| | Would you date someone who is disabled.Page 7 of 14 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14) | Don't know in all honesty.......
have to see when/if I'm faced with it.
Hate to sound like a coldhearted botch, but we never know how we'll react in any given situation. | |
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Shugo
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Msg: 152 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/9/2005 3:29:08 PM | | What really sucks, if anyone calls the police on me for even a arguement i go to prison..For some reason cops have an obsession with athority. | |
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Shugo
| | Joined: 4/6/2005
Msg: 153 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/9/2005 3:31:55 PM | | They said i should of taken a good beating and if anything was life threating that would be the only reason they would concider charging my father.I wish i would of thought that way, this whole record thing has ruined my life. | |
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Shugo
| | Joined: 4/6/2005
Msg: 155 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/9/2005 4:08:13 PM | | I would concider dating someone who is disabled in any way as long as i still believe i could be happy with any compensation i would have to go threw. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/9/2005 4:31:48 PM | I would let you date me then.
I am deaf anyway, and have 'other problems', we all do, most of them 'show' in some sort of way. It is obvious to the world sometimes, what someones' problem are, but they turn a deaf ear, and do not listen. As for compensations , yes they are there, but there are rewards to knowing most anyone.
footnote:Get it 'out' in a positive way, you have a right to be angry, but please have the good sense to do it somewhere safe, for yourself most of all... | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 3:03:36 PM | | Okay, so where are you? I've got a slight limp and a repaired heart that will go on beating now for many decades to come.... where is my Mr. Right? | |
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mayorx
| | Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 158 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/10/2005 3:22:21 PM | i think it is okay to date someone who disabled, depending on that person
however i find that a lot of people would do that just because they feel sorry
for them. I am partly deaf, but ive dated ladies that have better hearing, even
some that were once models but i would never date someone just because
they disable or even feel sorry for them. I knew a lady once with knee problems, live on ssi n other stuff.. I would of been interested in her but she always talks bout her health, problems etc. I was real turn off by it n stop speakin with her period.. anyway
what im trying to say is that if the person trying to have a life or has a life
plus not feel sorry for one self i say go ahead n give it shot.
MX | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 5:36:30 PM | @ georgie
Georgie I just reread everything in the thread and I want to say I am sorry for the ones that wrote to you about the site. We all here know who is the disabled ones there. I posted once in this thread of my brother and his leg. I have a rather large respect on how he handled it. I also want to say a couple of things if I may.
One I have had a stroke about a year ago now. Matter of fact on the 24th it will be a year. I also broke my back when I was seven. I have had to have an eye operation. I walk with a limp. I have accute asthma. I also have diabeties, and high blood pressure. I have sleep apnea. Will I date a lady that is disabled Damn right. I never judge a person by what they look like or what they do. Only way I judge a person is if they do something to me. Then it is anger or revenge. That I know is also wrong but it is human. See i don't like to tell of my health problems but there is a reason i am here.
First I work from 16 to 20 hours a day. two jobs that I completely enjoy. During this time i am on my feet and walking. I climb ladders and lift auto parts. I also operate a buffer and mop floors cleaning a private school. I work out and push myself to make my body better. Do I consider myself handicapped Hell NO. Problems jump up and I know someday one may catch me and I won't win but I have never and will never give in to anything that may defeat me. I see it as there is people out there far worse than myself. Pity them hell no I have a healthy respect for them for I know what I face everyday of my life. They face more and they are as determined as myself or more. date a lady with a disability yes anytime. As long as we hit it off and if not there is an additional friend I can add to my list.
So people that say no think on this. I was healthy up until I came to where I am living now. Not saying it is the problem. Just from that time on I aquired the asthma that in a five year period went from a very slight case to accute. The rest followed suit. Now this all happend since 1993. To be very honest the diabeties and the stroke and the apnea has been in the last year. Anyone at anytime can become disabled and then how will they feel being on the other side of the wall. Please excuse me for going on and on but I know as some here do and it is not a good feeling to have someone look at you and judge you because of something that is wrong but not by choice. later everyone.
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/10/2005 7:38:54 PM | I have to say this. Being in Nursing, I have many patients that are disabled. here are my feelings on disabilities. Keep in mind, they are MY feelings. Doesn't make them right or wrong, it just means this is what I choose to believe.
1.Never forget it could be you
2.Being disabled does not change the wholeness of who you are.
3.People who are disabled still think, feel, touch, hurt, laugh, cry, care, hear, and love just as one without disabilities. The difference, they just do some things differently. But weren't we all different to begin with?
For me, if I met someone who was disabled I would look beyond the disability, in the depth of their soul to see the person from within the human form. Should I fall in love, it won't be his disability or anything else that will make my decision on how I feel about this person. After all its his heart that will capture mine. Even a disabled heart can love.
Take care,
Angel | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 9:12:41 PM | Similar to many of the responses here, *if I were looking for a dating partner and not just friends* It would depend on their state of mind. If the person could still be positive about life and not let it affect them on a level where they could not love someone else fully, of course, no problem! However if it made them mean, bitter, and abusive over time, I think I would have to let that one go.
