| | Is this torture to a guy?Page 4 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | If I like her, no. If I don't, yes. Kinda the opposite of what seems to make sense.
Actually, I wouldn't sleep with her if I didn't like her. I also hate life and wake up punching and kicking. I might hurt her with my sissy assault. I also talk in my sleep, and prefer not to be heard. Oh, I also can't sleep next to other people usually. I also fear they will fart and rumble the bed. I don't like waking up thinking there is a earthquake. Plus it stinks. My farts don't for some reason. Thanks for asking. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 11:03:39 AM | Fishette,
If I were having a great new relationship, I would want to have it never slowed, and hold back in no way. That is who I am, I can see no good in any loss of a loving thing. Okay I think that's brutal enough for my honesty.
If you feel chemistry (whatever that really means) attraction?
1. What is required for you to have sex?
2. Why did you feel bad for his not having sex?
3. What is your exact next goal with the Guy?
4. What is the purpose of waiting even 12 Hours? Some kind of loyalty test?
5. What is your sex time limit?
6. what if he says no let's wait? How long will you wait?
7. Was it easy for you to control yourself?
8. How do you think you got so much closer by being apart?
9. What were you not doing, so you would not tease him?
10. What are symptoms of a guy being super sexually frustrated in the morning?
you ask for guys opinions, will you provide us with some answers?
louuuu | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 11:15:56 AM | | Fackker it's very clear to me why you're on this site. What a jackass. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 2:31:01 PM | I'm a very atypical guy; I'd prefer that situation to sex, as I'm not interested in sex with anyone. However, cuddling like that could still be too much touching someone, too physical for me; I'm not big on hugs and so on. It wouldn't make me sexually aroused or frustrated; it would just make me nervous.
Though it would be nice to find someone I was comfortable enough with that I could cuddle like that. I have found that, say, playing with a dog or holding my young niece doesn't make me uncomfortable the way hugging in general does; maybe I need to date someone where it feels really innocent and asexual like that. | |
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| Is this torture to a guy?
Posted: 8/29/2006 4:04:31 AM | | I don't think I've ever put anyone, nor myself through that. When I'm ready to invite a man to my bed, he better be ready to do more then just cuddle. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2006 6:05:51 AM | I had this exact same situation. We had both agreed that it wouldn't go too far sexually until we were ready...
I would assume someone who consciously makes this decision would not hold anything against you if you literally SLEPT in the same bed but didn't have sex with him.
That's just a mature attitude to take towards a situation like that. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2006 6:06:03 AM | I had this exact same situation. We had both agreed that it wouldn't go too far sexually until we were ready...
I would assume someone who consciously makes this decision would not hold anything against you if you literally SLEPT in the same bed but didn't have sex with him.
That's just a mature attitude to take towards a situation like that. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2006 9:18:53 AM | I'd say, if you don't want to start with sex right away, then don't push your luck with sleeping on the same bed. Even if you find yourself holding on quite well, you might be surprised when your body takes over one day and you lose control.
I think, better spend the night at different houses. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 5:28:24 PM |
YES, it is not only torture but cruel and unusual punishment
Good thing this is America and we have a constitution. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 6:11:40 PM | Yeah i'm not a guy but whatever
I slept in the same bed with my bf 2-3 times a week for a little over a month before i let him do anything sexual to me and vice versa...torture or not, if your not ready and he can't deal with it tell him to go to hell.
My bf and I still to this day laugh about how long I made him wait and how it drove him insane, but he didn't care, he says it's part of what made him fall in love with me so easily... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 7:20:55 PM |
Good thing this is America and we have a constitution.
Canadian site. Cruel and unusual punishment permitted. 
There IS a difference between it being torture, and respecting the other person's wishes for the "If it's torture, he's a dog" mentality out there.
I may not like it, but if she's worth it, I'll put up with it. For whatever reason she's making me wait for..... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 8:06:15 PM | Okay, I wasn't going to post a reply but this response made pop come out my nose. Too funny!!
Cheers! Tina | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 8:26:59 PM | When you are first starting to date a woman, and you've agreed not to have sex together yet, but yet you sleep in the same bed with her at night cuddling and pillow talking...
You didn't mention alternate forms of relief. Lacking that, if the guy could sleep, he's gay. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 9:42:44 PM | | Wow, its nice to see the first response in the Ask a Guy forum about a question that was directed at guys was answered by a WOMAN. I wouldn't consider that torture. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 9:57:33 PM | | thats not too bad because you told him before hand you weren't going to have sex with him. I just hate it when girls actually let you stick your Di** in them and then say they don't want to do that. The "I want our first time to be special" clause....I don't mind waiting, but that's just fu**ing mean and I take it as a game....Games suck and i don't like to play them, but if one is starts i know who won't win....Not being an ***hole i just keep my gaurd up till someone makes me feel i can let it down. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2006 10:38:14 PM | ok so a naked Brad Pitt is laying in the same bed you are and sleeping next to you but he made it clear he is not ready to have sex with you and your reaction to this situation is?
