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Posted: 1/7/2007 11:40:19 AM | No disrespect intended........you spelled magna cum laude incorrectly........and the same with professional and intelligent.......
As I said.......academic proficiency isn't everything........ | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 11:52:48 AM | It really depends on the nature of the intelligence and how the personality is integrated around the persons capacity for utlizing the type of intelligence they have. There are multiple varieties of intelligence. Often when people think of intelligence they think of it under an umbrella of all the various types combined, but that's simply not very useful in expressing a fondness of "intelligence."
Most human beings have a variety of types, with one type being strongest amongst all their others, while a select few have incredibly high levels across the spectrum. These individuals are rare in contrast to the average. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 11:57:41 AM | I would say yes deep conversation is important indeed at least for me. Substance is the word. I especially love conversing with someone who is well read and perhaps shed light on something I've read, maybe music wise I've heard or a movie I've seen that I never thought of before. In turn I tend give them my perspective on things. Or any issue for that matter. I've had friends in the past who do not have any interests or don't know what to do with a book if it was put in front of them. I've found them to be boring and there's just nothing left to say to them anymore. I never understood how anyone can go through life without having any interests or being able to indulge in a deep conversation. The friendship would just simply die in the end or these are people I wouldn't see that often. I've been pretty lucky in having a few close friends whom I can have the ability to have conversations such as this. It took me awhile to find them, but I did. That's the kind of intelligence I love. Someone with substance. Someone who can communicate with you and share some thoughts about things about themselves or issues surrounding them. Someone can be beautiful on the outside, but if there's nothing in their pretty head of theirs which they can share with me then they do become a bore to me | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 12:28:31 PM | Actually, I think everyone, no matter how academically (and I’m not sure I like that word as a description of a type of intelligence) intelligent they are, desires someone who is intelligent. It's just a matter of type and degree of intelligence that appeals to each of us individually. Is there really anyone here who would say they prefer someone who is not intelligent? That’s just silly.
I see that some of the posters mentioned not wanting someone who was “too” intelligent, or much more intelligent than they themselves were. I think there are people who portray themselves this way. But IMO, they’re actually lacking some of the types of intelligence that make people appealing to us all. They’ve read and memorized, and maybe even learned just enough people skills to make some people feel lesser than them. This type of person appeals to me not at all. And no matter how “intelligent” society dubs them, I think they’re idiots.
I prefer the intelligence that includes the ability to discuss lots of different topics, from both positions of global warming to techniques used in milking a cow…whether or not they have any expertise. But they have the ability and desire to talk and learn, not just from books or classes, but from the people around them. I prefer people who form their own opinions and don’t rely on the opinions of others….that they can quote at will. That’s a turn-off to me.
I prefer a people-smart AND people-liking/accepting type of intelligence…someone who gets along just as well with the owner of your company as he does with the guy who mows your yard, and they both like him.
I prefer someone who knows themself, but who also knows that that “knowing” is ever changing, and would never slap a coat of paint on that knowing and say “done!”
We all want someone intelligent. It’s just finding the type of intelligence that speaks to us individually. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:11:19 PM | No disrespect intended........you spelled magna cum laude incorrectly........and the same with professional and intelligent.......
Not known for my typing unless it counts... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 4:33:56 PM | | Intelligence is very captivating to me. I prefer men who are interested in many different things, who will listen to different viewpoints although they stand firm on what they believe, and who have "social intelligence", a term I use when they can and will talk and listen to people from all walks of life without condescention. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 6:21:49 PM | | Intelligence is really important to me. The more intelligent the better. And if she's smart and interested in current events, not just celebrity gossip, then I'm hooked. I'm a pretty patient guy, but I have a hard time with the "dumb blond" types. I don't think I could have a serious relationship with somebody who was truly dumb, no matter how attractive or nice that person was. I'm looking for a partner, not a pet. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 8:17:59 PM | I got a 25/30 on the "Smart or Stoopid" test... My ideal woman would score at LEAST an 8...
But seriously, in all honesty, I consider myself the smartest person in a room until I'm proven otherwise (and I rarely am). I would kiss the feet of a woman who could pull off this feat...
Really, intelligence is like looks for me. It's an ingredient in a dish called women. In some women it's the 2 tbsp. of salt, in other women it's the 6 cups of flour. Sure, it's a factor, but all women are different, and weighing it against her other traits is the best way to go.
In closing, I'd just like to say the the "Educational Institution" that gave my ex a degree should have it's accreditation revoked. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2007 10:14:54 PM | Intelligence is great, and knowing how and when to use it is better! It's one thing to be intelligent and to think therefore you're better than everyone else, cause that just makes you look like an ass! Being able to hold a conversation is a definite plus, especially for me. I have many friends who don't know everything, but that'd be boring if they did. I still love them all, and if I can teach them something and they can teach me something, then big bonus! Intelligence isn't just what you've learned in a post-secondary institution, it's what you've learned in life and taken from those experiences. One of the most interesting people I knew was someone who didn't go to university or college, but what he'd done with his life and learned through it made him very intelligent!
