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Posted: 8/30/2006 9:40:41 AM | It's quite interesting how many people are promoting intelligence here; because I honestly don't see it nearly as often as I hear it being promoted.
Am I always in the wrong place at the wrong time?
Maybe; maybe not....... | |
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Eric48
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Joined: 4/23/2006
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 1/6/2007 10:57:08 AM | Hey that is not true..There is nothing turn me on more than knowing a guy who is smarter than me ..and trust me, lots of guys out there are really "out there" .... I like to talk about lots of stuff, and if a guy can keep up with my thoughts .. he hit a jackpot .. I swear!!!... | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 11:27:24 AM | Intelligence isn't everything. Sometimes you think someone is smart because that person makes you feel sparkling and brilliant. I don't mesh intellectually perfectly with everyone and sometimes when I do, the conversation and the relationship are really all about being dazzling and not about the guts of two people connecting emotionally. The most important thing for me is to connect on many different levels and have a respect for the other person's intelligence even if it isn't the kind that I play off of easily.
And I don't worry about being smarter (or not) than my partner. I don't create competitions where none exist.
Vorpal,
who's adding "extoling one's own genius instead of demonstrating it" to her short list of deal-breakers. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 1:30:55 PM | absolutely!!!!
after all, look at all the bevy of serial killers and strategic mass murders!!! they were all brilliant!!! captivated and chopped up all their quarry :D
so the answer is yes!!!! the answer is always yes!!! | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 3:55:18 PM | | Intelligence is captivating,,but I would put emotional intelligence above it,,like someone said earlier in the thread,,"I am smarter than you attitude" is a total turn off, but someone you can talk about current issues with, thats what it is about, and someone I can take to the compay parties and not be ashamed, someone that can hold her own in most crowds,,for me,,that is a turn on. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 4:11:02 PM | I think the truest way of asking this question is to ask yourself whether you would prefer a relationship with an intellectual partner or a (beautiful, romantic, spiritual, pick any other desired properties for this one). In order to make it even more obvious, make the intellectual partner of your same sex (or of the sex you don't prefer, if any).
Obviously, for many people, it might not be a complete either/or - but the relative weights or preferences assigned will let you answer the question for yourself. If you'd spend a day with Newton, but would rather be with Trinity from the Matrix if you're talking about a life-long relationship - that's an example. | |
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*Illsa
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Joined: 10/10/2006
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:31:59 PM | Is intelligence captivating?...YES!...definately, so long as this intelligence is tempered with spirituality, character and other good inner/outer qualities...
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Posted: 1/6/2007 5:39:28 PM | A good traveler has no fixed plans
and is not intent upon arriving.
A good artist lets his intuition
lead him where ever it wants.
Thus the Master is available to all people
and doesn't reject anyone.
He is ready to use all situations
and doesn't waste anything.
This is called embodying the Light.
What is a good man but a bad mans teacher?
What is a bad man but a good mans job?
If you don't understand this, you will get lost,
However intelligent you are.
It is the great secret.
Lao-tuz
1,000 b.c.
*************
Who can find a good woman, she is precious beyond all things. Her husbands heart trust her completely, she is his greatest reward. --the bible
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Posted: 1/6/2007 6:34:52 PM | Intellegence is just "sexy"... lol
For real. Being able to talk about something without having to point the map, learning something new during a conversation... that's "erotic"...
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Posted: 1/6/2007 8:39:39 PM | A beautiful mind sustains me, challenges me, evokes me, ignites me, thrills me, excites me, enlightens me....... the list goes on.....
And the sad part is that it's becoming that much more difficult to find!
BUT, as another poster said - EQ (emotional intelligence) is also important!!!!!!! -- VERY IMPORTANT!
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Posted: 1/6/2007 8:48:54 PM | Ex-nay with this idiot term "emotional intelligence"!
Try 'emotional maturity', as the proper descriptor.
And while you're at it, you want 'intellectual maturity', as a desired trait as well...
This addresses my friend, Vorpal's excellent point. You are not in competition. And, one should 'walk the walk', rather than 'talk the talk'. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2007 11:33:08 PM | I think people can be "intelligent" on all kinds of levels.......book smart,,business wise,,
emotionally,, street smarts,, being sensitive to others' needs and feelings is a kind of intelligence,,or They can just see eye to eye with me on with politics,,(then they are "very smart" )
Umm..I have not found too, too many men were are not "intelligent enough to date"..Though admittedly, with some, I have to search to dig for what some were intelligent about.
A person can be book smart..Yet have poor social skills or no sense of humor..
While conversation is very important I'll take an upbeat guy with a positive outlook over
a brooding intellectual any time. Intelligence can be captivating.. but there are other traits that I find just as important...if not more so! Ok, I'll admit, if I'm jazzed, attracted and we laugh...I really don't care if he isn't into reading the NY Times op ed pages.
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neil89
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Joined: 8/16/2006
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 1/7/2007 1:24:22 AM | "Is intelligence captivating?"
....Well, it's relative isn't it?. No one *really* wants someone who is *too* intelligent for them. They (we) are intimidated.
Of course, everyone accords themselves a supreme and lofty intelligence in their private inner monologue, just as everyone identifies with the impossible hero in an action flic. It's nonsense naturally. In truth, we arch our selves from too bright an intelligence, as we do our eyes from a mid-day sun. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:10:38 AM | | This is one of my mottos, "Beauty can be feinted, but intelligence never lies." Perfect example (while it is just a commercial), this one Vonage commercial of the blond who thought a group of circling sharks were dolphins and she was going to play with them. Those are the kind of people you just have to pat on the head, give a cookie, and make sure your 3 year old warns them about running with scissors. Intelligence to me is a MUST! I can't handle thinking for me and her at the same time. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 8:35:14 AM | | o.k already,,this is what I mean then,,I would like to talk with someone that has the ability to see the good in both sides, left and right, that is hard to find, most of us are programmed to see the good in one side and the bad in the other, for me, that is a turn off, it is normal prejudice nonsense and unproductive, the truth is in it all. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 10:32:29 AM | Humm, in Silicon Valley, it's not difficult to find men who are intelligent, rich and attractive, but it's hard to find such men who also have good character and a kind heart, want to commit and settle down. Most people seem to focus on superficial stuff when it comes to relationship. It's character, same value system and complementary temperament make a marriage last in harmony.
For those who like to read, I recommend
"Date or Soulmate" and "How to Keep A Date Worth Keeping". | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 10:56:38 AM | I love an intelligent woman......it's not a question of academic proficiency.......nor is it required to be informed on a wide array of topics.......
As long as she's intelligent to "get" me.......and then all else falls into place......n'est ce pas.... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 11:26:40 AM | As someone above me here pointed out, much claim, little substance. Can any of you who claim to be superiorly intelligent back that up with any kind of evidence outside the legend in your mind about yourself? No, of course not. You would not be here wasting your time at a dating site proclaiming your great brains to the world if you really had some. So, just be even posting in this thread you have volunteered to belong in the set of people not smart enough to know how dumb they are. All of you, I say, except for me!!!
ah yes, except for you...from your post you seem to have that emotional intelliegence so oft mention ...?
As for proof..Does a 4.0 Magne Cum Laude Masters .a PhD..and a professsional license as an appraiser count as proof?.. If not, what would be proof?
If being here loking for a mate makes one dumb...ahem ..you're a member yourself. | |
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