| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 3:12:04 AM | Women talk about men who disrespect them, but yet woman to woman they don't respect each other. If your screwing around with a married man, no matter what his story is, you are only hearing his side of it, no matter how careful you are, the truth will come out if its a on going thing, then you will have played a part in hurting a innocent woman.
I think your lose of respect for her comes from the fact you see her in a new light now, deep inside now you wonder if she would hurt you like that in some way.
But is it your business to say anything, well not really but you can tell her you don't want to hear about it cause you disagree with it. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 8:07:22 AM | LOL unless its a swinger CPL that are open to it and the wife is completely ok with it....
In most situations i can agree with you, but not in all situations...
Yes guys will say mostly anything to get what they want, just like females..... Being tunnel visioned tho, is when you cant open your eyes and see the true picture what ever it may be is.
Thats they only time 1 can truely make a decision. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 12:36:18 PM | | well im my humble litle ole opion you should but ou.t it is not your hubby or anyone connected to you. so but out period who are you to judge her or him .or any of the rest of you on here. so they get laid like most of you want to. and a lot of you ladies will belive anything a man tells you. thats right anything he tells you. and most of you want to have sex. or you would not be online here in the first place. life is to short to avoid any good times. maybe you need to find you a safe married guy and get some. your not responsible for the wife of his. he is so your friend get's a little good for her and him. live and let live and quit worrying about what she and he do. i think they are pretty damn lucky myself. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 12:38:48 PM | | well im my humble litle ole opion you should but ou.t it is not your hubby or anyone connected to you. so but out period who are you to judge her or him. or any of the rest of you on here. so they get laid like most of you want to. and a lot of you ladies will belive anything a man tells you. thats right anything he tells you. and most of you want to have sex. or you would not be online here in the first place. life is to short to avoid any good times. maybe you need to find you a safe married guy and get some. your not responsible for the wife of his he is. so your friend get's a little good for her and him. live and let live and quit worrying about what she and he do. i think they are pretty damn lucky myself. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 12:48:26 PM | I know someone--never made her my friend because I just couldn't like someone that purposely hurts others to get what she wants no matter what the cost or who she hurts including kids--and she liked to be with married men......well now she is with someone not married and I never seen someone sooo jealous psycho jealous...follows her boyfriend everywhere/always freaking out...
lmao sometimes what comes around goes around...
I believe who I hang out with is a reflection on me. I have alot of compassion for others and I don't like to see someone hurt. If they were my friend I would feel I was justifying it. What if it wasn't married strangers she was having sex with??I mean what if she was sleeping with...say...your sister's husband?? Awe I just care about everyone:) | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 5:58:44 PM | Next time she's over I will have her read this thread!!!! | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 6:08:38 PM | | I would tell her how I felt about her being such a home-wrecking whore. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/25/2006 10:07:24 PM | O.P.
Is this friend gonna go on a tirade someday about the homewrecker who slept with her husband if/when that happens? LOL
I'm not perfect so please don't read this thread as me judging your friend or feeling superior to her. Contrary to all the people who say but out there is still such a thing as right and wrong in this world. I know we live in this me first, it's all good as long as it makes me happy and fffff everyone else society. Sleeping with someones husband is wrong no ifs, ands, or buts. You've said your peace now you have to decide whether to remain friends or distance yourself. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/26/2006 3:41:36 AM | | Personally I feel it is a terrible thing. I would never have sex with married men. my wife would kill me. lol | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/26/2006 4:30:59 AM | She was married before and has not had it happen to her as far as I know. But, I think in all due time she will have it done to her and this will hopefully change her mind. there is one she gets together with on occasion who is married with children. Claims he sleeps on the coach and never has sex with his wife yet they have a small child who is a yr old!!! How terrible that is to me. One day I went to visit her and he was there, she introduced us and I barely looked at him as I had no desire to speak with such a cheater.
They have not gotten together in a long time but she recently mentioned how her boss was flirting with her and he is married. I damned near hit the roof telling her to stay the hell away, he isnt available and he is also your boss. As far as I know nothing is going on at this point.
For those who think its the cheater who is in the wrong, think again as both parties are guilty. If and when the spouse finds out, that may be grounds for divorce and how can one say that the un married person is NOT, in part, responsible for that> for their poor choice?
I love her as a friend and am not going to toss her friendship but will never partake in an outing/meeting if a married man is involved and she knows that. Most of us find appealing what we cannot have, its human nature, but, if someone is meant to be ours they would be with us and not their spouses. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2006 5:05:42 AM | Hey;
Just to share my experiences. My best friend got herself into this situation a couple of years ago and was having an affair with a married man that she worked with. Of course I was concerned and of course it went againest what I believed in and I really hated hearing about it. I remember giving her that line " what if it was my husband or your husband?" After dissecting the real issue she realized that she was hurting over a past relationship. Once she could put the WHY into perspective she stopped. 2 years later she still works with the guy and he just separated from his wife. She has never gone back and never would even now that he is single and wants her to??? As if.... I'm glad I stuck it out with her and was there for her because I still got my best friend and she is happier and healthier now. Maybe yours was like mine and there was some underlying issues there that should be addressed; and if she's your best friend try and be there for you as much as you can. I'm not saying compromise your own morals - never. In my personal situation I don't feel my morals were compromised and I was truely there for her as she has been for me over the years! She is in a way better space now!
