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Posted: 9/2/2006 8:04:06 PM | This line is so PC. The social history of the Americas is poor people who had nothing but each other. If the wife did not want sex then there were brothals. It did not matter much because one worked from sunup to sundown and usually were too tired. Sex was far down the list of to do.
Today, if one does not want sex it leaves the other out in the cold. Divorce is very expensive for most and therefore out of reach. Unless, you are very poor with no children
then you cannot afford to be the noncustodial ex-spouse. Life isn't fair;it is what is is.
I myself do not believe in "cheating" because it does not exist. It is a philosophy conditioned by social leaders not the normal behavior for mammals. Many people in bad marriages agree to extamartial affairs yet keep the money "in house" . It is our conditioning that elicits these values. It keeps us in the 18th century.
What most forget that the "Victorian" upper classes partied like ther was no tomorrow and the middle class imprisioned by lack of choices. So that middle class made a virture of what they could not be or do. The "Karma" issue: what would you do if your spouse was not intetested in sex? Divorce and take the chance of living in poverty (remember thse "divorces you see on /in the fan mags are very rich and have great lawyers. Some come from money so old that the beginnings are lost in the far past. They can afford it!
Wait till it happens to YOU!
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:15:28 PM | What are you so afrid of? Having the fact that you can't "own" someone? That they may not agree with you and have a mind of their own. Women are not property.. Get it folks! People are not property!!!  | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:32:12 PM | One word "Karma"
What goes around come's around..She may be the girlfriend now
but one day she may be his next wife and if he cheated once he'll cheat again | |
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Posted: 9/2/2006 8:34:48 PM | | When you participate in adultery, even if you are the unmarried third party, you are also an adulterer. You need to remember the trusting wife at home, that this will only complicate their issues and make things worse, and help prevent them from making a mistake. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 9/3/2006 6:44:30 AM |
I always think it is the cheater who is in the wrong. If she is not cheating on someone then I see no problem with her, but the men she is sleeping with I think are worthless swine.
Well in other times and cultures .. infact in most of the history of humanity .... she would be a harlot or a seductress or a witch ... and probably be killed.
now ... as to her choosing married men.... its because she doesn't want any chance of the relationship becoming permanent ... she just wants a safe f--k.
It is not our place to judge a friend ... just be a friend.
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Posted: 9/3/2006 6:47:20 AM | you sometimes wreck the kids lives more by staying together. I was married for 16 years, and when I separated my oldest son asked why I put up with his father for so long. My son to this day is very successful in the computer gaming business. I agree that there is something missing if you see someone outside the marriage or even feel the need to chat with the same person all the time.
and why not divorce because of sexual problems, sex is part of what God intended marriage to be. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 7:22:37 AM | no one mentioned if this is just sex or is there love involved...
sometimes people think they can have sex with no strings attached but it does not always happen that way. regardless of whether you are a man or woman you can get tangled up emotionally without intending to...
I do not regret getting involved with him. I know that sometime in my live someone really loves me for myself and not trying to change me. I had that in my marriage and that is one reason it failed....... | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 7:38:08 AM |
and why not divorce because of sexual problems, sex is part of what God intended marriage to be.
This is exactly why I will never get married ever. With today's sexual high standards with women, if you do not satisfy them they will find it elsewhere. last thing I need is to treat my "wife" with the utmost respect and appreciation, love and caring but because i suck in the sack she will leave me for a better bang. Then divorce me and take half of my shit.
Everything today is now all about sex with women and men. Used to be women complaining all the time that men just want sex, now they complain that the guy they like or date or married is shit when it comes to sex. How the times have changed and am I ever glad I never married. Would be great to tell everyone "Ya she left me for better sex" What an ego and self esteem killer that would be. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 1:02:16 PM |
I feel it is not her responsibility to make sure others relationships remain stable....
When it's your husband being led astray, does she still have no resposibility? | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 1:15:55 PM | | diff ppl have diff morals tbh she is not the one cheating it is the guy and if it wasn't her then maybe it would have been sum1 else. I personally wouldn't knowingly get with a guy who is taken cos there is no way I'm gna be 'the other woman' or be there collecting the leftovers. God damn the thought of being with a guy knowing that he slept with me and was going home later that day to possibly have sex with his wife hmmmm shouts self respect. BUT it really isn't your place to say anything it is her life. Then again if it was one of my best friends I would sit them down on our own and say I think u are selling yourself short not only are u contributing to wrecking a marriage u are always just gna be a number 2 besides if he does it to his wife what makes her think he won't do it to her even if he left his wife LOL. I try to think of it like this I have been single 5 yrs and would happily ok sulkingly remain single another 5yrs than be someone who will never have commitment or the freedom of a normal relationship with a person life is short and I would like to think I at some point deserve a great guy all of my own xjx | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 1:43:28 PM | That's a no-no...would you want some slut sleeping with your husband? | |
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Posted: 9/3/2006 8:40:16 PM | WELL IF IT HAPPEN,Y HASENT IT HAPPEN TO ME. WHAT AM I DOING RONG. CAN U HELP ME.
