| Sex with married men
Posted: 9/8/2006 9:56:46 PM | | as long as it's consentual, I don't see the problem.Obviously there's something missing in the relationship. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 9/9/2006 5:54:51 AM | | If you have a married person, you are a cheater as well. Sorry, but in many cases they are even more of a swine. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:10:44 PM | Cheating is cheating is cheating.....period.
If you wouldn't want someone to cheat on you, then why would you cheat on someone.
I was cheated on in my marriage....blew me away....then in two other fairly long term relationships....again...cheated on....again...blew me away...
What is it with people...???
When I was married I had a job where I was in contact with many women all day long and yes was approached many times...I am proud and happy to say....I turned them all down....every single one of them.
I have a very close relative....with whom I am very sure he cheats....I have confronted him about it....and it has certainly put a damper on our friendship...but truthfully, it just sickens me. I mean I don't know everything about their relationship, but I think I know both him and his wife very well....and I think she is amazing and they have wonderful children, so why is it that people think....that the grass is greener on the other side of the hill. It's not...if you put all your efforts into your marriage like the efforts you are putting in to get something on the side....then perhaps you wouldn't have to go looking elsewhere.
Instead of cheating....if things are not working out...then move on....very simple !!!
And for all those people that think cheating is ok....shame on you !!!
If you think I am offended by you....your right...I am !!!
I wouldn't wish being cheated on for anyone....I have been through it...its horrible...period!!! | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:27:48 PM | | Sex with married men...hmm......thats called....selfish. You dont care who you hurt, your libido is all that matters. It disgusts me. I ended a relationship with someone very special recently because they had a long history of deceit and try as I may, i could not bring myself to trust them. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:45:57 PM | I think cheating on your spouse is the most disgusting thing to do. When they find out it is devastating and takes a long time to get over. There is never an excuse to cheat..if you aren't happy in the relationship then leave the relationship/marriage BEFORE you start seeing someone else. My ex cheated on me...and then tried cheating on her with me!
Remember...what goes around...comes around. And if you cheat with a married man remember....all you have now is a cheater. Now that he has replaced his partner with you he needs to replace you with his next "catch". | |
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| Sex with married men/Sex with married women...
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:48:34 PM | If someone is married, they are OFF LIMITS. If they choose to cheat, that's their issue... and if someone is silly enough to be the one they cheat with, that's their issue too.
Let me put it to you this way.... if someone you know is diabetic, would you keep dragging them past the dessert table knowing that the excess sugar might do them irreperable harm? Not likely.... right?
Fundamentally, there is a lack of respect for others (meaning anyone other than 'myself') in our society today, and the fact that we're debating the worthiness of a woman only having relationships with an unattainable man is merely a symptom of this.
You walk though a door.... do you let it swing shut, or hold it for the next person to walk through? You're in traffic and someone wants to cut in front of you... do you graciously let them in, or pop them the bird? Do you smile and say thank you when someone gives you your morning coffee?
I couldn't care less who is getting naked with whom.... because a) I'm single, and b) if anyone feels the need to cheat on me... I'll be just fine without him.
Married is married.... and if that isn't enough to make you all take notice..... just wait until you're married and someone else is trying to tempt your spouse... it's called a reality check, or in some cases, a smack to the side of the head. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2006 10:53:16 PM | I laugh at this, the guy always takes the blame... women are adults too and they know right from wrong like some how men have hynotic power over them and they can't control themselves...
Pleeeaaassee.. look they are both wrong, but if shes your friend pray for her, support her, and trust me either shell learn or shell pay.
I have a friend who only wants men she cant have..
im cud'd civil unioned to a woman... im male , but still , this friend definitely has low self esteem issues and trust me i can understand why..
but being married, and not having women interested doesnt bother me.. im better off ill never have the temptation better looking , wealthier married men will have.. if i were hot and rich, hell id probably fool around too , like what am i superman turning down all these hot women because im married.. ooohhh kkkkk...
all the same women need to take responsibility for their actions. if you have a one night stand and the guy dont call you ... you said yes... or go to the cops and file rape charges.
if you are with a married man... you can say no... if you were forced , i repeat file rape charges .. dont fall in love with a dude you didnt want to have sex with.. thats twisted if he had sex with you and you didnt want it thats rape... | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:12:05 AM | Perhaps your insecure friend might want to think about any children attatched to the married men, and the effects it may have on THEIR lives whilst she is getting herself off on her ego trip.  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 7:28:04 AM | honestly this is how I feel.
If YOU are married...it is YOUR respondsibility to be faithful.
Your freind doesn't owe anyone anything.
Not saying she's an angel or doing the right thing but it is not her respondsibility to not cheat...she isn't married...he is.
If he/she is married and gonna cheat, then they are gonna do it regardless.
.....And if it was my husband...I would thank her for showing me that he never really loved me to begin with and for saving me some time so I can find a real man!!! Mind you...I'd get in one good kick in the nuts!
