| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 11:31:14 AM | | I would refrain from sex til marriage with that person, just to ensure no stupid pre-mature mistake. Then once committed be alright with it. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 12:04:03 PM | | probably, cause i'd still like to be able to have sex with other people after the relationship ends. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 12:04:33 PM | Let me ask the thread group this: Is it dependant on which STD they have? Like AIDS, or syphillis, or the clap? Let's be specific here, as far as the comments go. I mean, Herpes has been one of them. So what if it was anything else?
Read the OP as to specificity...... if you are reponding to the OP.
or,
Be specific about some other STD and answer your own question, ...... others will probably follow.
BTW, I've never had an STD,
........and have had 2 long term partners with Herpes 2, and was married to a woman with Herpes 1.
I have neither genotype and knew about all three prior to sideways dancing and went about things from an informed perspective.
Many have it and don't know, ..........think about that.
I get myself tested for STDs before I even enter into a sexual relationship as a gesture of goodwill and honesty. This testing is usually available free at various community outreach clinics. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 12:15:05 PM | | I have coldsores on my lip occassionally, and I won't allow oral sex on a man or on me if I have one, it can be transferred that way. But if it was genital, no, I would not. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 3:42:05 PM | | The government has estimated that in another 15 - 20 years over 40% will have genital herpes. It's something that spreads very easily and a condom will not protect you from it effectively. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 3:42:47 PM | tera...you are more than a diagnosis...you are a very vivacious woman, with enough spunk to trudge through the worst of times, and i hope a fine man finds you soon. If I feel in love with someone with any diagnosis...i would take certain precautions, but definately be with them. I think it's unrealistic to believe our future partners will always be healthy, whether an std, or cancer, or just the flu, true love should last forever, enduring all things...except abuse...i'm proud of you Tera!!!  | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:19:57 PM | | Dont matter to me.I would go out with anybody.it would be cold hearted in my to ignore someone due to a medical problem.No Fear,Love life,live life,share life | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:37:18 PM | thanks everyone for your honest posts. Thanks for all the wonderful support and emails.
I'll hang in there....it's what I do best. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:40:51 PM |
"Never judge a person until you walk a mile in their shoes"
I have to agree... It depends on the Disease... I may not want to walk a mile in their shoes... But I would never have a problem being a Friend to anyone with any disease... | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:42:11 PM | In my case I've just finished a 10 year relationship. So the idea of STDs and the like are frightening. So not only am I rusty in dating, I'm also not aware of the various STDs that are out there.
It will definately be weird dating someone with an STD. Personally I couldn't do it. I could be their friend, but couldn't be their lover.
JMHO. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:45:20 PM | | Since 80% of people with genital herpes have silent herpes and don't know they have it, and because it can be on vaginal lips or other parts including balls and such that don't get covered with a condom, I am a beleiver in safe sex by abstinance until love and commitment is solid and true. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:47:01 PM | Well, Tera, thanks for being such an honest person. I wish everyone was. (And I think that guy who gave you herpes simplex 2 is dispicable!)
Personally, I would want full bloodwork done before I got intimate with someone. Infectious, incurable diseases scare the living daylights out of me. I've already got cold sores and hate it. Thankfully, as long as I get my 7 hrs of sleep, my immune system stops outbreaks before they happen. But when I'm stressed, there isn't enough lipstick in the world to make me comfortable enough to be in public. Because of that, I'm certain I couldn't handle anything else.
But, that doesn't stop me from being friends with people or loving them or admiring them or being there for them.
I'm sorry to hear that the gent you really like can't handle that. I had a similar thing happen to me a couple years back. Someone who was pretty much PERFECT in all other respects couldn't handle one fact from my background and that was that. I couldn't change him and I certainly couldn't change my past. Anyhow, my sympathies. I know what that feels like.  | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:49:08 PM | | miss music. sucks to be stuck between a rock and a hard place when you're in that situation. not your fault but you still feel punished because of something you have zero control over. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:49:30 PM | I was with a man for a year before he told me he had herpes! I was mortified, angry as hell, and felt used. The trust left that day and the relationship died quickly.
Luckily, after four years of testing every three months I am now convinced and so is my doc that i didn't contract it. Thank God. Had I, I would have sued his ass! | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:51:54 PM | I wish i could honestly say i wouldn't care. The fact that a person would tell me first demands a lot of respect. Having an std must be hard as hell to bring up for discussion... especially if it's with a guy/girl who you have feelings for. I can imagine the fear attatched to bringing up such a topic.
Honestly though... if a woman had an incurable std, i dont think i could sleep with her. I will send word to St. Peter to open the gates for you because you told me though. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 6:32:03 PM | Date ya, but I think to be honest I would really have to weigh the situation when it came to the sex part.. It would have to be someone I really love and know I want to spend the rest of my life with to make a commitment like that, Kind of on the same lines as marriage. I say this because if it didn’t work out and I had to look else where I would not want to run the risk of giving it to anyone else. I have gotten checked after every relationship ends to know where I stand for my own piece of mind and hers.
For the record I don’t think anything ill of you or see you any different then I seen you before, wise cracking, smart and funny women. I also think this man is a monster as someone else said. What he did was beyond low, it's criminal. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 7:57:49 PM | Would herpes make me walk away? Nope, it's pritty easy to deal with unless someone is breaking out all the time. A pain in the ass at most, but then what isn't? If someone fesses up right away, they probably got a good handle on the situation.
No doubt there are bad cases and complications, but for most it's just cold sores when stressed.
Used to be an STD was an inconvenience treated with antibiotics. Made for some great jokes and teasing opportunities, LOL!
Now STD's are synonymous with AIDS.
All you younger folks really need to do a bit of research. You get a burning, a discharge, bumps down there, sores anywhere, go see a doc STAT! | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 8:02:56 PM | sex isnt the main focus for a good relationship.. i always said if you love someone, and it feels great.. the sex is just a bonus thing.. there are still ways you both can still make it work.. and if you felt comfortable with each other to have sex, there is always protection.. and i would date you tera, if you'd let me.. and didnt live so far away ;)...
from what ive seen on here and msn.. i can tell your already a great person.. and you have my kind of sense of humor :) | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 8:21:01 PM | You know what scares me is that there are people out there that will spread that crap in a evil way! And have such disregard for others.
My hats off to you Evil~Princess~Tera for your honesty and openness. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 8:58:31 PM | STD's are a very scary thing. I wouldn't risk it. I understand why your boyfriend made the choice he did. Relationships end... and if somehow he did pick it up (there is always a chance he could), then he has to live the rest of his life with it.
I still think you can find someone though. | |
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| Would an STD make you walk away?
Posted: 3/11/2005 9:23:55 PM | Tara sweetie, don't know what to say exactly cos I am not in your position, but one of my best friends back home was. She was given gentital warts by a jerk who "forgot" to tell her.
If I fell in love with someone with herpes, h**l no I wouldn't walk away - as long as they were honest with me and let it be my decision. There are certain precautions I might like to take, but other than that the person themself is the important part. You are a wonderful, strong, beautiful person and deserve to be happy. Don't say you'll never date again - you will and you'll find the right person.
IM or email me if you ever want to talk. I'm not much use, but I listen well :) Love ya babe! | |
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