| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/25/2006 6:30:24 PM | I doubt I've posted anything I'd be ashamed to let my students read. BUT it would be a distraction. My students are aged anywhere between 14 and 60+. Most of them are 16-19 and male. I don't want them associating me with anything other than my teacher role.
As I'm not searching here for a date, only for forum discussion/email/friends I'm not toooo worried. If I was looking here for a date I know my students would be capable of setting up a fake profile and pranking me. They'd mean no harm, but I'd not want to have it happen, just the same. Again -- too much of a distraction from what I am supposed to be in their eyes. | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/25/2006 6:45:23 PM |
I know my students would be capable of setting up a fake profile and pranking me.
OMG, I hadn't even considered that. I'm going to be lying up nights, now. This might be the end of POF for me...
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/25/2006 11:13:22 PM | ^^^ If I were you I'd take the photo down right now.
You're good-looking and if they have a crush on you and found your profile they might play with you.
Or if they decide that you don't like them, they may get vindictive towards you and wish to hurt your feelings.
I've seen both responses happen enough with female students and male teachers.
And you know far too many school-girls really like mind-games.
Many can be psychologically very manipulative and cruel until they grow up.
If you take the photo down you'll be pretty safe in my opinion.
Everything your profile seems general enough that it could be describing someone other than you.
Although Ferndale is pretty small.... you may wish to put the county name instead.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 1:52:54 AM | | See this is what I was talkin about....not that nurses and teachers are not human or that they dont deserve to fall in love or anything like that......when you deal with any students ages 13-19 and even a lil older things can get crazy. That has been the whole reasoning behind whatever I have said. Unfortunate things can happen, and I guess if you wanna come on line and do your thing then yea doin things to protect yourself from your students possibley seein you would be better, like not postin a pic.......you can state in your profile that you have pics when the time comes and such.......and if after seein the last few threads you think I am still sayin stuff that I really am not then I give up...... | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 11:26:50 AM | I'm in agreement with you Tina...
I'm married to a teacher and there are soooo many mis-conceptions about teachers out there by the general public.
To anyone who doesn't know this.. Teacher's start their day at 8 am and finish at 3 pm. Yes, they have their summer's off. Yes, they have certain perks to be envied.
What people out there don't know is this.. My wife's typical school day...
Up at 5:30 am.. get to school early to have plans, exams, assignments ready an hour before the kids get to school. Work from 8 am to 3 pm.. head home and prepare papers, mark homework, intervention, work with with special needs kids, problem kids, typing up exams and quizes. My wife gets home from work at 5 pm and 3 or 4 days out of 5 days of the week, she will hide in the office to do school work for the kids. This makes for a 15 hour day. Then there are extra-curricular activities.. she travels with kids to other cities for school meets, sports and art. These activities are sometimes done on the weekends, over and above the daily duties during the week.
So Summer's off? < Well deserved..!!
Do I see my wife during the school year? NO..!! Just during summers and holidays.
Still fighing for better pay and putting up with lay-offs < Undeserving for the dedicated teachers giving our kids their time for a better or higher education.
Why some professional women out there find themselves on a site like this??
- Well a distraction for some or they could drive themselves insane with the profession the love, yet dedicate so much of their lives to -
This doesn't explain why some pretend to be in the actual profession when they are just assistants in the same field.. but at least aside from agreeing with Tina on this thread.. this gives the average soul out there.. what the husbands of such professional women endure.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 3:34:53 PM | Because they are occupations that pay decently, and appeal to the female strengths. They are also fields that women can easily excel in, without getting a lot of gender harassment. I have worked in mostly male fields my whole life, and men can be very insulting and condescending.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/27/2006 8:12:23 AM |
I am thinkin that they are really not nurses or teachers......I think they are maybe LPNs
Good lord, didn't know I could feel my anger raise from 0 to 10 that fast... I did read your following posts Missy, however I NEED to put my 0.02 in here now...