ID LIKE TO TRY IT. SO IF SUM ONE OUT THERE WOOD LIKE TO HELP ME. IT WOOD MAKE ME VERY HAPPY. SO EMAIL ME.....(JASONREDJAY@YAHOO.CO.UK).....CUM ON MAKE MY DAY,WEEK,YEAR.JAST MAKE ME HAPPY...JAY.XXXXXX  | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 3:42:53 PM | WELL THIS IS A GOOD QUESTION
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL IF IT BOTHERS YOU THAT MUCH
I MYSELF WOULD TELL THEIR WIVES | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 4:34:31 PM |
I always think it is the cheater who is in the wrong. If she is not cheating on someone then I see no problem with her, but the men she is sleeping with I think are worthless swine.
if she is knowingly sleeping with married men she is a cheater, she's cheating the men's wives out of their husbands, she's cheating a husband out of responsibility and liability to hold up his end of an agreement he made with his wife. You can't cheat with "no one" you have to be cheating on or with "someone" if the girl know's she's cheating with, if she didn't know then the guy is cheating on both women.
I have an issue. I need some feedback. One of my best friends seems to hook up for sex with married men and it bothers me so much in that I lose respect for her as a person. Is this something I should remain silent about? Is it really none of my business? I can't help but tell her how I feel but I am so against cheating and ask her " what if it was your husband?"
If you know the wives of the husbands she is screwing and you don't tell them, then you are helping destroy their lives by keeping her dirty secret. She is not a real friend to you by putting you in this position. And you are just as horrid as she for letting the husbands get away with it. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 7:43:34 PM | | its ok to tell her how you feel; but be careful how you do it. it could ruin yoru friendship. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 7:58:11 PM | what kind of friends you have speaks volumes as to what kind of person you are.
Would most of the posters here speak the same advice to a friend of a rapist, child-predator, or other low-life scum? just keep quiet and keep your friends...
of course, birds of a feather... | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 9:19:19 PM | | Sorry but i shall never interfere with someones marriage,i dont care if it happens or not its all so wrong,if your happy then be faithful vice versa but dont even look at my profile or im me or message me because i will not talk with a married man,ive enough to deal with lol let alone destrying a marriage or even i onlu wish you the best in all of the above ok so heres to the married man blah blah blah make your marriage work if your not happy then dont waste time,its notta worth it, | |
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Posted: 9/4/2006 10:26:19 PM | No one should judge anyone!! Period, You never know the story but always think you do.
That being said i think people could judge you based on that. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 9/5/2006 1:22:20 AM | | Shes obviously a slut no doubt about that. We live in a sick society people have no morals anymore and no respect for what marriage is. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2006 12:11:44 PM | What is all this sanctified morality bullshit, calling people sluts, whores and anything else that comes to mind.
Personaly I would never betray my partner and would be surprised if she betrayed me.
What is done when it's a friend involved with a married man or for that matter a guy involved with a married woman, really it is only their business, it may suck to some of us but none of us are in a position to be judge and jury.
Yes I believe it is ok to let them know you disaprove, it is also a good idea to warn them of the consequences of being found out, but don't interfere. All you can do if it is a very good friend is try to be supportive if the proverbial shit hits the fan. Strange as it may seem they might even have fallen in love with the guy in which case they could be in for a bigger fall when it backfires, unless his feelings are the same. But havingr aised that possibility, it would be better to end what he has or doesn't have and be with your friend.
I start each day trying to never cause hurt to others on purpose because you can do it so easily by accident. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2006 4:06:04 PM | In my opinion you have good moral standards therefore losing respect for a friend who's standards are much below yours is inevitable.
I say keep your boundaries and if it were me I would deff. tell my friend to smarten up or see ya, cause I don't put up with that kind of crap either!!
It is not who I am and not someone I could allow into my life as a friend either... | |
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Posted: 9/5/2006 4:09:28 PM | | i cant speak for anyone else, but myself.... i would NEVER have sex with a married man. maybe cuz im not gay... | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 3:20:49 AM | | Im sorry but i have to say it thats just wrong to even think of sleeping with a married man,I will not tred on sacred ground, | |
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Posted: 9/6/2006 10:41:22 PM | Just remember ...
, , , , , , , , , , , , , , YOU are what you EAT... eat well.  | |
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