| sex on the first date
Posted: 8/30/2006 8:42:06 AM | Hi. lordy lordy. Just wanted to say hello !!!!! I am from Chicago!!!! (Oak Park, IL. ) .. Intresting comment on Sex on the first date. I wanted to contact you but you blocked me as you had a range of only 75 miles. Anyway just want to say hello.
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 8/30/2006 10:05:14 AM | | I agree that it depends on the individuals involved. If two people really like each other, does it really matter if you have sex on first date or the 10th date??? | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 8/30/2006 10:44:58 AM | spencergrl
In my opinion it does matter. I don't care what a guy may tell you, but trust me if you with him on the first date he will not respect you. And i'm just directing this towards the ladies here b/c I know how men think. I used to always chuckle back in my wild days(yeah i know i'm young) when in the heat of the moment the girl asks if we go all the way will you lose respect for me? Like i'm really going to say no at that point.
Now after 10 dates are so you really get to know the person and there is a base other than sex there. Also another reason is that sex can cloud your judgement. If two people have sex the first time they meet and it's good, you can be seeing warning signs of a potential abuser, liar or cheater but never notice b/c the sex is so good. But if one waits around ten dates, their judgement won't be clouded and they can see if this is someone they want to go on and pursue something more with them. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 6:05:32 AM | Mailorderbride..I gotta tell ya baby thats one of the best jokes Ive heard in a long time..are thet twinss laid twice...thats great stuff..
Now why would you regret all those first time affairs..is it the stigma of others knowing..if so you should be more discreet..the only other thing I could think of is the lack of protection, and its..meanies..
Get a grip girls my God...Yall act like sex is some terrible thing, or some special B>S >If you were raised to think a certain way then thats the damn way you think...Who the hell is going to change that...either you like it and want it or you could care less...I have found that women who are incapeable of orgasim have the biggest probs with it..those who have orgasims Loovve it....Those girls who are so up tight they cant even control thier sensations of stimulation or ecstasy....in the back of thier mind they think its something dirty or wrong...Come on girls G++ Damn feel it for a change find a positon, do something diff. , experiment do some thing just dont deny your self satisfaction...you gotta work through it....
and your profiles..every one on all these sites need to think about this..you try to tell everyone what you are looking for...think about it..you should be more creative..your telling me most of the time everything I dont want..you need to express what you feel not what you want..I want I want I want...tell me waht you feel..Thats the true concept of communication... And if you cant do that then you cant be honest with yourself or anyone else...who gives a shit what someone might think..It only matters to those who touch you.or you touch them...its all about the heart people not expectations... | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 6:08:54 AM | | Mary I bet you were HOT in your younger years..not to say your not now, with the old school guys.....I hope I age as well..good luck, baby... | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:14:42 AM | If both people are adults, are up front with each other, want it to happen, and recognize what it is and not turn it into something it's not (i.e. a "lifechanging experience" or something like that....unless it is REALLY toe-curling....  ) then there isn't anything wrong with it. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 6:30:24 AM | sex on the first date is just that, i'v had my fair share of 1st niters and for the most part it was just sex because nobody was expecting or wanting anything else. afterwards it's no different from any of the other people i've met. some stay around some don't, same conversation. i dont think it's as big a deal as some folks make it. sometime your strongest attraction to someone is when you first see mthem and if your both attracted to each other you never know what's going to happen. if your looking for a long-term relationship dont think it's a right or a wrong to it. dont you wanna know if the sex is gonna be good rather than invest weeks or months into someone who may disappoint you in the bedroom. 1st date or 10th date if you arent married isnt it wrong anyway. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 8:57:24 AM | In 1996 when I was living in Atlanta GA. I met a young woman. when we finally decided to get together for a date after numerous phone conversations. I cooked a nice dinner at my place. she came through my door still in uniform, with balloons, beer, and her night bag. (hmmm) every mans dream woman. She was very classy and asked could she change her clothes. She goes into my bathroom and commented on how clean a bathroom I kept for a bachelor and decided to bathe. she calls me into the bathroom. I cautiously enter, and my god,! hot, fine, sudsy and wet. We had sex all day and night on the first date and continued dating for 4 years. We are still the best of friends today and talk with each other still on a regular basis. Often our conversations are about why aren't we married. hmmm. something to think about. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 10:26:31 AM | I think this response is the obvious reason this guy is single. You seem to be all about instant gratification. Let's all take a step back and look at the type of people that will come when you state a meaningful relationship if off the table. None of the woman that will start to gravitate to you or going to be marriage material anyway.
