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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 6/16/2005 6:57:57 PM | @nikki You're certainly entitled to your opinion...but i think my words went over your head hun, thought i was being reasonable... certainly might be good rule of thumb for you but... never say never..cause you never know. | |
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ticky
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Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 382 | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 6/16/2005 7:20:28 PM | just curious nikki,
I think you should have to do something for the welfare money you are recieving. if you have kids , maybe you could put in time at a child care center | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 6/16/2005 9:43:30 PM | | Depending on the reasons yes I would give them a chance. If they had a disabled child, or was ill. Is a very good reason I think welfare is there for honest reasons and it is a shame so many abuse it. | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/11/2005 6:46:12 PM | It's a totally "self-policing" situation.
The guys that run from you... *SHOULD* run from you.
(For their good... and definitely for YOUR good. Why would you want someone
that can't accept who you are?) When someone avoids you... you both win.
The guys that run *TOWARDS* you... will find you. (With your help.)
You both win.
Your only "job" is to "be what you are".... and don't worry about the rest.
You can't change the past.
P.S.
If I could... I *NEVER* have eaten so much paste in 1st grade. | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/11/2005 6:54:13 PM | | Yes I would...don't feel like elaborating much, but, loving someone when things are great is easy...its the hard times that show who you really are! And if you can't like someone for it...oh well... | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/11/2005 6:58:06 PM | Think about it, require all people on welfare to show reciepts of how ALL their money was spent, if they cant proove 90% of it went to needed goods, they loose their check.
At least in North Carolina the checks people get are so small, they have to go for needed things.
Require parents collecting welfare for children to proove that 70% of that money went to childs goods. (70% cause Advil cant be counted as childs good LOL)
Money that parents get aren't just for as you put it child goods, but also for things such as rent. The money they get in the form of a welfare check is for the household needs too. Maybe it would bother you that a young single mom with no one to help her, was able to buy herself a bit of things from time to time also, but it doesn't me.
Require every person on welfare to report to the unemployment office weekly and require that office to give a report on that person. (even disabled people can find jobs, they just need the right job)
In North Carolina people on welfare have to apply for at least 3 jobs a week, report once a month, and this is shared with dss.
and Im sorry, But I dont feel welfare should help you support a lifestyle. Lifestyles need to change with finances. I gave up a lot when I moved out on my own.
A lot of times women end up on welfare, because of husbands walking out on them. You just have you. Try have you and four children, and see how easy it would be to work two jobs, or even if it would be worth it. The best thing for all in cases like that is for the women to take advantage of welfare, get a better education, then she is far less likely to need welfare again, as a result saving money for everyone in the long run.
ALSO any person who violates the child welfare idea should have their children taken from them. Children should NOT have to suffer cause of dead beat parents.
After they take the children, I guess you will be more than happy to take care of them.
I can agree that welfare should never be a way of life, but it should be there for when people truly need it. There should always be a safety net. Spouses leave, jobs end, people have medical problems just to name a few reasons.
As to the original question, if I meant someone the fact that they were on welfare would not stop me from dating them. | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/11/2005 9:16:05 PM | It would depend on the situation..... To me it dont matter what a guy does for a living .. he can be a gas station attendant, work at mcdonalds, a lawyer it dont matter as long as they can support themselfs.
I was working from 16 till just last summer and i do plan on working again ....But I am not working at the moment. I am getting by with what i have and i have no problems with it..and if im ok with the way my life is what should it matter to the guy?
most of the times when i tell a guy that i am a single mom and not working at the moment they take off.... (most guys think im looking for someone to take care of me ) i am not looking for a sugar daddy or a father for my child... she has one ..a very good one...and i wasnt a girl who got knocked up i was married and she was planned. the marriage ended so now im a single mother of a 5 year old and she is only in school half days ... so even if i went to get a part time job by the time i pay a daycare or sitter for her i will have nothing left so whats the point?
I am just taking some time off to be with her till she goes to school full days.. if a guy has a problem with that ... i dont want him anyways lol
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/11/2005 10:47:30 PM |
..being on welfare for me was embarrassing because i felt like i was being looked down on.
..i mean, just the other day, i heard 2 cashiers bashing this lady that had just left the store, dressed all nice, and rolling in a mercedes, with a dam food stamp card
Now,lets see,being on welfare was embarassing to you and you felt "looked down upon".Yet YOU state that you were in a difficult place and time and trying to get in a better situation right? If this is the case,why not have MORE compassion and understanding rather than looking down upon them yourself?
