| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 11/28/2005 3:28:49 PM | There are just some people in this world who should probably remain single for the rest of their lives and I think my ex is one of them. He's actually been single since we broke up and thinks he may remain that way.
I'm trying to break this down cuz it seems like so much hehe. Basically, he is a good guy but when you put him in an intimate relationship he turns into a narcissist.
He just criticized me non-stop over the most stupid things like I didn't hang my jacket on the proper designated hook or I was turning the taps off too fast. Stuff like this would actually agitate him to anger. Yeah, I realize NOW its OCD but when we started living together I just thought I must be a slob or something and really did try to do things his way. But living with someone with OCD can be really hard...especially if they are convinced their way of doing things is right.
Eventually the criticisms started to crack my self-esteem so I moved out. It was really hard though because I knew he was sick and felt like I was abandoning him but I couldn't stay any longer or it was going to crush me. I still don't hate him but once you establish those patterns with a person its sets a certain tone. We still have a difficult time being in the same room together because if he's in a certain mood he will start in on me. Its like he can't control himself.
We still stay in contact though because before we dated for 2 years we were friends for 5. We check in to make sure each other is doing ok and have a coffee occassionaly. I wouldn't call us friends but I wouldn't call us enemies either. We just know each other both better than other people know us so we will sometimes call each other when we are going through a tough go. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 11/30/2005 12:11:56 PM | I was engaged to the man I knew I could spend the rest of my life with.
I was totally in love, and I thought he was too.
But then he dropped a bomb on me that devistated my whole life!
"Listen, I've only been with you, and you've only been with me... I think we need to take a break and experience life."
Of course, what he meant was, test the water... sleep around a bit.
And I thought manogamy was a good thing...
So, its over. It was painful for a long time. But now I've realized that maybe he was right.
If he needed to get that out of his system, I'm glad he didn't marry me! He probably would have cheated!
As for me, I've move on. And I won't be inviting him back!
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/3/2005 8:07:05 AM | | The last relationship I was in ended with a mutual admission of lack of "SparK". Although we still talk from time to time. There just wasnt that magic of love. Oh well. Maybe next time. There is always hope. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/3/2005 8:51:18 AM | In retrospect, my last relationship ended just about as soon as it began, but I somehow managed to make it last for 7 years.
My ex had several severe problems I was unaware of at the time we tied the knot. Only after we married did I find out about: not knowing her biological father issues, mental health issues, multi-layered abuse in a past relationship issues, and a whole whack of trust/insecurity issues stemming from these.
In a nutshell, I moved away from my home and country to be with my ex. A few weeks after we married my gut instinct told me I had gotten into something I did not want to be in. I informed my ex that this would not work, and that I was going to leave. She pleaded with me to stay...going as far as to say I'd regret leaving. To this day I am still not certain what it was that caused me to stay: morbid curiousity or a sense of duty to fulfill my commitment to her. Anyway, I stayed.
For about 6 years I struggled with her to seek help for her past. I let it be known that her past was haunting the relationship, and might one day be the downfall of it. It was an almost monthly struggle, but rarely if ever did we fight, which was a relief to me.
About a year before the marriage fell apart I simply stopped trying. I got tired of insisting that she seek help only to have her half-heartedly agree to get help at the time of the conversation, and by the next day her interest in seeking help would dissolve into apathy. Essentially, I went on fixer/mender sabbatical waiting to see what developed.
What developed was her cheating on me, and leaving the marriage for the lust of a 19 year old kid on the internet. I made one last overture towards seeking counselling only to have her shoot it down. I kicked her out of the house the same day. | |
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Joined: 11/7/2005
Msg: 354 | |
| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/3/2005 9:28:04 AM | Love and hate is the same kind of energy, relationship ended with the latter.
Something about me being a 'demon'.. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/4/2005 5:35:29 AM | I'll marry you buff 
my last relationship ended cause according to him I had a bitter, negative attitude. Probably caused by the fact that he was a lying, cheating, critical, party-boy type who was always checking out other women, LOL... so much for that, he still calls me even though I kicked his sorry *ss to the curb. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/10/2005 2:20:51 AM | | Where do I start? He is an alcoholic/drug abuser, he crashed my car (hit & run) and I had to pay the damages on the other car, he didn't work and sat on my couch all day eating my food while I was at work, he stole from me, need I say more? | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/13/2005 9:38:01 AM | - It was long distance ( Thank God it was! )
- He stank...seriously, he physically stank so bad! The relationship started failing bc I didn't want to be around him at all and he wondered why..I didn't have the heart to tell him, but I wish I did.
- He had behavioural issues ( He had some serious road rage and threw bottles in a fast moving car, hitting the people inside, yelling at people in their faces. I was so embarassed..dumped him right away )
- He was a pathetic liar. He said he was CIA and he had to go on " special missions "...that's when I just said ugh...quit. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/13/2005 10:55:54 AM | Try dating an Irish-catholic virgin with sexual-repression issues and see how long you last  Seriously though, sweet girl so long as she was sober, a bit of the old moonshine brought out her Irish fury and then I would simply have to avoid her. Cared about her a fair deal, but when she finally confessed she was a virgin after the first month of our relationship (and she had hinted to the contrary all throughout the initial courtship), I was taken aback but fine with it... I don't mind waiting a bit for someone worthwhile, so long as they're not waiting for marriage (I'm a firm believer in test-driving before you buy  )
Four more months went by without me pressuring her, trying to be supportive and help her discover her sexuality at her own pace without shame, but five months of effort was not enough to break down Mommy & Daddy's repressive upbringing and I just had to call it quits due to cultural differences: she was a virgin that believed sex an impure thing to be ashamed of, I believe sex is a healthy and enjoyable act that should be engaged in whenever if you care about someone (and even sometimes when you don't )
I could have dealt with that attitude back when I was in my teens, but I was 25 at the time and anything BUT a virgin, and she was 24, which surprised the hell out of me that she hadn't had sex yet... But then again maybe they do things differently on that end of the Atlantic  | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/13/2005 11:16:41 AM | First, I was smart & had our marriage annul.
