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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 3/27/2009 5:11:49 AM | relationships either live on through the struggles and successes of committed loving effort or relationships eventually die in all the tormenting ways of shallow uncommitted love.... doesn't matter who is to blame cause believe me there is always two sides to every relationship story....and even if your side is mostly true and you are blameless, the relationship is over or should be over...both share some portion of relationship failure
when i look past the negative experiences that dominate my memories, i have to admit i had fresh, hopeful excitement for each new relationship ... as i grow older , i am not shocked that relationships will end....i am amazed how such great beginnings eventually fade to black....
finally , if there is any virtue or any praise i think of only the wonderful times because hurt and hate is unhealthy for the soul....if it is better to have loved than to never have love at all....then it is better to have failed relationships rather than to never have relationships at all....hell yes i'm waiting on my next heartbreak
and to answer the question....my last relationship failed cause she said we weren't compatible anymore after five months together...a month after we split up she was married and calling me on the side....lucky me...poor happy | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 3/27/2009 7:38:30 AM | Looking back, I'm not even sure if you could call it a relationship, but for whatever it was...it ended for the most part because he was still living in the same house with his wife, although they had separated lives, he slept downstairs, she slept upstairs..each did their own thing, etc etc, and neither one wanted to take to take steps to change their situation. I couldn't even get him to give me an emotional commitment..There are those who realize what they are doing doesn't work, and take steps to change it, and then there are those who only think about changing it, but never do. And to anyone who might be wondering, this marriage was already over before I entered the picture and he had several girlfriends before we met.
We got along great when we were together, but he just wasn't willing to make any changes and wanted it both ways. Then there comes a point where you just realize, this isn't going anywhere, I'm still alone at night and a decision has to be made to walk away and stop giving. I'll always love him, but without at least an emotional commitment, there is no foundation to work on. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 3/27/2009 10:57:00 AM | | Hm...he lied about stupid things and honestly, right after we started dating he began to change. However, it was my fault for being a stupid girl and for some reason not seeing through his words. Also, he was using me but hey, you live, you learn. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 3/27/2009 3:48:09 PM | | I still havent figured it out, but then again have stopped trying. Sometimes things just end. No rhyme or reason. Just because you fall in love with someone doesnt mean you always stay that way or vice versa..... | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 3/27/2009 4:10:10 PM | Last one my son went online and found out he was a child molester. He said he was rehabbed, it happened over 20 yrs ago, but I can't handle that. Men who are attracted to children often re-offend. I can't have that around mine.
I'll never get what so many of these creeps see in children. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 3/27/2009 11:15:41 PM | The last guy moved to N. Calif.
The one before that moved to Norfolk, Va
The one before that moved back to Italy
I can certainly make them move out of town, state and country...
I sweat I'm an with a little  on the side! | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/8/2009 10:26:24 AM |
The last guy moved to N. Calif.
The one before that moved to Norfolk, Va
The one before that moved back to Italy
I can certainly make them move out of town, state and country...
Look at the bright side c4m, you're profile says you're So.Calif, so they're moving, but closer each time, so maybe the next one will only move to L.A., and then the one after that won't be moving at all?  Gotta have some hope, or you wouldn't be here, right? | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/9/2009 1:15:15 AM | | I clearly wasn't enough for him, all I did was love him and give him the world, in return he cheated on me, I found out, went to RELATE, tried to work it out but I just couldn't trust him anymore. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/9/2009 10:34:52 AM | | My marriage of 26 years ended when I became sick and my husband started dating a girl at his work who is 15yrs younger than he is. Pretty tough getting over this one. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/10/2009 6:57:58 AM | 1. He was uncomfortable with the fact that when we're both professionals, I will be making more than him. The nature of our jobs.
2. He wanted to get married in the future, and so revealed what he expects from a wife and a marriage. There were some fundamental differences that could NOT be compromised.
3. He took offensive humour to a whole new level.
4. He couldn't understand the amount of time and dedication I have (and want) to put into my academic career for the next several years. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/10/2009 1:40:02 PM | | he was a married man on a dating site as single...dated him and then found out that he was dating because his wife was 8 months pregnant!!! | |
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Posted: 4/10/2009 3:11:14 PM | | We were very comfortable but lust, a willingness to try things sexually, and passion wasn't there (for her at first, and later, for me). We both lost interest in each other. We're still really good friends though, so all is not lost. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/10/2009 3:58:50 PM | | Possessiveness/neediness, plain and simple. Constant phone calls emails to clarify what I already told her in no uncertain terms in regard to plans we had already made. Constant phone calls asking where I am (never should have given her the cell number). The only reason I put up with it for as long as I did was for her daughter's sake. I was helping her get started with a school project and didn't want to leave her hanging. Nobody else was able to help her, the ex girlfriend was clueless. Once the daughter was up and running, the ex accused me of stepping out and ignoring her. Of course that never happened since I average between 40 to 60 hours a week at work and never had time to cheat even if I had wanted to. The final straw was when she demanded money since she is out of work and is making no attempt to find another job. Needless to say, I broke up with her in face to face. She then called me less than an hour later for further clarification. A friend suggested to me OCD might be a possibility. If I only knew then what I know now I never would have gotten involved with her in the first place. | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/10/2009 11:27:04 PM | my relationship ended because he cared more about doing drugs and drinking than he cared about me. when you have a habit that runs your life that you cant focus on what is real and forever then its time to get HELP. that is if you can admit you need it. sometimes your so blind you cant see whats right in front of you.so now im getting on with my life and looking for someone who deserves me. i know hes there. just ready to laugh again.    | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/11/2009 3:41:29 AM | | Had to throw in my two cent an couldn't find a post reply or message. But I have a story to tell. My last relationship started over the net I met a girl and hitchhiked across country to be with her. After three years of off and on again from her myself just trying to make things works at all costs eve burning family bridges. Long story short my fathers liver failed and o told my ex I needed to go take care of him. She told me not to wzpect her to be waiting for me. I found out much later that I wasn't gone a week before she was with someone else. Lo more but that's the short version of events | |
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| WHY DID YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP END?
Posted: 4/11/2009 12:20:46 PM | I was dumped via e-mail (she didn't have the courage to go face to face or even with a phone call)...she claimed that she felt that I really didn't want a long term relationship and that she was looking something more "permanent" (BTW, she had also told me that she had been married and divorced twice and had no desire to get married for a 3rd time). I am not sure where she got the idea that I wasn't serious, as I had been dating her exclusively for several months and was certainly not looking. In fact, right before she dumped me we had been making plans to drive together to Southen California to pick up her kids for their winter break.
Turns out that she had met someone new a few weeks before and decided that he was the one she wanted to be with...but instead of being up front with me she used the tactic of blaming me...until she finally admitted meeting this other guy some weeks before.
A mutual friend of ours told me afterwards that she was waiting for me to tell her that I loved her, and that if I had told her that she would still be with me. Well, she and I had several conversations where she had mentioned that she would never tell anyone that she loved them unless she was 100% positive, and I felt the same way.
She did end up marrying the guy that she dumped me for (after telling me more than once that she was not ever getting married again), so I guess it all worked out well for her. In retrospect, she did us both a favor by breaking up with me before my feelings for her got any stronger than they were already.
I guess I will never truly understand women! Wow, this is a lot longer than I intended it to be...LOL! | |
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