| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 10:05:46 AM | when I got off the plane all tired and disheavled
my baby picked me up and spun me around ...
he was very pleased with my looks...
being older then him that was my biggest concern
why do people put up fake pics ? seems silly to me
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 11:55:07 AM | | Yeah O.k. so what is it with the pictures of inanimate objects and sh*tlike that......or the ones with a kitten or a puppy, are we supposed to beleive that this makes you a sensitive guy or what. Other pics that blow me away are the ones with other women/men arms wrapped around each other....and your still looking.....hey buddy eat at home! | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 12:09:27 PM | | I'm glad I'm not the only one! Happened to me about 3-4 weeks ago. I don't understand why people do it, do they not know you are going to bolt, if not only from the point of being misleading. | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 12:24:15 PM | Reading a lot of the posts here It seems thst a lot of folks are really looking, yet some of the tools employed are very unlikley to work for a lasting relationship. Posting very old, or enhanced photos is probably not an attempt to mislead as much as feeling better about the way they present themselves. It may be ill advised but we use the tools we have.
Other folks are just not photogenic for some mysterious reason, the lighting or some other factor in the photo process doesn't produce flattering results, so they don't look exactly like the photo.
If you are still attracted to them, then just let it go and have a great time.
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 12:40:13 PM | i have had this happen to me several times. the worst was a girl that had a picture of her daughter on there. she discribed her self as slitly fluffy. im thinking thats not all that bad. a few extra pounds isnt that bad. so i drove the 200 miles to meet her. when i got there i saw the daughter and she was great but that wasnt who i was to meet. she wasnt ready yet. i little time passed and she finally came in. she had to turn sideways to get threw the door and was almost bald. being a nice guy we talked for a while and i ask why she hadnt put her real pic in the profile. she said that i probably wouldnt have answered it. and she was right. so i then left fealling quite betrayed and really confused. it was really bad and i had wasted a hole day on this pretence that she had put out there. lol. shuff happens.
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 6:23:44 PM | | well i dont put my pic on my profile i put my cat cause i dont want to be reconnized if they want a pic i just tell them its on my msn profile they look some block me cause well i got a few extra pounds but im loosing it also im seeing soemone so i dont want none of his friends to see me lol | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/14/2005 9:04:34 PM | | i agree, total game playing. i have had a couple who look nothing like their pic, but most have, and usually look close their pic, or even better. and all of them have said i look much better in person. so really, a pic is just a pic, you won't know how you really feel until you meet them. | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 4:48:19 AM | | I have had that happen once to me about 3-4 weeks ago..I think thats why people should hold up a newspaper with the date or something,The guy I met looked much older then what he looked like in his pic. and he was very feminime..I hope someone that I met would tell me if I looked the same from my photos or not..I try to keep them recent.. | |
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Joined: 1/18/2005
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 5:59:56 AM | lol....I met a guy..which was bad enough he didn't even have a pic on the site, and he said he wouldn't post one because he didn't want people at his work to see him using a dating site...well he told me he looked like a mix of Jude Law and Wayne Greksky YA OK...when he got here he was a VERY BAD Bon Jovi....lol pock marks, large nose,buck teeth...and wearing a god awful 60's leather coat which he couldn't stop bragging about...after talking through thday..he decided I was already marriage material...lol.....he wouldn't take me out for dinner unless he had a coupon lol........anyways I ended up all in all leaving his things outside in the rain when he left to wash his car lol | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 8:24:47 AM | | Vintage clothing can be cool, but the buck teeth, and all...YIKES. Met a guy ( not from this site ) who had the worst dye job I'd ever seen. Looked like he did it with shoe polish. Very scary. Even though I don't post a pic upfront I do have a couple that my friends like of me that I will forward if the person I'm chatting with and I seem to click. And like a lot of people I work in the public, and you never know who you'll run into, I don't care if people from work know I'm on the dating sites.....can make for some interesting conversations at work......and there is alway the pointing n' laughing factor.....sorry but I know everyone does it, not just me. And some of the nicknames you come up with slay me. Herpes Guy....oh yeah baby I wanna connect with you, I don't think so!!! Still haven't figured out why if you are honestly looking for a relationship on whatever level you start with lies, seriously even if your just looking for a hot night of sex, don't you think you should be up front? | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 8:25:01 AM | | Vintage clothing can be cool, but the buck teeth, and all...YIKES. Met a guy ( not from this site ) who had the worst dye job I'd ever seen. Looked like he did it with shoe polish. Very scary. Even though I don't post a pic upfront I do have a couple that my friends like of me that I will forward if the person I'm chatting with and I seem to click. And like a lot of people I work in the public, and you never know who you'll run into, I don't care if people from work know I'm on the dating sites.....can make for some interesting conversations at work......and there is alway the pointing n' laughing factor.....sorry but I know everyone does it, not just me. And some of the nicknames you come up with slay me. Herpes Guy....oh yeah baby I wanna connect with you, I don't think so!!! Still haven't figured out why if you are honestly looking for a relationship on whatever level you start with lies, seriously even if your just looking for a hot night of sex, don't you think you should be up front? | |
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Joined: 2/16/2005
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 12:00:37 PM | Fun about ecommerce jobs is you get to relax with friends at work. Eases the mood. We were on this local chat channel using the nick "IM2Sexy4U" (It was 6 years ago, ok!?). Anyway a girl challenges my nick & says she's the hot one. Turned out she went to the same university at the time. Neither of us had any idea about how the other looked but she turned out very pretty & thankfully I didn't disappoint her either  | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 4:42:17 PM | I've learned the hard way that when they post a glamour shot, then you should avoid them like the plague.