Afterwards, I believe that I need to see a shrink?
Because I only suffer the abuse & her betrayal as she slept around.
Until I woke up 14 years later with a tune in both my heart & head...
"Free Bird & Baby it's too late"
Turned in my PhD of Dr.Ruth & Dr Phil cert.
Gave my 30 days notice for a divorce & moved. 
Err? The Topic? "WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?"
Oooooh~ I could say that it was either Lust & Compromise was the foundation...
Or I gave too much info of my past & she had a big mouth.
But the bottom line was...Yes we were Both Lovers & Husband/Wife...
Yet we were never Friends. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/13/2005 1:02:52 PM | | Well, I joined the Army so that we could have enough money to put her through school and get a good % of a house bought before having kids. We were buying a home but it was quite smalland old. So We made the choice to do a long-dis thing until I was posted on to a base. About a year into my training we started to fight, not over big things but little stuff, like how I was saying "hello" and calling her my Dear and not hunny silly things like that. My X was a sweetheart, she would always do the right thing but was very lazy, she played pc a lot and lost her job and did nothing for about 8 months. This was very hard on me because I was doing 12 hour days and then going to the gym to workout and she would get up at noon and not look for a job. This was the killing blow, I began to ask all nice and stuff "Please look for a job my love" which became "Look for a job dear" and after 6 months it was "look for a job now, because the bills are all over due and we are poor", to "look for a job or look for a new bf because our credit is going down the tube!!!!!" Saying this was the dumbest thing and the smartest thing that I ever did. lol We had grew apart to much, I was all about investing and getting ready for kids and she was all about some strange roll playing game that she played for hours a day. I still miss her very much but I need someone to help reach my goals not drag me down. Too bad were not on speaking terms any more because she was my best friend......but she took my DOG out of spite so it's hard to be friendly even after 3 1/2 years! But I did learn alot from her and I wish her the best. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/16/2005 7:14:37 PM | We were supposed to be watching a football game. He got drunk, kept trying to get me into bed even though I said "No, I was having my period." Wanted to do it anyway. Yuck! Started insulting me and called me fat. I told him where to go, and I left.
When I got home, he had left messages for me, ordering me to come back and ****ing me out. I sent him a letter and broke it off.
That was over three years ago. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/16/2005 8:01:57 PM | | After living together for almost 2 years I started feeling more like his mom than his gf...he was passive and uninvolved...and eventually I got tired of feeling "convenient" rather than loved or appreciated. I deserved better, so I left. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/16/2005 8:44:00 PM | My long term relationship ended when my husband passed away. When I re entered the dating field, I met one guy in particular with whom it looked serious. It was a long distance relationship (grateful about that at the end). He was a good human being, but with lots of problems and still reliving his past through me. We were very good together in bed, and that was about it. We not only had different values or interests, but some important ones were also opposite. Then, I found out he was still doing the internet sites, chats and that sort of things, and that was the icing on the cake. Any doubts or tribulations about leaving my life behind to relocate and start all over again were gone in a couple of months, while trying to 'rescue' the relationship.
He needed an erotic mother (I can be erotic, but I am past my motherly duties) and a sexy nanny in mother's absence. Even without the cybering, I understand that it wouldn't have lasted anyway. He was too needy and self centered for my preference.
So, back to the drawing table, and using the colour pencils that I love.
Have fun
Trix
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leo210
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Joined: 11/13/2005
Msg: 369 | |
| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/16/2005 9:59:53 PM | | my last relationship ended when the police lady arrested her,see she had this silly notion that it was ok to dig her finger nails into my face.funny almost all women i have had relationships have either hit,scratched or used objects to hit me with,now dont get me wrong ,im a big guy and ive used colorful language in an arguement here and there but i absolutely do not hit any one when i dont get my way,its simply something i will not do,let alone get away with.i guess they think im so big and strong they think they can hit,and they show no remorse.now this doesnt make me dry up and blow away,but i dont have to tolerate it either. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/19/2005 8:00:28 PM | | simple incompatibilty issues, some communication breakdowns...other than that i'm not entirely sure...property lines split 50/50...who knows?? sometimes you're just not on the same page in life and the wheels come right off...we both did the best that we could with what we had...end of story... | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 12/19/2005 9:03:48 PM | | he had issues...mamas boy, wanted a wife to have his kids and stay home and have supper on the table, anal about most things, worried about other peoples problems which gave him an ulcer....u cant expect to change someone who is set in her ways, im a very independent person who has had to work most of her adult life to support a child, and for him to expect me to stay home and make babies....i didnt think so..im not saying im a better person but u cant change no one even how hard u try | |
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