I am an LPN. LPN stands for Licensed Practical NURSE. I may not have my BN -- but I can still save lives none the less. Here in Alberta, the only skill I cannot perform that an RN can is hanging blood and pushing drugs IV. In Manitoba, I was able to do that. I am trained just the same as an RN, minus all the "booky" stuff they have to study. Here in Alberta, RN's in training do not get to start IV's until their second year. When I took my LPN training in Manitoba, I was starting IV's 6 months into the course. And I am damn good at it.
The RN's I have talked to in Alberta, Saskatchewan and Manitoba are basically afraid that the LPN's are going to push them out of their jobs. I on the other hand think that this will never happen - however they are afraid because we CAN do all that they do, and we do it for less money. And I know in MB, LPN's are now running LTC's and some rural hospitals.
Whew... okay I think I am done now.
OT -- you see lots of nurses and lots of teachers on here (I think) because it is a HUGE proffession. There are lots of nurses and teachers that make the world go round... so that is why I think you see lots of us.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/27/2006 7:09:00 PM | OP, this is one I have to reply to (and then I'm going to finish up my paperwork I have from working an 8 hr shift today which will hopefully, only take me me more unpaid OT 2-3 hours)
I am an RN. I'm not a unit clerk pretending to be an RN. I have a license to prove it. And a diploma and a degree. And I think it's crazy, but flattering someone would lie about doing what I do to impress people.
missyelliot83
That's just wrong to lump any of us licensed professionals into your theory. I never heard of such a ridiculous theory either. AND as professional as I am, I have no fear of putting myself out there on the net. Most of my collegues (and this may contribute to part of the reason I am single) ARE either in their 20's and not in my circle, and too young to really socialize with or network with...OR my collegues are married. Nursing is isolating too. There is very, very little time on the job to do any socializing. I work in home care too, as a visiting nurse and the only people I see during the day are sick old people. Rarely is anyone I come across in my daily work day..a single dateable guy (unless of course you count my one patient now who's 33 and just had a heart transplant...oh, wait no...I don't think dating is on his mind now!!!!)
I think and this is my opinion from my experience. 1) we work odd shifts. 7PM to 7AM or 11AM to 7PM..rarely is it 9-5pm. 2) we ARE isolated from other single people and if we do see/meet them, it's often in front of patients. IT can be hard to flirt! 3) It is one of the most, the most stressful jobs you can imagine. Everyday we go to work and take care of other people's problems. Physical, mental, emotional, you name it. We always put other's needs first..and often get burnt out quickly. AND it does spill onto our personal lives. (that's why we often hook up with cops, they understand the demands of serving the public under difficult situations) Also, often nurses are NOT supported much by administration. Not appreciated, etc..and that adds to our daily frustrations.
NOW, if you throw having kids into the equation...then we have TWO jobs..two full time jobs.
When we walk in the door after a hard day at work, we immediately have to tend to the needs of our children. And begin that daily routine. By 10-11pm we are absolutely exhausted.
Not much time for ourselves. Sheesh, I fall asleep every night almost, sitting in a chair, either watching something on TV, or reading just cause I have to have my own private time, and I fall asleep 90% of the time.
I don't know why there are single women in the profession other than it's a predominantly female profession. And married women have to start single at some point!
Now, to find a mate/partner...relationship..on top of all this...well it becomes a back burner thing..and for me, one of the few options besides bars or clubs (which is tough 'cuz all my friends are married and don't do that scene anymore) OR blind dates (and your friends only have soooo many single friends that aren't dreadful) is the online thing. It's easy to weed out people..meet people you can't meet in your daily travels, and can be done while very tired when in sweats...
So that may be an answer why you see many nurses on here. At least that's why I am..
