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Posted: 8/20/2006 9:14:56 AM | Intelligence excites me in a man that I also find attractive.... most likely the intelligence is part of the attraction. I find intelligent men, and I mean intelligent men, are good communicators. They are thoughtful about their responses and listen to what I have to say.
Once I am engaged in this manner, I am putty to his being and I love to feel a certain vulnerability... Of course it takes time to develop, but developing is much more of a process that does not disintegrate so easily..... there is more of an investment.
I have never met an intelligent man that I considered to be a snake..... they are more into humanity overall. So I suppose I am saying an intelligent man can be a very compassionate men.... thats my aim. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 9:25:01 AM | flsoldier wrote about different types of intelligence, and he got a point there... that's why we perceive some intelligent people as boring.. the attraction, that goes with the other person's intellect, doesn't focus on this one side of their characteristics. Thus we can never say it's only their smarts that get us going. We might not realize that, but it's the looks as well, sense of humour, social savviness. All of those that suit us best.
I wouldn't be able to hold a lively, witty conversation with S. Hawking, though if I were honoured with his company, I'd do my best not to bore him.. ;)
However JaG can keep my undivided attention for hours...  | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 9:25:56 AM | | I'm with Kataklysmic. For me Intelligence is sexy, combative arrogance is not. Miss Mensa Reject gets boring as any empty vessel does in time. | |
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 8/20/2006 9:36:00 AM | I think intelligence is only as important as other qualities.
physical chemistry, Emotional Quotient, ...... like funny is important too, but please know when to be funny ... after initial attraction, I look for an Emotional Quotient that demonstrates behaviour that has integrity and inspires respect.
I'll pass on any diabolical evil scientists that want to rune the world.
but smart enough to maintain a conversation, nurture curiosity, personal growth and can win an argument when she is moraly just.
In of itself intelligence is really just information and skills. depending how the information/skills are utilized, define the person. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 9:46:50 AM | Intelligence in and of it's self is a quality like all others....
To some it will remain the most endearing one....to some it will not......
To some Intelligence speaks of an arrogance....of course these are the ones
standing in front of a mirror half their lives....(kidding).....
I find myself drawn to Women who are intelligent.....as often times it
reflects far more.....
To be intelligent I find is a great indicator......and if it is combined with
a level of Life smart.......!!
Of course.....
We all have our own opinions.... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 9:47:00 AM | | I wouldn't be good with a conversation with Steven Hawking either. I would end up in a heated argument with him for sure. But I would enjoy it! | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 10:07:19 AM | Always one who takes everything personally....
Nobody said anything about your mother. In general people tend to gauge the native intelligence of other people by whether they can spell CAT or not.
What would we expect you to say about your mother? That she was an imbecile and an awful person?
This is a generality, not a specific topic about your mother.
Geeze..... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 10:16:05 AM | Smart is good. Intelligent is temporarily captivating. Mensa is magnet material.
I've met 3 men in the last 15 years who fell into the friggin genius category. Gotta love a really REALLY intelligent man. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 10:36:23 AM | | that is my favourite quality! but it has to be the right kind of intelligence to utterly captivate me. A passionate zeal and knowledge of what they are into, a knowledge of world affairs. Degrees and papers don't define it, nor is intelligence measured by the amount of facts one can spew. It is more of a common-sense smart that I find makes my knees buckle. Perhaps it is because I am more of a philisophial thinker type, love brainstorming theories and ideas, book smart, metaphysical kind of gal. So that could be why I find that type of street-smart, common-sense smart so sexy, that kind of laid-back confidence in one's ability. When I meet men like that, I'm hooked right then and there, which isn't always a good thing LOL. But that kind of smart is a complete aphrodisiac--I just melt. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 10:40:39 AM | edited just for EastSideEddie.
A PHD in History, Political Science, Pyschology, Sociology....etc...these academic intellectuals can be very boring and so dumb in many other areas of life!!! I had a coffee date with a professor who wrote 26 books...but he bored me to death because he is only smart in ONE subject!!!!
I think I prefer the Jack of all trades but at least the master of one!!!! Maybe the master of a few things...
He must also be humourous, happy with his life and who he is..
PS: I don't believe that by using a life example to demonstrate the differences in intellects would upset someone .  | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 10:56:55 AM | Ima, I agree 100% with you!!
I was married to a Masters Degree in English, and she couldn't figure out without a calculator that 3 pieces of 15" wood could come from 1 sheet of 4x8 plywood. (45 is less than 48, right?)
There has to be a balance point. My IQ is 162, BUT I am not a braniac in one area and a blithering idiot in others.
Woodworker, musician (4 instruments), good cook, Golden Gloves boxing champ, 9 years of martial arts, I know landscaping to the level of what grows in what climates, know tropical fish, computer geek, car mechanic in my teens, played a year of minor league baseball. And all it means is that I like a lot of different things.
The point is, when you read a profile written by a 45 year old person, knowing that English is their primary language and they attended school for a minimum of 12 years, and it looks like a monkey wrote it and there are no polysyllabic words in it, do you think that 3 dates down the road you will have ANYTHING in common? No matter how good they look physically, anyone over the age of 22-ish ought to be looking deeper by now.
I know the value of streetsmarts. I grew up in the inner city of Cleveland on some tough turf. Look up the Hough riots from the late 60s. That's where I grew up.
Intelligence ALONE, no. When it's ALL they have, no. When they are pompous and condescending because they know the entire chemical symbol table by heart and you don't, no. Making a point to demonstrate that they know the relative gravity of all 9 planets, no.
