| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:48:57 PM | I will be 60 in April of this year. I watched an interview with Lauren Hutton (model/actress) the other night which I thought was deeply insightful. She was discussing the plight of "older" women in today's society. She said she loved Europe because people there respected the older woman as being something to be sought after. She said "in Europe, girls are expected to grow up to be women", whereas in North America one is expected to work hard at staying a girl. Her question was "how do you expect a man to grow up if he only has experience with girls?" We can also switch that around by changing the gender. If we are being left behind because we are older, then maybe we should work on changing it. We are the baby-boomer generation and we made a lot of changes way back when. We can do it again!!! Attitude is everything. | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 11/13/2006 11:30:18 PM | I'm only on here to find friends EastSideEddie.I moved here to Alberta for the fresh air from Ontario.I was here in 1976 when it was fresh.Where did it go. I moved here and don't know anybody.Since I'm single no married people want to make friends.It's like they are afraid I'll steal their partners.The men only seem to want sex from me and when there is no go they don't see you again.I'm not on here for romance and don't expect to find any.If I do then it's fine with me but I doubt it.If I wanted just sex I would grab the little old guy that walks by my house everyday with his dog.heheh | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 5/20/2007 1:56:23 AM | I agree completely. If all us women 60 and over are hoping to catch a man just by turning on the computer, we are a sad lot! I am having fun and do not expect a miracle. Life is short and I intend to enjoy every minute of it . I think at 65 I should be comfortable in my own skin and not need someone to make me happy. Don't get me wrong, if I did by some long chance meet someone it would be nice but not necessary. Hey if I get desperate I could get out there and hunt me a man down | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 5/20/2007 1:58:28 AM | | If all us women 60 and over are hoping to catch a man just by turning on the computer, we are a sad lot! I am having fun and do not expect a miracle. Life is short and I intend to enjoy every minute of it . I think at 65 I should be comfortable in my own skin and not need someone to make me happy. Don't get me wrong, if I did by some long chance meet someone it would be nice but not necessary. Hey if I get desperate I could get out there and hunt me a man down | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 5/20/2007 7:17:06 AM | lI think the original poster has left the building, but maybe that was because of such a negative attitude.
I don't feel that I've been left behind here at all.
Like LilDixie above, I'm happy to be on my own, but I'm here to explore having a relationship. And I'm talking to lots of guys here and meeting some too.
Same old story - if you think nothing will happen, nothing will happen.
Marcia | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/19/2008 6:25:16 AM | I just turned 60 two months ago. I don't know about anyone else, but I like it. I am still in good enough shape to participate in practically all the activities I enjoy doing. I have more time to do them in. And my days are not so full that I can't stop and smell the roses. Get left behind? No way. I think it is the younger folks that need to catch up. | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/19/2008 8:14:53 AM | I opt to live in a world where fireworks and pounding hearts still exist.
I agree! People can find true love and romance at any age.
But a problem comes in when we don't realize that it's often going to take a little while to feel the 'fireworks' when we aren't 18 any more.
Too many man expect that same kind of " love at first sight" instant physical attraction that an 18 year old boy -- with raging hormones -- gets for a beautiful young 18 year old girl. (or reverse for the ladies)
It's just not gonna work quite like that when an old man looks at a 60 year old woman. Oh, yeah! It CAN happen -- just not quite like it used to.
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/19/2008 6:59:39 PM | Why are we so defined by the numbers put on our 'lives'??
We have seen the best of years, had the best of lovers, some
yet to experience, and the freedom to choose the life we want,
where we want, and if the need or want to is there, for someone
to share that with me, fine, if not...its just great the way it is... | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/20/2008 5:47:18 AM | Left behind what ?? ...
You mean, like, dumpsters ?? ... buses ?? ...
Doesn't seem like a very nice thing to do, to me.
cdn guy | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/20/2008 7:41:56 AM | Left Behind? I'm not sure how to answer that. Does it mean you weren't where you should have been and therefore you got "left behind"? Does it mean you couldn't keep up the pace of your peers and got left behind....more gradually? I don't feel left behind.
It's all a matter to choice. You have to want to put yourself out there. People can't just throw you in the water. You enter the dating pool at your own pace and at your own risk. Of course, you may come up with the most wonderful of all prizes....a warm, wonderful, friend. With communication it grows into what it can be.
