Criss
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Joined: 1/20/2004
Msg: 26 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/16/2005 5:15:03 PM | You go girl...
No...hun I think there might be a bit of inadequate feelings by these dudes...Scared..I'd really like to see their pocket book... Nah just kidding.
I am happy....
dont et me wrong...
There is nothing wrong with missing a man around...nothing.
It's the little things...
And I'm not supermom....lol
I struggle to but ...these are my babies and I love them...
I'll do whatever it takes no matter....what ..When I posted that message never really thought I'd deal with jevenile..responses...
But anyway...
Thanks for your encouragement..
and ps me too I have when I go out too  | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/16/2005 5:21:00 PM | Well mudbug, you have used more insulting words to me in one post than I have in all my posts. I suppose you feel better now, right? No, I don't think you are stupid. On the contrary, I think you are smart enough to give me an articulate answer and tell me if any of the things I've said is wrong, and why.
For the record, I also think she's doing a fine job with her children. I already stated she was a success as a mom. But, as she said herself, her love life is not exactly a success. Her exact words were: "Or the dude compares you to his friends 5'5 skinny blonde gorgeous girlfriend", and "But do you think for the life of me...A good man...not out for sex...or financial stability....would give me the time of day....No way....".
So, she wants a man. But she's competing with women who are prettier, skinnier, etc., who also want that man. And, until now, THEY are winning. So, how can she improve her chances? By staying put and hoping? Or by acting?
She says she's studying and working. Do you think she got that job just waiting until it came along? Or that college recruiters banged on her door saying "come with us to study"? I don't think so. To get that job, and that chance of studying, she had to go and search for them, winning them over other people who also wanted them, in brief, she had to make the effort, because she knew the reward was worth it. So, why should love be different?
We have been conditioned to believe that the "right person" will come, never mind what we do (I think Hollywood and all those "happy endings" have to do with it). Well, it's not so. As I said in another thread, there is no a God-given, ironclad guarantee that we will find the right person. And saying "wait until he comes" as you do, actually decreases her chances of finding him.
She says she wants a man. I sincerely think she can get one. But I don't think she will get him just waiting until he comes along. There is a saying: "God helps those who help themselves". Well, it's true in every situation in the life, even in love. | |
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Criss
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Joined: 1/20/2004
Msg: 28 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/16/2005 5:23:50 PM | Okay ....let me at'em...lol
Listen pal...not for one minute are my children handicaps...maybe their known by that in your neck of the woods...but not here and defin. not in my circle or community...
That was a needless thing to say....
Being fat....or shall I say pleasantly plumb..isnt a handicap either...
Now why would I want a dude that only wants me because I am skinny...I have been skinny my whole life....I have wore the tight jeans and dated whenever...strung them up even a couple times....wait in line...what have you...
Like I said my brother died....I found food...blau blau blau....weight is not the issue pal...
My love life isnt by far suffering...actually i date often or when I have time...I have met some real hard working gentlemen but it just wasnt turning my crank...that fine ...thats life...just like I might not be anothers "cup-of-tea" so-to-speak..
Regardless.
I would surely hate to date you ...you sound way to opinionated...and with NO PIC on file...
Go figure..
Are you someone venting..
Cause maybe you not getting enough or is it any????
Peice of advice...NEVER LOOK AT CHILDREN AS HANDICAPS! | |
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Criss
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Joined: 1/20/2004
Msg: 29 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/16/2005 5:28:28 PM | I hear ya and thanks...
Yes defin. he was abused by maybe is last chick..who maybe had children of her own and he viewed them as handicaps...which why ...he relates to them as handicaps....But there is no pic...and for starters ...that makes a statement about him...
He suggested he hurt my feeling in a previous thread...lol
Common we on the pc....he could be someone....useing the local internet cafe for all I know...
I'm a strong minded native woman....
I know who I am..
Politcially correct ..in what country is he from..?
East India? | |
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Criss
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Joined: 1/20/2004
Msg: 30 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/16/2005 5:30:51 PM | Your awesome....!
Thats all the you had to say....And yes hun I do believe that way...
Just like I would want my man to be healthy....(right)
I hear ya....
But anyway weight has become the bigget topic/....here...
I thought it was lonely w/ 4 kids...lol
Anyway Im appreciate that very gentleman like response thank you...
Good solid..advice,....
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Criss
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Joined: 1/20/2004
Msg: 31 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/16/2005 5:36:25 PM | You know what...
I know where your coming form....I'm not ignorant...
I had at one time exper. this ..blonde thing...back in the day....This is a man though...whether I am 120lbs ...gorgeous or not there are mutts out there that only wnat one thing...
I unfortunately met one and it did blurr my perception...for a bit
But I do date ..I SIMPLY just havent found the one....
That turns my crank
Do you think for a minute that I want to grow on someone or me grow on someone...
My weight if its a prob...walk away simple as that...There are how many people in this world...
My ex...is good lookin...hot maybe even 
I never had a problem w/ baggin him up...
Still jsut wasnt right....
Without standards where would we be...?
MEN!
