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Posted: 11/7/2006 12:52:19 PM | I agree with what ISOreal...Said!
"I don't know how anyone can do this to their own children but grant it there are as many women out there that walk out on their children as men."
That is true i for one could not see how ANY parent mom/dad could just up and walk out of their child lives but we have to rememeber NOT all dads walk away from their child just like NOT, all moms walk away from our babys/child. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 1:56:47 PM | Fro the record I will never completely understand why someone would just up and leave thier kids. I know people who have and know people that could never but the simple fact remains that it does happen.
For one reason or another the person makes that choice. The important thing for the parent that is active is to make sure that the child is loved and taken care of. Sometimes that is harder and sometimes not so bad. But that is the way of things.
Maybe that is harsh and maybe it is not but I can say this... no matter what the child is always going to be on the losing end of that sort of a senario.
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:03:56 PM | I will never understand it either.
But you know what?
Lets give us all pats on the backs. Lets not strain on their bad judgements.
We have our children and are doing a kick a$$ job. Our kids are wonderful, smart, bright, and beautiful, lets rejoice in that!  | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:08:16 PM | I agree with you Disney Mom i was thinking that the other night why should we "mom/dad" be "hooked" on the subject/memmory of how our child/baby father wants/has NOTHING to do with the baby/child, and get all bitter/out of shape about it than to just put it behind us and move on.
We should be proud that our child/baby still has ONE parent who would walk to the end of the world for him or her and would do anything to be there for the child.
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:18:05 PM | My ex and I had our first court appearance on Sept 27 and he couldnt even show up which his gf who is now a family law layer represented him. After court I went to my fathers work to discuss what happened and guess who showed up MY EX (he fixes his office equipment) he couldnt even come over and meet his daughter.. It has happened twice now where I was at my fathers work and he didnt come over and see her.. He was also supposed to have his financial statement done by the 27th too which he didnt so the judge ordered that he had 2 weeks to get that done and to his lawyer.. So now he was supposed to pay me support on the 1st of Nov which I have yet to see a payment and now he got his lawyer to send me a letter saying he will not send me money cause he wants me to go through FMEP which means I cant do that till the consent order is drawn up and once that happens I send that off and wait 4-6 weeks for FMEP (Family Maintenance Enforcement Program) to finalize it then MAYBE get payment... As much as it sucks that she doesnt have a father figure in her life I can honestly say she is better off without him!!!
I also agree with Disney mom!!!!
I am sure thats what the other person wants anyways is for us to be all pissed off and bent out of shape and bitter cause then they have won the battle!!! So I say put a big smile on the face of yours and be a PROUD parent when you see your ex smile and secretly flip him/her the finger hahahahah
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:31:39 PM | All that sounded great proudmom but that "flip him/her the finger" because what would that be showing our kids (if their around at the time)?....That it is "ok" to flip someone the finger or be disrespectful to, other people?..
Dont get me wrong i am by NO means defending the dads/moms who do NOT have a SINGLE thing to do with their child/ren and who NEVER do things for/with them, i just do not think a child flipping the finger would/is going to help matters. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:35:03 PM | | Not infront of them LOL I said "Secretly"!!!!! and not the children either flipping the finger!!! I was just kidding anyways I thought this thread needed some humour!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:37:25 PM | I wasnt takeing your words as "rude" Proud Mom lol but i agree this thread could use some humour thanks for bringing a little laughter into it i want to apoligise if i have, said anything out of line to you.
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Posted: 11/7/2006 2:40:40 PM | LOL I know I just didnt want people thinking that I go out and finger my babys ex infront of her or anyone for that matter because yes that would NOT be good and that would show a lack of respect and something I would not tolerate!!! Apparently I aint as funny as I thought I was hahahaha  | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 3:32:49 PM | I am sure thats what the other person wants anyways is for us to be all pissed off and bent out of shape and bitter cause then they have won the battle!!! So I say put a big smile on the face of yours and be a PROUD parent
Actually though, they didnt win a battle. All they've done, is dig a deeper hole regarding their child's future, and their's as well.
