| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 8/20/2006 6:26:56 AM | | yes i heard/ read its an emotional problem within the cheater that causes him/her to cheat and it has nothing to do with looks or weight. they will always cheat until they get emotionally fit. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 8/21/2006 6:00:31 PM | | well, consider this. You can't tell a book by it's cover. Some women look drop dead gorgeous when out and about, but get them behind closed doors and they sometimes become the biggest beeyotches that could ever walk the planet. My exwife was a case in point. So, how could men leave such women?? EASILY!! | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 8/21/2006 9:25:43 PM | | The current relationship may be over, they're just not out of it yet. There's always the spontaneity factor, too. Charles may not have smiled as much with Di as he does with Camilia. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 8/22/2006 6:33:53 AM | This usually happens if the new girl has somehting that the current girl doesn't have!
It could be also the that that the current girl is unwilling to give efforts in order to work the relationship or trying to control the guy...etc
A smart girl usually undirectly manages to stop the guy from going for the new one, how? simply by eliminating the resons! | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 8/24/2006 3:00:08 PM | Having had exactly that happen to me, I guess I can speak to some of the points raised here. Apparently, according to the latest survey, 40% of women have cheated at some point & 60% of men have. My ex was consistently abusive over the 15 years we were together which I tried to rationalise was due to lack of monies, stress, etc & I always fervently hoped that once he got to the management position he craved so much that he would finally be a happier, more relaxed person, & enjoy our life together. He worked out of town & the kids & I would go crazy trying to make sure everything was perfect for his pending arrival. Apparently not...being unable to find a particular tool would still be justification for throwing their bikes all over the garage, or ripping out the bannister rail....so, I say, if he found me a "beeeyotch" at home, it's no wonder. In the beginning, I was very suspicious of him...I had known him for 12 years before. So, I think now, in retrospect, it was just a challenge to get me & now can no longer resist the challenge to get another. In fact, I'm thinking, he probably had several flings along the way. He's extremely arrogant & cold person but occasionally a nicer guy would peek through. Maybe he's got that "Split Personality" syndrome...? It's a shame the pain he's caused our boys, & he knows it having refused to even visit them the 1st year & half after he left! He left me the night I had an angiogram done to check for cerebral aneurysm & refused to come home & explain to the boys he was leaving-left me to do that on my own. All he had to do was consistently be a nice guy instead of a consistent pr_ck, and we would've had the happiest, warmest homelife around. In retrospect, I know I should've stuck with my gut instinct & not hooked up with him, in the 1st place but he was such a good dad to my 1st son.....sigh, gorgeous blue eyes, listened so well back then..we talked all night. In later yrs, I heard him advising the 15 year old to "pretend to be a good listener"!? If I'da known then......! He changes jobs every 5/6 years as well, much to his employers' unhappiness...the last time I'm sure was because of the Other Woman. So, I'm saying that these folks who do this, marry for the wrong reasons to begin with or are completely unable to keep a commitment; and they certainly don't care who they hurt in the process. Prince Charles knew he loved Camilla & knew he shouldn't marry Diana feeling as he did about Camilla-cold hearted SOB. Why Diana married him knowing this is beyond anyone's intelligence. I assume she was dumb like me. BTW, I certainly think Charles & Camilla are well-suited to each other in the looks deptmt- a better match couldn't be found.  | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:41:13 PM | Women do this too... this isn't just one sided.
Sometimes when we meet someone we are both on the same page in everyway our likes and dislikes, what we like to do for fun etc. ( what we have incommon )
Then just like humans do... we Grow..... sometimes together.... and sometimes apart
Just because you have been together for 20 years doesn't mean you are identical in everyway
in every thought. Sometimes when we grow our likes and dislikes change as well and we feel we no longer have the same things in common that we used to... It's not anyones fault really it just happens. ( falling out of love )
It's how you handle the situation that is important, like steping outside the relationship finding someone else then trying to end it.The better way is to End it first then...move on
Also trying to hold on to a relationship that is over.... only ends up hurting everyone involved I like to call this one Hostage taking not being able to set the one you love /or yourself free.
Here's the other thing even though sometimes we know what the right thing to do is
we get so emotionally involved in our on problems that we can't see clearly until it over
and thats very unfournate like hind sight is 20/20. All we can do as humans is live and learn from our mistakes, and know if I ever have this situation again I know what the right thing to do is..... | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:47:10 PM | | If Prince Charles wasn't such an idiot and if his family weren't such morons, his romance with Camilla would go down as one of the greatest love stories of all time. I mean, here we have a Prince who was in love with this plain, unattractive woman long before he was pressured by his family to marry the young beautiful nutcase. Diana turned out to be a seriously disturbed and emotionally unstable individual and Prince Charles ends up with Camilla. Gosh, he chose brains over beauty. Isn't that what 75% of the women on this site claim NEVER happens? | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/15/2006 3:51:45 PM | The OP was totally about looks and appearances. Appearances can be deceiving and people are much more than a good looking or not good looking shell. Relationships based on the superficial such as looks, money, power, sex, hardly ever last. A public appearance is one thing, when it's all said and done only the two people involved truly know what the relationship is all about. If it's not based on compatability and mutual respect it's destined to end.  | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/15/2006 6:59:54 PM | | You are defining " better " in superficial terms, as in " looks ". There are many women out there who may not be so pretty or attractive on the outside, but they have something about them that gets to the men. The " plain Janes " could be bombshells in the bedroom, they might even have that amazing spark, they might even tantalize a man physically by virtues of how smart they are....it goes on and on. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 8:51:30 AM |
Is a new sex partner worth the sadness it is going to cause, losing the current relationship?
