iris37
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 8/19/2006 8:57:48 AM | I believe we come into each lives to learn something from each other.....you bring your life experience I bring mine and together we grow and learn from each other....if one has not lived or experienced life and gained some wisdom along the way I afraid we would not be a good match. I have been on a personal journey for already 15 years and would need someone that can keep up......that is a huge attraction.....looks are secondary but still important beauty is in they eye of the beholder...(chemistry)
There is a difference between being book smart(university educated) and life smart I prefer life smart but hopefully you have read something intelligent along the way. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 9:02:55 AM |
Intelligence though is a lot like looks. Its something you're born with and try as you might, at the end of the day, its something you're stuck with -- for good or ill.
I don't know about that.
I think that there's a high possibility that some amount of intelligence is something you're born with - at least, some amount of potential.
However, a more important (I believe) determinant may be in how you were raised as a child. In terms of "looks," this might be the same as proper nutrition, avoiding smallpox, not developing an eating disorder, etc. As an adult, there's probably little difference between what you were born with and what you took from your childhood.
Finally, like looks, it's certainly possible to improve or ignore it in adulthood. If you take a look at the "instant turn-off" thread, the vast majority of complaints were about hygiene or fashion. With looks, it might be about working out, getting a makeover, or simply showering and brushing your teeth. With intelligence, I think it's about re-discovering your natural curiosity and then indulging it. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 9:11:02 AM | | Intelligence is a total turn on to me... not to be mixte up with education that it is not the same... everybody can study but not all are intelligent. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2006 10:50:51 AM | Intelligence is an important attribute but it is not the only important attribute. Therefore, although the lack of what I perceive to be intelligence in a woman would definately preclude any prospect of a relationship with me, the presence of it in a woman does not necessarily mean that she will be able to use it to captivate me.
A balanced personality with a kind happy positive attitude to life and to other people is more important than pure intellectual ability.
A person can possess a great intellect and yet be a spiteful mean negative human being with no or very low morals, ideals, or values. And although I might enjoy having a debate with a woman like that, I certainly would never contemplate spending my life with her, and could not be captivated by such a woman displaying her high intelligence.
Decency is the most important attribute in a woman at least as far as I am concerned.
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Posted: 8/20/2006 12:12:01 AM | Ladyowl: You are so right.
Intellect (or Education), isn't Intelligence.
Education + Experience + Enlightenment + Wisdom = Intelligence. Or is Wisdom the outcome?
I don't really understand the meaning of "street-smart". Is this another way of saying Common Sense? | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 12:20:58 AM | To find someone who can surprise you as you gallop along a complicated thought and you look up, and he’s already there, waiting for you to “get it”.
That belly laugh of recognition as he basks in his pride at that stretch.
That giggle as he finishes the thought because he has been there too and has pondered that one through.
Someone who has done their work and has the capacity to stretch a thought as far as it will go before snapping back into absurdity.
Someone who loves reading Alan Watts and Carlos Castenada and was blown away by Stephen Lewis’s speech.
Oh, sorry, got carried away, ummm, topic, yes. Um, Yes, Intelligent men are sooo sexy. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 1:41:04 AM | Completekaos
Aaaahhh....a bright lady.....:)
To think of all the brain food one must eat and all.....yuuuuck.....and to think some study the dictionary on a daily basis....the many different types of intelligence ....:)
I believe everyone has that intelligence within themselves.....and when it is brought/drawn out in a person...then I say 'that is captivating'.
I believe the real intelligence that is captivating for me is witnessing good loving parenting skills from single mothers. It is also captivating to witness compassionate people giving of themselves and contributing to family, friends, and for persons in need -I believe this type of person has intelligence and actually "gets it" -knows what the true meaning of life is......:)
I do not relate intelligence with IQ. The common story -on POF one is trying to find that 'special mate', the one that is 'real', has ability to become part of your life, hold hands with, communicate and really reciprocate your love -love you up and mean it too. Mastering this is the truer intelligence, and yes, captivating. The simple, "the whole package".
Of course, opinions vary.....sort of puts everyone on the level.....only different......
Interesting post.....have fun with it....:)
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Posted: 8/20/2006 2:30:00 AM | Intelligence is probably the most captivating thing for me. There is something very refreshing about it. The nice part is that it is rather easy to pick out where someone stands after a few minutes of conversation. I would most likely prefer someone equal or above my own intelligence level. I do enjoy a challenge.
There is nothing worse than being stuck in a conversation with an idiot… The mind wanders thinking of an escape route, often the only means out is to gnaw off your arm in the hope it will create even momentary silence.
“The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.”
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Posted: 8/20/2006 2:39:27 AM |
There is nothing worse than being stuck in a conversation with an idiot… The mind wanders thinking of an escape route, often the only means out is to gnaw off your arm in the hope it will create even momentary silence.
