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Posted: 8/18/2006 11:04:10 PM | I get a lot of compliments on my intelligence... as well as my humor.
Intelligence though is a lot like looks. Its something you're born with and try as you might, at the end of the day, its something you're stuck with -- for good or ill. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2006 11:22:05 PM | | Too many times I've met a very attractive woman, only to have her open her mouth and ruin it by proving she was ignorant or petty or shallow...and I'm sure the same goes for lots of great women out there trying to meet a guy, only to be disappointed. Infatuation is one thing, but for something meaningful, there has to be substance. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2006 11:25:47 PM | For all of that, though, we still have some way to go, I think, before "Hey, baby, want to come back to my place and listen to Feynman's Lectures on Physics?" works as a pick up line...
It's a cruel world. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2006 11:34:03 PM | ^^Heya truth...Its proof positive science can be hot ! LOL  Great thread:)
I did want to add as well, that while physical appearance is initially what catches my eye,intelligence is definately captivating,and can make a physically average looking man the best looking guy in the world in my eyes.If someone is good eye candy ,but cant hold a conversation,lacks depth,compassion,substance and a sense of humour, I would have to pass on dating them.Looks definately do open the door of opportunity in certain areas of life,but intelligence and multifacetedness are far more appealing qualities when it comes to love and relationship longevity  JMHO
Edit*^^Feynmans lectures are actually pretty informative,and spiffy to listen to because his lectures are brilliantly informative and have a playful and witty way about them.I bet that line would work with some women:)
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Posted: 8/18/2006 11:49:13 PM | | I would take an intelligent average looking woman over an unintelligent beauty anyday. I find a woman's intelligence to be one of her most attracted features. If you can stimulate my mine then my body will follow. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 3:45:32 AM | | Intelligence and being open to learning new things is one of the biggest turn-ons there is. A man who can lay claim to this is automatically "hot" in my eyes. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 5:58:06 AM | | As Ally has stated..attraction begins with physical appearance. For me, it cements itself with the ability to hold fascinating conversations, and continually being able to stimulate each other mentally as well. A beautiful package on the outside is always a bonus, but without creativity, intelligence, and a dash of humour the novelty wears off VERY quickly. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 6:04:16 AM | I just want to present a taste of the other side. I was married to a woman who was very intelligent, but she used it to bludgeon people, looking down at them if they didn't have at least an undergrad dergee and she hadthe attitude that she was better than everybody else.
And truth be told, she was one of the "book smart - life stupid" group that coudl tell you who wrote ever book every written but couldn't figure out how velcro works.
There's balance point. You don't have to understand quantum physics, and if you do, keep it to yourself if your mate isn't interested in learning about it, but you should be smart enough to get through a normal life without too many intellectual stumbling blocks. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 6:05:54 AM | | I agree with the above, physical attraction is certainly key, though after the initial encounter, the rest depends upon compatibility ie: intelligence. While no genius is going to be attracted to an idiot, no idiot is going to be attracted to a genius. It depends on your personal IQ levels, two people with IQ's of 100 (the average) are going to be more compatible than those that have a differnece in IQ of 20 or more. ie: someone with an IQ of 100 and someone with an IQ of 140, they just aren't going to "click." Perhaps a sad fact for some though I find it reassuring, it provides the best possible outcome as nature always does. Also, keep in mind the interest factor, not only does the IQ provide a key role but also the activites one finds mentally stimulating. Always look in the "Interests/Hobbies" section of dating sites as that is very vital for a lasting relationship. If you two don't enjoy the same activites, what hope is their of a long term relationship? | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 6:07:49 AM | a person can only be with someone
with a similar IQ...
if they vary too much, it wont last long....
I had a friend who thought she was so smart...
but she couldnt even spell or raise her kids to respect her...
she was also a very jealous and hostile person if anyone
crossed her or disagreed with her.
Her mom was the same way.... it made me feel sorry for her husband...
to have to live with her.
He is a bright guy and they just don't get along... its a matter of time before
they divorce. She got preg... and thats why they married.
I think much of why they stay together now... is nobody wants to part with the house !
oiy... | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 6:15:26 AM | I think intelligence is part of the "whole package" right along with compatibility, a sence humor and physical attraction.