For some men, this excitement is worth the risk. Most assume that they'll never be caught anyway. If Monica Lewinsky hadn't made any noise, we'd never have know about Paula Jones or Jennifer Flowers. And the same holds for the unknown man who run around behind their "baby's mama's" back. No one expects to cheat and get caught! They always expect it to last forever, and no one will know he's doing it.
As for why it happens, I don't really know either. I've done some research, but the answers were too broad, and it seems that everything can be used as an excuse. Not attracted anymore, bored, met someone better, had a fight, got drunk, got high, wife got drunk or high, blah-- people cheat, we don't know exactly why. Even the men I claimed as friends who cheated on their women couldn't quite explain why it was being done.
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:18:19 AM | I'd assume at that age LOOKS aren't everything.
I've noticed in my old age that my take on what makes a woman attractive, as far as long term relationships go, differs greatly from when I was 18. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:26:14 AM |
Why do some men leave a nice good looking woman for another woman that is not as nice as the one they have at home I mean pretty inside and out. Such as Prince Charles leaves lady Di for Camilia.
What are you, 12 years old? more likely just not honest with yourself. women cheat just as much as men, if not more. true, in my experience, women are more likely to have one-night stands or keep it a secret and not leave the man they are with, but please don't perpetuate this ridiculous mixup of the topic of people having sex outside their relationship and the VERY SEPARATE topic of whether they choose to keep the relationship. Why are men more likely to leave their current relationship WHEN they are having an affair? because men are in general more sentimental, thats my answer. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 11:16:33 AM | Yeah, women do this too.
My ex used to whine at me at the beginning of our relationship of how she used to be better at everything than all of her friends, be they guys or gals... then I came along.
At the end of our relationship she complained that I was responsible for her low self-esteem, even though I never even looked at other women, carried my weight in the relationship and constantly complimented her.
She ended up leaving me for a complete loser with nothing on me... or most other guys. She said that his prescence makes her feel good about herself. Okay. Whatever turns her crank.
Me, I'm more of a "time in" type person. Unless the relationship I'm in is really bad and unrepairable, I place alot of value on the ground covered in a relationship. Good times, badtimes, I had her back, she had mine, etc. It all represents an investment. And it would take a helluvalot more than a pretty face and a bouncing set of, well, you know, to make me betray.
It's just novelty anyway. Novelty wears off, and even the most gorgeous woman is familair ground after a few months. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 12:08:22 PM | Either they want and need something more than pretty and nice, or they no longer consider the one pretty and nice. And/or other negative factors out weigh the pretty and nice part.
Just because you view someone as something, doesn't mean someone else makes the same observations and interpretations.
Btw. Hilary Clinton is not a great catch. Very FAR from it in my view. Just as far as Monica and Paula, if not more so. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 1:32:09 PM | | Just because a woman is pretty does not mean she's a good person. That being said, I don't think that the man should dump her for another woman, so much as end the relationship maturely and move on. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 12/16/2006 8:45:05 PM | I am sure some women do the same.
Men cheat......yes, without DOUBT, but women have their own
unique way of doing it. They line up another guy
on the side....not exactly cheating but they flirt like mad and once
they are convinced that this new guy is interested, they talk
about "space" and moving on.
Such as Prince Charles leaves lady Di for Camilia. Or clinton out with Paula Jone
Don't forget Brad Pitt.....yes, even the pretty one's cheat. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 1/21/2007 2:32:34 PM | Ok, so sometimes maybe there are valid reasons to leave a relationship for someone else....but what if there are children involved? What examples does it set? A bad one? or one that shows them to follow their heart, or does it show a lack of commitment?
Also, I'm not sure it's always just they found something better and left...in most cases there was something wrong with the relationship before someone else comes along..that someone else just gives someone the balls or the push to leave a relationship that is not giving them what they want. | |
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| men leaving their current woman for another woman
Posted: 1/21/2007 4:32:29 PM | I have never done this... Never cheated too.
It is better to work things out with your current partner... or if nothing works talk to him/her and tell why you think you should get separated.
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Posted: 1/21/2007 7:03:08 PM | OP...it has nothing to do with looks...or appearance as you think you know it.
Every situation is different but usually men at that age/stage in life where they are cheating on a wife are not looking for someone prettier, but someone that stimulates them or provides that chemistry that has been lost or never existed with the wife.
Besides beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. What one man or men find attractive is usually not what a woman may find attractive. Men who have been deprived of intimacy sniff out women who emanate sensual allure. That may not necessarily be the most attractive woman in the room to everyone. But it is more instinct than anything.
Like Nowhere Man pointed out...and everyone knows Prince Charles was courting Camilla long before Diana ever came along. Prince Charles and Lady Diana were an arranged marriage for the Monarchy. That is not a viable example. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 7:22:34 PM | | Luckily, I haven't been in a cheating relationship, but as I'm sure many have found out, the grass isn't any greener....... and your life is about to become a living hell..... I've said this on another post. If you cheat, there is no hell hot enough for you....male or female...... | |
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