| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/1/2007 10:13:55 PM |
Don't call my child a liar
LOL! Are we an adult or a child? I never spoke of anyone being a liar. But I do believe that statement she made could have been "molded".
She said that because she has seen men i've tried to form a relationship with, up and leave both of us.
Simple solution-
Then dont introduce her to men that come in to your life so quickly. She shouldnt be subjected to your dating lifestyle.
I've even heard her tell me that me having a boyfriend stresses her out.
Perhaps this stems from mom bringing home men she is not sure of will last. Maybe SHE is telling YOU, thru an 8 yr. olds capacity that mom needs to stop bringing men home early on when dating.
Dating can be very stressful on a child. Surely you must know this????
No. I dont know this. As I keep my dating life separate from my child. She is half your child's age (4), and I dont see a stress level being the way I date. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:39:23 AM | Simple solution-
Then dont introduce her to men that come in to your life so quickly. She shouldnt be subjected to your dating lifestyle.
Yes..i've thought of that. That would be perfect now wouldn't it? The point here is..the men would stick around forever...it's when they meet the children after however the appropriate number of weeks or months you wait to introduce them..............when they decide..."Oh this is not for me". If you kept on dating them sans child, of course the men would stay...they have YOU and only YOU. Personally i want to know if the man can handle it or not. Most single men can't.
I see you're on a dating site, so i guess you're not having much luck either?? | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:34:57 AM |
I see you're on a dating site, so i guess you're not having much luck either??
Look at my profile Im here for the forums and to communicate with other single parents, as of right now, I am not using this for dating.
I am very content and fulfilled with the way things are going in my life. You can say I have my successes. I dont dwell on whether or not or how soon someone special will come into my life. As of right now, things look promising. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 8:59:22 AM | | For me..nope I'd find that kind-of cute. And to be honest to say we have kids is kind of a warning..many men do not want that... | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 9:09:01 AM | My apologies ms. disney for not checking you out. Pretty much why i'm here too is for the forums..to get feedback, negative or otherwise. It's always to good to get someone's opinion and perspective.
What are your thoughts on posting pics of your child? Now don't get all defensive..it's an honest question. I have heard bad things about it, so i never post my kid's pic. Perhaps i should be starting a new thread? Getting off topic i guess in this one. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 9:28:04 AM | | it is the same for single dad as well nobody wants to stay in on a saturday night and as i only have my son for the weekend that is my first concern so your not alone coz dads suffer as well | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 11:11:50 AM | I think this is a great question (being a single mom). You should not phrase it as "single moms more then welcome to respond" but rather something like. If you have kids, that's great by me. Or something more positive and inviting. Single moms would rather not bother with someone who doesn't want little kids around. We have to like the the guy first and a big part of that would be how they'd be with the kid(s). But, once we like you, then you'd have to work for the kids too. It's a package deal (for both moms and dads).
Good luck. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 11:18:08 AM | I've dated men with children before.
Once i had no children of my own. He was divorced with 1 2 yr old boy. My female instinct took right over..i loved having him with us. In fact, the father is the father of my child (sadly we could not cut it as a couple, but are best of friends).
Later on, i dated a man with a son who's the same age as my daughter. That failed, as he didnt have the same rules for both kids. Fair is fair right? And also he would have 4 days off to be single and do whatever he wanted without his son, whereas i do not have that luxury of having a free weekend to cater to a relationship, therefore not enough focus on him.
I prefer to date men with kids..preferably same age group. I think only a man who has a child 24/7 can comprehend that sort of dedication.
I have full custody. I don't think a half custody type parent really knows what it's like? Your thoughts?? | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 3:26:40 PM | | it might make me stop and think for a mintue is this guy for real but then again not all men are the same. i would think it would be ok as long as he was good my kids because he wanted to be not because of me; an if he had kids of his own that would be even better as long as he treated all the kids the same not favor kids just because. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 3:35:28 PM | It doesn't weird me out... perhaps the person who wrote it in their profile has friends that are single parents, or has dated a single mom... maybe they realize what mature well-rounded creatures us single parents really are?? ;)
What really pisses me off is guys who say "If you don't look like the women in my profile, chances are I wouldn't date you." Ever noticed how none of them are exactly 10’s themselves…?
Pfft... Superficial **stards... I guess this is a whole different topic isn't it? | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:13:51 PM | | It wouldn't bother me to see that on a profile...but even if it isn't there, I always let people know that I do have children. That way if it bothers them they wont bother replying to my messages. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:43:40 PM | Gotta disagree with you on this. It's not "most" men it is "some". I never realized just how many single fathers there are out there in the world until I became single again myself, chauffering birthday parties, church activities, etc. I believe the reality is there are as many single dads out in the world as their are single moms, it's just a matter of time before we meet em.  | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:21:16 PM | Let's see..IF parents were married..then ya...as many single dads as moms.
I'd like to know the REAL ratio of men vs. women with kids tho. Would be interesting. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:54:13 PM | If by half custody you mean 50/50 joint custody I would agree in some instances. In my case we have joint custody but I have more interactions with/for the children. I am the one who keeps up with Dr. appts. immunizations, school functions, parent teacher meetings etc. . . for the kids. I have been at their school so much that some of the women in the office joke that they are going to find me a job there so I don't have to leave. Whenever they contact a parent I am the first one they call. I am also the keeper of the timesharing schedule(s) to keep things fair and balanced. Therefore in my case your generalization does not hold true, but I do see a lot of dads who really don't have a clue.
As far as dating I prefer single moms even if they do not have the luxury of free weekends/time. The fact that they are that involved with their children leaves a strong impression. I feel that single moms have a tendency to treat my kids better due to being parent versus single women without children-not that they are mean to them but some just don't know what to do with them due to lack of experience since my kids are past the baby stage. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 8:07:41 PM | No, it wouldn't weird me out, but I can see your question.
What weirded me out once was kids welcome, any race, any size, smoker/non/smoker etc.etc.
It is helpful to know if kids are welcome..in a short and sweet way. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/2/2007 10:46:46 PM |
What are your thoughts on posting pics of your child?
To each his own.
However, if you want to discuss this topic, I suggest making a whole new thread. Dont want to hijack, according to forum rules. I will say that this topic has been beaten to death with various threads. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:22:14 AM | No i wouldn't find it weird, i find it quite upsetting when a man says "single mums need not apply"
I like to think that i take people at face value and not judge them, so why should single mums be judged?
I think everyone should be allowed a fair chance in any relationship.
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/3/2007 8:17:43 AM | | Yeah, it would make me think that a guy was more interested in getting involved with the children. It should be about meeting the right person weather or not they have kids. | |
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| Question for single moms...........
Posted: 1/5/2007 10:33:22 PM | | For me personally, depending on how it was phrased....I would be quicker to respond to an add from a guy I know dosen't have an issue dating a single mom. I can tell you from my own experience dating with kids...I prefer to date someone who is in the same situation as me. | |
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