| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 10:43:53 AM | | debb go ahead and share a couple of stories. Some people don't realize the dangers of it even with protection. | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 10:56:29 AM | | I really like what you have had to say on this subject.......... you sound like a guy who is in touch with his-self and the truth about relationships (for the most part...LOL) Sleeping together on the first date don't make anything go wrong in the relationship...... Hell how many relationships has everyone had that went bust where they didn't have sex on the first date? Think about it......... a relationship is only what you put into it ................ sex is just part of what you give it, other things can really mess up your relationship long before sex... weither it was on the first date or not. | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 10:58:13 AM | | I guess I should of said I really like what Paladen had to say on the subject of sex on the first date | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 11:52:08 AM | | trust me even with protection things go wrong.Even the nicest men and women get diseases.Each time you sleep with someone new you also sleep with each person that person has slept with for the last 10 yrs.How well do you really know that person???? Sorry,My life is worth so much more than that,as I hope yours is too. | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 11:54:55 AM | | PS and there are other forms of sex where people dont use condoms,If you get my drift.Some diseases are a life sentence.Is sex on the first date worth that? | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 12:50:18 PM |
Hell how many relationships has everyone had that went bust where they didn't have sex on the first date?
Very true but there are some people who would feel better about the fact that they didn't give their bodies up for a busted relationship.
I guess I'm wierd because I seem to be in the minority on this site. I always thought sex as something sacred between two people who could possibly be together for a long time. When sex occurs so soon it can bring up false emotions.
I'm sorry and I know about 50 people will call me wrong but I don't care I will say it anyway. Other than a couple of hours of enjoyment nothing good comes from sex. If something other than that comes from it that's positve please let me know. Also, when someone has sex that soon it could PROBABLY also mean
If you're feeling lonely before you will after.
If you're insecure before you will be after.
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| sex on the first date rarebreed
Posted: 12/30/2006 1:27:23 PM | | You are so right.Finally!! But every date Ive had so far from here wants sex on the first date.I will give this a try alittle while longer than im done.To me there has to be something there first way before you get into the bedroom. | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 1:52:24 PM |
Are there any women out there who don`t jump into the sack with a guy the first date???
Yes, there are! We are here. Society has changed attitudes in the last 25 or so years, to where the once "good girls" are now undesirable, and the ones who put out are considered "good dates".
I want something more from a relationship that just sex. I do love sex. It is that I don't want only sex. I want a man's heart first.
I refuse to leave a trail of sex only relationships behind me. Call me a prude, but if the only thing good is the sex, then why bother? | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 2:17:28 PM | tootsie texas,
Girl you are so right.I feel the same way.Everything you said is so true.I too love sex.But I want more than that as well.I wish more men felt this way. Thanks | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 2:52:49 PM | | Thank you debb and others. I think there are more people who feel this way, but we are outnumbered and it is hard to find each other. Maybe more of us should start speaking up. I am not going to judge those who do, but that doesn't mean I have to join them either. | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 4:18:30 PM | O.K, I'm a man who has lived along time, and I've had sex on the first date, and i'v dated for mons. and never had sex, with the woman, i think it's up to her, she is the key, and unlike alot of women think, men are NOT alway's the one's, WHO BRING'S up sex on a first date, or in a relatationship, I'll admitt to sex on the first date, and i have turned women down, on the first date, and really pissed them off too, in doing so, and i never had a second date with them either, it was there call, and if a man turns down some women, he has all H*LL to pay, so you make your own call, to do it, or not to do it, on the first date....that something up to the two of you.... | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 12/30/2006 4:58:30 PM | | I have to say i have been on both sides of it and dont really know witch is better Myfirst real gf we waited a year to have sex the first time and after that it only lasted about 6 more months then I meet someone online and we talked over a year never meet but first time we did we did have sex and it lasted over 6 years and the only reason I am not with her now is because i was stupid and young at the time and could not see how great of a lady I had there so it really matters what both of you thank of it if things are going great and both want sex then sure but if just one dont then no alot more has to do with being willing to love each other in a way that other cant to make it work not just sex but all types of love | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 1:09:28 AM | lol...omg I forgot they let pipsqueak teenagers with IQs smaller then my shoe size on here...
blackmando, good luck on your attempt at the social skills test, must less the gentlemen with tact test...unfortunately it has no cheat codes...you either have the ability or you do not | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:22:55 AM | Anyone who has spoken to me at length knows I'm one who loves sex, but, I just won't let it happen if I know or can sense "she" isn't in that frame of mind. On two occasions I have had women who never spoke to me again because I kept a promise.
