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| | Would you date someone who is disabled.Page 12 of 14 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14) | Three things women tend to gravitate to: puppies, babies, and wheelchairs.
Is that just my experience? | |
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hist
| | Joined: 8/24/2005
Msg: 277 | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 8/24/2005 9:23:32 PM | | In third world countries, you will see terribly crippled men crawling prostrate on the streets with a paper cup in their hand. They are beggars and their legs or arms are terribly contorted, you can tell they are not faking. It is because when they were children, their parents caused the deformities on purpose in order to make them beg for money their entire lifetime. It is a cruel and sad part of life in these countries. | |
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hist
| | Joined: 8/24/2005
Msg: 279 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 8/24/2005 10:33:14 PM | | no. im talking about the ones that wander into mine fields and lose a leg. someone with a missing leg does pretty good in a developed country. paul mccartney married a lady with part of her leg gone. in the third world she'd be untouchable. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2005 10:35:13 PM | My best friend is disabled, if she didnt live a cross the country, wed probably be together. Disabled people are just as or better than people without faults. Her physical disabilty doesnt affect her mind which is the most beautiful part about her. She may be parylized in her left hand and walk with a limp, but the one of a kind personality she holds more than makes up for those few faults. I love my shannon  | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 9:43:14 AM | .
Would I date a “disabled” gal? Of course! It has only been a little over four years since I took the “disabled” license plates off my car and started walking a few miles every evening. I was legally disabled, so they say, for over 30 years.
A delightful long, tall, 40-something neighbor woman had a problem and lost the use of her legs for a while. She had a ramp to get into her home but sometimes she didn’t have the strength to get herself up there in the wheelchair. So, when she came home from work, sometimes I would get a call to give her a push. As things worked out, even though I was a bit gimpy myself, I was strong enough to pick up her 130 pound frame and carry her into the house with no problem. Because of the snow and ice of winter, that was necessary some days, too.
She advanced to leg braces and I happened to see her in a local joint one evening listening to a great blues band that was playing. She was sitting at the end of the bar alone, dressed in her usual pants-suit style and looking quite nice. She had the iron on the outside of the pants, in plain view, of course, which seemed to make some people nervous. I was also alone so, of course, I plunked my butt down next to her and we had a nice evening there.
Of course, I knew a lot about her and the progress she was making, both professionally and privately. When I was just starting to walk outside again, sometimes it was difficult and I would look for excuses to not do it. But, if I didn't, I would get a phone call saying, “I did not see your gimpy butt out on the sidewalk tonight. No pain, no gain. Get it moving!”
So, when there was a nice slow tune at the bar that evening, I gently pulled her off of her bar stool to dance -- heavy leg braces and all. She quickly gave up saying “I can’t” cause I was holding her close and we already were. Also, I was laughing so hard that she started laughing, too. So did some onlookers, I guess, but who cares. If nothing else, it was a great three minute hug.
She’s a bit too young for me to “date”, of course, and I wasn’t in the dating mood, anyway. But, we have a lot of common interests and did a few things together from time to time. And, yeah, I never felt a bit bad about pushing her chair around. I didn’t need a cane when walking that way. Besides, we got all the best parking spaces, which made things easy.
Today, she is still tall, slim and a beautiful heartbreaker. She was promoted twice since then and now works in a California office. I still walk a little stooped, but I’m working on it. She was here for a meeting early this summer and called me for dinner. She was driving one of those new, little T-Birds and knew damn well it would be somewhat uncomfortable for me to get in and out, so she took the top off before coming for me. Tall blond chick in a black T-Bird attracted a lot of attention, I noticed. . . .
Now the braces are gone and she is fine. All the guys scurry around her bidding for her time but, as the shrewd engineer she is, she is very discriminating in her personal life.
And that’s almost starting with me, too. Now that I can walk well, work out every day and even dance, woman I have known for years are starting to pay attention. I don’t care, though. I’m still the same guy I was years ago when it was difficult for me to move well. My body may have changed some for the better these past couple years, but the same guy is still inside.
Sure, a disability can be an inconvenience. Big deal! Quite often, though, the “work-around” by people with disabilities can be quite interesting, and often humorous.
For instance, I noticed a couple gals at the club talking in American Sign. I used to know that, somewhat, and so was paying attention to see what I could still pick up. I had talked with one of them before because she is profoundly deaf and wanted to question me (I was a research electrophysiologist) when she was considering getting an implant.
When I saw her then, she had had the new implant just a month and was still in the learning process. I clearly “saw” her sign her friend that she had turned it off because it was bothering her too much in there. Besides, she is also an excellent lip reader and always got along very well with that.
So, there came a time when her friend was asked to dance. That left this gal sitting alone at a table. So, I asked her to dance and she laughed a lot as I was leading her out to the floor because she knows that I know she cannot hear the music.
Later, she told her girlfriend that I was “very interesting but could also be a little crazy sometimes.” I took that to be a friendly statement and so walked over to their table and tried to sign something like, “be careful what you say about me cause I can see you across the room.” Thereafter, she is often signing things to me from a distance. Sometimes I even know what she is trying to tell me. One time she was signing “dance with me again.” Problem was, I did not know the sign for “dance” and, as those of you who know sign might guess, I thought she was saying something greatly different. Anyway, she ended up coming over and yelling it in my ear so I did understand. That worked.
Fact is, most people with “disabilities” usually have different and interesting abilities. And, if you pay attention, it can be a very interesting learning experience.