I speak from real life experience. Not my own mind you, but someone in my life. My biological mom and dad broke up in one sense or another because of her multiple schlerosis. The MS was not the problem in and of itself. She could have been a wonderful lady easily. However she tended to get so frustrated that she could not walk, that she let it fester and eat at her until she became extremely bitter and angry. I was not around during many of these years, but both sides of the family have brought this up on more then one occasion. My mom eventually got to the point where she was so angry she would throw dishes at my brothers. To his credit my dad did leave, but by that time it was too late - I was already taken away. I was away from my biological family for many years and am just getting to know them in large part because my mom was angry about being in a wheelchair.
On the other hand if the person is a sweet, nice person who doesn't let their disability ... how do I put this?... rule their life, yeah, I see no reason why not! | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/10/2005 10:01:30 PM | see for me what I am reading on here I don't see being disabled...I would with adults with disabilities and to me that means down syndrome, FAS, things along that line would I date those...no I would not...however, I would date anybody who has posted their diability on here.... | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 10:03:07 PM | I would make the sacrifice of dating a nymphomaniac.
Does this count? 
Hmmmmmmmmmm... other than that it would depend on the person, the disability... can't say "yes" on this and not mean it... there's alot of different disabilities!!! | |
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Posted: 4/10/2005 11:55:37 PM | Of course the situation changes if you are dating a person who becomes disabled?
Certainly you wouldn't drop off the face of the earth and never see that person again, would you?
Would you explain the way you feel to that person and disappear?
Is that cruelty or self preservation? | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 12:56:26 AM | Being disabled myself (hearing impaired) i'm not exactly one to be hypocritical and judge another as unworthy simply because they share something I do.. not being the 'perfectly functioning' person.
I also don't think it's fair to others to be ruled out simply because they're not perfect. Even if one appears perfect, chances are they're not. Neither am I. :)
Buddah | |
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Posted: 4/11/2005 1:12:38 AM | | I actually had a 5-month deeply involved relationship with a girl who had been in a debilitating car accident; skull fractures, severed pituitary gland, constant chronic pains (which led to a lot of sporadic yelling out of pain)... how did I respond? I comforted her, I held ice packs on her head when it hurt, I made sure to keep extra bottles of water in my car and house in case she needed some for hydration or to take meds, it was a wonderful relationship while it lasted really, we went everywhere, did everything together, no problems other than when she moved to massachusetts, but hey all good things come to an end as the saying goes. | |
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late™
| | Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 169 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 11:15:03 AM | Hmmm.... can't see it getting in the way of love, if love's there.
I have a permanent work-related disability in '03 (right shoulder is toast), and have a few minor problems related to a brain injury(get yer jokes in folks) from a near fatal skull fracture in '94, this said, I don't regard myself as disabled, too many good folks have overcome much bigger challenges. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 11:41:51 AM | It's funny how people view even minor disablilties. With a slight limp, I hardly think of myself as disabled. I even own and run my own company. Yet, there are those who see I can't ski and say, "Disabled, NO WAY!" I can understand their viewpoint if they are very active and into skiing and rock climbing, but how many of us in our mid-40's are really into those kind of endevors?
The nice thing is, whoever gets me, gets a great gal who knows herself inside out and likes what she is. Now, if the fates allow his path to cross mine one day, it will enhance my life not make it. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 12:38:18 PM | GeorgieLeopard
YOU are beautiful person. I think your golden. One day that one special man will find you and it will be golden.
YOU are special.
I enjoy reading the warmth of one the likes of you. Thank you.
Take care,
Sandi | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 12:43:28 PM | | It depends on the extent of the disability, to be realistic you have to be willing to live with the ways that their disability may limit what you can and can't do together like have childern for example. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 1:32:41 PM | I have been reading some of these responses to Georgies thread and some of the responses let me see that people in this world do have open minds towards people with disabilities.
I hope more people take time to get to know someone with a disability and I think it will open theirselves up to a whole new world. It doesn't matter if it is a mental or physical disability, I think everyone could learn something from these people. I am not saying you have to date someone with a disability but take time and try to understand what they go thru on a daily basis. I think people would gain some respect for them and would cherish what they have and not take things for granite.
I do have a disability and I can say that I would date someone with one. But I would not date them because they have something physically or mentally wrong. It would be for the person inside them and who they are and what they can do, not what they can't do. We do have feelings and a heart.
My motto in life, where there is a will there is a way. If I want to do something I will claw, scratch, fight or whatever it takes to figure out some way to do it.
So people please take time out of your busy life to find out what life like this all about. If you won't date someone with a disability, take time to get to know someone with one.
You won't regret it.
Great post Angelicpassion!!!!!! | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 4/11/2005 1:44:49 PM | outdoorsman55
I second your motion!
When I was in a wheelchair after my accident, for four years, people would avoid eye contact with me in public places.. I felt like I had the plague! I'm no different now than I was then, but it used to really irk me when children would come over, curious beings that they are, and strike up a conversation, only to have their parents come and drag them away saying very cruely, "Don't bother the POOR woman!"
I've never been emotionally or intellectually poor in my life. What a shame so many people who have disabilities are treated like this! | |
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