*****written with permision from the best friend***:) | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/26/2006 5:15:46 AM | just to add my 2 cents in.
i believe that its really no ones business but the cheater and the cheatee. the guy is cheating on his significant other, therefore he doesnt feel the need to fix what is at home. seems people think things will fix on their own, but i have learned (through experience) that both have to work on fixing it. if only one is trying it usually wont get fixed.
anyway, slightly off topic.
the real point to me is....
tell her to stop telling you about the married/attached men she is sleeping with
and 2 .. mind your own business. if she can look in the mirror in the morning and have no regrets and be happy with the person she sees, then thats the only person that really matters.
im sure im gonna catch he1l for this one, but, its just my 2 cents. take it for what its worth :D | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/27/2006 9:00:50 AM | | Its wrong and you naturally don,t like it because you know another women is being cheated upon, and will be hurt and your friend is acting selfsih. I think sooner or later the truth always comes out in the end. i would say nothing you will get the blame. Its best to keep your nose out even if you do feel disguested, your friend may end up getting hurt if this man thinks his wife will find out, that is her problem not yours. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 9:05:05 AM | | I had a friend going out with a married man and i told her my views, she said this man was going to leave his wife for her, eventually she saw sense and finished with him. I thought she was selling herself short. Anyway she has met a guy on the internet and she is married to him and she has a baby, now and is real happy and i am for her, because apart from doing that she is a nice person. He came all the way from america to england to marry her. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 1:05:15 PM | | LOL You're ridiculous. You're on here looking for an intimate encounter, and your friend does things that don't agree with your moral code? Give me a break. A whore is a whore is a whore. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/27/2006 2:40:07 PM | | Not to condone it, but as a friend it is not your place to hold her to your moral standards. Either you are her friend or you aren't. And before you blame her for the masses out there that cheat, know it is the husband that is cheating on the wife whether it is with her or not. She is a pawn. He is the cheater. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 2:41:06 PM | | I think you are being extremely judgemental. people can do all things against the moral code lie cheat, steal, swear, does that mean they are totally bad as people. she did wrong and she was ashamed. She felt lonely and vanurable at the time, and made a mistake. We all do wrong at times in different ways, that does not make someone a totally bad person, its wrong to place labels on someone. Do you place a label on yourself and judge yourself with the same harshness you judge others or do you think you are so perfect that you can fling your stones of judgements on the sinners of the world. If you really knew her you would not think like that. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/27/2006 4:33:14 PM | | This is a difficult dilemma. I'd say, that anything you might say or do, as long as it comes from love, is the right thing to say or do. It's important not to judge your friend. Judgement can be so hurtful. It's true that it takes 2 to tango, or even swing dance...I can tell you that it's something I've discovered I'm definitely NOT wired for...but with one particular man, I really wish I was. But it just goes against every fibre of my being, and leaves me so incredibly unfulfilled. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 4:43:47 PM | Looking for an intimate time makes me a whore? Hmm, Learn something new every day. At least my add specifies NO MARRIED/ATTACHED MEN. Thanks for all your input. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 4:48:01 PM | well someone is get'n some and its not me i'm single and nothing lolz married men just bang gold diggers and i think they can keep them!!! DON'T NEED A GOLD DIGGER!!!! | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/27/2006 6:44:25 PM | | If the wives have no problem with it (open relationship/3-somes/etc.), it really isn't any of your business. If the husbands are cheating, then you'd be within your juristiction as a friend to bring up concern. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 6:17:19 AM | | My friend was a bank manager with her own house and nice car, she is no gold digger. she probably had more money than him. I do not approve of what she did and she probably does not like herself much for doing it. She also finished with him, it was about 6 years ago. she was going through a bad stage, and i think this guy must of picked up on this. I am not writing it is right its wrong. I have not done it but then i have probably done things other people do not approve of.. Almost Everyone seems to be having a go at the women on this thread like men are so sweet and innocent apart from a few women, its the age old thing a woman who does wrong is a whore whilst nothing is said about him. Alright it was not right what she did, but hey he was married and should not of been even after other women, but no one has said much about that. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:14:07 PM | i agree,friend first.if thats what she wants.just be there for her because that is really your only job.well, that and helping to pick-up the peices.she is a willing pawn if she knows he is married.sex does make the world go around.remember what comes around goes around.
i was married along time,never step out once.only after i was out i started looking... but hey that just me,if i am in something i'm in 150%... i dont ###@ around and i'm in till the last day...whatever way it ends ,me leaving or her leaving.
thats my 2 cents. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:18:39 PM | You shouldnt let it bother you....especially if it doesnt bother the married men. LOL
Seriously, some go for married men more than single men. When I was still in my relationship, women use to hit on me all the time...I couldnt believe it. That ring was like a magnet to women for some reason. LOL
Now that I am single, no women seem to want me! Poor me...lol....but being single has its advantages...like no one to fight with because I was flirting with the girl next door...or was too late in coming home after work...that sort of thing.
I say all the power to the women who flirt with single men, but theres one catch...the single guy may be more interested in a long term thing than just a fling...thus the married flirts out there...easy to use and discard at the door.
My 2 cents. | |
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