| | When is it OK to cheat?Page 3 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | | It's never ok of course, but the problem with people cheating is they stay in a complacent relationship that they don't want to get out of or fix on the issues that makes them want to stray. So they go elsewhere for the fun since the sex life in the relationship is ok or whatnot. I find that some people who are in complacent relationships have more of a tendency to cheat because they want the new with the old. I can't fathom why anyone would want to be in a complacent relationship, perhaps they don't want to reject the person they are with, perhaps they are afraid of changes or being a single person who knows. But personally, I'd break up the relationship if it's at a point where I want to be with someone else. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:55:11 AM |
notice how all the "players" - male & female don't answer to this one! LOL I'd really like to hear their explanations/rationalizations, as they can be very creative!
Oh don't be so sure you haven't heard from them already. Some of the best cheaters are the ones who say cheating is wrong and that they'd never do it. Also some people here who have never cheated before and are putting it down, will do so in the future. How many times do people say "I never thought I'd ever..."? | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:44:00 PM |
Some of the best cheaters are the ones who say cheating is wrong and that they'd never do it
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Posted: 2/9/2008 11:18:47 PM | I agree....it is never ok to cheat. Especially if you are having sex together. Too dangerous these days.
I have been cheated on. It is so weird when you find out...you look at him and you see a face that is familiar, but you no longer know who that person is. Like an evil stranger. I hate liars too. No reason to hurt people this way.
If it isnt working, break up and move on. That way the other person can build a new life too instead of the cheater setting himself up in a new life then dumping you and your sitting there with your mouth hanging open in shock. What ***holes. I cant stand people like that. Am i bitter? No. Not anymore. Its been 12 years. You just dont get over that easily.
We had two children. He married his mistress. She has called me complaining about him. I told her, duh, he has a new girlfriend. What did you think was going to happen. She cheats on him too. Strange lifestyle.
Revenge is mine sayeth the Lord! I never did try for revenge. I told them I would just sit back and watch the show that I knew they would cheat on each other. LOL
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Posted: 2/10/2008 2:58:24 AM |
When is it OK to cheat?
Only when you're dealing with death!!!! 
Otherwise if you're in a relationship, "TILL DEATH DO YOU PART" hmmmm, does that mean 'death of the relationship?' anyway, relationships change, people change, they just forget to tell one another. I used to think that marriage should only be good for 5 years, if after that time, you're still in love, renew it, otherwise move on. The complications to this scenario is if children are involved...
I used to think that if you wanted someone faithful till death do you part would be to get a dog, cats are too independent... Motorcycles? Well motorcycles last only as much as a dog or cat, women and/or relationships.... or only as long until one or the other in a relationship cheats. A sexless relationship sucks, or if one partner has a lower sex drive than the other, then both had better come up with a compromising solution (sex buddies, open relationship, etc.). Cheating is the final step before leaving the relationship... regardless of whether there are children involved or not...
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 2/10/2008 12:41:31 PM | | it is never ok to cheat , thats the worst thing you can do to someone | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:48:59 PM | It's never OK to cheat!!! If you have fallen out of love and have the desire to cheat you need to end the relationship first. Why would you want to rub salt into the wound? Hurting you're so called significant other is very cruel. Yes she or he is going to hurt for awhile, especially if they really loved you, but the hurt of someone cheating never goes away. It's hard to trust anyone when you are involved in a cheating partner. 
So instead of only thinking about yourself, think of the person you're cheating on and the life long hurt this will cause them. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 2/10/2008 1:15:58 PM | | I think it is OK to cheat, when you have absolutely no sense of morality or conscience. Well, OK to you... maybe not to the rest of the world. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 2/10/2008 1:44:34 PM | Not really adding anything here that hasn't been said above: It's never okay to cheat. Pretty simple, and basically 'nuff said about that.
Related though, but if you're feeling like cheating, it's probably actually symptomatic of other 'deadness' in your relationship. Here my suggestion would be to NOT run away, but to sort it out with your partner and work to bring life back into the relationship where needed; thick and thin. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 2/21/2008 3:27:47 PM | when you're playing strip poker *hahaha*
or... when you're letting the other person win sometimes...
When your boss tells you to take the rest of the day off because all the work is done.
when there's goodies left over in the fridge
Everyone cheats sometimes... maybe not on their spouse, but... | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 10:28:20 AM | Life is full of risks. Saying it is okay or not doesn't make it okay or not. But at least people know who they are dealing with. Except that people can lie about what they really think and what they really do.
