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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/14/2005 1:07:18 PM | | Since posting this thread I have recieved so far two emails saying I should take my disabled body to a disabled dating website. Excuse me, I belong here too and have as much right as anyone to be on POF. Disabled of mind and spirit I'm not, and if people can't see past my limp, their loss. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/14/2005 1:13:15 PM | | people can be so rude and unfeeling.....maybe they just lash out because they are insecure about themselves......no one is perfect | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/14/2005 1:17:31 PM | | It just showed me that anyone, physically challenged or not, can be unfeeling, rude, incapable of respect, closeminded, mean.. you don't see many disabled people threating non-disabled people this way.. Most of them I know are good to the core people! | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/14/2005 1:34:47 PM | | Yes you have the same rights as everyone else.Don't worry about the people thet think you can't be on here,they are the ones with the diability.I would date any man as long as he is a good honest man and has hart.I work with people with disabilitis everyday and they teach me alot about life.I also have a 20yr.old son with disabilitis.He is a very loved and cared for man.He truly is a joy. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/14/2005 1:49:04 PM | Funny you should mention that. I was working at a "Personal Trainer's Workshop" in Colorado and saw a woman in a wheelchair who was stunning. I started talking with her and she was clearly a keeper. She was smart, open, cheerful, and and so many other positive things that she was irresistable. On the third day, I asked her if she'd like to have supper at a place I thought she'd enjoy. That's when I found out that the guy standing nearby was her, powerlifter, personal trainer, loving hubby, who met her in the chair.
P.S. She was teaching fitness programs for the disabled. I tried her class on "sitting fitness", and was dripping wet after the class. She is one of those "no excuses, no whining, git er done." people that its hard not to find attractive.
Forstmeister
Her hobbies...skiiing, rock climbing, racing, etc. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 10:22:25 AM | | Love to hear those kinds of comments, they make me smile wide. Physically disabled people are worth the trouble and effort to know. I'm not in a wheelchair anymore thank God, but I remember what that was like...everyone looking everywhere but at you, avoiding you, or rudely staring and not saying a word when asked "Why are you starring at me?" Or the children who were curious and open to saying hi and asking why I was in the wheelchair, dragged off my intolerant parents and scolded for approaching me. It was the parents who needed a reality check not the children. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 10:35:23 AM | hi georgie
I am fully aware how handicapped people are treated just like sr citizens my mom is 71 and gets treated like crap i treat sr citizens and handicap people with the best respect i can ever give there are some that takes advantage of it and some they yell at you if you help them | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 12:10:19 PM | | We all have diabilities, some more than others. Would love to know who told you to go to a "disabled" site? Wonder how their last partners would rate their performance? Their is no passion with pity. How can anyone possibly think they can know how satisfying any relationship might be if they do not pursue it? I'm new to these forums, saw another thread about color. Don't let any of these inadequate folks bait you and get under your skin, the disability of their kennings is far more debilitating than anything anyone has on the outside. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 12:40:29 PM | | I have a very good friend who is in a wheeel chair he is not paralized but not able to walk either , now i look at him as the same as everyone he is very nice, intelligent and doesnt let his disability get him down. he goes everywhere and does everything. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 2:39:14 PM | | Most disabled people are more active than those who aren't. I've seen wheelchair bound people sking, bungee jumping, parachuting, sailing, and doing all kinds of things! I too do everything and find a way to do it that is fun and very pleasant. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 2:44:33 PM | | One of my college buds was a several time world champion disabled skiier. He lost both legs in a plane crash, skied on a stub with two poles with skis intead of tips. Man could he ski circles around just about everyone! My falconry mentor and great buddy has a seizure disorder related to Agent Orange Exposure. Guy takes a serious beating daily, has every right to complain, but never does. A true inspiration, invaluable perspective! | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 5:47:11 PM | Sure, I would date someone who was disabled. I don't understand why anyone wouldn't,but know there are those who would turn away from that. Disabilities come in many different ways and to judge a person for it, I think is really wrong. However, I strongly believe and have always believed that what is in a person's heart is what matters the most,not what is on the outside. I can no longer do the things I use to do, but it does not stop me from doing things that I can do and if that is a reason for someone not to be with me, then they aren't the person I want to be with or anyone I would want in my life. Why couldn't you love someone with a disability? Loving someone should be unconditional no matter what, this means accepting a person for the good,the bad and indifferences. Yes, taking care of someone who is incapable of doing alot of things for themselves would be hard, but how does love turn into pity?? I must be missing something here, because I really can't understand how someone can love you and then all of a sudden after certain mount of years, say they really felt sorry for you???? Can someone please explain that? I mean if you felt sorry for them then why did you even bother to begin with? How is it that love is confused with pity??
You either love someone or you don't. I would never be with anyone because I felt sorry for them, what a horrible thing to do. Love me for me or don't love me at all. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 6:09:17 PM | | Just had to say that was awesome dragon, and everyone should learn from that. Georgie, you have every right to be on this site as well as anyone else does. Some people are just flat out rude and don't care about another person's feelings. Good thing God doesn't judge us by our outward appearances whatever they may be. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 7:17:28 PM | | Thanks Justplainbonkers. I was just sitting here reading this thread from beginning to end again, and was wishing I could revisit it in about twenty years when these youngsters are gaining gray hair and the disabilities that commonly come with getting older... Would be curious to know if they wouldn't date a minorly disabled person then? lol | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 11:21:41 PM | I work with children with special needs and am a strong advocate of inclusion. The children I work with are three and four year olds and part of my job is to teach the so called *normal* developing children to respect all differences in others. Whether it be cultural or otherwise. This is a lesson we should be teaching our children at home so we will have less narrow minded people like some who have posted in this thread. I do not like to use the word disability I prefer *differability*.
Would I date a person with a differability , you bet I would they would be judged on the strength of their character as anyone else.
For those of you with negative comments you should be ashamed. | |
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NancyJ
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Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 97 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/15/2005 11:50:27 PM | | okyee, it would be an honest no for me. Would be very different if someone I love was disable, definitely I'll stick with him no matter what. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/16/2005 2:50:22 AM | | yes but only if i am in love never pity. If i was already with that person and something happened EX (car accident) i will stay as long as the relationship is worth it and i feel like he is my other half. Why not, give someone who disable a chance, that does not make them less of a person than anyone else. i have to love the person not the physical anything can happen the human body is too fragile so i have to love what is inside , if anything was to happen to the out side there would not be anything left to love, sad but true. If that is so it was never love , just what u though it was. Love is not convenience, looks or social status it is a emotion of caring about someone and doing everythign u can to make them happy. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/16/2005 7:36:25 AM | It's interesting to read these answers. What if you met a whole person, fell in love (which by the way takes a lifetime of falling to be in love) he/she had an accident and became disabled... what then?
I read in here, only if I was in love with him would I date a disabled person, that to me is the same as saying no--you don't love someone the instant you meet. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/16/2005 7:39:22 AM | | you know my mom went thru that my dad was healthy till 1972 he started with heart problems in and out of the hospital cause of his heart he had a bunch of illnesses from then on my mom was always there for him to take care of him when he needed help it came to a point where he was handicapped and she still cared for him no matter what you know you get married thru sickness and in health and she proved it to him you have to be a strong woman to do that | |
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