You mean coyote stupid? | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 2:56:29 AM |
You mean coyote stupid?
I was thinking more along the lines of hamster stupid. They have the same level of intelligence but up the cuteness factor. (I know a coyote has much better instincts than a hamster… mine put a brick of food in his mouth and had square cheeks. Cutest freaking thing ever.) | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 4:21:43 AM | Yes. Intelligence is very attractive. So is common sense. And an appreciation of the outdoors. and an open mind. humor. animal lover. an ability to take care of himself.good looks usually doesn't hurt (bein' honest here). honesty - thats a good one. and an ability to let loose and have some fun! lets see...
I am captivated by intelligence, but not a big head.
As the Argentines say it - Chao!
Debs | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 6:54:00 AM | | I dated a natural blonde who when she walked into a room was LITERALLY surounded by men gawking at her. I said litterally because I've been in the same room when men were acctually in a circle around her. Face like an angel and sweet as they come. But dumb. I hung on for 2 months but I couldn't take the lack of stimulating conversation. We had to break up. Neither of us were happy. She needed someone who wanted to discuss "Melrose Place" (yeah that long ago). I needed someone who could understand some less than obvious humor. With her I had to creat simple humor for her to get it. Twas boring. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 7:31:29 AM | If he can keep up with me in all manner of conversations, have interests outside of just sports, suds and sex, and have a sense of humor.............. That's a real turn on!
Intelligence is sexy! 
Ah, to find such a one....... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:00:26 AM | Yes... intellegence IS captivating...
I've met some "beautiful airheads" in my time...Don't know whether they were merely "acting" or really had nothing more than rudimentary ganglia in their craniums...Whatever the case, it really turned me off!
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:13:47 AM | | Intelligence is great as long as the person has enough emtional intelligence as well ... some very intelligent people are very boring ... but smarts with social savvy is very sexy. To ask for looks, smarts and social savviness is beginning to get hoggish, but fortunately for me, my gf has all three! | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:23:46 AM | A truer intelligence indeed.....One that holds me enthralled to a conversation,
looking at my watch to see hours have passed, anticipating many more......
Life smart seems to always trump true book smart.....but still.....
Having a level of comprehension to the world in which we live shows an
ability to grasp those things above ourselves....and appriciate
This life with a greater understanding, thereby appriciating those within it
More....
I have done the looks only thing and.....My God....I will never do that again...
A level of fullfillment must be reached and held within all relationships,
A conversation about Melrose Place?....., nope.
Really enjoying reading the though provoking answers here.... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:43:16 AM | quoted from athletic...... ''Grammar and vocabulary are great indicators of a persons intellect. I love it when I read a post like this.''
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Intellect has nothing to do with formal education and proper usage of grammer and vocabulary.
My mother was an illiterate and she could not even write her name. She was highly intelligent, full of wisdom and street smart.
A PHD in History, Political Science, Pyschology, Sociology....etc...these academic intellectuals can be very boring and so dumb in many other areas of life!!! I had a coffee date with a professor who wrote 26 books...but he bored me to death because he is only smart in ONE subject!!!!
I think I prefer the Jack of all trades but at least the master of one!!!! Maybe the master of a few things...
He must also be humourous, happy with his life and who he is.. | |
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Novak
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Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 74 | |
| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:44:50 AM | | I've dated intelligent men from all walks of life. Some never finished high school, for lack of motivation, discipline or sad circumstance, but not due to lack of intelligence. Some had PhDs in various subjects. A few had masters credentials. They were all intelligent in their own way. I found the middle-of-the road educated ones were more likely to "bludgeon" people with their intelligence than either the higer or lower educated ones. Like another poster said, I know a little about a lot of things. There isn't much I can't talk about, I can easily be stimulated by a new take on an old subject, or discuss the revisions in Hawking's theories. I love Monty Python and other silly humour like Spinal Tap and Adam Sandler as well. I'm more impressed in someone who is culturally aware and can make me blow milk out of my nose than someone whose masters thesis "could" have been a PhD dissertation. I'll take funny and kind over booksmart any old day. | |
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Novak
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Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 75 | |
| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:45:22 AM | | I've dated intelligent men from all walks of life. Some never finished high school, for lack of motivation, discipline or sad circumstance, but not due to lack of intelligence. Some had PhDs in various subjects. A few had masters credentials. They were all intelligent in their own way. I found the middle-of-the road educated ones were more likely to "bludgeon" people with their intelligence than either the higer or lower educated ones. Like another poster said, I know a little about a lot of things. There isn't much I can't talk about, I can easily be stimulated by a new take on an old subject, or discuss the revisions in Hawking's theories. I love Monty Python and other silly humour like Spinal Tap and Adam Sandler as well. I'm more impressed by someone who is culturally aware and can make me blow milk out of my nose than someone whose masters thesis "could" have been a PhD dissertation. I'll take funny and kind over booksmart any old day. | |
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