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Posted: 1/21/2007 12:10:50 AM | I will, spiffykat. Thanks for adding me to your favs.
I love intelligence in a woman and it can be captivating but I definitely value a good heart over that. Some of the scientific folks can, unfortunately, have very cold hearts and be very dispassionate. No more than others in the world, I believe, but for me personally its a bigger letdown.
Intelligence is such a broad catagory, too. Just because someone has intelligence it doesn't mean it will even be a compatible type. That unfamiliarity can breed some wonderfully intense friction. This mutual exploration of each others intelligence can really be fabulous. It's a higher level of excitement, another kind of excitement to add to the others.
I have always tried for intelligence in a potential lover but now I have decided it just isn't that important. It's too much to expect of one person. Plus I can always have good conversations with other intelligent people, it's not like it is required for sex or intimacy. I've backed down my expectations.
Then there is always groups like MENSA to meet other intelligent people, too. I think now I would put wisdom about intelligence, too. Good hearted and wise.... wisdom tempers our thoughts and actions. Some patience, too.
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 2/10/2007 2:14:07 PM | | Well ya know it is for sure and it keeps things interesting but for me more than anything I want to be seen as the smarter one in the relationship. I want him to not have already thought of most of what I say because then I feel like a moron. I'd want our intelligence levels to be somewhat close, but for mine to still be the one that is obviously just a bit better. I already have a good understanding of most things so I think I have fairly good confidence with intellect, it is emotions that I have a very difficult time with at times so I'd want someone who could maybe help me to not be so afraid in that area. I've always thought a water sign would really be so great for me but NOT pisces because they just honestly scare me most of the time. A scorpio or cancer aw man if ONLY more of them liked me lol but oh well will see what happens in any case that's all I can do. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2007 4:51:17 PM | If you are intelligent and well read...it's lonely!
Never met a man who could hold his own with me, I wonder what it would be like - pretty magical I imagine.
I usually find myself holding back and just smiling sympathetically, male egos are very fragile. I have found men will pay for business advice, but don't like an opinion from a girlfriend even when she has done ten times the professional study and experience; and really does know what she is talking about.
I have been well read all my life, I don't put expectations on other people, I test the water, if they want to hear a little and ask for more, I give it.
However I suggest and discuss everything very gently and I don't say all I know.
If anything intelligence should make you sensitive and compassionate - a truly captivating trait - with or without "intelligence". | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 2:13:33 AM | oh yes nothing is more a turn on than a beautifull women that is both beautifull and smart at the same time.
i know theses 2 girls that i have work with.one is model type pretty but so dumb its not funny lol
another one was more a natural beauty(really not model fake looking) but really pretty and smart too.the second one was way much attractive to me.the dumb model type lost a lot of her beauty to me by being too dumb and un-interesting.
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Posted: 5/9/2008 3:43:01 AM | Intelligence is the one thing I require. Not because I consider myself a wonderfully bright woman, but there are mult levels of intelligence. There is the book smart guy, been there, too pompous at times. Then you have the truly intelligent, those who can adapt and captivate you because they realize that individuals have varying interests. I also believe that the really smart ones are those who can come up with a quip or a story that shows their humor intelligence is working. Anytime a person can make me smile or even chuckle out loud, I consider them to be quite intelligent.
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Posted: 5/9/2008 4:44:34 AM | | I like my partner to be more intelligent than me. I enjoy intellectually sparring and if he suffers with 'brain hurt' syndrome then he is likely to feel pretty wounded and a bit annoyed - so it's for his own protection really! Intelligence has nothing to do with academic qualifications, more an interest of the world outside your own little box, a curiosity, an openness - it's a huge attraction for me. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:12:45 AM | The type of intelligence that "does it" for me is a love of words and word-play, an inherent curiosity about people and life and appreciation for books and ideas. Toss in kindness, integrity and a quirky sense of humour and I'm a goner.
Intelligence does not guarantee being open-minded, but the most open-minded people I have known have also been intelligent. That willingness to try on ideas or approaches to life and love is almost as important as breathing to me.
Intelligence does not compensate for a lack in other character traits, but the man of solid character who is not also intelligent doesn't hold my interest for long. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 6:35:32 AM | | well.....a guy who's intelligent has his occasional day in the sun. women so often focus on one characteristic of a guy, whether it makes any sense relative to a relationship or not. i kinda don't like being wanted for one thing whether it be looks or smarts as i'd like to be appreciated for all of what i am. are you gals listening?? lol | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:43:13 PM | Whether one finds "intelligence" captivating would depend on at least a couple things. First one would need to define what type of intelligence they find important. And just as important is whether that intelligence will be judged by result or rationale. If the other person's type of intelligence coincides with your own, then what happens when there is a difference of opinion between the two in that area? The type of intelligence it takes to work out an amiable solution is usually quite different than the intelligence that brought on the debate over two answers for one question.
Looking for love means looking for that constellation of intelligence traits that supplement rather than contradict our own. Since there will always be disagreements, I generally look at how a person resolves conflicts, as that seems to be one of the most important and most valuable intelligence trait to me. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:49:38 PM | I am in no way an intellectual snob...but baby......give me an intelligent man and I am putty in his hands.
it's even in my profile I think...the man who stimulates me with intelligent conversation is the man who stimulates my mind and my body.
I am his. :
My profile states:
Seeking a lover who will seduce my mind, tease my body and make me laugh....and then a little bit more.
The man who stimulates my mind and captures my imagination is the man who has me in the palm of his hand. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:07:26 AM | If intelligence was captivating I'd have a harem of half a dozen Hooters girls, several super-models, and a hot young actress or two locked up down in the basement.
Leghold traps work much better. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:20:33 AM | I meet intelligent people very often.
But when it is all up in the mind, I find it too fleeting. The best sign of intelligence is being grounded in reality, in my opinion.
Big brains never did too much for me. People that are truly able to relate to their feelings are what I would define as emotionally intelligent. Analytical minds are great in the work environment, as friends, as neighbors......but as lovers? Humm I need more. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:20:35 AM | Brains with a body to fill out that "hooters" uniform works well for me....... 
OT.........Making love is but a short term exercise in pleasure.......being paired with another that can hold your interest mentally, is a long term reality.......
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:30:46 AM | Margo wrote:
The type of intelligence that "does it" for me is a love of words and word-play,
So, you're looking for a cunning linguist?
GDRFC (Grinning, ducking, running for cover)
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Posted: 5/11/2008 4:48:52 AM | absolutely nothing worse than trying to have an intelligent conversation and all one gets in return is a 'deer in headlights' look...or one listens with their mouth instead of their ears, or one incessantly interrupts, or ones mind is so dense that its even more dense that the spent uranium used in armor piercing shells used by the military...
what good is academic intelligence when emotional intelligence is pathetically lacking? | |
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