Mental attraction is part of the package, and can make someone that much more appealing, whether they have all the looks wrapped up or not. I've often found good looking guys who couldn't hold a decent conversation less appealing than an average guy who I could talk till 4am with! With me, looks can get better if I like your personality, and with that, your smarts! | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 6:48:45 PM | I couldn't agree more. Some college graduate guys cant even hold a decent conversation with me sometimes . I do believe in people learning from life and such, so a guy with good common knowledge is still more intelligently attractive to me than a guy who cant think anything further than his nose....I dunno where I got that expression from, but again, English is my second language, so I did my best, people.... | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 7:10:41 PM | | It doesn't matter how good you smell or how blond your hair is (my personal preference), if you're not current on politics and think "becuse", "grammer", "fone", and "intelligint" are spelled properly, then you might as well look like Don King. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 9:04:33 PM | Unfortunately it is sometimes the case that really intelligent people are more messed up than regular folk .
There is something about the modern intelligent person that often makes them full of anxiety and never satisfied and driven toward's materialism,ego,"success" .... the wrong sort's of goal's.
Often it is the down to earth regular folk who are more in touch with what is deep and real and important. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 4:50:06 AM | | I used to like girls that were a bit, well.. stupid. After meeting a few that had intelligence I started to really enjoy the fact she could follow my way of thinking. After that settled in I realized that the mind can be just as much aroused. Here on the forums it is what I look for more then anything else. Just a sharp witted women that can hold her own. Not only do they make for excellent partners, it makes for great friends. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 5:46:01 AM | Have run across some people (men and women) who appear in intelligent - until they start to speak
Best thing to describe them is that their diagonally parked in a parallel universe. | |
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| Is Intelligence Captivating...............
Posted: 1/9/2007 11:24:55 AM | Intelligence is such an ambiguous term. There are book smarts and street smarts. Some people are very intuitive and can read people very well. Some people can be musically or mathmatically brilliant but couldn't talk about anything else. I've known engineers that are brain dead in any field than their area of expertise. Some people are very creative (another ambiguous term). They have a wealth of ideas without being particularly intelligent.
But for me Intelligence, a well rounded thirst for knowlegde combined with some deeply contemplated perspectives, is a huge aphrodisiac. Anyone who can challenge my thought processes in intriguing and terminally sexy.
Conversely, I read a lot of profiles that say they're looking for a smart, funny guy but they really just want the pool boy. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:08:39 PM | I think we all understand the varying levels or "types" of Intelligence...
The real point of this thread is quite simple....
Would you base your choice of Life Partner on Intelligence?.....of course there
are a multitude of other factors, but I am really talking about "making" a
choice here.....
Would you settle?......
Many people have hit the nail right on the head with comment similar to this....
"I took them to a company party, They where able to discuss current events, able to intellectually stimulate those around him/her, and not fall into an alcohol derived
"wisdom"......."...
I stand by my choice that looks carry little, of course physical fitness is important, but when "life partners" are considered, to me........
..........Intelligence Is Captivating!!!!............
Did someone say panties wet?.........lol
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:15:25 PM | Would I settle? Sure I'd settle for a super model with a low IQ, that's what you're asking right? Yup, I sure would. Now where are the keys to my Ferrari? *looks around*  | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:23:01 PM | | Intellegence is captivating, however, the ability to use it, and lets face it, having the discretion of when not to use it is important. So, the girl of my dreams can use her intellegence in her career and in general - and if she can combine it with humour and good looks (I like the girl next door type) I'm pretty much sold. If she has got the glasses, I may just go out and buy the ring. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:26:12 PM | edit...^^^^hear ya ab.........O Yes......I hear Ya.................!
It would not last Blue and you know it.....
I've dated the "type"...make no mistake.....people have gotten tired of Alba...!
I'm talking "life".......
To settle for simply visual has led us all to uhhh....here?...
Really.......if she can stimulate me beyond "me"....then I will be hooked....
To bad for many of us here, that we have "settled"....... | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:37:16 PM | I believe an intelligent man is not only one who's rooms are decorated with various academic diplomas. I'm not saying it's not good, but knowing things and actually being able to transform that knowledge to words and use them in a conversation, in a debate, are two different things.
I dated the type once. i was not attracted to him, but his ability to transform every tense silence in an enjoyable conversation encouraged me to keep him as a very god friend. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 3:48:16 PM |
Intellegence is captivating, however, the ability to use it, and lets face it, having the discretion of when not to use it is important.
*squint*
So what are you saying here? She should know when to be dumb as well?
I really dislike disingenuous people. Maybe you mean the quiet intelligence type.
Give me quiet smarts, the kind that doesn't need to be pulled out and worn like cheap bling. The "still, deep waters" type tends to be balanced perspective, maturity, wisdom.
People worth a careful listen. People who understand the value of unspoken logic in a long thoughtful pause in conversation, like a digestive aid. People who pull you out of your comfort-zone of stoic logic, spin your head a little...permute your view of the world, stretch its boundaries, just a tad.
Yeah, people who make their mark on us. Quiet-like, without fanfare. Thats what I admire and seek out, when I think of 'captivating intelligence'. | |
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