Example. I had known this gal for a while but had never been out with her romantically. To get the ol' communication ball rolling I told her "If you don't want anything to happen tonight, let me know now". The reason I did this was because I had never a- spent all night with her, b- been around her when she had been drinking. Needless to say she said "I don't want anything to happen". I told her "You got it. I promise". Long story short, it's towards the end of the night and we're at her place and she is literally on top of me on the living room floor. She is GROWLING in a seductive way while attempting to taking off my shirt. I was about 50 shades of horny!!! Alas, I had to stick to my word. I told her "I made you a promise". That's it, that's what I said. She proceeded to get up off of me and locked herself in her bathroom. I never heard from her again.
Now, I'm no idiot (quiet over there!). I know people change their minds and such and I can generally go with the flow, but, we discussed it while she was sober. She did the lil growling thing while drunk. My respect and word are alot stronger than my hormones. I'll never know if it was the alcohol or my rugged good looks and charm (quit snickering) that changed her mind. Such is life. I can live with myself though. My penis wouldn't speak to me for a month after that but...... What? Yours doesn't talk?  | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 1/2/2007 11:11:58 AM | To assume that a person will be some how more "disease Free" if ya go out with them a few times, don't add up to me. Unless ya get a blood test, ya never know. To go out with someone, you should have already decided if you think she is desirable, which includes Clean. That should go with out sayin. If she is infectectd, and doesn't tell you right away, well, she probly didn't tell the last 5 guys she was bangin neither----just my obsevations | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 11:16:47 AM | | Maybe some of you guys can answer this question. Why is it that a lot of times, if you have sex with a guy on the first date he wants nothing to do with you afterwards? But also, if you don't have sex with him on the first date, he still wants nothing to do with you? You can't have it both ways boys! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 11:49:56 AM | Texsantcles,
You are so right. There are women around who will get nasty if you do not put out. I have had this recently occur with me. Second date and she was all wanting it. Must have said "NO!" atleast 20 times. And she then pulled out the what are you trying to say card.
The simple fact is like so many of us decent men have encountered. If you truly do not want sex early on in the relations, and she does you are not a man in her eyes. And if you happen to be a guy that does, then you are only after her for her body.
Simple fact ladies, plenty of men that appear to want just the sex from you on the first date are only that way because they have encountered plenty of women who also wanted sex on the first date. I am not saying that it makes this right or wrong. There is no right or wrong.
I do think that should you find yourself in that situation and you like the person, the both of you should behave as the ADULTs you are supposed to be and discuss the issue at hand. If not it can be misleading to one or the other if you shut up about it and behave as if nothing happened.
Sex can be a beautiful occurrence between two people. And to let a misunderstanding dissuade you from continuing to get to know the other person... especially if there was a genuine interest at one time... shows a certain lack of maturity of either persons part.
Just my take on it.
*CowboyEnuff* | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 1/2/2007 11:54:04 AM | Why is it that a lot of times, if you have sex with a guy on the first date he wants nothing to do with you afterwards?
If you sleep with a guy on the first date, what's to make him not think you do that on all your first dates. To a lot of guys that is not relationship material or that's just all he wanted.
if you don't have sex with him on the first date, he still wants nothing to do with you?
That's all he wants and if he can't get it from you he just moved on.
The best thing to do is just say no to see where the guy's head really is. | |
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| sex on the first date
Posted: 1/2/2007 10:03:11 PM | msnik1210,
I wish to share this with you and the other ladies on this forum. It is something that I wrote over on another forum and wanted to share it's relevance over here. You will probably see it posted several more times... so understand.
Sometimes for a man... THIS MAN!... it is not so much that he ( I ) fear falling in love, being hurt, or what have you, but instead find that I am discovering that I have no interest in the person I have met. Or may have known for a while.
Have none of you ladies not ever met a person with whom you thought, "WOW! This person is really nice." Then a day, week, month down the line realized that although they are a great person, you can not see yourself being with them for more than friendship?
Well, this is what occurs for me many the time that I have found myself in that situation. It is honestly not a fear, and it was not until recently that I finally realized that about the situations. For so long I have been equating my avoiding relationships with women that I have met as a fear of commitment. Even telling them this was possibly the case. If I had known this years ago, I could have saved myself the pain that this "growing" has cost me.
Simply put ladies, when this has happened I have distanced myself when all along it was just that I have this idea in my head of what I am looking for. IT is no slight against you, the woman that happens to be in my life. It is just that I know what she will be like in my heart and my head and I meet women hoping that this is finally her. And ask any one that has dated me, I honestly try to keep it from becoming intimate until I know for sure. Unfortunately, it does not always work out that way for her or myself and before someone really gets there feelings hurt, you try to gain some perspective. Maybe not using the right words, sentiment, etc. But there it is for this man. And maybe a few other guys might be able to relate to this... or not.
But for you ladies, maybe this is some form of an answer to that question I see repeated several hundred times on the forums.
*CowboyEnuff* | |
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