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Posted: 10/31/2006 11:32:49 AM | Up until recently I thought I knew the answer to this question.... I have been cheated on.. and I can say the only time in my life when I felt completely lost was dealing with the fall out caused by a cheater.. but if I'm really honest it was part my fault.. its hard to say that with all pain and anger... but its a fact. .... I have never cheated, ever.. not even a so much as a kiss while in any form of committed relationship.
Granted some people are selfish.. its a purely about conquest and sex or getting the attention but you know life is not black and white. Good honest people can cheat.. just like there’s a killer in most people given the right circumstances…. There is also cheater in most your hearts as well. I used to be black and white, right and wrong… but I think the karma of that self-righteous attitude brought the very grey situation I know face right to my door step.
Take a connection that started in a online video game (I know crazy) and grew to something out of control.. it’s so easy to fall for someone when your not meaning to.. and they you...It can just hit you.. Throw in a bad marriage.. and someone taking a cheater back for all the wrong reasons.. Nothing changing .. 2000km apart…. and one window just one window of opportunity or never… just to see.. What you get is the once high and morally mighty may soon not be so.. the thing is … it feels right….I will be taking down this profile till thing are sorted out… but this thread caught me. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 10/31/2006 8:21:00 PM | It seems that so many people just suddenly become so rightous. 
According to statistics, 50-75% of MARRIED men AND women cheat. And this is adultry by legal definition. What about committing adultry bibilical definition (looking at someone other than your spouse lustfully)? I think everyone of us is guilty of that. "Let those without sin throw the first stone."
Why do we always set up criteria to judge others? Because it is convenient for us! | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 10/31/2006 8:24:49 PM | | I'm not into sex with married men... ( or women ). | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 11/1/2006 5:27:20 PM |
Perhaps your insecure friend might want to think about any children attatched to the married men, and the effects it may have on THEIR lives whilst she is getting herself off on her ego trip.
Right on....JulietJuliet
Think of the children people....the precious little innocents. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 11/1/2006 5:50:51 PM |
I always think it is the cheater who is in the wrong. If she is not cheating on someone then I see no problem with her, but the men she is sleeping with I think are worthless swine.
Oh no no NO! If she knows she is laying down with married men, she is just as guilty as the men are. They are all slime or swine...which ever.
My dad cheated on my mom.....his 2nd wife... and his 3rd wife screwed him over......
Poetic Justice
Unless the 3rd party is unaware she/he is sleeping with a married person, then they are just as guilty. Homewreckers SUCK.
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Posted: 11/1/2006 6:02:37 PM | Ok....so after reading through this entire thread....I just have to say my piece....I will be putting in some quotes but not their originator....if you want to see who said what then just do what I did and read them all....
I find it absolutely amazing at what some people put in here....
Well, here goes....sit back and well....enjoy if you are like me...if not....let it eat away at your conscience
Your freind doesn't owe anyone anything.
Well...lets hope that she doesn't prey on your mate someday that you dearly love.
I laugh at this, the guy always takes the blame... women are adults too and they know right from wrong like some how men have hynotic power over them and they can't control themselves...
Pleeeaaassee.. look they are both wrong, but if shes your friend pray for her, support her, and trust me either shell learn or shell pay.
I have a friend who only wants men she cant have..
im cud'd civil unioned to a woman... im male , but still , this friend definitely has low self esteem issues and trust me i can understand why..
but being married, and not having women interested doesnt bother me.. im better off ill never have the temptation better looking , wealthier married men will have.. if i were hot and rich, hell id probably fool around too , like what am i superman turning down all these hot women because im married.. ooohhh kkkkk...
all the same women need to take responsibility for their actions. if you have a one night stand and the guy dont call you ... you said yes... or go to the cops and file rape charges.
if you are with a married man... you can say no... if you were forced , i repeat file rape charges .. dont fall in love with a dude you didnt want to have sex with.. thats twisted if he had sex with you and you didnt want it thats rape...
OK...seriously....do you even know what you are talking about....does anyone know what was just said here????
What about committing adultry bibilical definition (looking at someone other than your spouse lustfully)? I think everyone of us is guilty of that.
No not all of us were guilty....and I can tell you 100% that while I was with my wife for a total of 16 years....I did not...ever look at another woman lustfully....do you know why...because she was my wife....and I....LOVED her !!!
one window of opportunity or never… just to see..
Well, it is with that attitude....that results in....cheating....period....if you truly love someone and you are an honourable person.....to your vows of marriage....then you will not cheat.
as long as it's consentual, I don't see the problem.Obviously there's something missing in the relationship
Ok...like I said in an earlier post....if there is something missing in your relationship....fix it...or move on....don't cheat...if you spend the time that you are out cheating....on your relationship...hmmmmm....just maybe....things might get better....now there is a thought.
but none of us are in a position to be judge and jury
We all are judge and jury every day over a any number of issues....and that should be what gives us the morality...we should all display each and every day
No one should judge anyone!! Period, You never know the story but always think you do. That being said i think people could judge you based on that.