(well now it's just the forums, I'm not looking anymore)
As far as why there are so many women who are nurses? I find that odd, considering most of my collegues are married and older than you OP...and there are only 2.6 million nurses in the US...and only 40% single, I think...last time I checked? It it a good paying profession and you'll always, always have a job. Anywhere in the world if you so choose. Plus, nowadays, people are giving more respect to nurses, so it seems more attractive as a career...BUT if you check statistics...there is a MAJOR, MAJOR, shortage....supply does not meet demand and salaries are rising....that could be why you see so many on here.. | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:29:13 AM | Well I suppose you think that nurses are all females? WRONG>>>>> I have been a nurse for 17 yrs, no I am not gay either. As a male nurse, I can often sympathize with my gender counterparts (females) As to the long, often taxing hard worked hours, and usually unsociable hours. I personally work weekend shifts, 7pm through to 7 am fri through sun. When am I supposed to go and meet someone?? On a Monday night?? Also to top that the Nursing profession is greatly understaffed and underpaid (not according to some of you) so we end up either being mandated to work or called in for extra shifts. (bang goes my monday night date)
I started as an LPN for 7 yrs, worked myself through school at my expense (not my parents) for a Associates degree, Then another two yrs after that for a BSN, and now I'm working on a masters degree. I have never considered myself less of a nurse as to my type of license as someone implied in thier forum. I would like see maybe a state licensing exam for receptionists?? If you think that we have the time to date you are wrong. Occasionally we can get out and around, but then most people do not want someone who is mind set, independant or strong willed either which i think is a requirement in this profession.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 7:21:14 AM | I don't think issues with teaching or nursing are specific to general. Males and females are going to have similar job issues. Specific areas may be male or female dominated. I teach technology subjects, which is typically male dominated, even though large numbers of teachers overall are female. Experience may be more significant as seniority in some environments means priority in time off, teaching assignments, substitutes, going to workshops, etc. I'm not sure if nursing has seniority, but it would not surprise me.
I've found that many men (not bashing, all my experience is with men) want to be spontaneous. They do not want to make plans even a few days in advance. That simply will not work with this lifestyle. I've been told a number of times to just call in sick and go out. No, I don't think so. That would mean trying to round up a qualified substitute (no the boss doesn't find one for you), doing the lesson plan anyway for the sub, and at some schools paying them out of my own pocket (adjuncts teaching is not full time, so no sick day benefits). Plus it means I have plenty of grading later and upset students that will claim the substitute did not know what they were doing. The last unscheduled "day off" I had was due to death in the immediate family and I am still in shock over the nastiness received because I was unexpectedly out for a few days and understandably a little shaky (limited time to prepare and frankly, not feeling all that good) for a few days when I got back.
An Enigma and Merc007 have painted a realistic picture of the time issues. Dating is possible, but I've found the need to plan for and make time. If I have plans to go out on the weekend, I'll make sure all my paperwork and life activities are done earlier in the week since weekend is often catch up time. With Internet meetings, this often means that I'll wind up with a free night, as there's a very high rate of last minute cancellations and no-shows. Let's face it the reasons are generally very lame. This used to bother me very much, after all I did all this rearranging for a cancellation(!) Now at this point, I'm thinking, I am likely better off saving the hassle and doing my own thing. I am thinking another person in similar type of work would be perhaps more suitable. Not to sound so negative, teaching does have MANY high points on the job, just that it's a different lifestyle.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 5:19:02 PM | | What makes you think that an LPN is not a nurse? Sorry but a LPN is a nurse. A CNA is not a nurse but a nursing assistant. I am a LPNII and I can do all the work that and RN does. As a matter of fact I train the new RN's on how to do their job. Just felt you needed to be informed about nurses---RN's and LPN are both nurses. RN stands for Registered Nurse and LPN stands for Licensed Pratical Nurse. Notice that both of them are nurses. We both are licensed through the State Board of Nursing. CNA's are not. | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/30/2006 12:19:14 PM | I can't speak for teachers but I think that nurses have a tough time due to their work schedules. I have friends that work odd shifts and hours. Consider that most people work "normal" day jobs but nurses work a different shift rotation would make it difficult tohave a normal dating life unless their partner was on the same schedule
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:46:50 AM | | i agree wholeheartedly w/anenigma.. we don`t have that opportunity 2 meet singles in the bars, supermarket, on the streets, etc.. by signing up on dating sites such as this 1, gives us healthcare professionals that opportunity that we normally wouldn`t get.. and 2 find someone that actually understands ur schedule is another thing.. most ppl can`t & don`t stick around b/c our schedules r quite 'screwy'.. i for 1 know that my job(s) don`t end when i walk out the door.. alot of times the office will call 4 this n that & then u have other paperwork that needs 2 be done before u head out in the morning or what have u.. or someone calls in sick & u`ve been asked 2 go in (even when u`ve worked ur 12 hr shift & don`t wanna go back in).. | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/31/2006 12:20:58 PM | HAHA.. This post made me almost cry with laughter.