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Posted: 8/25/2005 12:24:27 PM | hello Happy catt, just sat and read the thread and its been a while since I have been in here. As far as The Catt goes believe me I know her and she is very outright on what she does and says. Great friend as well. I read another thread not long ago where the original poster was asking about the same just worded different but his was concerning health. To me whats the difference. It shouldn't matter one bit how a person is with disabilites be it mental, physical or what ever a person wants to place on it. They are people just like we are. And we all have a disability of some sort. Liike the ones that have a thing against someone that is large in weight. Fine they are large in weight but does that stop them from having feelings or being able to talk or love. Hell no. and the ones that take and have the problem with someone being large or even over weight they have a disability in the fact that they can't see past thier own small sighted selves. date a disabled person? no but I would marry one if I loved her and as far as a disability whats a disability? It is only something that has been labled to people for insurance reasons. The person could and have done what they do normally so whats a disabled person. personally I think it is the person who lets themselves think they are disabled.
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hist
| | Joined: 8/24/2005
Msg: 284 | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 8/25/2005 1:52:49 PM | | I know a friend of mine who got ran over my a truck when he was 12 years old. Now he has a metal rod in his back, he can't walk straight, and one hand moves faster than the other but doesn't work normally. He can't drive, so I've been taking him out for 11 years now. He has never dated since he got into his accident. He is a smart guy. I really feel for him but I don't see that anyone would be interested in dating someone who is disabled. That person has to be very special if they do date disabled people. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 3:02:22 PM | | It definitely depends on the disability. The more severe the disability the more difficult it would be getting used to. I had a few dates with a wonderful woman who was in a wheel chair. Lots of people have some mildly chronic health issue that doesn't interfere much with life. And if it isn't a physical disability there's always something in life we struggle with. Isn't that the whole point of a relationship? Working on life's problems as well as sharing life's joys? | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 3:18:05 PM | I did date someone who had cerebral palsy and used a wheelchair. He had a lot of emotional problems stemming from his disability. He made excuses not to get a job, not to go places, too difficult etc. i work with the disabled, so i know sometimes getting out is a challenge, but not the ordeal he made it out to be. He relied on other ppl to look after his personal hygene, and sometimes they didn't do a very good job.
In the end, he didn't think i was spending enough time with him and he started getting angry and verbally abusive, at which time I ended it. He harassed me by phone and email until i got the cops involved. It has soured me to the whole experience. It would have to be some fantastically nice person to get me interested in dating a disabled person again. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2005 6:06:20 PM | @ marcana so one mentally unstable disabled person means the rest are no good?
I dated a guy like that too... He had CP and emotional issues up to the eyeballs. I have also dated a few able-bodied men who were emotionally and psychologically abusive. I guess I should stop looking and give up on men altogether?
I think an individual is accountable for his or her own behaviour. Your experience is sad but not all disabled people are that messed up.
I have CP and I work. I have a nice life... just looking for someone to share it with that's all, but I am not needy and also like my own company. Being healthy mentally, emotionally, psychologically and physically is a matter of living a balanced life. Knowing when to ask for help and when you need to do things on your own terms is a huge part of that balance. IMO
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Posted: 8/25/2005 6:08:54 PM | | Again, a tough question to make any judgment on. There are many forms of disabilities. It often would take a court and attorneys and judges to rule on such complicated matters. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 8/29/2005 12:12:01 AM | I'm with the "depends" lot. But then again I did have a female friend with a disability and she was fun to be with. I think it also depends on compatibility. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 9/5/2005 10:07:06 AM | I am disabled, and I will date some physically disabled.
However I won't date someone who is a emotionally disabled, a bigot, racist, or thinks he's better than everyone else. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 9/13/2005 8:25:48 AM | | I would, and have. The fact that you can't imagine such a thing shows how shallow you are. Grow up. By the way, many of the hot babe celebs you fantasize about are actually imperfect...many to the point of being disabled. Dyslexia is common amongst super models. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 6:05:47 AM | | Yes without a doubt I would date someone disabled. Not just because thier disabled but because I would be attracted to them. I don't want someone to date me just because I am a wheelchair. I want a woman to see me for me not for the chair that gets me around. | |
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Neiley
| | Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 297 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 9/14/2005 6:13:12 AM | | I seen this blind girl walking down the street, so I made it so she'd bump into me and say sorry. Why you ask? Cause she was the hottest blind girl I had ever seen. Well she bumps into me and says sorry. Then her "boyfriend" comes along, punches me in the face and says he seen the whole thing. The boyfriend was uglier then me. Guess the blind girl doesn't know any different. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 11/23/2006 6:16:50 AM | I've been reading the many different threads on this base subject and have enjoyed reading the different views and opinions.
There are a few quotes I'd like to share that I think people need to remember when looking at any potential mate or even making new friends.
To paraphrase Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., "you cannot judge someone simply by the color of their skin or the condition of their body. You must judge the person by the content of their
character. "
"The key here is to realize that everyone is different, and a disability (or lack thereof) is simply a condition of the body, not the full measure of the man or the woman."
"that a person is only as disabled as you let them be and inside that person is someone whom isn't disabled and is worth getting to know."
"Disability is a matter of perception. If you can do just one thing well, you're needed by someone." Martina Navratilova
My 2 cents... | |
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chocho
| | Joined: 7/13/2006
Msg: 299 | |
| It''s not publc record kinda like your more personal info. so if, -
Posted: 11/29/2006 5:55:41 AM | U tell some-one it should be fairly fast & defnately B-4 U let then, think that they can take-it to the next level. I"d say the first telephone call & definately B-4 the first meeting. It's not public record so if, someone is interested in U it would be for other reason's..I.E. based on your profile or your initial interaction on the computer. 
I'm now back to good health after, a bad accident & I don't alway's tell a person about it until I meet them but it's ovious if they see my scar's so then, I might tell them a lil. bit Depend's on the person & the situation, I'd definately like to think that I have talked to the person alot B-4 I'd take the time for a date.. If, they don't like it that's that  That's That Keep Fishing  | |
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