Are you kidding me....man.....cheating is cheating.....tell me how you feel after someone cheats on you....you think it is ok????
Would most of the posters here speak the same advice to a friend of a rapist, child-predator, or other low-life scum? just keep quiet and keep your friends...
Ok....wow...is all I can say....you have got to be kidding.....right ???
What are you so afrid of? Having the fact that you can't "own" someone? That they may not agree with you and have a mind of their own. Women are not property.. Get it folks! People are not property!!!
Ummmmm.....well......you know...when you get married.....you do say the vows....do they not mean anything to you???
Well, better stop now....before I wear my fingers out.....hammering on the keys....oh, this subject....is disturbing to say the least. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 11/1/2006 6:31:05 PM | who`s home is she wrecking ? if she`s the one who wants ( needs) sex with married men then she`s the one causing the probs surely lol, dont give grief to the guys who for want of better words take advantage, seen lots n lots of ads posted for friends with benefits and must be discrete , hubby doesnt give me any sex any more or doesnt give me what i want etc etc, bottom line is we are all adults, all different, maybe sex with married men ie discrete sex gives her a buzz, the secretiveness, passion given and taken in a short time frame etc, leave her the **** alone, let her make her own mistakes, cos if she really neds/wants this, in spite of ur getting involved then she`ll just go behind ur back,lifes great innit lol, question, ive seen comment about a guys allowing his****control him, what controls a woman ? lol  | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 10:11:01 AM | I'm sure these married men that are cheating are not just cheating with her. And if it's not with her he'll be cheating with someone else. Homewreckers are whores (men and women) and so are the cheaters but the cheater is more to blame. It's called self control. Too bad people don't practice it.
OP: I would let someone know discreetly if they were being cheated on (if I knew the person) because I would want to know myself. It will be funny when the tables are turned and she's the one being cheated on. What comes around goes around.
But then that reminds me of the Desperate Housewives episode where Bree told the lady about her husband's cheating with her son when he was in the streets and the lady already knew and did not want to do anything about it. I would be upset because he could pass her Hiv or other stds. Maybe she wasn't having sex with her husband anymore anyways.
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 11/2/2006 5:18:37 PM | No matter what our opinions are on the subject.....the distruction touches everyone involved. Even if never caught.....I think it would leave a mark. It's sad when mates
cheat....the question is why? The morals and values in our society are so low and the
most popular phrase today is...."If it feels ...good....do it !" Gee...there are many people
that I would enjoy slapping in the face...it would feel real good. I guess that I should just
do it.......right......no.......WRONG ! To think a thought is one thing....to act on it is a whole different matter. Blame.....I believe the why is more important then the blame. It could be more than just the cheating person's fault. If we walked in their shoes ....maybe we would
do the same thing........could be..!!! To me it is definetly wrong. No question...but You ....
...without sin....cast the first stone. Judge the sin.....but not the person. My sin may not be cheating.......but some other. Does that give me the right to judge the other persons faults...weaknessess....and downfalls.....just because I don't have practice his sin. Nope !!
Have compassion...understanding...mercy....but most of all have.............LOVE ! Love will
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 11/2/2006 6:41:59 PM | I would tell her that she can talk to me about it if she wants, but that I will always give her my REAL opinon on it. And, as my opinion would be negative, she may not like to hear it.
That said, she will know your stand, and can make her choice. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 7:46:21 PM | | what about a married man who is separated from his wife and live separately but are legally still married? and the man does not know whether to stay with her or leave her? is it then more appropriate? either way, its done. I've sucked myself into this hole and i cant get out. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 11:10:33 PM | | she probably doesnt want a committment..so it works...that is her business..if u dont like it then dont hang out with her..but soon enuff it will come back to haunt her.. | |
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| Sex with married men
Posted: 12/6/2006 12:54:07 AM | My belief is this...
WHen your married your married. man or woman have no right to take the intimacy away from eachother without both knowing about it or agreeing to it.
When another is dragged into the relationship not knowing one is married thats different, then i blame the person doing the dragging.
If the lets say woman knows the husband is married and falls for the lame ass accuses, then she should contact his wife and go pick up his clothes and move him in with her. after all she will be the one that gets the boobie prize.
As they say the wife is always the last to know (in most cases)
it hurts when that happens, i sure as hell didnt like it, and either did my lil girl. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 3:51:34 AM | It's none of your business. However you always have the option of cutting back on your contact with her. Then if she asks what's wrong you can tell her why you don't want to associate with her. I doubt it will change her behavior though. That behavior won't change until she encounters some sort of negative, life-altering situation from her indiscretions.
The morals and values in our society are so low and the most popular phrase today is....
Cheating has been going on for years, espeicially by the wealthy and powerful where throughout history it is was accepted and expected but never spoken of. Nowadays people are just more willing to talk about it. But there is no new level of cheating going on in today's society as compare to any other point in history. | |
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