There is also a big difference between someone who has knowledge and someone who is wise...........If one doesn't use their intelligence, what good is it???
To me, intelligence is only a part of the big picture.
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Posted: 8/19/2006 6:37:36 AM | | What could possibly be sexier than having a long, involved conversation with someone and never once having to repeat a concept and always knowing that the other person is following what you're saying, and being led and leading the other person into new ideas? Intelligence isn't so much owing knowledge but being able to assimilate new knowledge into new concepts and new threads of thought. How wonderful is that? | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 6:40:53 AM |
What could possibly be sexier than having a long, involved conversation with someone
Having the same conversation naked......
Or was that implicit?  | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 7:03:58 AM |
There have been times when what I assumed to an 'intelligent' converation turned into a "I am smarter than you" sort of thing. That turned it into an instant turn-off.
I was married to a woman who was very intelligent, but she used it to bludgeon people, looking down at them if they didn't have at least an undergrad dergee and she hadthe attitude that she was better than everybody else.
And truth be told, she was one of the "book smart - life stupid" group that coudl tell you who wrote ever book every written but couldn't figure out how velcro works.
Exactly. Intelligence is a handy tool to have so long as you know how to use it properly. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 7:08:12 AM | It certainly is, and in addition to wanting someone I am so attracted to it makes me crazy, a person has to be able to sit at dinner or over coffee or drinks and have intelligent conversation. As a matter of fact smarter than me is actually a plus (as long as they are not condescending about it). The more I can learn, the better!
I like to learn, and feel that I am pretty intelligent about a few things, fairly intelligent about others, and able to discuss a little on a lot of topics - and if I am attractive physically to the right person as well, I can't complain. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 8:09:48 AM | There are nine different types of intelligence. Seek on Google and ye shall find them defined.
Intelligence is extremely captivating to me.
The smarter she is, the more I like her.
If she's smarter than me? Or has a different type of intelligence than I do? Good!
I like when someone makes me think.
I like when I don't have to explain things because she just "gets it".
I like not having to repeat things 20 times, because she understood the 1st time.
I like conversation that flows, not conversation that flows than pauses because you have to explain what you just said...
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Posted: 8/19/2006 8:20:13 AM | Colin...very true. I totally agree...someone getting you is awesome. Even if their personality is different than yours, if they know your mind, that's a very cool thing.
And flow of conversation is key. Someone can be very smart but not really socially inclined...it's gotta be effortless. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 8:26:28 AM | ^^^ Oooh baby Alias! Some of the more advanced string theories suggest that the Big Bang was caused by two vibrating dimensional planes colliding together. So lets get a vibrating 'toy' and maybe our two planes can collide and we can have our own Big Bang! 
Seriously, I don't need a woman I can talk with about strings, mesons, and Heisenberg's uncertainty principle, but I do need a woman I can *talk to*, which denotes a certain amount of intelligence. Someone who has their own views on life, some grasp of Politics, current events, the world, whatever. Doesn't need to be a rocket scientist (nope, doesn't need to know what Nitric Acid and Hydrazine do on contact), but she sure as hell better be able to talk to me for a couple hours, and if she can make me laugh thats a big plus. | |
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 8/19/2006 8:30:30 AM | Yes, I think intelligence can be captivating.
But when they go slack jawed ... how can you tell if their captivated ...
or just bewildered?
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Posted: 8/19/2006 8:44:47 AM | | I'm sorry maybe I am not completely following the whole line of this thread but for me I would say inteligence is important but more so for me common sense is mandatory. I know not of quantum physics, but I sure want someone who can stimulate me mentally as well as physically and spiritually. I truly want the total package. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 8:48:41 AM | The only problem I've run into in terms of intelligence and compatability is that I learned that you shouldn't be in the same field if one (or both) of you are too competitive.
Of course, the Curies seemed to make it work. :shrug:
I sometimes wonder whether Einstein, and others, would have ended up being as they were if they had been "getting it" at home. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 8:51:56 AM | There is nobody so irritating as somebody with less intelligence and more sense than we have.
Can't remember who said this. But, it seems to work on this thread.  | |
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