Im a Male nurse surrounded by women, but you know what, at the end of the day after doing shift work I want to go home and relax. There isn’t even the slightest idea of sex; all I want is sleep and rest. I don’t have enough time to peruse a relationship due to the amount of casual shifts. Though I wish it wasn’t nursing feels like a 24/7 job, once you have done a few shifts on the floor you are thinking about whats going to happen tomorrow, did you get all the charting done, how is pt#354-b doing, blah blah blah.
Men are always thinking because I work with hundreds of women I most be having the time of my life, since there are many single ones out there. One moral is never dip your pen in company ink.
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 8/31/2006 8:22:40 PM | | As some people mentioned before, these are very demanding and high stress positions. If u are an elementary school teacher, then there is a high percentage of females that u work with, which doesn't lend itself to meeting many males. Also u see the same people daily, its not like working in an office, where u might come in contact with clients etc. So u don't get to meet alot of men as a teacher. It makes sense that teachers and nurses make up a huge chunk of the profiles on here. | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:18:46 AM | @missyelliot83 ...for message 7 ...
I am thinkin that they are really not nurses or teachers......I think they are maybe LPNs FYI an LPN or LVN is a nurse.
@crzrck ...
They are well educated and intelligent and have trouble finding equals that suit them. You are absolutely right ... I actually have men who tell me they can no longer see me because I'm too much of a challenge to them ... in many ways. I'm not only a nurse, but sing and dance, can do about as much as most men can in home improvement projects, I cook (both American and German style cooking), I can sew, I love to go camping.
I'm complex, but certainly not complicated. Actually I'm a rather "plain Jane" type, but by far not stupid. I recently had a friend tell me that I'm probably too smart and when the guys figure that out, they can't deal with it. Well, I'm not going to dumb myself down for any man.
I work in an environment where all the men I meet are sick or debilitated. Even if they have family members that would eventually be interested in me, it's against the nurses code of ethics to date family members of our patients. I'm a home health nurse, so I do get to know the family, but as long as I'm caring for my patients, I am not allowed to date family members.
I also take a lot of work home with me ... I put finishing touches on my nursing notes, make flow sheets for my clients on my computer (to help them track blood sugars and blood pressures, edema, pain, drug side effects).
Also, I get a lot of men who are interested in me because I am a nurse ... they have physical problems and want a nurse in their lives. | |
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| Why are there so many single female nurses and teachers?
Posted: 9/20/2006 7:41:58 AM | I enjoy dating nurses because I'm a nurse, and it really provides a lot of common ground. So when my sweetie tells me how her day went (dropped a few NG tubes, had a confused patient climbing over the bed rails, etc) I can *totally* relate! And Cotter, LVN/LPN's Rock! I started out as an LPN and eventually went on for my RN. I've met many, many LPN/LVN's who can run circles around some RN's, and I've worked with a few BSN RN's whom I wouldn't trust my family to their care! Yes, I do try not to have my "Honey where I make my Money", but for the right woman it is so worth it! And I can understand why there are so many single nurses. I've met many married nurses whose husbands felt they didn't have to work, or worked very, very little, since their wife made pretty decent money. And like the other posters stated, the guys who just want a nurse to take care of them. So they do need to be more discriminating in their choices. For my part, in LA I guess I'm seen more as a stable paycheck since most women I meet are either involved in some aspect of showbiz or have dated too many guys that were. I had one girl ask me on the first date for grocery money! Kind hearts do attract those who seek to take advantage! It's weeding out the advantage-seekers from the genuine ones that's the real trick!
So to my fellow nurses (male and female):
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