I believe sex should come later. I admit it is an important part of a relationship but the person is who you will have to deal with for the long run. The orgasms are just to be a bonus for a deeper connection: mental, spritiual, and emotional. And all those typical things your mother or grandmother has already told you. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 12:43:16 PM | hey ladies if you want to have sex on the first date,just hit me up and ill try to fit you in somewhere between goin to santas workshop and visiting the toothfairy.really ....no ladies on this site are here for sex or even a relationship just a good place to go and tease men and tell lies. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 1:39:26 PM | | if you have first nite sex doesnt mean you're not wanting a monogamous relationship, and you must not confuse it with a one nite stand. i'm not one to wrap sex love and emotion all in one bag. so i can have an sexual relationship with someone and everything will be cool, because that's what it is a sexual relationship. u can walkooutside and have sex with someone and it does mean anythin, but you can just pick someone out of a crowd and love them. you can act like it but it's impossible. everyone has there look on this and it varies. in this day and time if two horny people meet up, plain and simple it's going down!! and if it doesnt it will on the second date. and i've actuall had a few folk not do anything with me on the first nite we met, call me over the next day and then do it just so they can say they didnt do anything on the first date. now is that a big difference. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 4:57:58 PM | | OK, I heard somewhere ,and I cant quote it directly, i apologize for that.. that women cant help but get attached after having sex, something about a chemical or hormone. I wish i could recall this better. Maybe a chemical is relased during oragsim(oragism..oh hell you know what i mean) that makes a woman feel an attachment to the male involved? | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 8/31/2006 7:34:17 PM | | someone shoot me, i gotta say it... you may be right steel | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 8:00:28 PM | | AS a nurse, before I would have sex with ANYBODY, they would have to furnish a negative HIV test and a negative herpes virus and genital warts test, plus a personal close inspection. I would be expected to produce the same for him. For God's sake, you people know what's out there? A lot of shit you do not want. LOL. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 1:20:03 AM | stormiedae, with your "Women can do without sex for a much longer period of time than men." ...I think thats a case by case basis. I have the sex drive of a 17 yr old boy :/ after a day or two i start to overthink my loneliness WAY too much, and it just builds up from there.. but considering how long its been, im suprized im still sane. And i dread to think how i'll be in my late 30's.
But its all person to person, moment to moment, basis. not maturity, not age, not intelligence. Sometimes its good chemistry, sometimes its a... "life is short" sort of thing. But we should never regret the moments we enjoy, regardless of the time frame :) | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 1:21:38 AM | | And whyspr, its supposed to be momentary attachment. the chemical makes most women all cuddly. hence spooning and whatnot. but then after so many minutes or hours, it fades. its very short term. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 2:41:15 AM | veramae..........you're absolutely right it's on a case by case basis. I have a strong sex drive and I'm 50. It's been said..........women are at their sexual peak in their forties.......and at 50.......I'm still there. I have still gone without it for very long periods of time (3 months ) At any rate, I'm seeking a meaningful, long term relationship, and am not willing to compromise my morals and values, just because I have a strong sex drive.
Someone mentioned that sex is wrong outside of marriage anyway and I agree. I hope and pray God will forgive me for being a hot blooded female.......instead of fridged.
And the nurse mentioned all the things you can catch by having unsafe sex. On this thread of mature adults, that should go without saying. I personally think using a condom takes away from the moment and would much rather be certain my companion is disease free.
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 9/1/2006 6:39:56 AM | Yes...also on the 2nd date, 3rd date....blah, blah, blah......Usually better each time...Woooo-Hooooooo!!! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 7:25:12 AM | | Hey Paladin, I have learned to be me because if I want a relationship to last more than 2 or 3 dates its not worth pretending to be something your not. I have recently had sex on the first date many times and it has been all GOOD! One particular was oh man out of this world! He lasted for hours just making sure I was satisfied before he himself finished. I never knew a man could last so long, and then when he was finished he got up and got a warm washcloth and came back and took care of me. I could have sworn I was in sex heaven. I felt like a queen. I made him feel like a king too with the special things I did for and to him. And then every time after was the same, we never changed. However he did do the quickie thing in the mornings. After about 5 nights of this he actually asked me to give him a break he needed rest, his legs were sore so we held off a couple of nights. But back to the question, if you know what God says about sex it should only be between a man and a woman that are married. I never had sex with anyone before I was married or during the same time. But as one woman said we are in our peak in our 40's and 50's and I was needing the attention. I have several guys that fill the need on a regular basis with no strings attached and it is wonderful. I also know it is the wrong thing to so in God's written word and I will have to answer for it. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 11:47:48 AM | | show me where it says no premarital sex in the bible, please. i dont agree or disagree with the idea. Just show me | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 9/1/2006 12:03:27 PM | Well the the most obvious is "Thou shalt not commit adultry". Exodus 20:14
Adultry in the bible means ANY sex outside of marriage. Therefore pre marital sex is considered adultry since it's outside of marriage, thus it falls under the category of being wrong. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 12:07:07 PM | | I just realized i spelled "aldultery"...sorry OCD spell checkers | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 12:42:13 PM | Ok..ok..if this is turning into bible school...did ya ever stop to think that the Bible is FULL of disfunctional people??? Well, it is. Don't get me wrong, I am very much a christian. God bless each & every one of you.
And hey....this is twice this week I got on top!! Wooo-Hoooo..... | |
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