and stuff and are thick as pigs' poo. i think good common sense is intelligence at its very base level (and lets face it, not many people have that).
if a man (or a woman for that matter, though i'm not a lesbian) can think and talk at the same time, eureka! not as easy or simplistic as it may sound...
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:29:02 PM | I'm new to this system and was intrigued to see the subject line in this thread, and how long it runs.
I am an educated professional and am definitely intelligent. But I don't believe that academic degrees necessarily reflect how 'smart' you are as a person, as a human being. So I like people who are 'smart' and that covers a fair bit of ground. At the same time I do like someone with intelligence because I enjoy thought provoking and stimulating conversations. Need a certain level of intelligence to be a critical thinker who is willing to discuss issues and make a point (have a position to start with!).
I find that most men are intimidated by my education and my career. Even when they've talked to me or met with me and discover that I'm very down to earth and don't place too much credence on degrees, they find it hard to get past it. I've had a number of times when men don't call back. Then I get a call a month or even more later - they want to see me again. They like me, but they weren't sure of themselves before.
I have a hard time understanding their problem. Then I read the research that shows men would rather marry the less intelligent woman; intelligent career women intimidate them. Isn't it time to grow up and for men and women to be true equals? I'd love to think so, but sadly I'm not sure it will even happen for my own daughters let alone in my lifetime. What can we do to help? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:42:20 PM | Intelligence is of the utmost importance, because without it, so many
other facets of a wonderful relationship are missing. One can not
have a truly enjoyable and meaningful conversation with someone who is
"intelligence-deficient". And a meaningful conversation is just as erotic
and intimate, on an intellectual level; as the most passionate love making
is, on a physical level. And without intelligence, a person really can not have
a charismatic personality.
But, intelligence by itself is not enough. There also has to be awareness
of the world around us, and knowledge of things such as current events,
history, world affairs, etc. If an intelligent person can't converse about
anything other than last night's episode of "American Idol", for example,
then any meaningful relationship is unlikely. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 8:55:54 PM | | Intelligence is captivating, but it's not something you notice on a person right away. When people are looking for a relationship and they have many options (like online), the ugly ones are going to be deleted first - no matter if they're intelligent or not. People who are really attractive have to 'prove' they are dumb rocks before they get erased. Even then, some women want the guy they're attracted to be an intellict so bad they will brain wash themselves into thinking he really is. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:55:48 AM | if you dont have it, dont message me.I am busy...
If you have intelligence...actually i can always ask my assitant to do the other half of my work | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 6:22:08 AM | I think you can discern intelligence immediately in a person unless they are purposefully dumbing down. Personally, I find that people with intelligence have a good grasp of the English language (usually pre-Tequila). Their ability to use it appropriately isn't necessarily a hallmark of their educational level, but more so of their experience and predisposition to absorb the lessons learned. Those who comprehend the difference between they're and their automatically deserve my respect : )
I choose the path of awareness by reading, watching and listening to resources for information about our world, local and global. I find it difficult to converse for long with someone who hasn't thought about the Iraq War, or the Christmas Typhoon in Southeast Asia or other events and people who affect us as humankind. Those who don't contain their lives to their own tiny corner of the universe usually intrigue and captivate me.
Remember kiddos... Use the English language, or any language for that matter, in a grammatically correct manner and you will always SOUND intelligent even if you feel that you aren't up to snuff.
P.S. Just don't dangle your participles in front of a hungry tiger for they are crunchy and taste like chicken!
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