Intelligence as part of a package, extremely cool. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 11:32:34 AM | alright ladies this one is for all of you to respond to. There is one problem with an inteligent man that seems to be overlooked right now, at least from what I have been told that is. Isn't it also possible that the man in question is soo inteligent that he knows just what to say knows what you want to hear and then goes with it until he gets his desired outcome from it? The only reason I am even posting this is because I myself have been subject to scrutiny as a result of being able to verbalize emotions thoughts and feelings lol. Just a question.
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Posted: 8/20/2006 11:56:28 AM | Post 88
that's not intelligance. thats manipulation. You can train anyone to give the right responses. I have often thought that women should have classes for men, and men for women, EXCEPT! how would you screen out the trained seals from the intellegent people?
To know all the "right" responses that will get you the desired end result will end there. After a short wile, (15 years sometime, hides face in embarrassment), they will figure out that you don't really know what you are talking about, and be gone. Better to do the inside work that allows you to act and speak from your own self rather than re-act according to imprinting and training. Ahhh. Such a man. (sits grinning dreamily) | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 12:23:35 PM | Just to clarify lol I was found innocent of all charges..... was just being honest but the person had been burned before so was more suspicious I guess Sorry about the inadvertant thread drift. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 1:18:27 PM | | Looks can only get u so far.Personaly,I like woman who are at least as intelligent,as me.If she is maybe smarter then me,all the better.I like people I can talk to and learn from.I get bored with just good looks,and need more to keep me interested.I like to talk,and about all kinds of things and like woman who can and do the same. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 4:52:35 PM | Yes, it definitely captures my attention. And its not because of the "topic of the moment" but the anticipation of what's to come. The anticipation of time together, sharing views, stories, dreams, etc. It's engaging. Then, I look for the physical attraction--not pretty, but good stature and body language. Someone well-grounded, confident but not arrogant, goal-oriented, compassionate and energetic. TELL HIM TO CONNECT WITH ME IMMEDIATELY....thanks everyone.
I have a brilliant friend...genius. Can't cook, terrified of dogs, and terrified of being lonely. Intelligence ain't everything. Life is best enjoyed with balance. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 7:37:04 PM | Intelligence can be confusing.... I like men with mensa brains but someone who is defined as a progeny genius, not so sure. My genius friend is fun to talk with and I can learn alot from his varied interests and passions, but he is a bit intense to be with on a one to one basis. He knows of his intensity and was told by a pyschiatrist it comes with the genius brain of his.... So in reflection, I like them with the kind of intelligence born from passion and interest in learning the world and people around them.... just short of genius.
Personally I believe we all do better in relationships when we are matched in intelligence and interests... I am not talking specific - but broader than that so that we can share with one another creating bonds that induce affection in friendship.....
Although lust from physical attraction can win the day.... it does not endure if 2 people really do not communicate...
The intelligent man I seek has compassion born out of experience in life.....and desire to move forward in understanding the world around him. He never quits! | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 7:44:18 PM |
I'll pass on any diabolical evil scientists that want to rune the world.
I will take all evil scientists who want to rune the world with me. We shall cover the world in graffiti consisting entirely of Greek letters.... Muahahahaha. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 7:59:04 PM | Intelligence is a huge motivating factor to me when it comes to someone I opt to stay with for a long time. However, we can’t get confused with higher education and intelligence. Granted, I have a MBA and would love to go to school for the rest of my life because I like to learn. However, some of the smartest people I have met in my travels around the world aren’t necessarily those whom have spent years and years in school.
I have met a man who could survive in any type of wildness situation but never made it farther than 6th grade. I met a homeless man who gave up his 6 figure income because he was smart enough to realize it was ruining his life. Now, he uses the 7 languages he speaks to show people around “his” temple in Tokyo.
The most attractive thing about intelligent people is when they are willing to continue to learn in any way, to share their knowledge and to do good with it. Intelligent conversation rather it be about Shakespeare, Football, or the latest social issue, is a huge turn on for me. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:02:14 PM | There are different ways of looking at intellegence, book smart, street smart and retaining life skills to get you through and be able to raise sociable children.
I accept any of the above but mostly they have to be able to love me and respect me, now that is smart,lol.
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:27:12 PM | | I think it was from a Calvin and Hobbes cartoon where, after getting pounded by a bully, Calvin commented "He's street smart. He knows what street he lives on." | |
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Posted: 8/20/2006 8:28:57 PM | I love an intelligent man, as long as he is not boastful about his intellect. A deep, soulful conversation is very attractive to me. There are some men whom I would never be attracted to on a purely physical level that have piqued my interest because of deep conversation. Now I'm not talking someone who bores me to tears, but someone who is really into what we're discussing, be it politics, religion, the space program, whatever. I need deep to be completely attracted. I have a friend that I dated...he is cute as a button, athletic, built, the works and really funny with a great personality to top it all off. I would not be able to have a relationship with him because he is not intellectual. He's not stupid, he just doesn't go the deep route and to me that leaves a huge gap. Now maybe he does do that, just not with me, who knows, but still if it's not there then I can't do it.
Oh, and I also have tended to go for the nerdy type...I think it's hot! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2006 3:22:38 AM | My former husband was extremely intelligent and I think that was part of what captivated me - however, he was a total A$$ - narcissistic, arrogant and condescending. Eventually, these other "lovely attributes" overshadowed his intelligence. I was rather young when I met him, so I didn't see the other "lovely attributes" right away. Today, I would have seen right thru him and I would not have given him the time of day.
Thank goodness intelligence and arrogance don't always go hand in hand.
The best possible combination is intelligence and humility - a rare find! There is still nothing more captivating than a man who is intelligent and is oblivious about it. This is a huge turn-on... a man who's cerebral yet humble! YOUZZZAAAA | |
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