REaction: Eeeewww...
I hear Brad Pitt has very bad BO... I think unless I was congested I'd be making it clear there would be no sex with him... and he wouldn't be allowed in my bed unless he wanted to do laundry after.
Mr. Bitt is best at a distance and down wind I think  | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 12:03:20 AM | | First of all,yeah,that is torture.Second,I would be a fool to sleep in the same bed with a woman and we weren't having sex.Third,why sleep in the same bed with a man who you know want to have sex with you and not give it to him.Thats just being a tease.Fifth,you'll be damn lucky if,after a night like that,he didn't go have sex with somebody else.He would be entitled.Sixth,how long do intend to keep this up before you decide to have sex with him?Seventh,you don't seem like you feel bad at all.You seem to kind of enjoy what your doing to him.Eighth,how would you like it if a man played on your weaknesses and didnt follow through? | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 12:08:26 AM | | It's kool to wait,if you both agree to that but,if a woman is trying to make me wait just to make me wait and see what I'll do,she'll be mad as hell at me because Imma knock the first thing I see when I open my eyes.No skin off of my back.Just being real about it...... | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 12:37:57 AM | fishette,babygirl.......Listen to me.He's not alright with it,man!!!!Trust me on this one.The man wanted and expected sex.Period.Even if he do say,"Nawww,I'm ok" in the morning.I can garentee you,when he got home,he did one of 3 things.He popped in a porno and damn near beat his d..k insane or he got a porno mag and damn near beat his d..k insane or the man banged the first woman that came down with the first drop of rain.You didnt do anything but hurt what could have probably been a good relationship for you both by playing these games and in a mans eyes he knows he can count on that again from you.You dont believe me?Watch what does.He'll still come over because he still likes you but around bedtime,he's going to find a way out of your house and into another womans bed because he already knows that a night with you will only end up with him being frustrated in the morning.I'm not saying that sex is the all important thing.I'm saying that when you put a man in a situation like that then it become all important.He's a fool for ever putting himself in that position.Hell,you better handle your business if you really wanna be with this man and worry about cuddling afterwards.Now,how many men do you know who really just want to cuddle?WHy would you do something like that to a man you say you care so much about.Your going to mess around
and get caught slippin' because some other woman is going to slide right under you and tell your man,"I wouldnt never do that to you" and have your man strung the f..k out to the point where he's going to think,why deal with you anymore.Man,I dont know high school girls who do what you did.That went out with the horse and buggy........... | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 12:47:03 AM | | I think it depends on what went on earlier in the date, did you two just hang out or was there some intimacy during your date. I know that if I went on a date and things heated up somewhat, just being alone in the same room with you would be a real problem for me. Now if your in the same bed together, hell just the scent of you could be agonizing. However, cuddling with you all thru the night,even if I was frustated that there would be no sex, would undoubtedly make it more exciting when the first time actually happens. Above all, if he is still seeing you it may not have been too bad for him, maybe he thought that he was being put thru a test, so to speak. Just a hint of advise though, don't do that too often to him, that would be torturing him!! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 5:27:29 AM | I would assume someone who consciously makes this decision would not hold anything against you if you literally SLEPT in the same bed but didn't have sex with him.
Well ........I'd be holding SOMETHING against them
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Posted: 8/31/2006 1:14:11 PM | Maddoctor,
I think your close on this one, she's playing lots of games, kinda like she got dumped by some guy she liked and now she wants confirmation that's she's hurtin some new MALE. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 6:07:52 PM | | Well, I have done this; slept in the same bed with a woman I was seeing but didn't have sex with her until she wanted to. The only problem I have with it is if a guy suspects a woman is usinig sex as a control issue. Than it's all over for me, I'm out of there! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 6:39:03 PM | | This is insane! No it's not torture. You told him up front what the deal was. If he was that frustrated and it bothered him he would have gone to the couch himself. Guys (at least a few of us from the looks of it) can actually be close to a woman without the need for sex. It is certainly ok after only a couple dates to lay those boundries. Having him in bed with you lets him know that hey, I really like you, I really want you close but I'm just not ready to step it up to the sex thing yet. A mature man can handle that, or at least be honest and say, umm... no too much sexual tension my erection and I will sleep on the couch. And what's the big deal being made out of the bed here? I've had sex on my kitchen table does that mean I can't have a woman over to dinner without her being dessert? One of my ex's and I decided we were going to hold off on the sex thing for a bit and the sexual tension was just insane. We slept in the same bed and there was a lot of foreplay but we stuck to our decision and waited (well not as long as originally decided upon) but anyway, that was torture, however I gotta say that the anticipation made it some of the most incredible sex we had ever had. Maybe you should just ask HIM if it was too much. | |
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