I so have to get away from this ..pc...for a bit lol
and like I said thats for your input... | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/17/2005 7:04:16 PM | | I am sitting here with a big grin on my face criss :) You go girl!!!! | |
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Criss
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Joined: 1/20/2004
Msg: 33 | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/25/2005 7:18:05 AM | Well I know the whole feelings about being lonely, wanting someone you can put your head on, someone too vent too. Hell we all want that. But I date off and on. But I am just a very picky guy also. I have never had any issues with meeting woman just good quality woman. But I met this gal that had 3 children and 1 week into it she let her son call me daddy I about feel out of my chair. no wayyyyyyyyy. I had to end that one needless to say.... But most men will say they want the skinny blonde blue eyes, but in reality they want a woman who is well not slim LOL,, well that has been my preferences, 2 skinny I want to feed them heeh. Anyhow I have skated off the topic and then some. Good luck in your search, shame you live so far away... | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/25/2005 10:37:12 AM | | There is nothing shallow about wanting someone who takes pride in his/her looks. What is disturbing is why a person would not care about that. | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 7:22:49 AM | Hey thanks everquestpeople, for the reply that was sweet...And yes it is a shame...you seem well put together and know what you want...It's a guy like you that makes a girl like me......( heart pump )....wink...
Good Luck
Criss | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 7:25:35 AM | | i think there are some people out there that absolutley dont care about themselves...and then there are some that can really look good regardless of weight in any clothing...Seriously if God wanted us to all be skinny ...this world would get pretty boring...after to awhile....I'll prob .get slammed by that statement...lol | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 8:27:05 AM | | and if he wanted all of us to be perfect.........we wouldnt be here | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 9:27:56 AM | | Oh please, there's a big difference between fat and skinny. This isn't about looks it's about pride and self respect. God didn't make fat people He gave them free will. | |
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late™
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Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 9:54:57 AM | "And obvisously if you've come on here to just bash me....skip this section and move onto the next because your opinion doesnt validate who I am.. In fact if you were a gentleman you'd offered up some nice encouraging advice....
So you've proved your character already..."
You tell 'em Criss,
.....the fact that you know how to deal with such a self-concerned putz, .....who has to bash to validate himself, without lowering yourself to his level?
Speaks volumes.......
You have a dignity, that comes from strength of character.....
Something that those of his ilk wouldn't know of, even if it walked up to them and slapped them in the face.
(not a bad idea) | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 11:16:18 AM | | so where is he?I'm tired of turning the other cheek when the one in front of me needs a good hard slAP! and they'd know allright because while they cry I'll be explaining some things to them at tha same time !!!can ya watch my back late?........ | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 12:30:10 PM | Kudos to you!
I'm also a single mom with four very wonderful kids! They all have their moments, I kid you not...
It is hard to meet guys who can accept the "whole package deal", but believe me, they DO exist and I have met a couple on here.
It just takes a little more time to establish a relationship....which is a good thing and something that everyone should do regardless of their situation.
Really....what's the difference between having one kid or having 4 or 5...? TIME and of course money, but otherwise...nothing!
You go girl!!!!
Cheryl | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 12:48:40 PM | Your right TinyGirl....It does take time ..and that's partly why I think it's a good idea to meet someone on here and get to know them a little more ...POF offers variety and also the chance to explore...new people...new cultures and fresh ideas...I found that being gulable and trusting is my kinda thing...but now I'm just more patient and a lot more realistic....I've had to push my romantic side to the back for a bit...and take my head outta the clouds....lol...To give myself the chance to explore these..new men on here...and beleive me I have met a lot of great men...willing to accept a package..... | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 12:52:02 PM | Reefer..
Hey how are ya....You know what...these dudes dont really care what your gonna tell him simply..because they are just inconsiderate....But I respect your intentions..
Criss | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 1:30:26 PM | I am totalling with you on this i am still looking for that special someone. But i am not looking at the image on the outside. I am looking for that caring person on the inside. Dont worry there will be someone coming your way. good luck to you and ur kids.
Ed | |
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| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 2:04:37 PM | I'm with Tyn on this one^^^ says it right says it real....good luck to you juces....  | |
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tim725
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Joined: 3/25/2005
Msg: 50 | |
| Single lonely mom 4 kids
Posted: 3/26/2005 5:55:26 PM | I would not run away from that situation as I have already done it. However, when I met my soon to be ex wife, she had four (4) kids and I accepted it. I then got her pregnant. She quit working, which was what I wanted, but didn't appreciate anything I did. So a year or 2 later I found myself in a situation where there were five (5) kids and the oldest had two (2) of his own, we're all living in the same house, I'm the only one who's working and she's not getting a dime of child support from their father. On top of that, we had two (2) cars with car payments and insurance for both of us, full coverage. I did everything and she appreciated nothing. That's why were not together now. Maybe part of it was me where I felt like I wasn't appreciated and maybe it was her because she sisn't wanna "kiss my ass." But either way, if someone comes into your life and takes over all of the financial responsibility and takes care of you and your kids, especially when their father doesn't care, he should at least be appreciated, not made to feel like he should just keep his mouth shut and deal with it. If I would have felt like I was appreciated, there wouldn't have been an issue. So anyway, where you from?
Tim | |
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