I believe there are those men who want a "Stepford Wife" because they had a Hell-raiser before. I think some men write things they think women want to hear. And women who've had a Hell-raiser read between the lines....such as men who like to "cuddle" in front of a fire fail to mention "naked". LOL
It's a little bit about what you'd like to have with a mate, but more about what you don't want!!! It's that, at this age, you don't have to do anything!! You don't have to worry about your dad finding out, getting pregnant, or losing your reputation like you did in your early years. You aren't criticized if you don't want to date...you aren't condemned if you do. For the first time in your life...you are totally free to make your own decisions about your life! Scarey thought, isn't it? You have noone to blame for bad choices.
Most of us have learned to roll with the punches. Most of us have friendships cultivated from high school (or before!), churches, workplaces....and of course we have our children and grandchildren! We can have as active a life as we want! We don't need a man to feel fulfilled...but there's just a longing there that kids, friends and family cannot quench. I don't believe we were designed to be solitary.
I'm one of the big kids, now. I can say pretty much how I feel on any topic. I don't like confrontation, but if asked a question that I don't want to answer, or if I'm pushed into it, I'll give a warning question back, "Are you sure you want me to answer that?" If they insist, then stand back 'cause I'm locked and loaded ! LOL
I, too, am a huge romantic. I love dancing slow and close...very close! I love the slow songs of the 50's and 60's....back when you had to have a good voice because you didn't have all the computerized technologies. When women were chaste and guys were more able to control their urges. Back when Camelot existed at the White House and we had Proms and the Sno-Ball and the Stardust Ball. I want to have the feeling you get when you know he's coming to see you and you are anxious for him to get there. You can't wait to kiss him and be held in his arms! You don't care if you have a planned event to attend or if he's going to help you wash the car! You just want him there.
Now whether I ever experience that again remains to be seen. What I do know is that I'm open to it...until it does...I have my part-time job, my friends, my family, my church, my kids, and my wonderful grands. (I retired from an auto factory four years ago.) My husband passed away a year ago. I have been loved and I have loved. I am blessed!
I'm going on my second cruise in about three weeks with my children and grands. I am not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination, but I am the queen of my home and have two princes and two princesses that make me feel very important, wanted, needed and loved. I have made an impact on people outside my family. That's alot to have for one life.
So, whether you marry again, love again, or just have sex again...it's your choice. | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/20/2008 8:23:55 PM |
If I wanted just sex I would grab the little old guy that walks by my house everyday with his dog.heheh
I have TWO guys who ride around and around the block every day! One of them is kind of cute! I'm even thinking of fixing the flat on my bike and joining them!
I just hope I don't get left behind | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/27/2008 5:33:48 PM | I'm 58 so I haven't hit 60 yet but I'm finding a BIG difference between how I felt at the beginning of the 50's and how I'm feeling now. I laugh when I read 50 year olds saying how great they feel and all of that. I felt great at 50, too!
It's not that I have any major problems yet but the eyesight is going, young guys are calling me "M'am" as they open doors for me, and I'm getting sorer by the end of the day from arthritus..........
Where are the 60 and 65 year old guys? Do they just give up dating when they retire?
Take up golf instead? | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/27/2008 5:36:55 PM | | I did the big 60 last week. Here is my philosophy: You can't get left behind if you are the one pulling the train. | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/28/2008 10:18:02 AM | I met a fascinating woman of 62 last week. She was from Honduras, and was the recently-minted stepmother of an acquaintance of mine who squired her to a loft-warming party when his father couldn't make it.
The majority of the single men there were in their 30s and 40s, and she had them eating out of her hand. It is a good thing her stepson was there to look after Daddy's interests. After a couple of dances with her, I would have gotten right in line with the young bucks.
Unfortunately, I'm afraid that the only way to be that fascinating in your 60s is to have been fascinating in your 20s and just never to have lost it. I don't think it's something for which you can take a refresher course at a junior college. | |
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/28/2008 4:21:42 PM | Why would we need encouragement? If we want a relationship we keep looking it is just that simple. Yes there may be fewer people out there looking in our age category. So what! this is a big pond.keep fishing.
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| DO WE OVER 60'S GET LEFT BEHIND?
Posted: 3/28/2008 8:44:42 PM | | As for "wanting to kiss a wrinkled up old prune like that particular old woman" being so distasteful, my thoughts on that are, when you love someone deeply and enduringly, you don't see their wrinkles, etc. It's the spirit that lies beneath the wrinkles that I find so attractive. Good looks can be so deceiving. You see the "person"; otherwise how would expect a relationship to last? | |
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