Personally, I am comitted to my own well-being and would not take it upon myself to put someone else at risk without giving them a choice about it.
Not only that, there is an implicit, if not explicit, promise when you are in an exclusive relationship. I like to keep my promises and honor what I know another can reasonably expect me to do, even if I have not said I would, and be honest about it when I know I am not going to.
My view is not right or true. But I am looking for someone who is committed to the same principles, not out of fear of hell and damnation, but as a matter of who they are.
If I was in a relationship and she really felt she needed to go out and experience someone else, that would not automatically be a deal-breaker for me. It would depend on the reasons and how she handled it. Lying to me (concealing is lying, in my opinion, too) is a deal-breaker. (Okay, the thought of it actually makes me a little sick but perhaps I am still a little old fashioned about sex and love. I hope I always am, at least a little.)
There is a lot of freedom in honesty and being someone with whom others can be honest. One without the other doesn't work. If you find that people lie to you, you probably have not dealt well with the truth in the past and have taught them to lie. Or perhaps some other schmuck from their past has taught them to lie. Either way, you need to know who you are dealing with. Don't give away that responsibility to someone else. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 7:57:04 PM | | I'm astonished at how many said "Everyone has cheated". I never have. Why not end a relationship if it's bad? I would have to be cheated on and I'd die before I would cheat on my lover. To me, that is the worst thing you can do to another person. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 2/25/2008 10:31:54 PM | When you're doing your taxes
You are wrong it is not cheating. You just have to have a creative CPA.
In a committed relationship or marriage: NEVER
Yes I've been cheated on, but they have to live with their negative Karma they created for themselves.
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Posted: 2/28/2008 5:13:52 AM | Greetings, Fishers! I hope the sun is shining in your little world!
We should really be in-tune with our partner's mind before getting involved. What is it that you both want? Monogamy and exclusive rights to another person's body or something else? If you consider yourself a "one-man woman" and want the same dedication from your man, and if both agree, then you have your countract and you should both respect it. Keep your word.
As a man who has walked down the wedding road twice, I never had any desire for another woman until the desire and the magic was gone and then it was over and all was revealed, the papers were drawn and then, time to move on.
The biggest mistake people make is having too much in a relationship and getting too relaxed and used to it all. They want to keep the status quo but have their little parties on the side. You can have your cake and try to eat it too but that never works. So what can one do?
I suggest that we all remember that everyone wants Respect. If you started out a relationship respecting and caring about your partner, give him or her that same respect when the desire has left your heart-just say it's over and it's time to move on.
Your partner will appreciate your honesty eventually.
By the way, I have never had the desire to cheat...ever! I always give myself completely to the woman that I care deeply for. But that is just me!
Peace and Music!
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Posted: 2/28/2008 8:19:43 AM | | I have been married 40 years . Have not been in love for 20 of it. Try to live on my own ? Can't afford it and won't go with a guy just to get out. I now am raising another child .Mine are 36, and 38 but took on another child .Great nephew of my husbands. Also i am on disability. Where do you think i could live ? Not much choices. My husband cheated first .I stayed and did everything i could do to try to get him to be true. but didn't work. Oh yeah ! now that he is done .he figures that i should just fall all over him. But sorry to late ! If you could fine a man that has NOT cheated his whole marriage ! You have one special man. I also stayed for religious reasons. I was involved with church a lot. But now i want to feel loved once again. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 12:05:44 PM | | well if your married i would understand why you would look for someone else on the side since getting devorced makes you give up half your posessions and if you have kids it kinda makes things harder,though im not the type to cheat and i dont condone it i kinda understand. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:25:53 PM |
find between 7:45 and 8:30 a.m. is best. That's when most of their wives are busy taking the kids to school.
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 3/1/2008 10:43:11 PM | I can answer that in one simple word.
NEVER!
If you are that unhappy, respect the person enough to end it before moving on. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 7:58:57 PM | its ok to cheat if ur woman has bad breath.. or if she makes horrible dinner.... or if she has breast cancer... so those are the times to cheat on her. | |
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| When is it OK to cheat?
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:30:58 AM |
or if she has breast cancer OK ladies, better snap him up before it is too late... | |
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