To the latter quote:
1)How do YOU or the cashiers KNOW what a customer in a store was driving? More importatnly how would you know WHO it belonged to? Should welfare recipients be shuned by those who do well financially?
2)Doesn't the fact that they were "bashing" a customer let you know of the mentality(or lack of) of the cashiers?
3)Should all welfare reciprients ONLY go to thrift shops and ONLY buy clothing that suits a welfare reciprient "look" from those stores?
Come on now,I believe you misplace your resentment as I alluded to in an earlier post.
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rocboy
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Joined: 7/5/2005
Msg: 395 | |
| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/11/2005 11:35:34 PM | if someone on welfare because they don't want to work and do want to take advantage of the system; i wouldn't date them. there are too many people freeloading off the system. i know of people who've legitimately needed help, but had to wait because of the backlog of people on welfare, in subsidized housing etc... it seems that many of the refugees we've taken in in recent years are on welfare and many live in subsidized housing. not all, but many...
i don't know about what clothing is suitable for welfare recipients, but i'll tell you this: even working i don't have too much money to spend on clothes or mercedes's. | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/12/2005 2:05:49 AM | | it should never be about money, status, or any other materialistic b.s. How many people on here say that they being now divorced want the right person? there are people on here that know that finances are not the answer to happiness. Without the right person being in debt or living poor can be a nightmare, conversely being well off can be a nightmare also. rich or poor, you have to have the right person. or else you will end up back here. Don't look on financial means, when you start to get involved, talk about them, begin to blend your lives together slowly, and help each other grow. Just because one has been more fortunate doesn't mean the other is not qualified. | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:19:43 PM | I think the problem is you are comparing generals when debating specifics,...
Your experience is of a specific person,...which has no wiggle room for (to compare to) someone like wolf,...
I'm here to tell you no one dreams at 22 of being forced into that situation at 52,.....there are many ways of getting there ,....and many of them are due to NO fault whatsoever, of the person,....that being said,...
In the case of your specific,....I think just asking the questions ( the way you have) means to me that you already have the answer and are merely looking for validation,...perhaps because you have become attached to the child in the picture or perhaps because your feelings for the lady have diminished. You seem to want someone to say it's ok not to go back,...
The fact is,.. it's a mute point,...fair or not fair,...you DO have the right not to go back,....
It is your life,....and until proven otherwise it's the only one your going to have,...
you have to live it,....
In answer to your question,...I date people,...not their circumstances,....
Remember the author of the Harry Potter books was on welfare for 6 years,..now look at her.
circumstances change,.....how you overcome them,..develops character,.....  | |
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| Would you date someone who is on welfare?
Posted: 8/20/2005 6:38:22 PM | | Hi to everyone... You don't date someone because they are on welfare, you date them because you are attracted to them lol ! What has a persons economic status to do with whether or not you decide to go out on a date with them? As for those people who seem to view that a persons social and economic situation is of some sort of relevance, I feel very sorry for you. Often, women get blamed for being on welfare, usually by the right wing media, and a lot of the time by men and women who view their situation as freeloading. But consider this. It is usually the male that abandons the relationship as well as their family, and not the female. Women tend to stay behind and care for their children whilst the men walk away from their responsibilities towards their children as well as to their partner. This occurs the world over, and is not confined solely to the western hemisphere. As a tax payer in the UK, I am grateful that part of our taxes go to support single parent families, for without such support, there would be even more children suffering from exceptional hardship. In a civilised society, it behoves us all to consider in full, the circumstances behind each and every situation, before choosing to make sweeping statements. ~~ Poverty is like punishment for a crime you didn't commit. ~Eli Khamarov, Lives of the Cognoscenti. ~~ The poverty of our century is unlike that of any other. It is not, as poverty was before, the result of natural scarcity, but of a set of priorities imposed upon the rest of the world by the rich. Consequently, the modern poor are not pitied...but written off as trash. The twentieth-century consumer economy has produced the first culture for which a beggar is a reminder of nothing. ~John Berger. ~~The poor are poor because the rich are rich. It would be nice if the poor were to get even half of the money that is spent in studying them. ~Bill Vaughan. So ladies, whatever your current circumstances, date whomsoever you please, and if you happen to be on welfare... make sure your date foots the bill!! | |
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