My worst was I chatted with a "lady". We seemed to have things in common and decided to meet. I had wanted to chat on the phone, but "she" said that she had just moved and didn't have a phone yet.
Anyway, we met and the first thing I noticed was "her" adam's apple. Turned out that "she" was a transvestite who had recently decided that "she" was actually transgendered and was now living as a woman. "She" decided that "she" probably wouldn't have surgery or even take hormones since "she" was so feminine and overall "very attractive".
I have nothing against transgendered, etc. However, it's just not my thing and I would really have appreciated having that knowledge up front.
Oh, the photo was an artfully worked glamour shot modified with Photoshop.
I have had similar things happen like the Klingon that I met, but that's another story on another thread. | |
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 7:13:57 PM | I feel you MDew... Same thing happened to me.... Drove the couple of hours to meet the lady I had been talking to for about a month. When I get to her address and she opens the door I don't recognize her from her picture, but I recognized her voice. It was quite unnerving and wierd feeling, like some kind of sinister deja vu or something.... Anyway, she asked if I recognized her and I said I did once I heard her voice. But I immediately felt betrayed. I asked her about her picture in a gentlemanly way, and she said the one she had posted was taken 8 years prior. I hung out with her for the day, and then left that evening, very early. I couldn't get past this wierd sense of sadness, I mean, if she wasn't confident in who she is, how can I be?
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 7:29:17 PM | I've just met a couple of POF face to face and am not surprised that they look slightly different than their pics. I change continuously. One guy, I've dated several times and his hair and stash/beard is different each time we meet. I love it! I really enjoy the surprise.
The older pics just show me where you've been. I like those too...we all know that if your age says you are XX and your pic is YY, then it's an oldie, but fav of yours.
(The pic you see here is me a few weeks ago)
Also, side note: I love to look at a man asleep.
They always seem to look like the child they once were.
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medana
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Joined: 3/15/2005
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 8:56:54 PM | i got a juicy one too guys, just to share some of my old stupidity... but hey, it was a valuable lesson, and i definitely learnt a lot!!!
i got engaged with someone i met online before we even met in person... yes, u heard it right, i ddi the unbelievably stupid act, and i thought it was the perfect romance story... aghh, the old chivalry and fairy tales. stupid ****ing stories that teach kids to be unrealistic...lolol
ok, so we were talking for hours on the phone almost daily(like up to 7 hrs), or chatting, sending 50 pics back and forth (mine mostly, i must have sent him over 150 in the 4 months before he came)... he seemed romantic, ambitious, with a vision like me...
he wanted to get married right away, he came right with a ring etc etc... i was totally new to the internet, online dating, all of that....
then i saw him... at the airport i realized he was at least 40 to 60 lbs more than i thought he was, or than his pic showed me... also that the pic was 10 yrs younger, which he confessed to a friend of mine later...
despite the disapointment, i thought i needed to do the honorable thing (like u guys) and said nothing, rather blamed it on myself for not paying enough attention... i also blamed myself for putting too much emphasis on looks blah blah blah...
ok, it gets better
then came phase two, when the perfect romantic gentleman rushed into the bathroom while i was taking a shower that very evening, without even asking, and had sex with me before i had a chance to even realize what happened...
believe it or not, i still didnt say anything... one because i was in denial that it was more rape than anything else, two because i didnt want to get it that all those months i was living an illusion that had nothing to do with reality...
so at that point i had been basically physically abused by a fat man who came all the way from the us to marry the gullible and ignorant woman...
for two months i still lived the lie, and it took for him to get me in financial trouble for me to finally kick him out of my life... my parents loved him, of course, he was trying very hard to make anyone like him, thats why he had spent all his time and money impressing everyone and left me with bills i could not possibly cover with my salary...
it took me 6 mo to pay just for the telephone bill, and i definitely learnt to put myself first above all else, to never lie to myself about what is going on and how i feel, to never assume but rather listen, pay attention and watch for red flags, to ask better questions, and pay attention to inconsistencies, to never be afraid to break a fantasy to unravel the truth, and never feel guilty to hurt someone's feelings by telling the truth.
that was 4 years ago in Romania... but u know what? as stupid as it was, i needed that experience to turn me into the much wiser and aware woman i am today. So i am thankful both for the lessons learnt and for the opportunity for growth. | |
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silken
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 9:20:58 PM | Wow I read all the stories in this thread and I can relate. ;) I've had a few experiences of my own. hehe
I must say though that for those of us who are not photogenic, it truly can be a problem and has nothing to do with being intentionally misleading. All the photos I send to people are taken at various times over the last 2 years and I tell them that. Some may be one month old, some 2 years old. Although I really haven't changed much in that time period, the surprising thing is that I can appear totally different between pics.....even pics taken very close together timewise. I have never been photogenic and so this has always been problematic for me.
So there isn't a whole lot I can do except to share several photos and hope the person on the other end has a realistic expectation of what I look like. I've never yet had anyone say that I looked a lot different so hopefully I send them enough photos. ;)
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| Meeting with someone who looks nothing like picture
Posted: 3/15/2005 9:26:13 PM | Silken,
Believe me, variations are understandable and acceptable. The problem is when the goods are just nothing like advertised. Also, you at least mention to people that you may look a little different that your picture.
Hmm.... now you've gotten me curious. What do you look like under the veil? | |
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