There is a saying, and I know it kills my bitter ex and his bitter gf. "The best revenge is living, and living well."  | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 3:43:15 PM | Thats true disney "the best revenge is living, and living well." You are right about that. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 3:52:55 PM | | My ex would love nothing better than to see me fail so that is the only reason why I said that.. My ex plays alot of head games which is why I meant that if you show your weakness then they will think they have won in the end whether that is the case or not!!! But in reality your right all they have done is dig a deeper hole.. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 7:21:56 PM | Proud_Mom
You make some good points and i wasn't thinking that all you did was go out and point fingers in your ex's face infront of your child i would never say anyone did that especially when i do not know you/them, i have been around ONE woman who did do that tho.
And that really screwed up their kids mind about their dad it's sad how they think of their dad now (family) their dad does care and does/did want something to do with them still does. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 7:39:52 PM | Davids_Mom...
I see you can post now.. Woohoo... LOL | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:46:24 PM | I can post and i am sorry if what i have said made anyone hottheaded/mad i just have seen alot of dads who are NOT deadbeats get threw down the gutter and walked on by the moms and i am NOT saying that the moms on this site, are like that i just think if we as moms can support our child and are doing a good job at why must we throw it up that our child/ren father is a deadbeat.
But i am sorry i wasnt on this thread to make anyone mad/upset i am sorry! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:24:03 PM | Hey ladies what about the dead beat mom's out there I have had full custody for over 3 years now and raising my 13 y/o son alone. I love it and would never walk away for all the love he gives me. So you see there are mom's out there to that are "deadbeat"
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:30:56 PM | | I agree with yotsmen....There are some "deadbeat" moms out there aswell as deadbeat dads but i hate the phrase "deadbeat" it took two to make a child so why does only ONE parent get all the blame if the other one walks, out on their child? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:57:30 PM | Davids Mom:
LOL awwwwww you totally didnt make anyone mad LOL and no need to apologize!!!!!! There are good and bad people in the world unfortunately we just need to make the best of it while we are on this planet!!! Like they said in the 60's MAKE LOVE NOT WAR!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:01:08 AM | | I loved that phrased people i know still use that till this day im glad i didnt step on any toes thank you | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:03:34 AM | hehehe your welcome!!!  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:13:30 AM | | I truly believe in putting a childs wellbeing outweighs any consideration for an immature, violent partner. Children need to be nurtured, protected. No father is better than a abusive partner in my opinion. I do not advocate for the rights of a person that does not have his own life under control. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:22:04 AM | | I wouldn't want my son to be around his dad if his dad was abuseive/harmful to the baby but if he was a good father and was not abuseive and he was sticking around than yeah he should have that CHOICE to be in, his son/daughter's life just like the moms should have that choice. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2006 3:00:26 AM | | Just in case anyone one is interested the state and work have finnaly got it striaght and i am now no longer a deadbeat. :). but i am ahead by half a month. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2006 10:36:54 AM | I just wanted to say that I totally understand where you single mom's are coming from. My ex husband of 5 years abandoned us a year ago to move to nebraska and be with his internet girlfriend. I have never recieved child support, he has never phoned or come here to try to see her. He completely cut us out of his life about 2 years before he actually left. I have always raised her on my own but the worst part is seeing how badly my child is hurting. Everytime I try to get into a new relationship they do not like that I have a child. It is deffinately hard to meet a guy who doesn't mind the idea. My daughter is my whole intire world and I could NEVER imagine leaving her. I put her down to bed and I immediately miss her! I will never understand how dads could be so ****ing heartless. I now suffer through welfare getting just enough to pay my rent and get 40 dollars worth of food every month. He doesn't even care that his family could be starving. Caused his own daughter to develops seperation anxiety in the worst way. I will always hate that SOB! There is now a warrant out for his arrest, and I can't wait for them to find him. He will be brutalized in prison. Just wish I could watch it happen... | |
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