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Posted: 11/10/2008 9:51:50 PM | Hey, WTF....is that an Adam's apple...?! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 10:01:53 PM |
He tried to boss me around but I thought it was a joke (anyone who knows me would have that same impression) so I just laughed
When a man wags his finger at me and says "Young lady you need to...." On the first meeting, well, that's just a death wish. No thanks. I don't need anyone telling me how to live my life, especially at the age of 56 and having been on my own most of my adult life, I've got a pretty clear picture of what I need and want to do without a complete stranger telling me. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 10:50:23 PM | Hey, WTF....is that an Adam's apple...?!
lol no sir. It's a backbone ;-)
When a man wags his finger at me and says "Young lady you need to...."
and he didn't even score points for calling you young???? What's a guy gotta do around here??? | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 10:55:15 PM |
and he didn't even score points for calling you young???? What's a guy gotta do around here???
Not patronize me for one thing.  | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 11:10:58 PM | these are my top deal breakers.
- they showed up late
- she doesn't look like her picture - this actually happened to me!
- she has bad breath
- her cell phone rings constantly and she answers every time it rings | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 11:28:19 PM | | ^^^Showing up late? Sure you want to, can be, that picky? How late? 5 minutes, 20, an hour? Is this a job interview? Maybe she was late because she wanted to look really nice for you and kept changing her outfit. Maybe she was nervous and anxious, couldn't find her car keys, got lost, etc., etc. Bad breath, well that can show someone doesn't take care of him/herself. It is a pretty big turn off. The cell phone thing indicates a lack of respect for others. It would turn me off too. And not looking like her picture: not at all, completely deceptive, yes. But if the picture was only slightly different than the real thing, I'd be more accepting. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 5:38:10 AM | I first look to see is if she resembles her photos. Sometimes the woman is literally unrecognizable because the photos are so ancient that the woman in front of me looks like she might be the mother or sometimes even the grandmother, lol, of the woman in the photos.
Many times the woman in person is far, far heavier than her photos showed her to be. Maybe she used photo shop or the photos were old ones. In any case, I no longer will meet a woman who shows only headshots. Some women have the faces of slender women on huge bodies.
On rare occasons I have been pleasantly surprised that the woman looks as good as or even better than her photos showed her to be. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 7:54:06 AM | | Great thread! Yeah, a person looking very different from their photo sends up all kinds of flags. I also notice eating habits. I'm not fussy or anything but if someone chews with their mouth open or talks while eating , it's the last time I'll see them. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 8:01:29 AM |
Some women have the faces of slender women on huge bodies.
(Gasping for breath!!!!!) ROFLMAO!!!!!!! The tip of the proverbial iceberg!!
That, good sir, was hysterically funny. And you seemed to say it with a straight face. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 8:06:55 AM | | Barbie-hunters alert! "She is the epitome of pop culture and plastic princesshood. A female human of average height shaped like Barbie would carry huge breasts on her waif-like frame, possess a 21 inch waist and 33 inch hips (http://www.historychannel.com/exhibits/toys/barbie.html). She exemplifies the fetish characteristics our society places on breasts (Young, 1990). She also reinforces Bardo’s argument that anorexia nervosa is a symptom of our cultural disease (1988). And a colonizing Barbie is the ideal for some who might undergo plastic surgery to sculpt their body after her graven image (Morgan, 1991). Is she the agent for the self-hatred of the disembodied? Is she the testimony of woman as too much? She is not symptom or disease, she is both. " | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 8:13:33 AM | She is wearing her panties over her pants
Is a she-male
Is wearing an amway name badge | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 8:22:57 AM | | Awww, SC, on the breast issue, among others, I am the gadfly. During my first week of college, at the University of Rochester, the "upperclass" men and women indoctrinated us newbies. The women taught us that Rochester is pronounced with the emphasis on the Ro-, NOT on the "chest". And, that it is far better to be smart than chested. Those were my absorptive days, I took the lessons to heart, and cherish them still. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 8:31:46 AM | For me anorexic bodies are unappealing, with or without the fake fun bags. I do like shapely slender women. That is my preference. Others have their preferences and that is fine by me.
In my previous post I was referring to, from their photos, expecting to meet the female equivalent of Dr. Bruce Banner but instead encountering The Incredible Bulk. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 8:38:42 AM | It never occurred to me that he had a sense of humor. I must read with new eyes. If this is all tongue in cheek, well, then, I owe him an apology. If so, he is the most subtle of men.
OMG, he is woman, witty, Orphic man, he is WOman!!! I have found my love! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 9:18:13 AM |
The women taught us that Rochester is pronounced with the emphasis on the Ro-, NOT on the "chest". And, that it is far better to be smart than chested I don't want to rain on anybody's parade here, but it is possible to be both. When it is assumed it must be one or the other, we may underrate, undervalue and underestimate some very intelligent women. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 9:27:04 AM |
I don't want to rain on anybody's parade here, but it is possible to be both.
'S okay, Ismene. I sing in rain. Lol. Of course, you are right, and while sometimes I think I can detect gene pool physical traits in a person's appearance, I do not "rush to judgment" on anything I first see. Why, some of my best friends are big bosom buddies! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 9:29:48 AM |
some of my best friends are big bosom buddies! Gosh, some of my best friends are men. We are so friggin' broad minded!  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 10:13:04 AM | I don't think I'd go into a 1st 'date' w/ a lot of romantic intent invested......so it'd be rather hard to have a 'deal breaker', so to speak.
At absolute best, I might find enough compatibility & chemistry to arouse hope for a romantic intent.... but at the very least, we've probably been talking long enough to know that a new friend will most likely arise from the meeting.
If your romantic expectations are low, then you are much more likely to experience a pleasant surprise, than you are a serious let-down, right?  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 11:07:23 AM | | LOl,is that a adams apple...good one lament,better than mine. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2008 2:38:05 PM | definite red flags!
pushy, inconsiderate, changes the time for the first meeting, at the last minute
or insists on his own way for the place to meet
tries to kiss you before or after coffee
doesnt offer to pay for the coffee or the drink
talks endlessly about the last woman/women in his life | |
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Posted: 11/13/2008 3:09:25 PM | | I think that I pretty much agree with the other posts here – finally meeting face-to-face is THE TEST as to what the person said is truth or fiction. Fortunately, I’ve had very good luck – that the ladies I’ve met were who and what they said they were. But I’ve also had the misfortune when someone has lied about their age. It’s not so much that they look older, but that they lied. And, I’m sorry, but once a liar, then it becomes very difficult with me to accept anything as truthful from that person. That’s a deal breaker. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2008 3:29:10 PM | She said she's 46, and she is 66.
C ya. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 4:54:04 PM | | Usually it is because a woman has misrepresented her age, her weight or both. Those are deal breakers! | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 6:14:58 PM |
It’s not so much that they look older, but that they lied. And, I’m sorry, but once a liar, then it becomes very difficult with me to accept anything as truthful from that person. That’s a deal breaker.
At least annually, in the mountains in TN, folks gather to a storytellers contest, with contestants of all ages, and their audiences are rapt with attention. I was there, once, and deeply impressed with the talent of each contestant to excel at what I thought, with tbe sprawling internet, foreshortened attention spans, cell phones, etc., was a dead art. I was totally sucked in with each wonderful tale.
But there was a big sign on the big tent (smaller by far than pof), where we gathered, that said Storytellers' Contest.
There are no such warnings on this site, but there should be. I have been sucked in, totally, more than once, by some of the gifted women here, led to the brink, and shoved down the hole. No happy endings, and I definitely did not applaud them.
To ALL pofers, men and women, boys and girls: watch your 6.
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